Dr. Jay
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To heal limerence, you must first understand the wound. Limerence is often rooted in an old emotional wound that has never been fully attended to. And just like any other wound, the pain can cry out from the body in ways that are both natural and unhealthy. It is natural because emotional wounds, much like physical wounds, can produce strong reactions when left untreated. But it can become unhealthy when those reactions begin to interfere with everyday functioning, making it difficult to distinguish genuine connection from an intense longing for it. For some people who experience limerence, childhood emotional neglect plays an important role. When emotional needs go unmet during childhood, the longing for connection doesn't necessarily disappear. It can remain beneath the surface, waiting to be reawakened. So when relationships in adulthood trigger those old wounds, the same intense longing for connection experienced in childhood can resurface. The need for connection was never the problem. The patterns that developed around that unmet need may be what require healing. This clip is from our full episode on Healing Limerence on Patreon, where we explore the psychology behind limerence and practical strategies for healing. #limerence #datingadvice #psychology #dating @Dr. Vincent Barbieri
Dr. Jay36,600 просмотров • 1 месяц назад
What if the reason it’s so hard to have a stable sense of self is because you have ADHD in a world that doesn’t understand you? For many people with ADHD, this feeling of identity loss is deeply familiar. From an early age, your natural wiring may have been seen as problematic. Your authentic self was labeled as defiant, incompetent, too much, or simply unable to meet the expectations of your environment. So, of course, you learned to adapt. You learned to suppress parts of yourself, developing systems, thought patterns, behaviors, and avoidance strategies that allowed you to navigate a world that often misunderstood your natural wiring. Over time, you may have become so skilled at adapting to others that you lost touch with who you were before you learned to conform. In some ways, this can resemble the psychological experience of narcissistic abuse. Narcissistic abuse can involve patterns of manipulation, invalidation, and control that gradually cause someone to distrust their own perceptions, suppress their needs, and lose touch with their sense of self. Similarly, people with ADHD may grow up repeatedly receiving the message that their natural way of thinking, feeling, and behaving is wrong. Over time, they may learn to distrust their instincts, suppress their emotions, and prioritize meeting others’ expectations over understanding their own needs. The tragedy is that you can become so good at being who the world needs you to be that you forget who you actually are. And while society’s response to ADHD isn’t necessarily driven by malice or manipulation, the psychological consequences can sometimes feel similar. This is why it’s so important to distinguish between your ADHD wiring and the wounds that developed in response to how that wiring was received. Because healing isn’t always about changing who you are. Sometimes, it’s about rediscovering who you were before you learned that being yourself was a problem. ⚠️ Disclaimer: Narcissistic abuse and societal invalidation are distinct experiences that can differ significantly in severity and psychological impact. This analogy is intended to highlight similarities in how repeated invalidation can affect one’s sense of self, not to equate the two experiences. 🎙️ Want to explore this further? Watch the full episode of Two Dudes Talkin’ Therapy on Patreon! Full episode on patreon- linked in my bio! #adhd #narcissisticabuse #adhdprobs #psychology #therapy @Dr. Vincent Barbieri
Dr. Jay24,600 просмотров • 24 дней назад
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