So was he right or wrong for going? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

A man cannot win in today’s scenario at all. It’s better to just move how you gonna move and whoever is messing with it let them hop on. The back and forth is tiring and I’m not discussing hypotheticals no mo.

So if she needed the snow removed so she could take the kids to the doctor you can’t go? So she ca go to work so she can provide for the kids? Take the kids to school? If it benefits the kids in anyway it’s not a debate. Only debate is why would the gf be insecure.

I'm not doing it. Why the fuck am I going to over to my EX's place to shovel snow!? I'm going to get my child(ren), and SHE can deal with the snow and everything that comes with it. Just because I'm the father does NOT mean that I'm at her beck and call. If you want to be responsible, then marry her. Otherwise, let her deal with her own set of issues and I'll deal with mine.

Here's how all that could have been solved. Like Kevin Samuel's use to say why not marry the woman you made the baby with so you are legally bound to the child or children then nobody damn feelings gets hurt. SMDH

Bruh just leave the girlfriend. This sounds like a whole headache to come home to 😮‍💨 She didn’t applaud you for the sacrifice or help, just got attitude waiting back at home 😭

She got w a single father. Part of the deal.

Translation: They only care about the kids you have with them and this type would have no problem with you abandoning your children altogether because she sees your bm as a potential threat to her ego/stability.

If the mother ain’t good, how you expect the kids to be good… Stop it. Men keep showing up cuz we know you ain’t doing it for her.

@ayoboog718 He need to either get her to understand or leave her if she can’t. Those are his kids and the mother has to be good in order for the kids to be. Simple.

For my brothas commenting that have a good co-parenting relationship & the mother & your wife/girlfriend are on good terms where you can tell her “Hey their mother needs me to come shovel so she can get to work/doc” Kudos, not all situations co-parent situations are at that level of respect. 🫡 ✊🏾 For my brothas commenting who know your child’s mother doesn’t get along with your wife/girlfriend & you still say “F this woman I’m laying in bed with, have established a home & new life with, & her insecurities. I’m a jump up so I can shovel snow so she can get to work/my kids doctor’s appointment cuz I’m FOTY!” Kudos to you too, I guess, 🤷🏾‍♂️ Also 🫵🏾GTFOHWTBS 🤣 Here’s some fair solutions for both sides -Call an Uber or a taxi since it’s a one off situation Or -Zelle or cash app her $ & title it “for the kids” in the memo line, & she can call one herself since none of us know what they use the $ we send them for anyway. I don’t ask I don’t care.🤷🏾‍♂️🤣 Or -Take the child to the doctor’s appt yourself and bring them back. If you’re in an actual committed relationship or married & you get this call from your kids mom, you shouldn’t have to get out your bed or leave your house where you’re chilling with ya main thang just to prove you’re “Dad of Year.” You telling me she ain’t got a neighbor, dad, uncle, brother, guys she was sleeping wit behind yo back but calling her “brother”, or nothing? Shawty can’t swing a shovel either? 🤔 Some of ya’ll kids 10+ y/o talking about running to shovel your BMs car out. If you don’t tell Jr big head a$$ to get up & help his momma shovel 🤣 I know a 🥷 who still want his family when I see one 🤣

All he had to do was go pay Pookie 100 to shovel her out.

Tyrone would’ve did it for two dimes 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

If you date a person with kid/kids you take what comes with that. Simple. Don’t like it? Move along 💎

What is the boundary? I’m hearing problems but no solutions given. It’s either shovel and your kids are being taken care of properly or dont and your kids struggle. Woman’s ego doesn’t come before my kids needs that’s why I’m single now.

Haha she’s not lying but some guys aren’t in the same situation as others. Setting boundaries may come at a cost on both sides. Moral of the story is be careful who you lay down with. Sexual discipline is a super power.

Shoveling snow is important enough to show up.. if his kids are involved..Sorry y'all

People have to stop being insecure. A man gone help his family whether he romantically with them or not.

To me I agree with both parties to an extent as a father myself there's nothing I wouldn't do for my daughter but there is a line I make for her mother. As long as I make my current partner aware of certain instances like this there shouldn't be any issues. If this was a regular occurrence I 100% agree with the GF but if it's an emergency situation like this sounds here, the gf needs to be more understanding.

To each its own. I don’t set general rules for anyone but the type of person I am we both would have went and called for help. Do what you can to take care of the children 🤷🏽‍♀️ If you don’t want your man helping his childrens mom out during emergencies don’t date men who has children, simple. If she’s using snow as an excuse to get some I don’t know what to tell you😂 Use your discernment I’m so glad I’m older and don’t care about this type of stuff anymore 🤣

I think this is generational if you are over 40 you are mature enough to know how to navigate this in fact 1300 black folks voted on this very topic 2days ago see photo via #officialflyageless on IG - the couple in video been divorced 15 yrs but still got each other back via #theladydii on TikTok

Bitch got arms she can shovel snow herself. Now it’s different if she was away from home and got stuck in the snow with the kids. At home tho? Yeah you gone learn today.

If she was a real one, she’d get her ass up and go help him move the snow

This is once again proof that women think that ALL women are evil. They know what they would do and expect all other women to do the same. Women hate each other and they don’t believe in each other at all. They go out laugh and joke knowing deep within that they’re using each other for entertainment purposes. When they say best friend it’s equivalent to saying my favorite channel. The deception has hit a new all time high out here and all you have to do is look at the comments to see it’s true. Not all but most it seems are on demon time & in survival mode constantly. A woman with a small carefully selected circle & family oriented 💎

and how much y’all wanna bet red glasses is single as fuck 😂😂😂😂

What females fail to understand they think of x has control Man it be really about the kid and y'all don't understand that s*** give a f*** about that b**** I give a f*** about my kids I'm going through that s*** right now

She is absolutely right once my husband started to understand that the mother of his child was always purposely being and inconvenience he started being unavailable… If it wasn’t scheduled then oh well! You’re not going to give my relationship problems because you don’t have a man!

She is soooo wrong!!! At the end of the day you have kids at the BM house and she just asked you to dig her car out.. if I was the GF I wouldn’t have a problem unless she is using his kindness for weakness and we ain’t doing that!!

Tbh his gf right 😂

No he was not wrong anything you do to aide the BM is ultimately for the children and i would never let my child suffer bc the mother is

he could’ve went and picked the kids up from her if they were stuck at her house but he didn’t need to help her with her car lol…

Doing ANYTHING for my kids. Point blank period!! But also, I make that crystal clear at the beginning. If you rock with it…cool. If you don’t…cool.

Oh girl stfu bc if my man don’t go help his bm ESPECIALLY when she’s single and that child lives there it’s gone be some furniture moving in that mfr I SAID GET TF UP AND GO HELP HER 😤🗣️‼️

This is why You: - Don’t have kids with just anyone - be married before having kids - keep your marriage healthy after kids - work it out unless there’s abuse It’s always going to be grey area and bullshit to deal with when families don’t stay together. Avoid the problem to begin with my having high societal standards.

The girlfriend should have went with him to shovel the snow. Instead of fighting with the man, show Unity!!

Ok she is wrong and thinking like a woman. It’s not for her it’s for the safety of your child. You stay home don’t shovel child has an emergency they can’t get out or energy unit can’t get in something happens all because of her feelings. Load up and sit in the car while I do it

She lost the privilege of him being her go to when they broke up. Boundaries are important