melissadivaristhompson
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New Series Starting! Follow to get all 7 questions! How many nights this week did "How was your day?" get you "fine"? Most couples I talk to have the same few lines on repeat. "How was work?" "Fine." "Did you eat?" "Yeah." "What do you want for dinner?" "I don't care." Nobody did anything wrong. You're both tired. You're both running a house, a job, maybe kids, maybe parents. The questions just got smaller over the years until they stopped telling you much. And slowly you start to feel like roommates who are really good at logistics. So starting tomorrow, Wednesday, I'm sharing 7 Questions to Ask Your Partner Tonight. One question a day for seven days. Each one comes with the exact words, so you don't have to come up with anything. Each one is small enough to ask while you're brushing your teeth or driving to practice. And each one is specific enough that "fine" won't really work as an answer. If you only try one or two, that still counts. One good conversation this week might be more than you've had in a while, and that's a real start. Follow so you catch day one tomorrow morning, and save this so you remember to come back. Are you doing all seven, yes or no? #questionstoaskyourpartner #relationshipeducation #marriageadvice #couplescommunication #emotionalconnection This is relationship education, not therapy, and nothing here creates a therapist-client relationship 💗
melissadivaristhompson438,300 views • 3 days ago
Day 1 of 7 Questions to Ask Your Partner Tonight. Tonight's question: "What did you need from me today that you didn't ask for?" Save this so you have the words when you need them. Your partner probably needed something from you today and never said a word about it. Use my wording or put it in your own. Most of us are bad at asking. You want a hug at the door and you get "Did you call the plumber?" You want ten minutes to yourself and you start the laundry anyway. You tell yourself it's too small to bring up. Small things add up, though. A week of needs nobody said out loud can leave you feeling like your partner doesn't care. Most of the time they had no idea. If you get "nothing, I'm good," give it a second and try, "Okay, what about this week?" Going back a few days makes it easier to find one. If the answer stings a little, try not to explain yourself. Say, "Thank you for telling me," and leave it there. Your side can wait for tomorrow. And if your partner asks you back, give a real answer. "I needed you to ask how the appointment went." Keep it to one thing. In the couples I work with, a need said out loud on a Wednesday tends not to turn into the fight three weeks later. Follow along for Day 2 tomorrow morning. Would you ask your partner this tonight, yes or no? Send this to your partner if you'd rather they ask you first. #questionstoaskyourpartner #relationshipeducation #marriageadvice #couplescommunication #emotionalconnection This is relationship education, not therapy, and nothing here creates a therapist-client relationship 💗
melissadivaristhompson102,900 views • 2 days ago
A lot of couples think something is wrong with their relationship when things start to feel flat. But what’s often missing isn’t love. It’s emotional intimacy. Stability keeps a relationship running. Intimacy is what keeps it alive. If you feel like roommates instead of partners, you’re not alone. There’s usually a pattern underneath it. The free@Conflict Decoder in my bio can help you see what might be happening. This is for educational purposes only and not to be misconstrued as therapy. #TikTokLearningCampaign #EduTok #relationshipadvice #couplestherapy #relationshiptips
melissadivaristhompson69,800 views • 8 months ago
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