He found her address after two dates and sent flowers, romantic or red flag

This girl is from a generation of terrible daters. She needs to calm down. This poor guy tried to be cerattive and she can’t handle it. Sad.

She's why men are afraid to help women with heavy boxes or hold their doors open these days. What he did was super thoughtful.

didn’t your generation also have a lot of serial killers and unsolved murders

Let me explain because this is the part a lot of men miss: women have to assess risk while dating in a way men simply don’t. After two dates, she had deliberately not told him where she lived. He found her home anyway. Men may see “flowers”; women see “a man I barely know now knows where I sleep, and I didn’t tell him.” That’s why it isn’t romantic.

Sorry Tom, this is creepy. This behavior after 2 dates is not normal, however if this was months into a relationship I would consider it kinda sweet. FYI, I’m a 52yo gen Xer

Im with you on this. Actually I think the red flag here is her. My psych 101 take says… this girl doesnt have the self esteem to understand why someone would make such a gesture and therefore is suspicious of it. Is it too much… yes, probably. But is it a warning sign… no.

everyone in the comments "we dont have phone books anymore" while carrying a global phone book in their pocket and you dont even have to type you can just ask it and it will find it for you.

Border line creepy to be honest I think she has a right to feel the way she does about it.

Men, stop. Just stop trying. It’s not worth it. The female species is collectively narcissistic. There will always be something, anything, they’ll find something or make something new up if they have too. You’ll never be right in any capacity. So just quit trying. Study math, the cosmos, seek gnosis.

Ya no that's kinda creepy. He searched for her address, she didn't give it to him and sent her something. If she gave him her address that would be different but he actively searched for it. That's stalker, lock you in the basement vibes.

Notice she said “you guys be careful out there.” She’s warning men about creepy women like her.

He knows where you live. Did he pop over unannounced? Did he knock on your door in the middle of the night? I think he was going for cute and original. If he does nothing, he's lazy and puts in no effort. If he does this, he's a stalker. You little girls are insufferable.

For someone you've 2 dates with, it's a red flag to find where you live and send flowers. And seeing the comments blaming her for taking it wrong comes off as men not knowing personal space.

I think it’s nice? But I’m old.

These people thinking their address is some type of private information. 🤣 Men aren't romantic but when we try to be, we're creeps. This is "star logic" at its finest.

Incredibly fucking weird. You’ve only been on 2 dates, and she has not given you the address you went out your way to seek out. “There used to be yellow pages” isn’t a fkn excuse to be a creep, and if you did this shit back in the day, it was weird then too.

Creepers do not do this kind of gestures...

Another result of modern feminism. Cry that no man is willing to show effort then shit on him for being a creep when he does.

When someone finds out information about you that you didn't share, and does something about it, it's a red flag. I have doubts about a 3rd date happening.

Awwww. He is treating her like a lady, and she sure is not having it!

This video she made, is the biggest red flag warning for all men out there. Do not date this woman, she's nuts.

She just showed her red flag. That guy got lucky. Stay clear..

They bitch and complain about not being approached then when somebody subtly approaches them they bitch and complain.

It’s ridiculous. People nowadays are the biggest pussies ever it’s not like he showed up to the fucking house with the shit and wait till she got home or knocked. He had it mailed there. I think it’s creative. All your information is online. Especially if you have Facebook

GenX here. Why did she give her full name? Otherwise... nope. 100% on the dude for being a stalker. You don't look up a girl's address after two dates and mail her cutesy shit "from her dog".

In my opinion. This literally sounds like the start of every creepy Lifetime movie! She never gave him her address, he’s never been to her house but he FOUND her address. 🚩🚩🚩🚩

She feels violated sending flowers after two dates without the consent of her giving her address out and doing detective work to get it , is creepy and I know how she’s feels my stalker been stalking me for years because of a paper I wrote but he turn into tv show for greed 🤬

it’s a little bit intense, and shows that he’s actively looking her up. knowing a person you just meant twice knows your address and possibly a lot of other information about you is scary. Especially since by the second date, you don’t know where it’s gonna go

Me: Why is romance dead? Her:

It's too much too soon. If they had gone on 5 or 6 dates togetger and he knew her address, it wouldn't be so over the top.

Naw, that’s creepy!

He literally found her address of her apartment. Today it’s flowers. Tomorrow he can just show up to her door uninvited. It’s not safe for somebody who you don’t really know that well to have your address, especially when you never gave it to them.

Yeah but there isnt a big ass book anymore. He had to do a bit of work to find it. I think its creepy af. You are reading this wrong.

Gen X who completely agrees . She is easily triggered. I don’t know this woman. She could have some kind of anxiety problem. She could have a history of abusive men, but if this is her reaction to something that innocuous. honestly, it’s good, he knows this early.

He had the flowers delivered to you. He didnt go your house with them. Give him a break