This is a very interesting perspective, one I’ve always explored. I’m mostly torn between if it’s just toxic positivity or just a coping mechanism. You should definitely take time to watch this thoroughly.

The same hot water hardens the egg, softens the rice and makes the coffee bitter. Not everyone is rice. Some people in life are egg, some are coffee. They *survive* bad experiences but don’t learn and don’t overcome, thrive and win.

@k1yus3v3n This is absolutely true… perspectives👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Situations break’s people. It’s either make you a better version of yourself or destroy you.

True this… we are products of our experiences. What’s important is; did you learn from it or decided to sink into it

@Esty_1980 I think more & more in today's fast paced society, we don't have the space & time to process experiences other than a quick evaluation to move on to the next experience, and that space & time is where sound decision making lives. Process is the gift we're given as human beings.

@better_men You are right 👍

This perspective is important as well when people are telling you their own story, just listen instead of telling people it made them stronger...sometimes it's difficult to sit with the pain, not having answers and unfairness of life: it is what it is.

This is one very difficult thing to come to terms with… most people are solution oriented so anytime you tell them something they start trying to find a solution not because they don’t appreciate your process but because it’s imbedded in them to look for solution

It's hard, learning this for myself in therapy to sit and process emotions not intellectual everything....

We’ve all heard them, they roll off the tongue & are proudly worn scars like honourable badges sigh “God gives his strongest soldiers the hardest fights” “Hard times build character” “I had to go through the fire to come out on top” “Diamonds are created by extreme pressure”

A valid point. Additionally, we are able to learn profound lessons without uncomfortable experiences.

I think this is a horrible take. Of course you could be someone different if that bad thing hadn’t happened, but what else can you do but try to take whatever learning experiences out of the situation that you can? Opining away for a different outcome wont help

I grown to accept it is just a coping mechanism. A way to figure out how to carry it with you. Most things bad happen bc someone fcked up did something fcked up to you. That’s it. There is no greater reason.

The perpetrators have established very effective narratives to absolve them of their responsibilities. The point he starts out from here certainly has its roots there.

Sometimes you have to cut thru "scar tissue" to see "the good" 🤕🤔🙌

A great message that couldn’t have come from a sexier man

I feel healing happens in different stages if your in the beginning stages of healing this is not what your focus is at. This perspective comes later down the rode when you are healed and are reflecting because life is mostly reflecting when you think deeply about it.

It seems he is saying in part-but for this difficulty, that disrupted/ interrupted those unknown joys, experiences that were in your path- you won't experience those. There is a loss beyond the pain of the tragedy or trauma.🙏🏽💯

Liking this post cause I really feel what Trevor is saying right here ❤😔

💯!!

It's neither. I agree w @Trevornoah Offering stories of triumphing over adversity to ppl suffering, both shows a lack of compassion & can make things worse. The Xtns spouting "the Lord doesn't give you more than you can bear", clearly didn't read the same crucifixion story I did

It is an interesting perspective. But leaning into the bad things that happen to you and wallowing isn’t an option. And mostly, life is pain and suffering and once you accept that it is pain and suffering, you no longer suffer. That is called the ultimate truth.

It’s chaos, be kind.

Love the balance you’re exploring here. Toxic positivity vs coping mechanism is real. Worth a deep dive for fintech minds.

I love how Trevor’s reflections.

@grok What’s the name of the YouTube channel?

A very wise man.

Thank you I needed this

completely agree. The reason is painted in that mindset as a good thing, like it should be celebrated. Celebrate survival, sure. But not that you had struggle to survive because of terrible things happening to you. There is not a good reason for that.

What he said is Very true. Everything is based on higher purpose which is entirely wrong

I think the idea was made more popular by the famous book “Man’s Search for Meaning.”

I 100% agree with him

Where’s the rest of this convo?

And sometimes there is no lesson to take from an experience.

I love this message!

It's a coping mechanism. Some things have no positive vibes no matter how you try. I've had chemo for an incurable blood cancer for eight years. It hasn't made me a better person or appreciate life more. But there are people who convince themselves there is good in cancer to cope

Trevor

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