Rob and Avis Ramble
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Maybe I found a decent use case for these AI glasses collecting genuine reaction videos. -R
Rob and Avis Ramble121,622 görüntüleme • 3 gün önce
I’m on a mission to stop men from black-pilling on the idea that marriage, kids, grandkids, and a wife over 40 or 50 means a low-sex or sexless life with a wife they no longer find attractive. That’s becoming the norm in far too many marriages that last long enough to reach their 40s and beyond. It’s driving men away from marriage while lulling women into thinking the norm is acceptable - even as it harms marriage as a whole. I’m not dumping the whole job of keeping a 40+ marriage sexy on wives. Husbands have a responsibility too which includes expecting, investing, and enabling their wives to successfully respond to those expectations. Toward that end, last year I set an ambitious goal for my 52-year-old wife - mother of our three kids and grandmother to our one grandchild so far - to get back on the NPC stage after more than a decade away from it and win her IFBB pro card in Fit Model. I invested heavily in that goal and with the coach we hired, we built a 3-show plan for this summer. The first two shows were to qualify for nationals (where pro cards are won) and get her comfortable on stage again. After a year-plus of work getting herself stage ready she won 1st in her 50+ class in Vegas in July, 1st again in Nashville in August, then competed in Pittsburgh about a week ago - the show where winning the class could earn the pro card. We left home a week before Nashville and stayed on the road through Pittsburgh - 5 weeks of strange hotel and Airbnb beds, strange gyms, and strange kitchens to cook in to stay on plan. It took a bit of a toll. Avis’s back started acting up after Nashville. She’s had “tweaky” back issues on and off for decades, so it wasn’t a total surprise. In Pittsburgh we got her massages and she used the foam roller with some success. But show morning it flared up again. She was dealing with some pain and struggled some in her posing - hitting poses cleanly and holding a smile is part of the judging, not just the physique alone. If you watch the video of her routine that morning you can see it in compared to previous shows. That’s not an excuse - just a reality and every woman who walked out there was fighting something. After the 50+ A Fit Model routines, the women line up on either side of the stage while judges pick the top 6 for first callouts. If you miss first callouts your shot at the win is over. Judges then move them around - front, rear, side by side - usually ending with 1st in the center. That is the comparison video I shared. At the end of first callouts I couldn’t tell if they had Avis 2nd, 3rd, or 4th because of the even number of girls in the callout. At finals we learned it was 3rd. 3rd is nothing to be ashamed of at a national show against what is supposed to be the best of the best - but the reality was not placing 1st meant missing the pro card. We have a new plan and a couple of new targets - later this year or next year, depending on how it plays out. Looping back to my main point - every woman on stage in the videos I shared is over 50. How far over I don’t know. The one I’m married to is 52. I’m not saying every husband has to go this far in expectation or investment to have a marriage they enjoy. I am saying it is possible to have a decades-long marriage that does not become a dead bedroom with a wife who stopped prioritizing fitness. Don’t black-pill. Set the expectations that would actually be good for your marriage and invest enough to see them through. Wives - respond in good faith with the resources your husband is giving you. He has expectations because he wants a marriage both of you enjoy. -R
Rob and Avis Ramble87,358 görüntüleme • 1 ay önce
My way of thinking about this topic is asking do we want to solve issues with porn being a substitute for real sex in marriage the easy way or the hard way? Absolutely men have a responsibility to police themselves and not let the behavior of women dictate their own behavior - period. Along side of that we can simultaneously acknowledge the reality that men are most attracted to fit, feminine women. A husband married to a wife that isn’t fit and feminine is a husband who has a problem. The problem is he likes fit and feminine but doesn’t have access to it in his marriage. The problem is amplified if his wife is also a bitter bitch who uses sex as control mechanism. He finds himself between a rock and a hard place. He has normal male desires - normal male desires aren’t being fulfilled. Now what? Do the best he can to ignore his desires or morph them into other desires? Have an affair? Use porn as the next best substitute? All hard options. Alternatively - he can make it clear to his wife his expectations based on his normal male desires and his wife can respond to them - which is the easy way when the wife is as invested in the marriage as the husband is. I talk about this topic on this account all the time because I’m absolutely convinced if both husband and wife put the focus on the easy way - the hard way doesn’t even have to be a topic of consideration or conversation. The video I’m sharing with this post was a video Avis’s coach took last week while she was working with Avis as she’s preparing to get back into competing later this year. Avis is preparing to start competing again because she has the same attitude getting ready to turn 52 as she had in her, 20’s, 30’s, 40’s and so on. That attitude is she wants to make it as easy as she can for me to be happily married to her. I told her a long time ago what my expectations of her were that I believed would provide the most insulation to our marriage and make it as easy as possible for me to be married to her. Staying fit and feminine were a huge part of those expectations. She didn’t try to make it out as if I was asking something unreasonable of her - she didn’t say my male desires were gross and that I needed to talk to Jesus about them - she didn’t go complain to her friends what a terrible husband I was - she didn’t threaten me with divorce over my expectations or any of the other things too many wives often do to try to control their marriages. She simply said she would give it her best and throughout 3+ decades of marriage and the birthing and raising of 3 children over those decades - that is exactly what she did and continues to do. However much husbands might think they can learn from me and what I share on this account - I think wives could learn 10x more from Avis and how to make their husbands life easy instead of hard. The best defense against porn ruining a marriage is being in a marriage that’s easy to be in. -R
Rob and Avis Ramble130,703 görüntüleme • 8 ay önce
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