Change him into your spec” sounds romantic until you realize you’re auditioning for the role of life coach. You can communicate your needs, encourage growth, and decide what you can live with but you cannot remodel another adult into your ideal partner. Sometimes the wisest move isn’t “change him”... or “divorce him.” It’s simply: be honest about who he is, who you are, and whether the two of you actually fit.show more

Nothing good comes from being intentional to any Nigerian woman...... you will scream in seven different languages.... intentional man no see life come

Nothing at all

Person wey he suppose fuck move lol , he dey dey form good guy, there must be signs, women wey no sabi hide their feelings 🤣 😂

As I hear “I am light skinned” I just know say I Dey waste my time🤣🤣

No be small matter oo

God go punish you and the person that shared this story with you 😂

Why u dey vex like this ? lol

Omo 😀 it no suppose better for those kind women 😂 because why must they suffer someone's son like that 😆

@samzy_yt If that story is true she go suffer am in a big way

@samzy_yt Definitely time will come when she'll be regretting her actions 😂

One thing as a man you need to work on your dressing it’s very necessary

I agree

What did she do with her 18 to 33 years that she couldn't attract her spec? She thinks now she will attract onr?😂😂😂🤣. If she leaves that marriage she might end up being a side chick. They should go for therapy and counselling

Where she wan see good man na ? lol

😂😂 Not just a good man, but a man that will want to settle with her age and attitude

@samzy_yt She's obviously not looking for a good man cos the man is good. He isn't just physically attractive enough for her lol, wetin she like no like her cos 18 -31, she didn't see anyone attractive enough to marry lol, idk why they always feel there's something better out here.

@samzy_yt And if you check well, she fit no fine too 😂

Never You marry nonsense o, many of You marry Who you are to knack and move on .. I’ve told My Friends, If You like go and marry nonsense, My own is on Ur weddin day, I go come , spray money up and dwn , drink , eat and Wish You Your Home is blessed and I take My leave , Any thin wey You see for that Your home na You sabi o o o chekina …

Marrying nonsense is never the goal

As a man, know your worth, know thy self. Try not to be "one of the" option to any lady, be the only one. Don't force any lady to love you. You can't bribe or force love.

Nonsense! Who shouldn't judge you? Wicked and evil woman. You are using the man you claim you don't love but you accepted to marry him in your selfish interest. May you meet a wicked and evil man to pay you back. The man was never your spec but he's a responsible man! What more!?

Its either u Remain in ur marriage while u both go for Counseling or U divorce him while u return back to single life wey u left us (we will be glad to welcome u back)

Your mouth no good ooo lol

How bad it is 🫣🫣

This is evil walking on two feet

I agree with you totally

The only way out of this “Living in Bondage” movie is divorce. But remember, if they didn’t come before 33, they wouldn’t still come now.

I stopped watching at "Let me just use him to pass time"

They can be very brutal lol

Person wey suppose chop you move on 😆 🤣

All the while you were out there, did you find any? Calm down and love that man. Your love will bring out the best in him. NEVER try to pin a pregnancy on him. You will regret it in so many ways later. I wish you luck.

Exactly what I said

Woman no de get spec,na woman when her eye de outside de talk all this kind talk.woman when de train with african way know say na man de choose woman only de accept.

Just tell him and go.. Getting pregnant for someone else will only destroy the good in him and maybe when he finds someone that truly cares and love him, it might be difficult for him to treat her well because you have already destroyed something in him.

Since you were not forced into the marriage, kindly divorce him and go live your life. Good luck to you

This is very irritating.....some women though.

Irritating is an understatement

What a “pathetic excuse” this are the real reasons why we’ve got so many “bastard children” in the society! She married because of peer-pressures to validate her own identity as a married woman .I pity the poor man. Good riddance to bad rubbish!

Am currently in such situation too although am not married. Am 28 still preparing a good future for myself, a student and aspiring to learn more skills because I work in an oil firm and we work together. She 32yrs and is glamoring to marry 2dy 2moro . We are in serious relatshp

Just follow your mind and peace ✌️

Men wey Dey marry community food dey see wonders

Nothing will ever make me being intentional to any woman in Nigeria, imagine why don't you leave him alone and look for your dream man..

Did anyone put a gun on your head to marry him? Imagine talking about your husband with so much disgust

I just tire honestly

You guys should listen till the end before you judge na😂. She is narrating someone else’s story as hers

Make una no dey use us play oo lol

Don't be foolish woman! Your specs never saw you as their specs. Perhaps the best they ever considered you is to knack and pass time. In the eyes of your specs, you're not good for marriage.

This is just content but fr lots of ladies are like this. Men, you're th price so do yourself a favor by being you and loving yourself and not these haggard looking ladies. Truth be told, the beautiful ones are even better...

We’re always the price oo

I hope "we men" accept this isn't a movie, it's reality

Polygamy is good o, it has its own side effects but it's good for a man

Story too dey this woman mouth…

Omo I just weak lol

Hanty...marriage is not for everyone...leave oga plumber alone

Hope yall know these stories are made up?

Hmm you have been blessed with a good man. What if he is a plumber in US, would you still be uncomfortable. May God not let you meet a wife batterer, you will long after your ex like crazy. Remember most of your grandparents never loved their spouses but they grew to fall in love

You are beautiful and surplus to requirements at 33? What a beauty. The guys that have been knacking you and go probably saw this ungrateful you. Though I know this is just content.

Suspend your analytic brain, ignore his ways of talking and take him up as your life project. A project to make him a better businessman, get involved with his business and help him grow till he doesn’t need to plumb by himself before money comes in. Bring your spec out of him.

There’s no point as a woman marrying the person you cannot respect.

Leave him and go your way, at least you’ve achieved your aim🤷‍♂️ If any one should wanna talk about marriage later, you can say you ones married Don’t waste that innocent man’s time Biko