The Heretical Liberal 🇨🇦 David Bell explained it perfectly.

To the Gender Cultists: Needing constant validation of your identity from strangers only proves that it isn't real. Anything that actually was a real thing would be true whether strangers believe in it or not. Have you ever stopped and thought about why it is so important to you weirdos to have your goofy made-up identities validated? Because no other well adjusted adult requires such outside affirmation in order to be happy. But seriously , have you ever REALLY sat down and thought "why the f*ck does this matter so much? why am I such a pathetic weenie?" Since you almost certainly have absolutely zero insight into yourself and who you are (otherwise, you wouldn't need to invent imaginary identities to fill the voids in your self image) I'll do you a solid and go ahead and answer that one for ya: the reason you weirdos care SO GODDAMN MUCH that everybody else plays along with your silly little make believe games is because deep down - and honestly probably not even all that deep - you know that it's nonsense too. You are clinging to these silly child-like ideas about your precious little identities so badly because you KNOW they're a crutch you use because you have no real personality and don't know how to develop one. You see, if these identities were real and you KNEW they were real, you wouldn't care at all what strangers thought of you or your identity. You would be secure in the knowledge that YOU know yourself and who gives a shit what anybody else has to say about it. Sorta like how you can call me a woman all day long, and I won't cry about "being misgendered" or accuse you of "psychological violence" (lol), I'll laugh in your face because I know that I'm a man and that's simply an objective fact that doesn't change EVEN IF strangers don't validate me. Funny how that works eh? When something's real, it doesn't require the validation of strangers. Hope that helps!

Excellent find, thanks!

NP, happy to share :) it's from the closing session of the SEGM/OPS conference in Paris a few months ago

the essay he refers to:

@Rob_ThaBuilder As Vaknin puts it, the false self is a tyrannical dictator. He should know.

@Rob_ThaBuilder That’s brilliant and makes a lot of sense. Esp along with the Australian Spectator ‘transgender inquisition’ article.

@Rob_ThaBuilder Brilliant explanation.

Fantastic clip, thanks for sharing. Bookmarked!

@Rob_ThaBuilder Brilliant

@Rob_ThaBuilder Fascinating. Thank you for posting this

@Rob_ThaBuilder Absolutely on the money.