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🧠 How to Win Every Argument Forever

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Dave Marks9 months ago

I asked Grok to display a transcript for the video: ‘Here's how to win every argument forever. If you argue with facts, you already lost. Never correct. First ask how they arrived at the idea. Never say that's wrong. Say that's interesting. Mirror their last five words and then just pause. Lower your voice when they escalate. Slow your pace down when they speed up. Agree with their emotion and always completely ignore their conclusions. Repeat their point better than they can. Let them finish talking then wait two seconds longer than feels normal for you. Ask questions that you already know the answer to. Reframe all of their positions as self-protection. Never defend yourself under pressure. Change context before content. Ask for clarification at the peak of emotion. Label their fear and never their flaws. End with a question they have to sit with. All of these work for the exact same reason. You don't win arguments by being right, you win by making it safe to be wrong.’

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Trea 🐻9 months ago

Would be cool to see examples of this being played out

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Dr Ron9 months ago

Each one of your points should be a separate post w examples

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Ed Harrison9 months ago

If your goal is to win then you've lost. Ask why you seek the validation of "winning". Conversation is more constructive when we're humble and want to learn together. Ideas can compete freely in our minds, we don't have to ham-fistedly act out the battle as a team sport.

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MikPo9 months ago

Someone who consistently treats disagreement as a battlefield is not someone you can reason with. These types are toxic and eventually erode every relationship around them. They are not trying to figure out what's true, they are trying to dominate and gain an advantage to hide their own weaknesses and insecurities. Over time, this mindset kills trust, weakens teams, and destroys organizations. It’s a terrible way to live.

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John Oldman9 months ago

Could have used your advice 45 minutes ago.

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Dixie Normous9 months ago

Much simpler way: Don't talk about shit you aren't educated on and have researched beforehand. You don't have to comment on everything on earth just shut up when you don't know something and you'll be good.

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Niethalf0309 months ago

This is toxic debating, because it is not about finding the truth but winning the argument only. Arguments should never be seen as a fight, but as a way to get to the core of things, be it beliefs, ideas or concepts.

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Brad Webb9 months ago

He is wrong. Narcissists will NOT admit they are wrong. Their entire life is built on their lies. He is also correct. He's talking about manipulating irrational non-critical thinkers. This is a significant portion of people. Rational, logical, and honest people do not need these kid gloves. Their goal is to have correct information and are thankful for information that shows they were wrong about something. They can't be offended. They prefer direct communication. This group is the extreme minority.

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AK9 months ago

Now here is fallacy #1: you never argue with an idiot. So much effort just to convince an idiot. My procedure: just avoid, 0 effort. You @nciuniversity should know, danger avoidance is best survival practise.

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Zaida Adiaz9 months ago

“You don’t win arguments by being right. You win arguments by making it safe to be wrong.”

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Thomas Morgan9 months ago

You know, it is so funny when someone pulls that or many other techniques out of their bag of 'tricks'. Really funny when they try it on a master. Sometimes leaving them so confused and jumping over barriers in their mind like an olympian clearing hurdles. I prefer computers though.

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Fairin Avatar9 months ago

if someone attempted to debate my autistic ass like this and the first step is "arguing with facts you already lost" brother you come at me without facts i wont even listen to you. its even worse when you cannot back up the facts you think you know then again people are stupid

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TenTrinity XL9 months ago

I LOVED IT! on my second read, and I know I’ll be on my third soon 🤜🤛

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Cher Murphy 💃9 months ago

If you feel you need to win, you already lost.

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GnarlyRedDwarf9 months ago

The goal isn't to win the argument with the person. It's to convince the audience.

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Mark9 months ago

YOU'RE COMPLETELY WRONG!!!! HOW CAN ANYBODY BE SO CLUELESS!!! STATISTICS SHOW THAT SIX OUT OF SEVEN PEOPLE WHO TRY THESE DEBATE TECHNIQUES, IN FACT, *LOSE* THE DEBATE!!!! ISN'T THIS OBVIOUS???!!! IT MAKES ME *SO* ANGRY TO HEAR THIS KIND OF MANIPULATION!!!!! AND I DEEM MYSELF TO BE THE WINNER OF THIS DEBATE BECAUSE I'M THE MASTER OF THE INTERNET BY WAY OF POSSESSING ADVANCED CAPITALIZATION SKILLS!!! *Note¹ – The above is to be heard rapid-fire *Note² – The above is to be heard at loud volume *Note³ – My six year old makes me put "67" in everything for some reason, but the fact that six out of seven experts agree with me is just a coincidence

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Big Rick He/Has/Been9 months ago

How to win every argument without a word...

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Angela9 months ago

Facts and logic have no importance to someone who only wants to 'win' the argument.

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Conny Lake9 months ago

oh dear - yet another sword battle. all looks a bit silly to me. Star Dunes: generic good v evil dressed as Sci-Fi.

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Valentine9 months ago

Yeah, but I really like to be right. :)

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PLEDGE LIGHT9 months ago

Yea this doesn't work w/ immature, egotistical ppl looking to get a ONE UP on u... The best way to win an argument vs TOXIC ppl is to stonewall. Let them reflect on their actions & behaviors. U are right about 1 thing, u dont need to win an argument w/ an ignorant TOXIC person

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Tomislav Vujević9 months ago

Respect for that dude. But I never want to win the argument. Nor to fight to prove anything. People believe what they wish, if facts are not enough, why not let them stay ignorant? Will winning in arguing change their beliefs?

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Santiago9 months ago

This guy doesnt know my wife

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Khaos9 months ago

How did he arrive at that idea...I agree he is passionate that 'making it safe to be wrong' is how he wins the argument...That's interesting. 'Making it safe to be wrong'; questioner controls the narrative, labels emotions/fears and ignores conclusions. Winning vs being right..

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IIIXJokerXIII9 months ago

I like my way better 🤣

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Sam9 months ago

It seems like he’s explaining how to let the other person spin their wheels like it’s argument clock management. But I don’t think that you’re going to convince the other person to agree with you by repeating what they’re saying back to them in a difference tone than theirs.

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iamDane9 months ago

@Chuck_Petras Chris Voss approach to a tee

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Samshoe9 months ago

The 1st answer to any question: " That's a great question "

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Hawkins Mayneem9 months ago

@grok transcript

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Loz 🚀9 months ago

Genuinely feel sorry for your missus 🤣🤣🤣

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Harry Affram9 months ago

@grok he outlines some interesting ideas, I want you to make it more practical, useable, and clear even to a user with zero to little knowledge on this stuff. Use the full length character limit you're allowed per output. Don't compress. Don't summarise.

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S.Yoh9 months ago

Better to get away, and let someone else coddle the baby.

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Conny Lake9 months ago

...or simply walk away.

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Sherlock Homeless9 months ago

@RustyE83 Come try that passive aggressive feminine 💩 over here. Men. You aren’t women. 🕵🏻‍♂️

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