Guys....come this side

@Mlu__N2 Men are ok with dating and even marrying successful women. Its the attitude and disrespect that most of these ladies bring to a relationship that most men can’t handle

@Mlu__N2 I’ve been told these many times Recent one told me “men need a foolish woman, play foolish” Well 🙄🙄🙄

@Mlu__N2 There’s a respectful way of telling someone they are talking caca… men and women do not appreciate being disrespected in the name of “expressing an opinion”

@Mlu__N2 Unfortunately, the modern woman is expected to fill so many roles. Be a strong and bold woman at work and in debates yet dim or minimize herself in relationship & be submissive even to a man who doesn't even show real leadership. It's honestly so difficult 2 strike a balance.😬

@Mlu__N2 I think our men are in crisis!! Women are successful, extremely futhi! We don’t need their permission or money to achieve certain things. They were brought up to only ‘provide’! Now that we can do that… they’ve no idea where and how to fit in! Scrambling 🦤 really!!

@Mlu__N2 True...let me add on

@Mlu__N2 Angiyifuni idomkop mina sorry. I just hate someone who want to prove their an academic every time

@Mlu__N2 Most of, if not all my adult life, I’ve dated professionals. Lawyers, Doctors, Industrial Psychologists, etc. I purposefully date them because I hate poverty, never known my entire life. My problem with success is when it’s the centre of the relationship. We are lovers come 6 pm

@Mlu__N2 Not all men though. Most men love a successful woman as long as her opinions and suggestions are delivered with respect and consideration. Many powerful men value their woman’s input even. And not all success women have attitude. Not all unsuccessful women are humble.

@Mlu__N2 @honeytsaoane My ex fiancé used to say “you don’t have to prove that you know everything” meantime I do know the facts on the topic at hand😭

@Mlu__N2 Iyhoo, - mna I heard such from my dad first ‘ Ntombikayise akho ndoda iOtshata wena ngoba uyaphendula waze yonke into’ translated ‘no man will marry you: u r so opinionated and talk back to adults’. And throughout I’ve heard this message shrink yourself, u r too much. Too loud

@Mlu__N2 @Benittadanielle I had so much hope for this conversation and I’m bitterly disappointed but the conclusions being drawn here. The fact that men feel disempowered by a woman’s strengths or achievements is not a problem women need to take on.

@Mlu__N2 1 thing I've learnt about myself in this phase of my life is that the amount of self sacrifice required to keep a man is not worth what is on offer. Given a choice between being alone or playing dumb I'll choose being alone. Men just aren't the prize we are told they are.

@Mlu__N2 I'm stuck on how beautiful she is. Yho 😍😍😍

@Mlu__N2 @MajubaMagwaza Yeah they've been insecure these ones, if it's not academics it's something else. Nothing new here. Men just need to work on themselves the same way that women had to work on themselves without black men's support for decades. Bazo ba right.

@Mlu__N2 Having to dumb yourself down for a man after spending so much time & money to build yourself up, is insane.

@Mlu__N2 Ursula is so beautiful

@Mlu__N2 I don't really think the issue is being able to receive criticism. I think it's more of the manner in which you lay out your criticism that becomes an issue

@Mlu__N2 I could listen to this lady the whole day 😭

@Mlu__N2 Someone said,BW need to leave their jobs so that BM can be employed and restore their dignity,thousands agreed🥴I find these kinds of topics belittling and degrading towards black men.I refuse to believe that’s what BM have been reduced to.

@Mlu__N2 I see a lot of men...say it's the delivery. But even when the delivery is as meek as can...the being told that perhaps you are not as knowledgeable in a certain aspect if life by a woman often makes men feel inferior. It's not the info, it's who delivers it.

@Mlu__N2 I relate so much to this woman...I have been told I am too opinionated,I have something to say about everything and shem am done shrinking myself for a man.

@Mlu__N2 Blacks are cursed beyond repair no matter how you look at it. Our society needs a serious reset. Other races are miles ahead of us and yet we still stuck in convos abt immaterial things and who has more access to credit. In my next lifetime God let me be anything but black.

@Mlu__N2 One thing I've learned recently from my circle is, black men are successful just those who are successful are not on social media advertising their success. We buy houses and cars, and we celebrate in silence. And you won't find us in clubs as well, either we braai or at home.

@Mlu__N2 I think most men want a YES woman,if u dare challenge him or have a different opinions then u are rude,disrespectful and bossy.Forgetting one thing behind every successful man is a woman, we know how to make things happen

@Mlu__N2 She's beautiful!

@Mlu__N2 The problem is that most men think that women are accessories to their existence

@Mlu__N2 This is why I don’t want podcast. She lacks to understand that she attracts men that want her to shrink herself. She also somewhat has a condescending spirit. Men on your level and frequency want you to be and do your level best, they more so encourage it even. This is nonsense

@Mlu__N2 I disagree with teaching women to shrink themselves to pea size, the correct terminology for me is teaching women submission. In every relationship we submit, women do actually know how to submit! Ask their bosses at work! Yet don’t wanna submit to men💔

@Mlu__N2 Don't prefer any female to dumb it down for me. Sassy, smart and not overly submissive is the perfect female. If you have to pretend to be dim witted to keep things peaceful it'll eventually implode as it will gradually breed resentment.

@Mlu__N2 The lady is in her own right to express her opinion however when you start to use ur level of education and success as a yardstick to what you deserve in a romantic relationship that's we lose the plot. Men do not have a problem with educated independent women.

@Mlu__N2 If you can't provide security to a woman, that being money, petrol, hair money, house, all the basics, you can't tell her anything, you won't tell her what to wear or where not to go, what time she shouldn't be out. I will never date or marry her if I can't provide her security.

@Mlu__N2 Some of us want to be challenged. The guys that she wants are just not part of the some of us I'm speaking about. She must just step and analyse all her previous relationships, you might find that she's been dating the same guy with different DNA.