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A young woman has raised a serious concern about how some values and protective practices in Hausa-Fulani society may be changing. She reflected on how, at 12 or 13, her mother still helped her bathe because she was considered a child. Yet today, a girl of the same age...

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Sulaiman Uwaisu Idris

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Фото профиля Abdulrahman M S
Abdulrahman M S21 дней назад

If we have a working system many people will be banned from giving birth and marrying additional wife …

Фото профиля Sulaiman Uwaisu Idris
Sulaiman Uwaisu Idris21 дней назад

😆, yes. Is factor too.

Фото профиля omo shanono
omo shanono19 дней назад

gaskiya ne Ameen

Фото профиля aminu idris
aminu idris21 дней назад

Gaskiya najidadi wannan bayani naki allah kashiryama yayamu.

Фото профиля Sulaiman Uwaisu Idris
Sulaiman Uwaisu Idris21 дней назад

Ameen Ya Allah

Фото профиля єℓ-вαηgιѕ
єℓ-вαηgιѕ20 дней назад

So touching wlhy

Фото профиля Ibrahim shehu
Ibrahim shehu18 дней назад

Allah yatsremuna xuriar mu

Фото профиля Yazid Aliyu marnona
Yazid Aliyu marnona19 дней назад

Honestly speaking you have said right sister, as young as this girl concern running into prostitution is totally unacceptable, infact human rights supposed to intevern in this case as matter of she is underage.

Фото профиля Is Ti
Is Ti21 дней назад

Arewanistan

Фото профиля Sulaiman Uwaisu Idris
Sulaiman Uwaisu Idris21 дней назад

Explain to me.

Фото профиля Maman Abeey
Maman Abeey20 дней назад

Haifosu kawai akeyi yanzu haka may be her first challenge daga rashin space din wajen kwana ne Allah ya shirya

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