Please listen to this short clip. It'll help you understand why things change in relationships after a while. It's one of the most challenging phase in relationships and by extension, marriage. Let's first talk about relationships. Most of the time, you'll notice a drop in

communication after both of you have had sex once or twice. But before the sex, there was excitement. Both of you would call each other everyday and every munite. And typically, the man does more of the reaching out. Then he hits once, twice & thrice. All of a sudden, his

calls start to drop. You'ld call him, & he'll give flimsy excuses as to why he hasn't been calling like before. You the lady, will begin to feel "used". Scratch that. You're only going through the PNC phase. And if you don't recognize it on time, it will be permanent.

Men are very cheap to attract, but their commitment is expensive. So when you notice this in your relationship, it's not a time for you to start getting upset & nagging. The man has done the chase. He has slept with you. It's now time for you to do the chasing. He wants to

know how much you need him. He wants to see you as different from the others. He needs you to prove to him, what else you can offer, other than sex. He'll be studying you. You shouldn't relent or think he is just one of those men. In the morning, send him a text or chat.

Even if he doesn't reply you immediately, don't get upset. At weekends, just call him. Ask him what he would like to eat so that you can prepare it for him or come cook for him at home. When you get to his house, ask him how his week went. Don't bring up the issue of drop in

communication. Tidy up his house for him. Don't snoop on his phones either. Just act normal. The more you're intentional about these, the more you're buying his commitment. Until one day, he'll realize that you're different. Then both of you can start cohabiting at

intervals. During cohabition, you'ld notice that sometimes, both of you can stay quiet for hours without talking to each other. It doesn't mean that your relationship is getting boring. It just means that both of you are getting used to staying together without feeling the

need to be talking to each other all the time. You must recognize this phase in your relationship. Otherwise, when you get married, you'ld think your romantic life is dead. And then before you know it, you start to seek for "excitement" outside. This is what some of you call

"see finish". And this is why some of you are against cohabitation in relationships. My wife and I can be in the house for hours & we are not gisting with each other. Even when the kids are not around. Does it mean that we have grown tired of each other? No. We're just too

used to each other & we know that we have both come a long way. If both of you succeed in relationship & you get married, you'll experience this "disconnection" within your first 5 years. If both of you don't handle it with maturity, you'll start to regret marrying each other.

But cohabition before marriage would have prepared you for it better. Relationship is difficult to sustain. So is marriage. If you allow the fact that your boyfriend has reduced how both of you used to communicate before sex, make you think that he's not the one, you'll pile

up unnecessary body counts. Even the man that wooed you solely for knacks can still be your husband. Because that is mostly the first thing in the man's mind. It's how you behave after the knacks that may get him hooked to you. Think smart, act smart & win the prize. End.