This is such an ugly thing to say.

You might be stuck there because you have been in survival mode for so long that you don’t know what it’s like to live without that anxiety and that fear. You might be stuck there because you are experiencing complex and chronic trauma.

If you’re in a fight and the person punches you rapidly nonstop and you don’t get a chance to take a breath or change positions. How are you supposed to change the dynamic of the fight?

For a long time I was stuck in ptsd hell because I didn’t have a map to get out. I didn’t have the tools.

It wasn’t because it didn’t hurt bad enough. It was because life is doing what it does while I’m trying to press pause and heal. Can you successfully bandage yourself while running? Probably not.

The replies and quotes are giving Stockholm Syndrome. “She ain’t lie!” Yes she did. She made a blanket statement about pain knowing people would happily agree that their pain is self inflicted. And it worked.

Many of the replies are applying what she said to extremely specific situations that she never mentioned. Why? She knows people have tunnel vision with a mirror at the end. You watched this musty ass video and decided she was giving YOU sage guidance.

What she’s actually doing is telling an ever-marginalized community (because we know she ain’t talking to ofays) that they are the reason they hurt, regardless of what that hurt’s catalyst was.

Everybody’s shit won’t be the same but think about the shit she puts on her raggly ass show. These aren’t superficial issues she’s talking about. She ain’t talking about the time you laid on the couch for two days eating bullshit bc you had a breakup.

Oprah has to pay for her crimes.

I know it feels mature and responsible to say “this is my fault and I’m responsible for fixing it” But what if it’s not your fault? What if it’s not you who needs fixing, but the catalyst for the hurt? What if that wasn’t your responsibility to fix? What if you had support?

What if your support began from birth and you always knew you were strong and worthy? What if you had support that helped you make healthy decisions with YOUR best interest in mind? What if you had a good amount of resources to prevent you from being harmed?

What if you had all the best fail safes in place…but there was hurt inflicted any way?

Y’all applied the “it” in “it doesn’t hurt bad enough” to your romantic relationships. That’s what she wanted you to do so she’s not responsible for saying stupid shit. Please see a clinician. They can help.

Muting because y’all did a lot today. Please remember there is no power in martyrdom. Stay sucka free.