This has ruined many relationships without many realizing it.

The slow fade happens long before anyone walks out. When one person is expected to stay funny, soft, and endlessly patient while the other offers little of the same energy back, the relationship dies quietly. By the time people notice the distance, he’s already gone.

Sometimes, I see things like this, and I intuitively go, "oh! Yeah. They're right, this is correct." But it's like the difference between book knowledge and applied knowledge right? You can conceptually understand how to do something, you can understand that it SHOULD be done, but you've never put it into practice, you've never seen it done... and so... it is still difficult. It's like trying to take the manual, sticking your tongue out squinting and following the diagrams.

Seriously, the tone matters so much

Good words, but frankly, unhealed traumas and avoidant attachment types prevent a lot of people from having the capacity to give what they can’t receive even when they’re aware. Add that to the list of BPD, NPD, CPTSD issues and the number just balloons as to why so many people are suffering in dysfunctional relationships. Also, there are a lot of people out there aware of their issues and due to their developed patterns of self regulation that are destructive to attempts at healing, fear of confronting the issues, and sometimes the idea they’re just “broken” and can’t actually heal they never address the issues and solidify the persona. Add to that the list of social programming that has been happening pitting people (especially sexes) against one another and the dysfunction is even encouraged at this point. Social media and echo chamber ideologies just amplify the issues. Acceptance of people is nice, and the golden rule is great, but when we try to pour from empty cups, or worse yet, convince ourselves the cup is full of love when it’s full of confusion, fear, bitterness, hate, and contempt we end up in a worse place than we started and begin justifying bad behavior.

When you dey host space boss

I will be starting soon my bro

Sharp

Relationship nowadays are nothing to talk about

Exactly, many many will keep distance when they feel rejected

Absolutely, we learn from listening and hearing more everyday

I guess it’s best to let them think they’ve done nothing wrong when they’ve hurt you in so many ways..new mantra is just staying quiet

She has said it all the way you communicate matters alot

It’s not only women, and it’s not only men. Anyone who keeps pouring into a partner who only criticizes, rarely notices effort, and never softens the room will eventually go quiet. The silence is the warning, not the breakup.

So true. Sometimes people don’t realize what they’re losing while chasing what they think they need.

Sometimes, how a question is framed makes all the difference. Her: “You didn’t do (whatever), did you?” That’s an accusation pretending to be a question. Try this instead: Her: “Did you do (whatever)?” That’s a question that he can answer yes or no.

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I went about the AF base one day shopping and getting lunch. Every location I went to were women complaining about men. It was hilarious. All at the clubs every weekend trying to score on one.

I think you will teach me this stuff brother

@BarrChris434772 This is very valid

Ummm probably the “lies and betrayal”, more than “tone”. Nice try tho lady.

and why I filed....

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True. Sometimes the damage happens quietly before anyone realizes what went wrong.

If you are rejected it won't work 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is AI folks

Like rearranging items on the belt at grocer cuz I am retarded and don't know how to do it. Fuck! I hate that shit!

It's has ruined so many my dear

To many who see relationship as fun it has

May God bring healing to everyone in distress relationship .

That's why women has to be soften spoken

BINGO!!!!!!!!!! Nailed it!!!!

This is more interesting: do what you want others to do for you. Don't belittle anyone; allow them to be themselves.

i got called selfish from my ex last night because i never offer to take the dogs (jointly owned) round hers in the evenings , she has to come and collect them! this is aster she took half of everything after not contrabuting anything, and i didnt turn on her at any point! wtf?

Wrong...

This is amazing