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Simon Sinek on why society gets relationships wrong: Simon Sinek opens up about the decades-long stress of being judged for his relationship status. "I've gone on dates where literally the person I'm on a date with [asks] 'have you ever been married?' I'm like no. They're like 'what's your... longest relationship?' I'm like about three years. And they say to me, 'What's wrong with you? Why haven't you been married?'" He explains the weight he carried from internalising this judgment: "The stress that I've carried for decades… I believed my own narrative that I am a failure and I am bad at relationships. And people like, 'you have commitment issues.' They all diagnose me and it didn't sound right because I don't think I do. Maybe I do. It's stressful and you carry that weight that I'm bad at relationships and I don't know how to make people happy." Then Simon shares the insight that challenged his entire self-narrative. He describes a friend who spent 16 years in an unhealthy relationship: "She admits freely that she should have been in it for one year. Society looks at her and says, 'She did it right. I did it wrong.'" He continues: "She got it right and I got it wrong. There's something wrong with me. There's nothing wrong with her because there's something flawed in you if you can't figure out how to do it. But [she was] staying in a 16-year relationship that you should have only been in for one that was unhealthy and unhappy and just not a good thing." That realisation reframed everything: "I'm a very happy person despite my lack of relationships because I have great friends." Simon's bigger point is about what society chooses to value: "Why does society overvalue the romantic relationship? This is the world we live in where there's an excessive amount of pressure to get married, white picket fence, 1.3 children or whatever the statistic is. And entire economies [are built] on how to find it, nurse it, get it, make it. And yet there's so little on friendship." We've built a cultural scoreboard that rewards people for staying in the wrong relationship longer than people who leave or never enter the wrong one. A 16-year unhappy marriage gets treated as success. A happy life full of deep friendships gets treated as a problem to be diagnosed. Maybe the real question isn't "what's wrong with you for not being married?" it's "what's wrong with a culture that measures a life by that metric in the first place?"show more

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“You're not entitled to get what you want. I love you. You're entitled to earn what you're willing to go work for. And that's true in our families, in our parenting, in our marriage, in our companies, in society. If we want it, go earn it. If that's positivity, have positivity. I think and I am a positive person. I am jacked. I am excited. Obviously, you can feel my energy through technology here, I hope. Frankly, think positive people just need to get a lot stronger. I really do. I mean, I don't want to call them weak because people hear that differently but it kind of is. Look, if you want that positivity to stick, you’ve got to get tougher. Not sacrifice your love and your care and your empathy, but you got to get tough. And then we have to figure out how to love the people who are cynical because I don't think there's a ton of bad people in the world and I don't think there's a ton of bad people on teams. But I do think there are people who've been burned out. I do think there are people who have been through things in their lives. They've been through things in their company. They're experiencing stuff somewhere else. For whatever reason, they just kind of got run down and cynical and negative, or whatever. Or they're just wired a little different than we are. And I don't to hate on those people. I want to win those people. They don't have to be like me. They don't have to have my energy. But I want those people on my team. I want to love those people. And if eventually they choose that they don't believe in the same things that I believe in, I want to make it really clear and obvious that they don't want to be on this team because we're not about that. You know what I'm saying? I want it to be very easy, obvious, that, ‘Hey I should not be on this team. Because this team is full of very positive people who have great energy and talk to people, not about them.’ And we solve problems. We don't complain. We don't get defensive. We're real. I recognize I'm imperfect and I'm vulnerable to show you that about me. I want to be on that kind of a team. And if there's somebody who doesn’t believe in that stuff, I want to make it really easy for them to say, ‘Look, I don't want to be on this team. I don't wanna live like you guys live. I don't want do what you guys do.’ And then I really hope that that person leaves us and goes and joins our competitor.”

“You're not entitled to get what you want. I love you. You're entitled to earn what you're willing to go work for. And that's true in our families, in our parenting, in our marriage, in our companies, in society. If we want it, go earn it. If that's positivity, have positivity. I think and I am a positive person. I am jacked. I am excited. Obviously, you can feel my energy through technology here, I hope. Frankly, think positive people just need to get a lot stronger. I really do. I mean, I don't want to call them weak because people hear that differently but it kind of is. Look, if you want that positivity to stick, you’ve got to get tougher. Not sacrifice your love and your care and your empathy, but you got to get tough. And then we have to figure out how to love the people who are cynical because I don't think there's a ton of bad people in the world and I don't think there's a ton of bad people on teams. But I do think there are people who've been burned out. I do think there are people who have been through things in their lives. They've been through things in their company. They're experiencing stuff somewhere else. For whatever reason, they just kind of got run down and cynical and negative, or whatever. Or they're just wired a little different than we are. And I don't to hate on those people. I want to win those people. They don't have to be like me. They don't have to have my energy. But I want those people on my team. I want to love those people. And if eventually they choose that they don't believe in the same things that I believe in, I want to make it really clear and obvious that they don't want to be on this team because we're not about that. You know what I'm saying? I want it to be very easy, obvious, that, ‘Hey I should not be on this team. Because this team is full of very positive people who have great energy and talk to people, not about them.’ And we solve problems. We don't complain. We don't get defensive. We're real. I recognize I'm imperfect and I'm vulnerable to show you that about me. I want to be on that kind of a team. And if there's somebody who doesn’t believe in that stuff, I want to make it really easy for them to say, ‘Look, I don't want to be on this team. I don't wanna live like you guys live. I don't want do what you guys do.’ And then I really hope that that person leaves us and goes and joins our competitor.”

Brian Kight

38,031 views • 1 year ago

Bam Adebayo GOES IN on the critics that says his 83 point game performance is unethical: "For the couch coaches, I mean, if you're in my shoes and you have, first of all, y'all are blaming me. You should be blaming the head coach. Get that first. I was not the one letting me go one-on-one the whole game until I had 70, and then you started to send a double. At that point, I got 70 with, like, what? nine minutes left to go in the game you think i'm not going for it like like and that's the thing that's crazy when they talk about the unethical part of the basketball i'm like if i have 70 points with 9 minutes to go Who would just be like, you know, coach, just take me out. Yeah, right. Anybody in my shoes with nine minutes left? Okay. A minute? All right. Nine? Yeah, I'm going for it. You can't be mad at that. If you are mad, I don't care because a lot of people, they're upset because if they did play, they never had a chance to get that close to chasing greatness. And then if you get that close to chasing greatness, that's the point of chasing it so you can surpass it. And some of the people have never played basketball. So like if you've been in the backyard and you and a couple of your homies have been playing 21 and you got 19. You're not going to get an easy look off. And four, they're going to talk about the free throws. It's not like I shoot 15 free throws a game. It's not like I average 10 free throws a game. You can watch the film. I was legitimately getting fouled every time. So I went to the free throw line."

Bam Adebayo GOES IN on the critics that says his 83 point game performance is unethical: "For the couch coaches, I mean, if you're in my shoes and you have, first of all, y'all are blaming me. You should be blaming the head coach. Get that first. I was not the one letting me go one-on-one the whole game until I had 70, and then you started to send a double. At that point, I got 70 with, like, what? nine minutes left to go in the game you think i'm not going for it like like and that's the thing that's crazy when they talk about the unethical part of the basketball i'm like if i have 70 points with 9 minutes to go Who would just be like, you know, coach, just take me out. Yeah, right. Anybody in my shoes with nine minutes left? Okay. A minute? All right. Nine? Yeah, I'm going for it. You can't be mad at that. If you are mad, I don't care because a lot of people, they're upset because if they did play, they never had a chance to get that close to chasing greatness. And then if you get that close to chasing greatness, that's the point of chasing it so you can surpass it. And some of the people have never played basketball. So like if you've been in the backyard and you and a couple of your homies have been playing 21 and you got 19. You're not going to get an easy look off. And four, they're going to talk about the free throws. It's not like I shoot 15 free throws a game. It's not like I average 10 free throws a game. You can watch the film. I was legitimately getting fouled every time. So I went to the free throw line."

Ahmed/The Ears/IG: BigBizTheGod 🇸🇴

373,778 views • 4 months ago

Louis Tomlinson about his fans for TikTok IRL! “It's quite a big answer, but the first thing that came to mind like if you know I think on the last tour I did close to like a hundred shows, right? So occasionally you will have a show that is not as good. Maybe as the rest vocally, you know Maybe you're a little tired. Maybe a little hungover. Maybe both And there are some I've had some amazing live moments in the tour where I really really I feel like maybe people can hear that I'm not maybe in the best voice and The level of support and love that I feel in the room in those moments I feel like any time with my fan base that you know If I'm ever kind of struggling a little bit I really really feel the love and support from them and and that's really really special I think I spoke about it quite a few times and it's I've almost run out words at this point the relationship that we have With each other and i'm not just being the typical cliche Sing a song right here say my friends are the best in the world They are but truthfully the relationship I think that we have is really really special. I often describe it as like a codependency And it really is like that, you know like I They make the shows better for me and then because of that I make the show better for them. So Those kind of shared moments together and the moments where we've been fighting together I think they're really really special to me.”

Louis Tomlinson about his fans for TikTok IRL! “It's quite a big answer, but the first thing that came to mind like if you know I think on the last tour I did close to like a hundred shows, right? So occasionally you will have a show that is not as good. Maybe as the rest vocally, you know Maybe you're a little tired. Maybe a little hungover. Maybe both And there are some I've had some amazing live moments in the tour where I really really I feel like maybe people can hear that I'm not maybe in the best voice and The level of support and love that I feel in the room in those moments I feel like any time with my fan base that you know If I'm ever kind of struggling a little bit I really really feel the love and support from them and and that's really really special I think I spoke about it quite a few times and it's I've almost run out words at this point the relationship that we have With each other and i'm not just being the typical cliche Sing a song right here say my friends are the best in the world They are but truthfully the relationship I think that we have is really really special. I often describe it as like a codependency And it really is like that, you know like I They make the shows better for me and then because of that I make the show better for them. So Those kind of shared moments together and the moments where we've been fighting together I think they're really really special to me.”

OT5 Daily

18,358 views • 9 months ago

GEMINI PRESENTER OF BREEZE #BreezeExcelScentclubXGemini #Gemini_NT #เจมีไนน์ ♊: there are two sides in social media which is advantage and disadvantage. it depends on the context of our situation, but the context of everything i post is purely for good intentions. i don't have any bad intentions at all. ♊: we know that social media is a media where we can communicate with a lot of people and it is something very important. and i hope it will be better now : do you think you can handle it? ♊: i can do it na but it doesn't mean i am being used to it but it means i am trying to improve from the things that i've done wrong. there are some, i mean, i always insist that what i think, what i do, there's never any bad intentions in it. and it's something that maybe i didn't think enough or maybe i did something wrong. i want everyone to know that i really don't have any bad intentions at all na.

GEMINI PRESENTER OF BREEZE #BreezeExcelScentclubXGemini #Gemini_NT #เจมีไนน์ ♊: there are two sides in social media which is advantage and disadvantage. it depends on the context of our situation, but the context of everything i post is purely for good intentions. i don't have any bad intentions at all. ♊: we know that social media is a media where we can communicate with a lot of people and it is something very important. and i hope it will be better now : do you think you can handle it? ♊: i can do it na but it doesn't mean i am being used to it but it means i am trying to improve from the things that i've done wrong. there are some, i mean, i always insist that what i think, what i do, there's never any bad intentions in it. and it's something that maybe i didn't think enough or maybe i did something wrong. i want everyone to know that i really don't have any bad intentions at all na.

ayis 🌟

18,507 views • 1 year ago

Caller: ...husband. We've been together for about seven years, got married last year, and about six months ago, I entered an affair with another man. Started out as something fun I know that's stupid but it turned into something a lot more emotional than I expected. And now, at this point, I just don't know what to do. I mean, I do know what to do, but I don't know what to do at the same time. My husband doesn't know what's going on. The other gentleman does know that I am married. I don't want to leave my husband, but I don't want to break things off with this other gentleman either John Delony: So let me, let me give you another side to this, okay? Number one: I don't think you love your husband. I think you love the idea of the security that seven-plus years of a quasi-stable relationship bring. I also think deep down you understand that you are with somebody of so little character that he doesn't mind blowing up another family so he can hook up with somebody. Let me ask you this: what was it about seven years with the guy that became your husband... what about that relationship? Caller: It's been difficult. We've had a lot of ups and downs. I suffer from mental illness, I'm a recovering drug addict. So he's been with me through a lot of stuff, and I felt like I owed my life to him for pulling me out of everything. I don't feel like we're compatible in a lot of ways because I like a lot of emotional touch, a lot of affirmation, and I don't feel like I get that. John Delony: Why did you marry him? Caller: I felt like I owed it to him, honestly, for everything that he went through with me. John Delony: I'm going to tell you, cheating on your husband's not right. Never is it okay. I'm going to tell you, I think you should go talk to your pastor or your counselor and sit down and say, "Here's what's happening.

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Caller: ...husband. We've been together for about seven years, got married last year, and about six months ago, I entered an affair with another man. Started out as something fun I know that's stupid but it turned into something a lot more emotional than I expected. And now, at this point, I just don't know what to do. I mean, I do know what to do, but I don't know what to do at the same time. My husband doesn't know what's going on. The other gentleman does know that I am married. I don't want to leave my husband, but I don't want to break things off with this other gentleman either John Delony: So let me, let me give you another side to this, okay? Number one: I don't think you love your husband. I think you love the idea of the security that seven-plus years of a quasi-stable relationship bring. I also think deep down you understand that you are with somebody of so little character that he doesn't mind blowing up another family so he can hook up with somebody. Let me ask you this: what was it about seven years with the guy that became your husband... what about that relationship? Caller: It's been difficult. We've had a lot of ups and downs. I suffer from mental illness, I'm a recovering drug addict. So he's been with me through a lot of stuff, and I felt like I owed my life to him for pulling me out of everything. I don't feel like we're compatible in a lot of ways because I like a lot of emotional touch, a lot of affirmation, and I don't feel like I get that. John Delony: Why did you marry him? Caller: I felt like I owed it to him, honestly, for everything that he went through with me. John Delony: I'm going to tell you, cheating on your husband's not right. Never is it okay. I'm going to tell you, I think you should go talk to your pastor or your counselor and sit down and say, "Here's what's happening.

Brown Legacy

29,144 views • 13 days ago

Must listen. Tucker just went off on the Jeffrey Epstein cover-up and his connection to Israel on Turning Point. Absolute fire. No one is allowed to say the foreign government Epstein was connected to was Israel because we have been cowed into thinking that that's naughty. There is nothing wrong with saying that... "And I think the real answer is Jeffrey Epstein was working on behalf of intel services, probably not American. And we have every right to ask on whose behalf was he working? How does a guy go from being a math teacher at the Dalton School in the late seventies with no college degree to having multiple airplanes, a private island and the largest residential…house in Manhattan? Where did all the money come from? And, no one has ever gotten to the bottom of that because no one has ever tried. And moreover, it's extremely obvious to anyone who watches that this guy had direct connections to a foreign government. Now, no one's allowed to say that that foreign government is Israel because we have been… somehow cowed… into…thinking that that's naughty. There is nothing wrong with saying that. There is nothing hateful about saying that. There's nothing antisemitic about saying that. There's nothing even antisemitic about saying that. There's nothing even antisemitic about saying that. I've spent my entire life pretty much in Washington where I knew and loved a number of people including one very close person who worked at CIA. That has never…prohibited me from saying, I think the CIA has done some horrible things. Murdered a bunch of people, participated in the murder of a sitting US president. It's got a whole trail of crimes. That doesn't make me a disloyal American. It doesn't make me anti American in any sense. I was born here, my family's been here for hundreds of years. I love this country, that's why I live here. So, criticizing the behavior of a government agency does not make you a hater, it makes you a free person. It makes you a citizen. You're allowed to do that…because you're not a slave, you're a citizen. And you have a right to expect that your government will not act against your interests and you have a right to demand that foreign governments not be allowed to act against your interests. That's not creepy. It shouldn't be forbidden. And yet, all of us have trained ourselves to believe that you can't say that somehow. That that's like too naughty and forbidden. And, the effect… of making that off limits has been to create a lot of resentment and I'll say it, hate online. Where people feel like they can't just say, like, what the hell is this? You have the former Israeli prime minister living in your house… You have had all this contact with the foreign government. Were you working on behalf of Mossad? Were you running a blackmail operation on behalf of foreign government? By the way, every single person in Washington DC thinks that. I've never met anyone who doesn't think that. I don't know any of them that hate Israel, but no one feels they can say that. Why? And I think the longer that we play along with it, the more subterranean and creepy and hateful the conversation actually becomes. So, I think it's better just to say it right out loud. Did this happen? And of course that question has been asked to the government of Israel and their answer is, we're not going to tell you. And I think our answer should be, no no As long as we're sending you money, if you were committing crimes on our soil, we have an absolute right to know, did you do this or not?"

Must listen. Tucker just went off on the Jeffrey Epstein cover-up and his connection to Israel on Turning Point. Absolute fire. No one is allowed to say the foreign government Epstein was connected to was Israel because we have been cowed into thinking that that's naughty. There is nothing wrong with saying that... "And I think the real answer is Jeffrey Epstein was working on behalf of intel services, probably not American. And we have every right to ask on whose behalf was he working? How does a guy go from being a math teacher at the Dalton School in the late seventies with no college degree to having multiple airplanes, a private island and the largest residential…house in Manhattan? Where did all the money come from? And, no one has ever gotten to the bottom of that because no one has ever tried. And moreover, it's extremely obvious to anyone who watches that this guy had direct connections to a foreign government. Now, no one's allowed to say that that foreign government is Israel because we have been… somehow cowed… into…thinking that that's naughty. There is nothing wrong with saying that. There is nothing hateful about saying that. There's nothing antisemitic about saying that. There's nothing even antisemitic about saying that. There's nothing even antisemitic about saying that. I've spent my entire life pretty much in Washington where I knew and loved a number of people including one very close person who worked at CIA. That has never…prohibited me from saying, I think the CIA has done some horrible things. Murdered a bunch of people, participated in the murder of a sitting US president. It's got a whole trail of crimes. That doesn't make me a disloyal American. It doesn't make me anti American in any sense. I was born here, my family's been here for hundreds of years. I love this country, that's why I live here. So, criticizing the behavior of a government agency does not make you a hater, it makes you a free person. It makes you a citizen. You're allowed to do that…because you're not a slave, you're a citizen. And you have a right to expect that your government will not act against your interests and you have a right to demand that foreign governments not be allowed to act against your interests. That's not creepy. It shouldn't be forbidden. And yet, all of us have trained ourselves to believe that you can't say that somehow. That that's like too naughty and forbidden. And, the effect… of making that off limits has been to create a lot of resentment and I'll say it, hate online. Where people feel like they can't just say, like, what the hell is this? You have the former Israeli prime minister living in your house… You have had all this contact with the foreign government. Were you working on behalf of Mossad? Were you running a blackmail operation on behalf of foreign government? By the way, every single person in Washington DC thinks that. I've never met anyone who doesn't think that. I don't know any of them that hate Israel, but no one feels they can say that. Why? And I think the longer that we play along with it, the more subterranean and creepy and hateful the conversation actually becomes. So, I think it's better just to say it right out loud. Did this happen? And of course that question has been asked to the government of Israel and their answer is, we're not going to tell you. And I think our answer should be, no no As long as we're sending you money, if you were committing crimes on our soil, we have an absolute right to know, did you do this or not?"

Green Lives Matter

1,250,966 views • 1 year ago

“Failure is so much more interesting than success. And it always saddens me that school doesn't teach that. At school the thing is to be brilliant and to get the answer right first time. And there are brilliant people who could do that, but for the rest of us who are not brilliant, we have to strive, and we have to go through failure. And we realize that you don't get it right the first time or the second time. In my case and I counted it. It took 5,127 times. With failure you question it “Well why did it go wrong?” And actually the reason it goes wrong is often very, very interesting. Where something works you say “Great that worked.” You don't even stop to wonder why it works. So if you've got to enjoy failure.” —James Dyson

“Failure is so much more interesting than success. And it always saddens me that school doesn't teach that. At school the thing is to be brilliant and to get the answer right first time. And there are brilliant people who could do that, but for the rest of us who are not brilliant, we have to strive, and we have to go through failure. And we realize that you don't get it right the first time or the second time. In my case and I counted it. It took 5,127 times. With failure you question it “Well why did it go wrong?” And actually the reason it goes wrong is often very, very interesting. Where something works you say “Great that worked.” You don't even stop to wonder why it works. So if you've got to enjoy failure.” —James Dyson

David Senra

55,042 views • 17 days ago

Jordan Peterson: "If you can't fix your room, you can't fix your life" "Why should you even bother improving yourself? The answer is something like: so you don't suffer anymore stupidly than you have to. And maybe so others don't have to either. It's not some casual self-help doctrine. If you don't organize yourself properly, you'll pay for it. In a big way. And so will the people around you." Peterson continues: "You can say, 'Well, I don't care about that.' But that's actually not true, you do care about it. Because if you're in pain, you will care about it. It's very rare that you can find someone in excruciating pain who would say, 'Well, it would be no better if I was out of this.' Pain brings the idea that it would be better if it didn't exist along with it. It's incontrovertible." On how to start: "Look around for something that bothers you and see if you can fix it. You can do this in a room. Sit in your bedroom and think: 'If I wanted to spend ten minutes making this room better, what would I have to do?' You have to ask yourself that, it's a genuine question. And things will pop out. There's a stack of papers bugging you. Some rubbish behind your computer monitor you haven't attended to for six months. Cables tangled up." He explains why this matters: "If you were coming to see me for psychotherapy, the easiest thing would be to get you to organize your room. You think, is that psychotherapy? It depends on how you conceive the limits of your being. Start where you can start. If something announces itself as in need of repair that you could repair, fix it. Fix a hundred things like that, your life will be a lot different." On fixing what you repeat every day: "People tend to think of their daily routines as trivial. You get up, brush your teeth, have breakfast. Those probably constitute 50% of your life. People think, they're mundane, I don't need to pay attention to them. No, that's exactly wrong. The things you do every day are the most important things you do. Hands down. Just do the arithmetic." On staying within your competence: "Sometimes you don't know how to fix something. Imagine you're walking down the street and there's a guy who's alcoholic and schizophrenic and has been homeless for ten years. That's a problem. It would be good if you could fix it, but you haven't got a clue. You walk around that and go find something you could fix. Just because something announces itself as in need of repair doesn't mean it's you, right then and there, who should repair it. You have to have some humility. You don't walk up to a helicopter that isn't working and just start tinkering away." Peterson shares the key insight: "As soon as you give your mind a genuine aim, it'll reconfigure the world in keeping with that aim. That's actually how you see to begin with. You've all seen the video where you watch basketballs being tossed back and forth, and while you're doing that, a gorilla walks into the middle of the video and you don't see it. If you thought about that experiment for five years, that would be about the right amount of time to spend thinking about it." He explains what it reveals: "What it shows you is that you see what you aim at. If you can get one thing through your head, that would be a good one. You see what you aim at. One inference you might draw from that is: be careful what you aim at. What you aim at determines the way the world manifests itself to you. So if the world is manifesting itself in a very negative way, one thing to ask is: are you aiming at the right thing?"

Jordan Peterson: "If you can't fix your room, you can't fix your life" "Why should you even bother improving yourself? The answer is something like: so you don't suffer anymore stupidly than you have to. And maybe so others don't have to either. It's not some casual self-help doctrine. If you don't organize yourself properly, you'll pay for it. In a big way. And so will the people around you." Peterson continues: "You can say, 'Well, I don't care about that.' But that's actually not true, you do care about it. Because if you're in pain, you will care about it. It's very rare that you can find someone in excruciating pain who would say, 'Well, it would be no better if I was out of this.' Pain brings the idea that it would be better if it didn't exist along with it. It's incontrovertible." On how to start: "Look around for something that bothers you and see if you can fix it. You can do this in a room. Sit in your bedroom and think: 'If I wanted to spend ten minutes making this room better, what would I have to do?' You have to ask yourself that, it's a genuine question. And things will pop out. There's a stack of papers bugging you. Some rubbish behind your computer monitor you haven't attended to for six months. Cables tangled up." He explains why this matters: "If you were coming to see me for psychotherapy, the easiest thing would be to get you to organize your room. You think, is that psychotherapy? It depends on how you conceive the limits of your being. Start where you can start. If something announces itself as in need of repair that you could repair, fix it. Fix a hundred things like that, your life will be a lot different." On fixing what you repeat every day: "People tend to think of their daily routines as trivial. You get up, brush your teeth, have breakfast. Those probably constitute 50% of your life. People think, they're mundane, I don't need to pay attention to them. No, that's exactly wrong. The things you do every day are the most important things you do. Hands down. Just do the arithmetic." On staying within your competence: "Sometimes you don't know how to fix something. Imagine you're walking down the street and there's a guy who's alcoholic and schizophrenic and has been homeless for ten years. That's a problem. It would be good if you could fix it, but you haven't got a clue. You walk around that and go find something you could fix. Just because something announces itself as in need of repair doesn't mean it's you, right then and there, who should repair it. You have to have some humility. You don't walk up to a helicopter that isn't working and just start tinkering away." Peterson shares the key insight: "As soon as you give your mind a genuine aim, it'll reconfigure the world in keeping with that aim. That's actually how you see to begin with. You've all seen the video where you watch basketballs being tossed back and forth, and while you're doing that, a gorilla walks into the middle of the video and you don't see it. If you thought about that experiment for five years, that would be about the right amount of time to spend thinking about it." He explains what it reveals: "What it shows you is that you see what you aim at. If you can get one thing through your head, that would be a good one. You see what you aim at. One inference you might draw from that is: be careful what you aim at. What you aim at determines the way the world manifests itself to you. So if the world is manifesting itself in a very negative way, one thing to ask is: are you aiming at the right thing?"

Jaynit

68,550 views • 2 months ago