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CEO, Jodi365. Earlier: Angel investing, consulting, research, @ChicagoBooth, @UMich, @IITmadras Posts on: Startups, Learning, Life, Relationships, Fitness, Dogs

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Modern dating is full of double standards that most people pretend don't exist. If a woman says she wants a fit, successful, emotionally intelligent man: She's "high value." If a man says he wants a fit, feminine, and pleasant woman: He's suddenly "superficial" or "objectifying." Same energy. Different verdict. A woman with many past partners is often called "empowered." A man with the same history? "Player" or "emotionally unavailable." Someone cancels last minute or ghosts? If it's a man, it's "toxic masculinity." If it's a woman, "she's protecting her peace." Same energy. Different verdict. Men are told to drop traditional expectations, split everything 50-50, and to be vulnerable. Women are told never to lower their standards and that their feelings are always valid. One side is told to drop the old expectations, while the other side is encouraged to keep the best of both the old and the new rules. That's not equality. That's a rigged game. And that's not sustainable. So, don't be surprised if the dating world today is as messy as it is. As it is, there are some inherent double standards. Most women find roughly 80% of men unattractive and focus their attention on the top tier. Whereas men are far less selective. I call these asymmetries that derive from biological realities. Women bear a higher reproductive cost, so are naturally choosier. Men compete, women choose. That's how it is. Deal with it! Expecting equality in every interaction – women not getting attention from the men they desire, and men not getting attention from the majority of women – only breeds resentment on both sides. The way forward for anyone serious about a real relationship? Drop the slogans. Be honest about what you actually want. Be honest about what you bring to the table. Have real conversations instead of playing by politically correct scripts. That's how you find genuine compatibility. If you're a busy, accomplished single tired of the games, this is for you. Save this. Share it with someone who needs the reality check. For more unfiltered perspectives on life, love, and relationships, follow along.

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A Mother's Day Tribute. I visited my elderly mother the other night. As always, she asked, in Hindi, "Beta, business kaisa chal raha hai?" "Son, how is the business doing?" She has short-term memory loss, sadly, and doesn't remember what I do, other than that I run a business. (I founded and run Jodi365, an app-enabled bespoke matchmaking service—since 2009—for elite Indian singles.) When I told her, yet again, that things were going well, that our discerning clients and their families pay us in the lakhs of rupees for our service, her jaw dropped – yet again. In her time, she said, an entire wedding cost just ₹15,000. Then, in that pure, loving way you can only expect from a parent, she said: "Beta, hamesha mehnat aur imandari se kaam karna." That's Hindi for, "Son, always work with integrity and dedication." The key words in Tamil, for my Tamil audience: Uzhaippu and nermai! That's the simple, powerful theme I want to share today. To every entrepreneur, young professional, and next-generation builder: Work hard. Work with integrity. To succeed, of course, hard work and luck may not be enough. Luck matters, too. It's the X-factor. But the harder you work, the luckier you get, and I could talk about the benefits of maximizing one's luck surface area. I am grateful for much in life, including knowing the love that I have known and to be able, with a lot more gray hair today, to add much value to others' lives. Good luck to you all on your respective life journeys. Be good. Do well. Save this if it touched you. Share it with someone building something meaningful. For more real perspectives on life, love, relationships, careers, and business, follow along. Take care.

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Raghuram Rajan famously said, in 2015: "I do what I do." My problem with that: He stole my line! After all, it was for similar, good reason, in 2009, that I named my startup FreeElective. A decade and a half later, though, I see fit to explain what I do, as an accidental matchmaker. The reality is that, when it comes to finding a mate, it's not a numbers problem. There are plenty of singles out there. The real challenge? Figuring out who is right for you – especially when you're well-educated, accomplished, and don't have the bandwidth to put yourself out there. And it takes putting oneself out there! So, how is one to go about figuring out who may be a potential partner? For as long as humans have existed, humans have sought to get into relationships. We are WIRED to pass the genes on to the next generation. We are WIRED for companionship. So, I've not had to sell the case that this is a problem worth solving. It's just a question of how effectively you solve the problem. That's exactly why Jodi365 exists. We're not another dating app or matrimonial site. We're your trusted concierge matchmaker. We do the heavy lifting: → Pre-screen genuine, serious people with real long-term intent → Ask the uncomfortable questions you'd be too polite to ask → Size up backgrounds, values, and compatibility → Make warm, personal introductions → Stay in the background to ensure smooth communication So you can keep living your best life while we handle the rest. And with all the gray hair, for me to be able to come in and play the role of a guide, a counselor, help people navigate the emotional roller coaster. So, the best word for all that I do is: Matchmaker. For, that's what I do: Connecting people. If you're a busy, high-achieving single ready for a meaningful relationship, see this reel as your sign. Visit Jodi365 and let us do what we do best. Save this. Share with that accomplished friend who's tired of the DIY apps. And for more perspectives on life, love, and relationships, follow along.

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"SC/ST, please excuse." The phrase once appeared on a major matrimonial site… and caused massive outrage. The company was forced to apologize and start filtering such profiles. But as a matchmaker with 15+ years of experience, here's my simple take: I would have argued strongly for letting it remain visible. Why? Because, as the saying goes, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." Just as with "Brokers, please excuse" in real-estate ads, or the old colonial country-club signs that supposedly read "Dogs and Indians not allowed," open prejudice—however distasteful—gives you information. Transparency > hidden bias. I'd rather know upfront that someone is narrow-minded or holds offensive preferences than discover it six months into conversations or a relationship. Important clarification: This is about the deeply personal realm of choosing a life partner—not housing, employment, or public services, which must remain governed by law and basic decency. Preferences in matrimony are not the same as discrimination in tenancy or jobs. Preferences are personal. Full stop. That is exactly why, when working with our valued clients at Jodi365, we invite them to share their preferences openly and candidly. I respect them—even as I sometimes challenge and push back on the ones I believe are limiting or unfair. Outright bigotry does exist in this world. We can't wish it away. But I'd rather people reveal themselves clearly. If knowledge is power, such knowledge safeguards everyone in the long run. Exceptions are necessary, of course—just as, in the name of free speech, one can't yell "Fire!" in a crowded theater. What do you think? Should such statements be allowed to stay visible, or should platforms hide them? Drop your thoughts below. For more unfiltered perspectives on life, love, relationships, and human nature, follow along. Serious about finding someone who truly matches your values and world view? Talk to us at

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I'm not ashamed to admit it: Building a scalable platform is brutal. It's really, really hard. I've faced the classic investor pushback, too. One IIT entrepreneur-turned-investor even told me that I wouldn't get funded because I was "too old" and had "been around too long." Typical herd mentality. Here's advice I'd give to every budding entrepreneur: Before you take money or even advice from any investor, do your own reference checks. Picture them in their underwear, with zero money in the bank. Then ask yourself: Is what they're saying actual wisdom? Or just BS and bombast? Because many of them carry a lot of attitude simply because they have capital. And to the younger folks entering venture capital, I'd say: Show some humility. You may have founders brown-nosing you today. But remember, you're only as good as the actual returns you deliver (DPI), not your paper valuations or markups. There are enough one-fund VCs out there. Real value comes from humility and results, not ego. If you're building something meaningful as an entrepreneur and facing rejection, keep going. The right people will eventually see it. Save this if you needed the reminder. Share it with an entrepreneur or investor who needs to hear it. For more unfiltered perspectives on business and entrepreneurship, follow along. #EntrepreneurLife #StartupStruggles #InvestorAdvice #VCHumility #BuildAnyway #StartupIndia #NoBSAdvice #Jodi365 [entrepreneurship, india, startup, struggle, investor, advice, humility, Jodi365]

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