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I'm working on a new app that solves a pain point I've had for years: Loud Restaurants. I've had this idea ever since going to Austin and eating at Canje - the food was delicious, but it was so disorientingly loud in there that I couldn't even have a...

489,188 次观看 • 3 个月前 •via X (Twitter)

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roibyme 的头像
roibyme3 个月前

What the AI-Slop is this BS app. Stop filling the world with fucking AI-Slop that nobody needs. You aren't solving the core of the problem, but the symptom. Problem = Restaurant. Solution = Restaurant fix noise. Easy as that. Otherwise don't go to that restaurant. A good app would be: Register Db level for each restaurant so anyone can see how fcking loud a place is and do not go there unless THEY fix the problem.

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Great app idea - you should go make it.

roibyme 的头像
roibyme3 个月前

Let me know when you solve an problem instead of a symptom.

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Let me know when you can influence an entire cultural change. I’ll just move to Japan before that happens.

Dylan 的头像
Dylan3 个月前

Would be useful for group motorcycle rides. Or drives in loud cars etc. sign me up to test

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Will drop the link once approved!

Jake Hughes 的头像
Jake Hughes3 个月前

Cool but something feels weird about sitting at a dinner table together listening to each other through headphones, it creates a barrier to real life Would be cool to have an app that lets you discover quieter more chill restaurants, one way to do it could be the Google Maps features that say busier or quieter than usual Then you can just be, free of devices, enjoying each others company

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

I agree on all points. 1. Hopefully the latency is low enough to make this barrier feel more transparent. The measure of success will be that this is better than putting up with the noise. 2. Sometimes noise is unavoidable as a foodie. Sometimes a restaurant is normally quiet but you have that raucous large group that happens to be there at the same time. 3. I thought about the data collection aspect too. I wish Google would just collect the data and add it on their own.

Jake Hughes 的头像
Jake Hughes3 个月前

Agree with point 2, usually the better the food, the more packed the restaurant, the more noise you have to deal with On 3, if the data was available could be some cool shit built

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

If there’s any company that’s suited to collect this data, it’s Google.

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

They already ask for train attributes when you use it for directions, packed level, delays, etc. Having this pop up for noise would be huge.

Alex Hansen 🦈 的头像
Alex Hansen 🦈3 个月前

I thought you were going to say that the app just automates booking every reservation at the restaurant under different names so that it’s empty when you show up. Same result? 😂

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

This is genius ngl

Doug 📐 的头像
Doug 📐3 个月前

Awesome idea! I don’t mind the noise, but have a terrible time understanding people with a lot of ambient sound! Would def try

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Will drop the link once it’s approved

David Moss 的头像
David Moss3 个月前

Love the idea

Corey Koberg 的头像
Corey Koberg3 个月前

This should just be built into the Google reviews. Decibels at various times of day so you can choose if you want loud and raucous or quiet and relaxed.

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

One can wish 🥲

Julie Fredrickson 的头像
Julie Fredrickson3 个月前

I love this. I have such an issue with loud noises in public spaces. Autists everywhere rejoice

High Plains Fella 的头像
High Plains Fella3 个月前

this is an excellent idea. noise in restaurants has become such a painful factor, making the social aspect so difficult and isolating especially as i grow older (but still love group meals). And places seem to spend 0 on acoustic design. would love to try it when approved!

divya venn 的头像
divya venn3 个月前

I LOVE this idea

dot 的头像
dot3 个月前

this should really be built in! i still can just instantly tell when people vibe code apps tho and the design really just irks me 😭

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

It really should. I want this to be Sherlocked.

Colton Boettcher 的头像
Colton Boettcher3 个月前

As neurodivergent with sensory processing issues, this is huge. I’m always a drag on a group outing because of my limited capacity for loud spaces! Can’t wait to use this. 👏🏻

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

It’s live!

Gerrit Lansing 的头像
Gerrit Lansing3 个月前

Had same idea for years Have a ton of feature and tam ideas Let’s jam

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Hit me in the dms!

Skeltor 的头像
Skeltor3 个月前

Your app gets black people to leave?

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

💀

higher 的头像
higher3 个月前

I initially thought that you’ve created a metric for Google maps review, called “Loudness” to be prepared before coming there. So the moment you are there, app don’t listen to you but overall DB and post average from the visitors to maps score

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

I thought about this exact thing at the time.

Peyton Casper 的头像
Peyton Casper3 个月前

would love to try this

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Me waiting on test flight review

Joel Harrison 的头像
Joel Harrison3 个月前

Better to sort restaurants near me by +db

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Thought about that too. I wish Google Maps had this attribute.

Dan Lucraft 的头像
Dan Lucraft3 个月前

I would love to test this please - and get my father in law on it at the. Both users need AirPods right?

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Yep. Each person has an iPhone and AirPods. Will drop the TestFlight link once it’s approved

Dan Lucraft 的头像
Dan Lucraft3 个月前

Great

Spencer 的头像
Spencer3 个月前

Very cool!

Juan Quenga 的头像
Juan Quenga3 个月前

This would also be useful for people who workout together in loud gyms.

John Arrow 的头像
John Arrow3 个月前

My company Mutual Mobile, had attempted to build software for something similar when the first noise canceling airpods came out. Unfortunately, we found the latency unsurmountable. Hope something has changed!

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

What method did you use for the networking part?

John Arrow 的头像
John Arrow3 个月前

From what I remember Live Listen latency was sub 80 ms but not useable for transmission. BT, WiFi, cell etc... protocols were in excess of 300 ms meaning you'd see the lips move well before you heard the person. Much of the latency seemed to be an idiosyncrasy enfcored on iOS so possible that an Android only version could be a work around...

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Will try and see what the exact latency is.

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Latency will be no match for Fable 😂😂

Chuck Bobby 的头像
Chuck Bobby3 个月前

@johnarrow Do you have to keep the screen active or are you going a voip route? It's a very clever idea - have attempted it before, but needed more powerful AI to close the gaps of my knowledge

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

@johnarrow It uses CallKit - so the screen can be "off"

Deggen 的头像
Deggen3 个月前

This is awesome. Had this same issue in several Austin restaurants. Now we just need it to be sexy so my wife will agree to join 😂

Steve Chazin 的头像
Steve Chazin3 个月前

Great idea. It’s like wearing sweaters inside overly air conditioned stores. Yes it’s a symptom but damn glad happy you are trying to solve the noise issue. Hey, how did this go viral? I’m asking for a friend who is about to launch his own app that solves a me problem.

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

I guess a bunch of people just share this same frustrations in life. I (not AI) just wrote the above post, put in the video, and that was it.

Steve Chazin 的头像
Steve Chazin3 个月前

I was at a wedding last month and my Apple Watch told me to leave: 120db and risking permanent ear damage. Always keep my AirPods on me for just this occasion so really hope to try undertone soon!

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

120db!! holy shit

Evan Zimmerman 的头像
Evan Zimmerman3 个月前

interested!

Chet Roe 的头像
Chet Roe3 个月前

Isn’t this just the same as doing a regular group phone call while everyone using AirPods? That functionality is already baked into the default iPhone phone app.

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Latency

Chris Dilger 的头像
Chris Dilger3 个月前

Surprised you didn't call it the cone of silence

Ray 的头像
Ray3 个月前

Great idea! Sadly my daily use phone is Android. If this works well, it would be great to see it ported to other platforms. Still interested to see what you come up with and how well it performs.

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Android is next. There’s a pathway for cross platform

Eduardo 的头像
Eduardo3 个月前

This is a long time coming, so useful Congrats for shipping it!

Esenbek Aliev 🔋 的头像
Esenbek Aliev 🔋3 个月前

Where?

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Waiting for approval. Will drop the link when ready.

Ivan Bashkirov 的头像
Ivan Bashkirov3 个月前

Is this apple multipeer? Super nice idea, well done!

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Yes it is!!

Elmer den Braven 的头像
Elmer den Braven3 个月前

You know what this would also be really useful for? Motorcycle groups. Would be brilliant to talk to each other while touring in a group through a beautiful countryside or so. Or at least with the passenger on the backseat.

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Distance with groups might be an issue, but same bike is the perfect use case.

Luca Bertelli 的头像
Luca Bertelli3 个月前

I built something similar to talk to co-workers in the same room, like an intercom. Real-time chat was really annoying though, as the lips of the person in front of me were not perfectly in sync with the voice in the headphones. How did you solve it?

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

It’s not zero latency. But I got it as low as possible.

Marcelo P. Lima 的头像
Marcelo P. Lima3 个月前

This is a common problem and I just avoid those restaurants. I applaud your effort but it’s insane to have to do this at all.

Sam Gaddis 的头像
Sam Gaddis3 个月前

Omg I have wanted to make this app for so long, and you won't believe this but Canje is also what inspired me. So glad this exists and would love to test! How's the latency?

Kevin Chau 的头像
Kevin Chau3 个月前

Dude, no way! I guess that Canje is really just that loud. Latency is not bad, feels like 100-150ms - I'm trying to solve the echo/talkback problem right now which happens when testing in a quiet room - but might not be an issue in a noisier place.

Talos Dreams 的头像
Talos Dreams3 个月前

Request to join test team please.

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Interviewer: "Men cheating is way worse than women cheating." First Woman: "Men cheating is way worse than women cheating." Interviewer: "False. Why?" First Woman: "A man cheats without a reason. A woman always has a reason." Man in Mesh Top: "When a man cheats, it's because he's thinking about one thing and that's all it is. A woman has to be fed up, tired, done, before she emotionally even gets close enough to a man for her to want to cheat with him." Third Speaker (Guy in street): "Men and women cheat for different reasons. Men cheat because they're impulsive James J. Sexton: "I mean, I got to tell you, I don't like the phrasing of it, but I can't argue with the concept." Host: "Really? I thought you were going to disagree with that one. James J. Sexton: "No, I mean, look, I don't think the way they parsed it is correct, which is that women never like, men, it's always an impulsive act, and women, it's never an impulsive act. Because I think sometimes alcohol gets involved, and sometimes people make bad decisions. But I will say that, yeah, I mean, I have had a lot more women I've dealt with a lot of, I've had a lot of clients that have cheated that were male, a lot of clients that have cheated that were women, okay? And have been caught, or who left for the paramour or whatever it might be. So I've seen this from every angle. I represent the cheater and the cheated-on. I've really been through all of the permutations of this." "A lot of the men, by an order of magnitude, say, 'Yeah, this had nothing to do with my wife. This was just like, yeah, I was just distracted. It was like a shiny object and I went after it. Like it really was like a moment of weakness.' Or it was like, 'Yeah, I just like, I don't know, I wasn't getting enough s*x, and I didn't have the courage to have the conversation about that, so I just ended up meeting my needs outside of...' Host: "But isn't that a reason?" James J. Sexton: "Of course! I mean, there's a chapter in my book called 'Go Without or Go Elsewhere.'" Host: "Yeah." James J. Sexton: "Which basically says like, if your partner's not meeting your needs sexually, you either have to go without which no one likes or go elsewhere, which always ends in bad things. So the goal should be to try to keep your relationship in a place where you don't ever have to go without or go elsewhere, where you can share with your partner what it is that you need s*xually, and openly and honestly have discussions about how you can meet each other's sexual needs, especially if you've decided, 'We are going to only sleep with each other'bwhich you don't have to decide! But you've decided that. So if you've decided that, and you've said, 'You're the only person allowed to do this job,' then take the job seriously and try to be good at it. Because if you're the only person if you're saying to me,'The only person I'm allowed to sleep with is you,' then you have to sleep with me. That's how that works! Because otherwise, we're going to delegate that responsibility to somebody else. Because the other option is just 'go without,' and nobody wants to go without."

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