The Rizz Report
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Technical breakdowns of dating dynamics for super-logical guys. Free ebook, "The Little Black Book of Rizz": https://t.co/hlDAPhngyX
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I’ve often heard “I’m brown it’s over” Now, not saying the playing field is always 100% level But personal attributes outweigh background almost always. I’ve seen browns that absolutely SLAY, while also seeing the worst of the worst lol. Generally less about the fact that they are brown, and more about their personal qualities. Do they look good, do they groom themselves well, work out, speak well (Accent is a factor but not the biggest one), have a good vibe, understand social dynamics. Often comes down to being socialized normally tbh. One of my best friends has a triple digit body count being brown and plus Direct open then goes into a slight monologue which allows him to showcase his personality more. (Even leaving space for girl to contribute without cutting her off) In the beginning, taking up space is effective: allows her to settle in to the convo, assess you better, buys you more time to showcase non-threat, pump good emotions in. He didn’t have to supplicate himself “I’m gonna regret it if I didn’t say something” But in this case it’s not tied as much to the girl’s appearance like “You were SO beautiful I would have regretted..” So better in that sense. But yeah from what was shown Smart, social, cool dude and a great intro into the convo.
The Rizz Report64,963 次观看 • 18 天前
"How to Confirm A Date -- The Day of the Date." I'm not sure what happened to this guy leading up to the date. I don't have the text exchange. But even when he texts her, "I'm on my way to the date" -- that's a little bit of a red flag on this guy's "method." All of which begs the question: How do you confirm a date...the day of the date? Plenty of ways to skin this cat. Here's one: Assuming the time and place are already set... On the afternoon of the date (somewhere between noon and 1 p.m.) Send a soft confirmation text. Do not send: "Hey are we still on for tonight at 7:30 p.m. ? (Needy and clueless). It's hot as fck on the east coast right now. So I'd probably send something like... "Feel like these ice cold margs are gonna hit tonight" I'm painting a picture. It sounds fun and relaxing because hey, who doesn't love drinking a margarita on a hot summer evening. And it subtly cues that it's her turn to confirm. Her: "omg yeh its crazy hot looking fwd to it :)" If she says nothing then you know a flake is likely in the cards. So what do you do? Either way, you do the same thing. Here's what I mean: I always pick a bar walking distance from my place -- so ymmv. But 15 minutes before the date... You text something like, "text when you arrive" It's a vague text but the way it's worded is crucial: If you read closely, it does NOT say nor imply: "I've arrived. So let me know when you've arrived." (Translation: "I'm super eager to meet you and I'm willing to waste my time sitting here like a clueless d*ckhead while you're late!"). The text says, "text when YOU arrive" Why? Two reasons. 1. Because I'm not there lmao, and... 2. Girls are always late. lmao. I'd guess only 10% of my dates have ever been "on time." If she ghosts this text, then she just straight up flaked on you. That's all the confirmation you need. Congrats, you just won yourself a free evening. LOL. But usually... Assuming she's acting in good faith... At this point, she'll fess up: "OK, running 15 minutes late but omw." Eventually, when she arrives she'll text you, "ok i'm here!" Obviously, when she arrives, you are nowhere to be found. She's usually waiting by the front entrance. After a minute or two you text something like, "ok omw" That way... You know she's there -- without having to sit in the venue and wait while she inevitably shows up 20-30 minutes late. And voila'. There you have it. A texting sequence I've used a million times. A texting sequence, that I'm sure would've helped this guy. P.S. Unrelated, but... After getting flaked on, he texts the girl: "we agree to a time and place to meet and you haven't made an effort...I don't appreciate having my time wasted." Then proceeds to explain how the person in the lower frame is always explaining themselves to the person with the higher frame. And yet, here he is. Explaining himself to her: "I don't appreciate having my time wasted." Because he's in the lower frame. lol. Good rule of thumb: If you ever have to verbalize your boundaries to a woman... You're not being "alpha" or "masculine." Your frame, is in fact, f*cked lmao.
The Rizz Report40,681 次观看 • 29 天前
Cold approaching and IG closing a Swedish model: Opening vibe is great. Assertive, uninhibited, curious tone. The way he asks his question has more power than people’s statements. “How tall are you” “Where are you from” Very basic questions but good energy. Next thread: “You model right?” “Definitely” Lots of people might think this is “simping” but no. The way the thread is transitioned - “Well nice to meet you I’m UV” and doesn’t linger is great. (There was a cut in the clip so we can only assume lol) Signals that his question is more curiosity connected to her height rather than pedestalization (I think he is a model too). Continues assertion. “EMMA” voice spike no need. “Let me see the eyes” - good instruction. Issue assertiveness when you have good compliance, which he has. Otherwise your assertiveness will be a minus rather than a plus. Guessing game comes next. The premise is good as it’s a fun encouragement for investment, rather than simply answering. But doesn’t work great as he’s repeating himself. Neutral. Afterwards Repeats the introduction. Symptom of nervousness and perhaps why his vibe is always “on”. Notice he’s excitable throughout most of the interaction. Maybe that’s how he is, but can come across performative if overdone. That kind of energy is actually a superpower to have, but when you can’t mellow out in balance, It doesn’t feel real. More so like a presentation. And then he prematurely closes IG for coffee. No reason to do that. Is it possible that he could get her out? Yeah if good text game/IG/attraction. Now maybe there was more to the conversation that was clipped out, But on the merits of what was visible, it is less likely. Lots left on the table: Rapport, knowing her more (blueprint), emotional resonance, romantic intrigue, evaluations etc. She was most excited at the start - great beginning but no follow through. But by the end of it she could have taken or left it.
The Rizz Report73,960 次观看 • 3 个月前
How to build chemistry in seconds: This is a great example of challenging, What challenging does is maintain the tension, it’s “fighting for position” Which really, what you’re avoiding is collapsing into her frame. She is trying to prize frame herself. “You wish you had this number” A lot of guys either collapse into her frame “Yeah I do, what’s your number” Or they just outright deny “No I don’t” Both suboptimal. You want to deny without qualifying yourself. Tease her back - “You’re mumbling I can’t even understand you” “Numbah?” “What’s a numbah?” Misinterpret “What you said you want my number? You can’t have it yet” Reframing the interaction knocks her off the pedestal without triggering her, or coming across try hard. What he did was perfect. Next, “Why are you getting so close to me” He’s challenging her prize frame, starting shit for more tension. “I didn’t give you permission. Stop touching my titties” Guys are gonna be like wtf is wrong with his voice But the intent and frame of your words matter more than the base. (Though a good voice still helps) “You like me already” Prize framing himself. But it’s also just him expressing his observation. “Yeah you wish I liked you” The girl now challenging the prize frame. And instead of going back and forth, another thing you can do is just call her bluff. He moved in closer to her and she broke instantly, wanting to kiss him. “I can’t kiss you right now” The only reason she didn’t was most likely a logistics issue. (Notice her looking over, checking who’s still around) He continues the challenging “Get out of here” “No you get out of here” Again - it’s more bluffing and calling out the frame He wants to stamp the fact that she likes him although it’s bit of an overextension. She’s starting to get tired of it and needs the interaction to move forward. “You want this or not because if not we’re gonna go home” The thing is he keeps playing around the “do you like me” frame Which is good to keep up the tension (which this girl likes) but it also keeps the interaction at a standstill. And eventually it will stall out and break. At this point - the opposition frame hurts your outcome more than it benefits. A better path forward is either to lead - pull her, help her with her logistics, move her away from friends, etc Or at the very least, instead of fighting for position, provoke escalation. “You can’t handle me ;)” “No you can’t handle me” Get her to challenge you and you can call her bluff to escalate like what happened earlier when he walked towards her. “Stop looking at me like I won’t do something to you right now ;)” Provoke, challenge her to set up the escalation window and it breaks the dancing around of who likes who while still maintaining tension. But bottom line, this interaction is a great example. Challenging = chemistry.
The Rizz Report48,801 次观看 • 2 个月前
HOW TO SEXUALIZE without coming across over eager. A common default to sexualization is to go direct and express sexual interest + intent. “You are looking so sexy right now” “I want to do so many things to you you don’t even know” And if the girl is just as horny and attracted as you then this is completely fine. But otherwise you’ve just revealed all your cards and likely came across turbo thirsty, possibly even aggressive. In which case, at the very least you’ve become predictable and easy, and at worst, potentially even unsafe for her to be around. Either way, you’ve just broken the seduction process. It’s often not simply that she lacked attraction for you, it’s that the act of oversexualization is unattractive in and of itself. Lots of guys get this intuitively and as a result find it difficult to sexualize b/c the prerequisite for direct intent is often too high. This leads to inaction, often never sexualizing at all and booking themselves a one way ticket to the limp dick friend zone. Their fear isn’t necessarily of being sexual (sometimes it is), but of the consequences that would come from whether or not she’s ready. This video demonstrates 2 very important concepts to sexualization that can aid the dilemma: Implication + Verbal Restraint. Sexualization by default is making a bid of interest. You’re expressing intent, and more importantly, placing the decision on her. Which naturally lowers your positioning as it deplatforms you and grants her the option to accept/reject, aka lead. Plausible deniability is what balances the scales. “Dessert” is the double entendre implication. Him saying “huh” is misinterpreting it as sexual. By implying sexualization without directly expressing intent, There is always the possibility that you are referring to something else… And if SHE interprets your words as sexual advancement in that scenario, the one making the bid is her, not you, placing authority back in your hands. This gray area of uncertainty is what plausible deniability grants, Which in essence provokes sexual nature + tension from uncertainty, without showing your hand thus preserving positioning. Verbal restraint, “let me behave myself, like plausible deniability, buffers positioning as you’re technically pushing away the bid, Thus not abdicating decision making and becoming easy. But it also buffers from the angle of safety as well. Demonstrating restraint towards sexualizing clears the risk of unwanted advance. Signaling to the girl that you won’t become impulsive and can stop if she feels uncomfortable, The comfort she has in knowing she is safer to a larger degree to engage without consequence is the aphrodisiac. You are more willing to let yourself go crazy if there’s no danger looming around the corner. Plus, there’s always the angle of forbidden desire like Romeo + Juliet. But all to say, Sexualization needs to be a ramp up process. Reason the process is often botched is because the directness is too large of a jump. Things like implications and verbal restraint are energetic sliders that help adjust your level of investment and intensity. Allowing you to dip your way slowly into a pool instead of cannonballing before she is ready.
The Rizz Report32,255 次观看 • 2 个月前
This is how to compliment without simping. And why all the traditional never-validate advice is incomplete. Notice how there’s really zero repression, he’s very liberal with complimenting. “You are so cute” “I’m so serious” “You have such a cool look to you” If he feels like saying it, he says it. And he doesn’t come across like a fan at all. Reason why is because of the back and forth energy balance. Yes he compliments and validates, but he also takes away validation too. By: Giving her shit - “Yes you, not the person behind you” “I love how you’re so taken aback, as if this is not happening to you all day” By evaluating her - “… all black, I had to come see what’s happening” His entire demeanor throughout the interaction is a give and take. And so no matter how much he compliments, The balance remains even as he equally breaks rapport just as much if not more. “You speak good English right?” “Omg you’re unbelievable” “You’re kidding” Interrupting her and changing threads, Leading the conversation. What’s being communicated is: “Yes I am interested but I’m not a pushover” The interest comes not from pedeatalization but from expressing purely what’s on his mind. Both the positive and the negative. And that’s what works.
The Rizz Report39,694 次观看 • 3 个月前
He got her number without complimenting once: Very strong example of frame. What is frame? In this interaction, think of it as leadership and cause. The more frame you possess, The more other people become reactive. And the more value, status, and attraction is created from nothing. You’re organically creating the same emotional effect as if you are a celebrity. This is created through multiple things: 1 - low filter He is like a narrator. Observations, thoughts, questions, etc “Did you get the Drake drink?” “I need to know how that drink is” Everything that is in his purview is spoken out loud instantly. There’s not really any sort of calculation or pre-plan. “You you you” “Blonde” Sees, narrates, speaks. Frame exists from the thoughts exerted outwards. If these thoughts are withheld and filtered out, your “content real estate” + expression throughput becomes too low. 2 - Leading Low filter then lends itself to being more of a leader. He’s deciding what to talk about. He’s instructing what to do. “Come come come” “Go ahead go ahead go ahead” “Did you get the drake drink?” To the blonde. “Have you had the drake drink?” To the friend He is deciding who to talk to, and what to talk about. Decisively, without needing anyone else to micromanage or contribute. This is carrying the conversation burden. 3 - JUDGEMENT/OPINIONS This part is crucial. Observations and low filter is a first step. But they are more or less neutral and weightless. What gives them more power is in unapologetic judgement. Judgement, whether good or bad, is what reinforces the weight of your words. “But it’s in the drake cup” - judging her decision “But you didn’t take the opportunity to get the drake drink” - more judgement And all together - Filterless, Leading, Judging Makes it so the entire interaction is through him. He becomes the sun from which everything orbits around. Frame expansion.
The Rizz Report22,189 次观看 • 3 个月前
How to sexualize under the radar: Lots of guys find sexualizing a bit tricky to do throughout an entire date. This guy does it within a minute of meeting a girl. Totally calibrated - girl acknowledged the sexual frame and didn’t deny it. And perhaps this was unintentional but the reason it works is because the dynamic was reversed. Most of the time girls are accusing guys of getting sexual and they’re playing defense. Which makes a guys sexualization come across more needy and thirsty. …and if the girl accepts his advances she’ll feel too easy. But this time it was the opposite. The guy accuses her of sexualizing instead. She’s the one that’s trying to do something spicy, not him. So even though the topic is now on sex, it doesn’t feel like the guy is aggressively pursuing her. This bypasses the anti slut radar and allows her to engage with the premise positively instead of feeling creeped out. Resulting effect is that sex and kinks is now an appropriate topic to talk about and the conversation just got spicy. Now, there’s going to be a sexual undertone to the interaction. The purpose of them getting to know each other no longer solely to be friends.
The Rizz Report22,004 次观看 • 3 个月前
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