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Not centering your life around work is hard but possible. Loved this from Cormac McCarthy: "I always knew that I didn't wanna work." Oprah: "How did you manage that? Most people would like to do that." "Well, you have to be dedicated. Yeah. But it was, it was my...

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Paul Millerd3 years ago

i call this the "real work" - prioritizing the search for the things you actually care about full book =>

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Paul Millerd3 years ago

a question about work being the center of my life is at the center of my own journey. in 2017 I decided I did not want to build my life around work. this is a radical act in the modern world of paychecks and hustle and doing and endless entertainment 📕

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Visakan Veerasamy3 years ago

I was like this too Spent every free moment plotting my escape

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Paul Millerd3 years ago

Incomprehensible to others.

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svs 🇮🇳3 years ago

The interesting thing for me was the place where this is coming from - "Yeah. I thought you, you're just here once. Life is brief..." This is the good place. You aren't just running away from something, you're also running towards this place of freedom. I say this as someone who spent way too long getting high during one of my sabbaticals. I realised I needed something to run towards, not just something to escape. After that I was fine.

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Juan ⚪️⚪️⚪️3 years ago

I think this is more about employment and not work. Most people want to work.

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Paul Millerd3 years ago

Yup

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Akash Mukherjee 💻☕📚3 years ago

@iamjasonlevin Inspiring reminder: Life's more than work. Prioritize joy and fulfillment. Strive for balance, pursue passions, and meet responsibilities. 🙌

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Brigitte Kratz3 years ago

I recently learned that the poet and Pulitzer Price nominee Jack Gilbert (1925-2012) also took a "non-conventional" life to an extreme, and unabashedly so. He later taught some writing and inspired students to have brave, full lives. From one of two interviews he ever gave:

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Scott Stevenson3 years ago

I can relate, but I think the rarity is that most people would consider this to be (very hard) work:

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