Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨
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“Guys don’t approach girls at the bars anymore.” This is wildly accurate. 15 years ago when you went out, the average girl would get hit on 6x or 7x a night. Now if she’s getting one or two guys hitting on her, it’s a good night. I have beginner students going out to bars now who go out, say very basic things to women, and get into deep conversations & flirtations that land them solid numbers. One student on his first ‘dedicated night out’ (he’s gone out with friends plenty but never went out JUST to meet girls) last weekend saw two “very attractive” girls grinding on each other in the empty dance floor because all the other guys had left, then one of the girls came up to him, dragged him onto the dance floor, and spent the next 20 minutes following him around like a lost puppy (he should’ve taken her home, but… cut him some slack. He’s new!). Maybe that was a little beginner’s luck for him (that wasn’t his only good interaction of the night, either, though), but the point is: these girls are not getting it from dudes nowadays. When I was a beginner in this in the middle 2000-naughts I spent months going out to bars getting rejection after rejection before I finally started having good conversations. I see how fast going it is for a lot of newer guys I am working with now and I am like, “Sheesh, man! You used to have to learn all this game to do this!” But the competition just isn’t there anymore. Where IS the competition? Mostly at home, on the couch, liking Instagram ‘models’, trying to “slide into their DMs” (alongside 2,000 other guys). Meanwhile, the Instagram model is banging some guy she met in a mall food court (true story). The girls are out there. You’re probably not going to find them online. You have to get up off the couch, dust the Cheetos crumbs off, put on some decent clothes, and go outside. Follow the 3-second rule: you have 3 seconds from the moment you lay eyes on her until you have to approach. Focus on making it flirtatious and low pressure. Take the lead with her and see her if you can move her around a bit. Ask her out, get her to change venues with you, or if it goes well invite her back for a drink at yours. If she’s into you, she will do her best to help things along. Just go out, chat up girls, HAVE FUN, and if it’s going well move things forward. That is really all you have to do.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨2,577,706 views • 6 months ago
Girls get pretty wrecked by being stood up. As a guy, you learn to adapt to it: • Plan dates for places you want to be at anyway (if she no-shows, cool) • Book 2+ dates in a day so if one drops, no biggie, another one’s coming • Send a check-in text 1-3 hours before the date (her response clues you in) For women it’s a much rarer occurrence and can really mess with them. Not gonna say I recommend it as a technique, but when I’ve gotten too caught up in things and missed dates, about 50% of the time we reschedule and it’s a near-guaranteed first date lay (the other 50% of the time you just never hear from her again… she’s too hurt/angry. So, bit of a wildcard).
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨28,001 views • 4 days ago
![Girls do not want to have to text you for 2 weeks before going out with you. You do not have to “win her over” or “warm her up” over text before getting the meet, either. I am seeing more and more guys do this (especially Gen Z guys). I have a 28-year-old client who met a very cute girl who liked him a lot at a bar. They had an amazing conversation that went for an hour. Talked about all kinds of things! This girl really dug him. They traded numbers, he sent an icebreaker text, she responded enthusiastically, and then… He didn’t message her for two weeks. I asked him why and his response was that he’d been busy and he wasn’t in her area (he’s in the suburbs and met her when he drove into the city). It wasn’t that he didn’t like this girl. He REALLY liked her! He just… never followed up… I see this kind of thing often. Guy meets a few girls, gets their numbers, likes them, doesn’t follow up. Or he follows up once or twice, the girl responds fine each time, then he just lets it drop off. Look: you do not need to send her 20 text messages to get a date with her. With most girls, if they are into you, you can send them 2 or 3 texts then arrange the meet. You do not need to make this complicated. When you get their number, you send an icebreaker: “Great to make a new friend! — [YOUR NAME]” or “Hey [HER NAME], it’s [YOUR NAME]! Save my number!” You put YOUR NAME in that icebreaker text in case she forgot it (people are bad with names and it’s too awkward for most girls to be like “Hey, sorry… what was your name again?” Just write it in your text and she doesn’t have to do that). Then, THE NEXT DAY or at most 2 days later, you send your ask-out text. Have the four parts in there: 1️⃣ Greeting with her name 2️⃣ Consideration for her 3️⃣ Information about you 4️⃣ Check her schedule e.g. “Hey Isabelle! [1️⃣] Hope the dental appointment went well and you still have all your teeth. [2️⃣] I actually spent all day at the beach on Sunday and turned a bright shade of red (whoops). [3️⃣] Anyway, let me know your schedule this week for that bite or drink. [4️⃣]” You have enough in that text that she has stuff to chew on, and you are often going to get a reply that tells you when she is free to meet. After that, you just pick a time, tell her the place, and now you can see her again, IN-PERSON. No need for two weeks of texting. No need for NOT texting her at all and just letting it ghost. There is no need to overcomplicate things, and you also do not want to PROCRASTINATE. Just fire off the right texts for her, set up the date, and now you can spend time with her again in-person instead of letting that connection die on the vine.](https://image.24vids.com/tw-1997977751807295952/amplify_video_thumb/1997977696362725376/img/EBQdSIOV-UA3v60l.jpg)
Girls do not want to have to text you for 2 weeks before going out with you. You do not have to “win her over” or “warm her up” over text before getting the meet, either. I am seeing more and more guys do this (especially Gen Z guys). I have a 28-year-old client who met a very cute girl who liked him a lot at a bar. They had an amazing conversation that went for an hour. Talked about all kinds of things! This girl really dug him. They traded numbers, he sent an icebreaker text, she responded enthusiastically, and then… He didn’t message her for two weeks. I asked him why and his response was that he’d been busy and he wasn’t in her area (he’s in the suburbs and met her when he drove into the city). It wasn’t that he didn’t like this girl. He REALLY liked her! He just… never followed up… I see this kind of thing often. Guy meets a few girls, gets their numbers, likes them, doesn’t follow up. Or he follows up once or twice, the girl responds fine each time, then he just lets it drop off. Look: you do not need to send her 20 text messages to get a date with her. With most girls, if they are into you, you can send them 2 or 3 texts then arrange the meet. You do not need to make this complicated. When you get their number, you send an icebreaker: “Great to make a new friend! — [YOUR NAME]” or “Hey [HER NAME], it’s [YOUR NAME]! Save my number!” You put YOUR NAME in that icebreaker text in case she forgot it (people are bad with names and it’s too awkward for most girls to be like “Hey, sorry… what was your name again?” Just write it in your text and she doesn’t have to do that). Then, THE NEXT DAY or at most 2 days later, you send your ask-out text. Have the four parts in there: 1️⃣ Greeting with her name 2️⃣ Consideration for her 3️⃣ Information about you 4️⃣ Check her schedule e.g. “Hey Isabelle! [1️⃣] Hope the dental appointment went well and you still have all your teeth. [2️⃣] I actually spent all day at the beach on Sunday and turned a bright shade of red (whoops). [3️⃣] Anyway, let me know your schedule this week for that bite or drink. [4️⃣]” You have enough in that text that she has stuff to chew on, and you are often going to get a reply that tells you when she is free to meet. After that, you just pick a time, tell her the place, and now you can see her again, IN-PERSON. No need for two weeks of texting. No need for NOT texting her at all and just letting it ghost. There is no need to overcomplicate things, and you also do not want to PROCRASTINATE. Just fire off the right texts for her, set up the date, and now you can spend time with her again in-person instead of letting that connection die on the vine.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨1,118,743 views • 6 months ago
One of the rare(!) instances where you will find a woman giving legitimately sound approaching advice to men. In this case, she attributes it to “decades of hoeing around”, which — you may not prefer hoes, BUT hoes ALWAYS have the most accurate takes on what works from men, due to heaps and heaps of EXPERIENCE! Her tips (which mirror my own) include: ✅ Open with a non-genetic-looks-based compliment — i.e., not “you’re really cute” or “you’re really pretty” but something about her fashion choices, hair, book she is reading, etc. ✅ Alternately, open with a situationally relevant question — e.g., “How’s your night going?” “What brought you out today?” “Headed anywhere exciting?” etc. ✅ Approach in her eyesight to not spook her (and she did not mention this, but: aim to get her to look at 👀 you first BEFORE you speak to her. You can use pre-opening for this, such as a gentle nudge or tap or glancing at her face toward her eyes without making eye contact before she does) ✅ BE NORMAL. Which is GREAT advice. Although can be made better with “try to be a little bit interesting / flirt a bit, while still being very, very normal.” ✅ Ask her out if she’s feeling it; if she isn’t interested, move on. Standard advice here but good. Two additions I would make: ask her out on a HIGH POINT (e.g., she is laughing hard, excitedly sharing something, excitedly asking you about something, etc.) and do it in the MIDDLE of the conversation rather than waiting until the energy is dying off and the convo’s about to end. Be chill, be normal, do what you can to REDUCE pressure on her during the open, and things go much, much smoother.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨1,235,196 views • 1 year ago
![Here’s all you have to do when a girl compliments you: She says, “You’re so funny/handsome/cool/sexy/hot/whatever.” You say, “Thanks! [pause] You know, we don’t hang out enough!” Super low pressure, super rejection-resistant. Super EASY for her to agree with ✅ After she AGREES that the two of you do not hang out enough, you say: “Cool. Hey, let me get your number. Let’s get a bite or a drink this week or next.” It doesn’t matter if you think: • She’s just being friendly • She’s just being nice • It’s some kind of prank or whatever You still do the same thing anyway. Follow the PROCESS, and override your doubts or insecurities. (Men miss roughly 50% of the flirting women do.) If it’s one of those, she either a.) won’t be at all excited when you say the two of you don’t hang out enough, or b.) will wiggle out of giving you her number (e.g., “How about I give you my Instagram?” → that’s a polite rejection). No skin off your nose. But if she IS interested, now you’ve just gotten yourself a date. WHAT IF IT’S A RANDOM GIRL YOU DON’T KNOW? In this case, you just do this: HER: “You’re so funny/handsome/cool/sexy/hot/whatever.” YOU: “Thanks. I can see you have excellent taste.” HER: “Haha / whatever.” YOU: “I like people with good taste. We should hang out.” Then you just do the rest the same as above. Just remember: You do this no matter what your ‘gut’ tells you (“She’s probably just being nice…”), because your ‘gut’ is often WRONG!](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2004505281460687333/amplify_video_thumb/2004505229338009600/img/3ncHxeYOV-bG3H-0.jpg)
Here’s all you have to do when a girl compliments you: She says, “You’re so funny/handsome/cool/sexy/hot/whatever.” You say, “Thanks! [pause] You know, we don’t hang out enough!” Super low pressure, super rejection-resistant. Super EASY for her to agree with ✅ After she AGREES that the two of you do not hang out enough, you say: “Cool. Hey, let me get your number. Let’s get a bite or a drink this week or next.” It doesn’t matter if you think: • She’s just being friendly • She’s just being nice • It’s some kind of prank or whatever You still do the same thing anyway. Follow the PROCESS, and override your doubts or insecurities. (Men miss roughly 50% of the flirting women do.) If it’s one of those, she either a.) won’t be at all excited when you say the two of you don’t hang out enough, or b.) will wiggle out of giving you her number (e.g., “How about I give you my Instagram?” → that’s a polite rejection). No skin off your nose. But if she IS interested, now you’ve just gotten yourself a date. WHAT IF IT’S A RANDOM GIRL YOU DON’T KNOW? In this case, you just do this: HER: “You’re so funny/handsome/cool/sexy/hot/whatever.” YOU: “Thanks. I can see you have excellent taste.” HER: “Haha / whatever.” YOU: “I like people with good taste. We should hang out.” Then you just do the rest the same as above. Just remember: You do this no matter what your ‘gut’ tells you (“She’s probably just being nice…”), because your ‘gut’ is often WRONG!
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨350,324 views • 5 months ago
This is actually a pretty good description of (some) things that will get girls chasing you. (While you generally don’t want to listen to female dating advice for men, a woman simply DESCRIBING what men have done with her that worked can be very informative.) In this case, the guy was using: ✅ Confident, self-possessed body language. She doesn’t say it, but I guarantee you he had great posture, moved slowly and deliberately but smoothly, and took up space. Doubtless had excellent eye contact. ✅ At some point (ONCE he had her INVESTED enough) he asked her if she thought he was ‘hot’. This was deep in the second date, probably after some good bonding or connection so she doesn’t want to burst the bubble by saying something other than ‘yes’. What this did was trigger a psychological concept called COMMITMENT-CONSISTENCY where, once someone has verbally agreed to something, that person then feels compelled to act in-line with it, and even reorients his or her views to match what was said. (You can read about this in Robert Cialdini’s book “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion”, where he has a ton more studies + examples.) ✅ Once he had her out the third time, he could tell she wasn’t into him enough yet, but was invested enough to have come out multiple times, so he just hung back and gave her space to chase. What happens when she chases? Well, that is simple enough: she starts to like you more (then more!). (Also, you might think his dogged follow up of her was ‘chasing’, especially if you are the type who only texts a girl once or twice then quits if she isn’t all about it… however: there is a right way and a wrong way to follow up doggedly. The fact that this guy got another date and she started chasing him tells you he did it the right way. The right way is ‘persistence’, rather than ‘pursuit’.) A lot of guys now don’t use (or know) game at all… they’re just totally winging it on “does she instantly feel me or not?” You may not believe it until you try it for yourself, but yeah, there is a reason men have been doing this stuff with women since Ovid’s time and before… probably since long before recorded history. If you want her to CHASE, you need to get her invested enough to be willing to — then, after that, you must create the SPACE for her to chase you in!
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨385,483 views • 6 months ago
This girl gets some of her flirting advice right, but some is very OFF BASE. This is why you have to take dating advice for men that comes from women with a giant grain of salt 🧂 Some of women’s advice may be useful… but some of it will always be MISLEADING. If you are not already savvy enough to tell the difference, you’ll mix in the bad with the good and not know where you’re tripping up. Break down of what is useful vs. what is MISLEADING: ✅ USEFUL: do not open her with “You’re really pretty/beautiful, I wanted to meet you.” She doesn’t know what to say to that; she has also heard it before so many times you sound like a broken record. You can say pretty much ANYTHING other than this (e.g.: “Hey, how’s it going?” This is 10x better than a generic looks-based compliment). ✅ USEFUL: open her with something relevant to the situation. Situationally relevant openers can work great. For instance: “Think we’ll be in line forever?” if you’re waiting in line, or “The art here sure is interesting huh,” if there’s a weird piece of art. 🆇 MISLEADING: you should not expect a girl to take over on your opener, like this girl did with the “cute/sweet” coffee recommendation opener. Most girls are not outgoing enough that they are going to decide to “have a chat” with you immediately on the open. You are the man; you need to EXPECT to drive at least the first 2 minutes of conversation YOURSELF! ✅ USEFUL: “keep the conversation short, sweet, casual, fun”: all that, yes. The initial conversation needs to be light, playful, and engaging. Tease her within the first 30 seconds (that’s how she knows it’s a FLIRTATION and not a platonic chat). Make an observation about her or two (keep it positive and light). Tap her on the forearm on a joke or a high point. SMILE! You want your presence to be a warm, welcome, & flirtatious one. 🆇 MISLEADING: “worst thing you could possibly do is annoy her with your presence”; I mean, YES, BUT you do not need to be thinking about “I’d better not annoy her” when you are talking to girls. If you do, you will play it too safe, act very boring, get into your head, and become uninteresting and un-fun. Instead, just focus on bringing fun and good energy (not ‘avoiding annoyance’). ✅ USEFUL: what she is calling a ‘non-invasive call to action’ (is this chick a marketer? Because this is marketer speak!) we call a ‘soft close’. Yes, soft close her. Easy one-size-fits-all soft close you can use with any girl (say this on a high point): “We should grab a bite or a drink sometime.” As soon as she says “yes”, you have your green light 🟢 to grab her # 🆇 MISLEADING: “give her your number”… this is the WORST piece of advice in the video; even worse than the “don’t annoy her” bit (which will get you in your head doing things wrong). This girl has a wide face, deep voice, and high confidence, so she’s probably higher testosterone and extroverted. Girls like this are go-getters who will chase down guys on their own and make things happen sometimes (hence the “deciding to have a chat” with a guy when she liked his opener). Most women are NOT extroverted high testosterone women who will take charge and make things happen themselves. Most women are PASSIVE. The average girl who is into you will not text you first if you give her your number. She will just look at it, debate whether to text you, think about what she should text, feel self-conscious about it, feel like she shouldn’t be the first one to text, then you will simply never hear from her. You need to get HER number, so YOU can text, not give her YOURS. 🆇 MISLEADING: “sweet and endearing”, sorry to say it and pop anyone’s bubble, but women do not usually hook up with the “sweet and endearing” guys. They think the stuff these guys do is “cute”, like how little children and pets are “cute”, but they do not find them SEXY. You need to be in the lead, taking CHARGE, leading her through an interaction she enjoys, and setting the pace. Do not be “sweet and endearing.” Anyway, this girl seems really cool and it’s neat that she wants to help guys out. Well-meaning women advising you on dating though are some of the most dangerous because they believe what they are saying and just do not KNOW when the advice they’re giving is counterproductive for a man to actually use vs. productive! (That said, positive encouragement for men to approach & flirt is ALWAYS good! So hat tip to her!)
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨339,635 views • 6 months ago
This chick is correct in her diagnosis of smart guy dating issues. I was a smart guy. I spent years watching all the dumb guys getting girls while overthinking and just being like, “Why?” Part of how I solved it was deciding I was just going to start acting ballsy, bold, and dumb like the dumb guys. Magically, I started getting laid.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨693,688 views • 1 year ago
This chick has gone out every weekend for months. Guess how many men approached her. Almost 0. The only guys who did were Europeans. Brutal truths: 😨 45% of Gen Z men have never cold-approached a woman 😱 Most guys think hitting on 1-3 women a month is “good” No surprise women stand around wondering where all the men are. Want to go out, be social, and stand out instantly? ➡️ Talk to someone new within 5 mins of getting outside ➡️ REPEAT every 5-10 mins for 2 hours RESULT: ✅ Approach anxiety is gone ✅ You’ll realize most people love meeting someone new In a world of timid men, showing up w/ balls & social skills makes you elite.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨386,795 views • 10 months ago
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FLOW CHART OF DATE GETTING Next time you see a hot girl all by herself in a coffee shop, at a bar, or wherever: 1️⃣ Ask yourself: “Would it be cool to have that girl naked in my bed?” 2️⃣ IF YES: go talk to her. Does she talk back? 3️⃣ IF YES: flirt with her a bit. Does she flirt back? 4️⃣ IF YES: ask her on a date. Does she agree? 5️⃣ IF YES: take her number down. There you go. Now you have a date with a girl it would be cool to have naked in your bed. No swiping on Hinge or doomscrolling Instagram required.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨416,621 views • 1 year ago
No man wants to be rejected. No one likes it. Rejection sucks. But in the past, men’s testosterone was so high that “fear of rejection” “drive to get girls.” T-levels are so low men do not have the MOTIVATION to overcome their fear and take those social risks. So, dating is crashing. People are having less and less sex. The number of singles is exploding and a lot of them are long-term singles who have lost all interest in the opposite sex. There’s not really a good solution for it, because there is only so much you can do to encourage a man who simply does not have the hormonal profile to go after what he wants. It is like trying to encourage a young boy to chase girls. If he doesn’t have the hormones for it, you can’t get him to do it. This appears to be happening in every industrialized society, too. It cannot just be blamed on chemicals, or obesity, or any singular factor. It seems to simply be a product of urban life. More and more men simply do not have the hormones to get off the couch, overcome their fear of rejection, and bring women into their lives.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨193,472 views • 6 months ago
A woman chasing a man looks different from a man chasing a woman. That’s because men are much more DIRECT than women are. A man who’s chasing will offer to buy her things, ask her to go out with him, and fawn all over her. A woman who’s chasing will stay around him, hint that she is available to him, and be extra attentive to him. Basically, female chasing looks like “extra attentiveness” + “extra availability.” ✅ She stays focused on you even though others try to get her attention. ✅ She keeps texting you even though you still haven’t asked her out. ✅ She keeps hanging around you waiting for you to make a move. ✅ She asks “when will I get to see you” or says “you’re never around!” ✅ She hangs out with you in public and says she’s “tired” but doesn’t go anywhere. ✅ She lets the conversation drop off but smirks and stares at you like a piece of meat. To a man, these behaviors might seem “subtle”, but to a women (who are by nature AMBIGUOUS) these signs are like screaming “I WANT YOU!” through a megaphone. A big part of reading signals as a man is learning to recognize these subtle signs and to stop second guessing them. Women are not men, and they are not going to be ‘direct’. High testosterone women excepted, of course (high-T women MAY BE direct… even then, they are not usually as direct as men). However, once you learn to read their chase signals, they can seem every bit as ‘direct’ to you as man’s more direct chasing can look. It is all about READING the signs!
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨177,840 views • 6 months ago
A guy with sexy ENERGY is far more captivating to a girl than a guy who just looks good or is rich or tall. Girls CHASE this guy. But girls are terrible at describing what it actually is that is attracting them to a guy like this. So, let me lay out the formula for you for understanding it. We can go back to the Year 2000 movie THE TAO OF STEVE for the answer. The movie (based on a real life guy) is about an overweight male kindergarten teacher who smashes a ton of women by using this magic ‘sexy energy’ formula: 1️⃣ BE DESIRELESS. Unlike the average guy, who approaches a woman needing or wanting something, a guy with Tao of Steve energy wants NOTHING from her. He is simply just there to socialize, shoot the breeze, and have a good time. Rather than want anything from her, he is actually OFFERING something: good vibes. There is nothing from her he wants or needs. 2️⃣ BE EXCELLENT. No girl wants a guy who is average at EVERYTHING. Whatever you are NOT average at, find a way to showcase that around women. The guy from Tao of Steve expounds on philosophical concepts that he finds interesting. He gives women new insights and things to think about (this is actually not very hard if you study philosophy a bit. All women find it interesting, but few women study it deeply). If you have great social skills, showcase them. If you have athletic skills or artistic skills, showcase them. Find what’s excellent about you and SHOW IT. 3️⃣ BE GONE. Finally, Duncan North (the Tao of Steve guy) never hangs around too long. He never overstays his welcome. You know how if you hang out with someone too long, you start to get that feeling of, “Okay, well, something should happen, it’s getting kind of stale/awkward now?” You simply leave BEFORE you reach that point. Exit on a high point. Leave her wanting MORE from you. You’re the guy who’s excellent and who needs/wants nothing from her whatsoever. And now you’re leaving. But she doesn’t want you to go! The next time she sees you, she is going to work even harder to keep you around! That’s the Tao of Steve. If you do THAT with girls, you will run circles around the good-looking guys and tall guys with them. No, you do not have to be clownishly energetic. No, you do not have to be Mr. Funny Jokes or The Entertainer. Those guys are NEEDY. They NEED something (her attention, her approval). They violate the first tenet of the Tao of Steve. You just need to be the cool, excellent guy who doesn’t actually need anything from her, just drops whatever value he has to drop, then gets gone before she’s had her fill. Women WILL chase you when you are this guy. They will value you far more highly than the guy whose only value is his chiseled jaw line or his 6-figure income.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨88,439 views • 4 months ago
Women today have to strategize on how to get men to approach them. It’s EASY PICKINGS these days, fellas. Most of the competition (i.e., other men) is on the sidelines nowadays. Most of them are too busy hoping a girl responds to their DMs to actually meet chicks in the flesh.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨130,970 views • 11 months ago
Dude targets completely the wrong girl on this approach. Take a look at this group of four women as he approaches — from left to right: 1️⃣ Looks at him but disinterested 2️⃣ Staring at phone but looks up curiously 3️⃣ Staring at phone, does not look up, ignores him 4️⃣ Fixing hair, looking, smiling, pursing lips Whom does he focus on? Girl #3, the LEAST interested girl in the group. Predictably, he does not get the date. If you’re going to approach groups, you need to learn how to read body language. Home in on the girls who are receptive (like Girl #4, possibly), rather than trying to force it with whichever one you think is slightly better-looking.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨90,626 views • 8 months ago
This guy was doing SO, SO WELL until he OVER-GAMED it when she asked what he does — and then it just went off the rails! Up until that point, he just about nails every bit of the approach: 1️⃣ Opens confident and keeps going despite her taking a second to register him 2️⃣ Uses a unique, fashion-based, unambiguous compliment on her “classy look” 3️⃣ Expands on the topic of her going home, talking about “having a herbal tea, reading a book” (she false disqualifies here saying she is “not that cool”) 4️⃣ Doesn’t get hung up on the boring topic of “were you in there” but switches to a compliment on her accent, which leads to a conversation about accents 5️⃣ She then asks “Really? Where are you from?” (sign of interest) with body language, expression, and voice tone that denote EXTRA interest. This girl’s getting into it! 6️⃣ He teases her about being from “the farms.” She doesn’t really respond well to this but gets right back into it immediately when he asks what she does — which she then excitedly tells him all about. — INTERMISSION — What do we know so far? We know this girl does NOT respond well to arousal (hence the poor reaction to the tease). However, she DOES respond to similarity-building (hence the positive reactions to positive comments on her fashion and accent, asking about what she does at home, discussions of where she’s from, and talking about what she does). If you’re familiar with the SAC attraction model, you know this girl is a SIMILARITY SEEKER. That means the most important thing with her (at least for now) is to establish a sense of connection. — END INTERMISSION — 7️⃣ THEN, THE BIG MISTAKE: she then asks what he does, seeking connection, but he tells her to guess. First off: this girl’s been behaving very compliant and good. She does not need silly gambits at this point. “Guys what I do” at this point is punishing good behavior. Second off: she’s a similarity seeker. Not an arousal seeker. Arousal seekers get titillated by guessing games. Similarity seekers need CONNECTION. “Guess” is anti-connection. 8️⃣ The girl then tries guessing, but is clearly not into it. Rather than cut the topic that is not connecting, the guy tries to keep the guessing game going by running another arousal gambit about how she’ll “find out on the second date.” Wrong move after a wrong move. At this point, the girl is reacting less well and giving resistance. Her body language shows she’s pulling away, as her eye contact breaks off and she looks around. The guy can feel he’s lost control. He gets into a negative topic about how the clubs here aren’t as good as the ones in Manchester, and the girl tries to help him out by attempting to connect with him on the topic and agree with what he says — but he continues to go on and on about how “Manchester is better than here.” PRO TIP: do not complain to women. It doesn’t matter if the complaint is “interesting”, like how this other place is so much better than the current place. Negative topics push people away. The girl then brings it back to what he does, giving him another chance to connect with her, using some of the humor he obviously likes on him, but he continues to try to keep the guessing game going and she continues to lose interest. — THE BIG TAKEAWAY — You need to calibrate to women. Using SAC (similarity-arousal-compliance) is the easy way to do this. You need to FIGURE OUT whether they need more similarity, more arousal, or to comply more — then whichever one it is, you need to put your focus there. If you run a bunch of arousal stuff on a girl who’s looking for similarity, it’s not going to end well. Use the right strategy on the right girl, and get the girl!
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨118,938 views • 1 year ago
She is correct that the man who can coolly, casually walk away from a girl if she rejects him often receives a major attraction boost in that girl’s eyes. Though interestingly her attempt to explain WHY women get that attraction boost is way off! Anyway, the basics are: ➡️ When you approach, she does not know who you are and how you’ll react to being rejected ➡️ Her ASSUMPTION is that you are probably an ‘average guy’, like most guys, and will be a bit offended, a bit let down, or perhaps even not take “no” for an answer and hang around a bit trying to get her to change her mind ➡️ If instead you bow out in a graceful way and leave completely unflustered, she goes, “Oh. Wait. Maybe he is NOT some average guy. Is he actually a COOL guy?” The girl in the video tries to explain this attraction boost by saying the woman thinks, “Maybe he was actually interested in me?” But that is not what is going on. Both the guy who refuses to take “no” for an answer and the guy who coolly walks off might have been “actually interested” in her (or not, or whatever being “actually interested” even is supposed to mean). Instead, what is really happening is she is observing that the man is: • Not needy • Not butt-hurt • Socially savvy • In a word, COOL ❄️ … and immediately her brain starts going, “Oh wait; is he NOT average? He didn’t react like how an average guy does. Average guys get mad, or sad, or pushy. He was totally unaffected and cool and just left. Wait, why did I not affect him? Does he not think I’m pretty enough? But I affect other guys! Why is HE not affected?” At that point, her certainty is shattered, she is thrown into confusion, and she’s become very curious about this man. Not that that’s especially helpful if you’re cold approaching during the daytime… you’ll probably never see her again. But if you just approached a girl you see regularly, Or you approached a girl in a social venue, party, or event you’ll be circulating around in for a bit, Or any other context where you are likely to encounter the same girl MORE than once, Then this ‘walk away effect’ can absolutely work to your advantage. You will even notice that when you again bump into girls you coolly walked away from early on, they are often a lot WARMER and MORE ENTHUSIASTIC… a big part of why was simply just how you handled the rejection. Women’s attraction is fluid. It is behavior-based. A guy being unaffected by a woman rejecting him is a MAJOR flex. Most guys can’t do it. If you can, it immediately bolsters your attractiveness in women’s eyes.
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨43,135 views • 4 months ago
We’re in a weird place now where random girls have better insight into male psychology than most ‘pro-male’ accounts. Usually you do not want to take advice from women, but look what these chicks say: ✅ Guys don’t approach because they’re unconfident (TRUE; many men are terrified to an almost hysterical degree of women right now) ✅ Guys don’t approach because they’re lazy (TRUE; “why take the risk of approaching a girl when I can just open up an app?” → something far too many guys think now) ✅ If you get shot down, whatever; just go to the next girl (TRUE; she is not some magical special girl whose rejection has crippled you forever. Go approach another girl, and another after that! Meeting women is a NUMBERS GAME!) ✅ Be kind, don’t be weird (TRUE; there is a difference between being a ‘nice guy’ vs. just being a cool, warm-hearted, sociable dude. You do not have to be some cartoonish ‘alpha male’ and in fact that does not work. The ‘bad boys’ women are attracted to are generally actually kinder people than the average ‘nice guy’ is — they communicate what they really want, do not behave like they feel entitled to something from her, do not place her on a pedestal she can never hope to live up to, and don’t get weird or resentful or depressed when she flirts with or tests them) ✅ Approach with friendship as the basis (TRUE; so long as you do not MISINTERPRET this and think you need to be a neutered, asexual ‘friend’ instead. You need to be her SEXY friend, who is playful and flirtatious and a bit naughty, not the nice guy friend who acts like he has no balls and just wants to be her shoulder to cry on) As a matter of fact, I would actually say women’s advice to men has SOMEHOW STRANGELY IMPROVED over the last 15 years, while most men’s advice to other men has EGREGIOUSLY WORSENED. Men are online telling each other stuff like “you don’t need women; focus on the money and the women will come” (this will get you women who are after “a nice lifestyle”, i.e., gold diggers) and “never tolerate a woman who doesn’t put you first” (newsflash: until you are regularly banging her out, she is NEVER going to put you first!). Honestly, most advice I see men giving other men online nowadays is putting the cart before the horse type advice. Yes, you need money… but you should focus on that AFTER you get her. You are supposed to enjoy women young, then pick a woman and focus on building a life. A lot of dudes have it ass-backwards now. Yes, you need a woman who will put you first… but that comes AFTER you are banging her out. If you want her to do that before you shag her silly, you will be looking for a LONG time, my friend, as well as dating DOWN in a BIG way. Actually I was pretty surprised to hear these girls talk about “if you get rejected, go to the next one.” Back in the day a lot of girls seemed to always treat dating advice like “whatever girl you approach, treat her like your future wife!” Seems like there is a lot more consciousness among women at this point that dating is a numbers game and as a guy you’ve got to put in the reps. Strangely, men seem to have forgotten this… and approaching has become life and death… with dating apps the new ‘safe space’. Strange times we are in!
Girls Chase 🏃♀️💨32,048 views • 4 months ago