Once you understand this life becomes so much easier‼️‼️

You cant control what other people say to u. U can only control how u react. They hurt or make u feel in a certain way cause u let urself feel that way.

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This is dichotomy of Control in Stoic philosophy. Stoic philosophy was practised by one of the 5 Good Emperor of Rome, Marcus Aurelius. Many people unknowingly practice Stoic philosophy. It's virtues are Self discipline, Justice, Courage & Wisdom along with Dichotomy of Control.

You you forgot the biggest and most important part. She should have said .... once you have money and security then, follow that by this advice ...