She found out her husband never loved her after 33years 💔

Women are socialized to marry for the belief of love. Men are socialized to marry to extract labour from women. Men lovebomb women by parading non genuine love to women, women fall in love (attach), and women learn men never loved them they were disillusioned. So it goes.

Could he not have gone to the grave with this information???

So for 33 years he lied and he’s suddenly decided he needed to tell the ‘truth’? My question would be Why? Why did he want her to know this suddenly after all those years? Is he just being cruel? Is he pushing her away for a reason? What in his life has changed that he felt the need to say this? If he wanted to maintain the status quo, why would he say something instead of just keeping quiet? Logic makes me believe he wanted to hurt her.

It all depends on how much you value yourself, he has basically used you for 33yrs.

He's a giant POS. That's it. If he 'tortured' himself to stick around for 33 years, he's the one who literally wasted his life. She isn't the one who deceived him, he was. A miserable, selfish human being. I wish her well.

How many marriages in practice actually remain lovey dovey rather than becoming a "we're good friends, we're surviving together" sort of deal past a certain point?

Ma’am, MOVE TF ON. That’s really what we’re debating right now?

He's wasted most of her life. She might have found someone her loved her if he'd done the honourable thing and not married for convenience.

What he did is almost criminal.

Why are you asking anyone how you feel?

He is cruel and she must have known before 33 yrs

All clothes and his possessions should be on the front lawn and neighbor’s lawn ASAP.

He’s lying lol. Any man that spends time with a woman secretly loves her in some way.

Truly harsh to find this out after so many years, but I’d take some time to think on what to do. Even if you have to think on it away from him. You need all the clarity and all the peace to follow.

Well, if women want men to be transparent, they can’t punish them for doing so

She’s exaggerating, nobody does a 33 year bid for nothing.

I don't mean to put any blame on her with this (this isn't her fault), but this is even more evidence that you should have a *LOT* of communication with your partner. Never take the love for granted, don't assume it's always there. Have deep conversations, ask what your partner likes most about you. Tell them what you like most about them. Communicate your needs and desires. Ask if everything's alright from time to time and make it known when you're dealing with problems. And I know that despite that, people can still lie, but usually the ones pretending to be in love will get stuck in that process. You'll be able to tell that most can't keep up the act if you keep up the communication. It's easy to lie or act once every while but you can't feign interest for years whilst constantly engaging in deep and loving conversation.

Move on.

Move on

I’d be a widower pretty fucking quick.

You need more information. He is not in love with you. He wants and needs you. Ask him more about how he feels. Is he fond of you, does he feel protective, are you just useful (sex, cooking, cleaning), would he leave if he got a better offer. Ask more questions. Then decide.

So cruel. Why did he have to say that to her?

Certainly don’t stick around to wipe his ass in old age! Let the man rot while you reclaim your life.

she has zero plans to move on……

His cruelty demands you leave. Why spend the rest of your life with someone who hates you?

She has to decide if she wants to find love. She deserves better. She deserves love. I can't tell her what she should do. I can only encourage her to do what she wants to do. I would drop him like a bad habit. But what works for her may be different.

it appears to me that you would be probably in your 60s. I think it would be very unwise financially to split up. I would make my own life as much as possible and protect my $ assets. This sounds cold, so is he!

She should get a good divorce lawyer.

Leave his ass!!! He need YOU not the other way around

My personal opinion is you should move on while you’re still alive and can enjoy some sort of life I don’t know you had to have had some sort of feeling that he didn’t love you, but you pushed it away Dump him as fast as you can I’m sorry

She said partner, not a husband , so for 33 years she couldn't ask herself why he never married her. 🙄Otherwise, a little more information is missing. In any case, move on, leave or throw him out without discussion as long as he said so. You know now!

How do you know he's not going through some sort of crisis, he might be depressed. I can't see someone hanging around for 30yrs without some feelings. Did they have a row, things are said to hurt but are in the heat of the moment and then regretted. As always context is important

This is what I would say to her and say to any woman reading this in a similar situation: I’m really sorry he’s put you through this. Being told by your husband that he’s never loved you is not something you’re meant to simply accept and build a life around. That kind of statement is deeply damaging and is emotionally abusive. He had no business marrying you if he didn’t love you, and it’s not fair that you’re now being asked to live with the consequences of that truth while he stays comfortable and indifferent. Marriage was never meant to be about staying silent in a relationship built on a lie; it was meant to involve care, affection, mutual respect and love. I also want to say this, because I know the shallow ageist voices will appear. Your age does not disqualify you from love; not now, not ever. There will be someone who values your kindness, your compassion, your humour, your warmth, and your personality. Someone who sees your laughter lines and a few wrinkles not as flaws, but as evidence of a life lived.