Is this why men shut down?

He said IF she uses it in an argument. I pretty sure all the ones he is talking about do it, not IF. When she does do it, the man knows she never actually cared about him. It's game over. The best the man can do is his marriage duties, but he'll know forever he's alone until she divorces him and finishes proving it. She'll paint herself as the victim and you as a monster. She'll enjoy trying to destroy you. That's why she used what you said against you. If you haven't married her, run. Stop lying to yourself that she loves you. Run. The loving devoted loyal women never would do it in the first place. They actually love their men and not just themselves. These women are amazing.

Men shut down cause women don’t listen

Men, don't become a victim no matter what. If your wife is immature enough to treat you badly, man up and deal with it, be the bigger person, help her to higher ground, don't clam up forever like this man recommends.

Simply, yes.

Opening up to a Western woman is like wearing a strapless dress around Dracula

Amen 🙏

Some people will use those private moments as ammo gathering sessions. You learn to not be vulnerable w those people.

Repercussions, also, from his upbringing. If mom mistreats him, passive - aggressive, or listens but then exploits and embarrasses him in front of other people, later, about his behavior… etc., this deflates the little guy Mom has set the path for him to fail, with every woman… he will ever seek to have a relationship with. So he must turn back to mommy his whole life. Almost Münchausen syndrome No different than the narc mom who fake cries and now her boy won’t hold space for a woman to be vulnerable because he thinks she’s using expressing her feelings… as a tool, like mommy taught him. Mom may have held space for him only some times or like a narc, but mom ruined that at age 5 for him and his coping mechanisms are all he knows. He will sabotage every relationship because his first source of nurturing was toxic and deceived, and disappointed him too many times. Yes there are daughter/dad and yes there are women who just never hold space etc., I am saying, know if your man is working through childhood issues on you. Know what you’re working with. Because you can hold space until you’re blue in the face if he’s already damaged. This will be replayed on a new woman …the consequences will be blamed on her, but the “same pattern” of failure played out because he doesn’t know any better. Everything will be at the women’s expense until the man see that childhood issues are haunting him until he does the work to allow a woman the opportunity to hold space for him 💗

He’s right-plus one other thing. A real man gives and risks EVERYTHING for his wife, children, job, he doesn’t need women telling him what to do, it erodes trust/confidence. Woman today are shielded from reality, claim equality do/risk nothing, ridicule a mans honest mistakes.