Should dads be in the birthing room?

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I caught our first son in our bed. He was very slippery. Cut the cord, too. Childbirth is amazing & wild & a legitimate miracle.

I was in the room for all 11 of my children’s births. The most important human being in the world to me was doing the most important work of her life. It was my job to be her cheerleader, foot massager, whatever else she needed me to be. How could I have been anywhere else?

I was in there for my son being born. Proudest moment of my life. The joy I felt was incredible. But also being able to hold and support my partner at the time. A new found respect for women who go trough birth. Seeing the pain they go through first hand was eye opening.

If it’s a difficult birth and your wife is left in there alone, like she literally has no one but doctors and nurses, bro that’s not good. You get your butt in there.

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I needed my husband with me so I felt safe and we could share those moments together. He has cut the cord for all five of our kids.

It was a topic of conversation during the first pregnancy... I confirmed I wanted to be there for her and our child, she said she didn't want anyone else but me in there with her. We'll have our 3rd delivery room date in August this year and I recommend all dads to do the same.

Yes. IMHO men should witness the birth of their child. The support alone for the mother is HUGE. It creates a "dad bond" (unique to every dad). Their witness to mom's patience, pain, exhaustion, resilience, smiles and ultimately joy, is key to respect and empathy for mom.

Oh no. Traumatizing for the dad. NO

I am often cautious and cringe at Reeves’ feminist leaning approach to life but on this point he is bang on the money. I was in the birthing room for all my children. Some of them were complicated births and there was a lot of stress, obstructions and blood with emergency buttons getting pressed. My father was there for most of his many children’s births. I’m not sure I was the best support for my wife. A friend or mother may have been a better option but they were not available at the time. I was the best of what was left. I supported as best as I could in an alien environment of which I had zero experience (for the first birth at least). It’s an experience you won’t forget.

Being in the room doesn't mean you have to play catcher. Some men definitely can't handle the ... reality of birth. But being up near her head and present, I'd she wants, is super important. $.02

Having been in the room a little under a month ago, I can't imagine it any other way. I do know dad's who have had... difficult experiences. But none of them chose to be absent the next time around.

My husband was like my unofficial doula - he provided counter pressure on my hips for hours to help with contractions, got me water & chapstick, turned the lights down, held my knee when I was pushing, and pretty much was ready for whatever I needed. Absolutely needed him there.

My grandfather, with a sixth grade education, delivered by mother and her four brothers and sisters. There was no one else. For miles.

Absolutely they should be! I have five young kids and was there for all of them. In fact, I asked the doc if I could be the one to grab the baby out. He chuckled and said no.

No way any dads missing out on thier own child’s birth. We had C-section so helping the wife stay calm and relaxed is important.

Yes You don’t to get to sit in the waiting room for the presentation of your baby.

The boomer way was a pretty fu$%ed up way to have a baby. If your a soon to be dad, be by her head if you're weak stomached, but its the birth of your child. Watching birth and coming out of it with a wife that survived and healthy baby is precious and very blessed. If you think you'll be traumatized, I think you may be emotionally immature, and should seek counseling to square that so you can be the incredible father your baby(ies) need.

Yes, obviously. Who else is going to physically defend you when you don't want anybody to touch you?

yes.

I was. It was good to be there.

To be honest maybe nearby to ensure the ppl caring for the wife aren't assholes....

I think it must be hard for a man to see his wife going through that and not be able to help.

Someone told me that it's like watching your favourite pub burn down right in front of your eyes... Not sure every man is built for that experience 😂

If their presence is both helpful & wanted yes. If they are an extra stress the mum needs to manage no.

Doesnt matter but they should have paternity leaves (without mothers).