I cringed😒😫

Question... Do people really realize this during the marriage? Like your whole dating life, you've never noticed this or even childhood?

Like?😫🤣🤣🤣everything that she complains about she grew up seeing them at her family

@PorscheNND But that's her perspective and personal experience 🤷

@MokgadiMokgotho Maybe we are not hearing each other Getty. The question is, what was her experience before? Was the husband (boyfriend) cooking for her 7days a week, were they only having sex twice a month or maybe never did? Growing up, were men in her life not sheltered by society?

She's making valid points. Very, very valid.

I don't agree at all especially if you're married to the person that you love unless she got married to someone she just lusted not loved

What she married to multiple men simultaneously. People who use a blanket approach to speak on topics are annoying because it sounds like they want to drag everyone into their own experience.

These are the reasons why I will never take social media advice😫

Lmao sounds like she married someone she didn’t like/love from the beginning , she married someone she tolerated which is a cardinal sin .

@Mefika1 Lol why would you not want to have sex with your spouse??

@Mefika1 Like dude🤷‍♀️🤣🤣the man that I'm in love with it just happens naturally

@Mefika1 Exactly. She didn’t like her husband

@MokgadiMokgotho @Mefika1 Their sex life was probably tainted by all the things she mentioned in the video… sex doesn’t just happen in isolation. He’s a moody guy but suddenly when he wants sex you must jump to his satisfaction… it’s layered my babies.

@MokgadiMokgotho @Mefika1 Yeah I agree.

Reason number 1 shows that she married her enemy

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She was probably married to an inconsiderate or selfish man, so she’s scarred. Not all marriages are like that though, but wenza kahle to not remarry ngoba she’ll bleed on those who didn’t cut her.

Yeah but marriage shouldn't be given bad PR like that,,,we have beautiful marriages out there.

Glad you agree, hence I said not all marriages are like that.

Personal experiences should remain just that…On any given day, someone celebrates birth or marriage while another mourns a loss…The same day brings joy to some and pain to others..Life is subjective. Rather than generalise, ask yourself: why did you marry in the first place?

While married she never posted about it now that it ended she now wants to talk bad about marriage

@alu_raz You do know how a review/experience happens right?

@MokgadiMokgotho Taking a page from your own book, what would you call your response and everyone else’s comments?…Aren’t they also opinions shaped by personal experiences and perspectives?

Valid points all of them. One other point she perhaps didn't mention but I found that I don't have any desire to engage in or ever be part of again was the having in laws part, it's a huge part of marriage and yeah give me zero m'am. Too much of a loner and I can't fake smile.

😅 ya ne.. She's talking like She's forced to go back.

Bathong🤣🤣

The problem with women is you people don’t listen. Listen to what she says, you are not special, the system is gonna work you exactly the same way it did her. Learn from older women, and their mistakes.!!!!

Haibo. What’s cringe about what she’s saying?

She gives marriage bad PR and she got married to the wrong person,all that she complained about are done in most marriages and there's nothing wrong with them.

I don’t know if you read the caption on her video. She’s talking about herself from her experience, and what she doesn’t want to do. Why are YOU cringing?

I know,those are her experience but why was she not talking about it during the marriage?now that it failed she's giving it bad PR,,,it's sad that it had to end well we have different views about her words

I’m glad you can appreciate that we all have different views. She’s saying why she would not want to be married again And telling her story — it has nothing to do with the next person and how their experience should/will be. Nothing to cringe about

“Giving marriage bad PR” — why do you want to personalize another person’s experience??

Hai gabi guys but the internet got 1/10 talking like she’s Kim Kardashian. Lady, you’re not all that. Women aren’t called losers enough. Every woman thinks she’s a masterpiece 🥴

She should admit that her and her husband were just in two separate world

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I hear her and her points are all valid

Marriage mainly benefits the men.

Not true though

I’ve once lived in South Africa for years, and I think that the biggest risk a man could take in his life is to get married to a South African woman.

Not all of us are like that

@__unknownsailor You’re such a bird

@__unknownsailor I'm telling the truth and nothing but the truth

Bathong !!! Aii noh 😏🤧do people actually know why they really wanna get married or ..?

Married once to one guy but “it’s them and they”. Why do other men feature in your assessment of your failed marriage? 😂

My point exactly

@_KaMgabhi Maybe she married someone she liked but not love. My husband helps with chores, if I do t cook they don’t complain they make their own food or we eat bread. Intimacy is part of a relationship whether married or not🤷🏽‍♀️marriage is a beautiful thing 🙏🏾

And shem, no matter how unique and special you think you are, the institution is exactly how most women experience it. You are there to serve and aren't guaranteed any reciprocacy

Most of them just get married for marrying sake. They don’t love their husbands

Are people forced to get married 👀🤷🏽‍♂️!???? Yalz are not dating your specs innit. If you were by Sodi’s yals wouldn’t be saying any of this!! Release that man ma’am ASAP!! (Domestic labour, you do domestic labour either way 👀, single or married 🤷🏽‍♂️)

The types that recruit you into their misery, Lol! Avoid these bitter aunties🤞🏼

@Mivu57869574 Social media will be death of us 🤞

Did someone try and convince her to try marriage again? Cause why are we getting these reasons. But anyway social media is a place where you can just air your thoughts. You know those thoughts you would find yourself debating with your other inner personalities 🤔 So there's that

As a husband, just cheat with a younger and hotter woman. Uyeyeke inkanyamba nobubi

we don’t talk enough about how men relax post the wedding day. there’s nothing cringe here, it’s her experience. look at y’all doing exactly what she’s alluding to, extending grace to ‘men’. smh!

Someone said in the past Only teachers had the privilege of experiencing first hand doomkopd! Thanks to the internet we all indulge 🚮

1. You didn't realise these things before you got married? Why did you get married then. 2. Some of those things are reciprocal, marriage isn't designed for overly selfish people 3. Lol shame there's alot of feminist buzzwords there, those people aren't for marriage

The part she’s leaving out is that she’s cheating and she definitely didn’t save herself for marriage.

Women choose bad men to date and marry and later complain. She's projecting exactly what she was doing in her marriage. Broken women act this way

It’s always the unmarried or return soldiers spewing nonsense on the internet. Like wtf you failed to honour your word why do you think your opinion holds water

They want us not believe in beautiful marriages,they married wrong

She has no soul.