“When premarital sex is completely normalized, women’s leverage is reduced dramatically.” Louise Perry on how innate differences between men and women—and changing societal norms around sex—has radically biased the dating and marriage scene in men’s favor. Listen to her full conversation on finding love in 2025 with Bari Weiss:

@Louise_m_perry One of the problems people don't want to talk about is that women have unrealistic expectations:

@Louise_m_perry Only 10% of men. The other 90% do worse

@Louise_m_perry Men are human beings who need love and connection just like women do. No healthy relationship is one based on the use of leverage.

Many Women may have felt like they settled bc they compare the man they married in their 30s to the guys they dated in their 20s. Yes, you nearly married that hot rich smart guy in your early 20s, but no way he looks twice at you when you are both in your 40s. Between those two ages, women experience a slow, uneven and unfair loss of power on the romantic marketplace. So yes, women may have felt like they settled before dating apps, but admitting the truth, that older women are generally less attractive than they were when they were younger, is a harder pill to swallow.

Today, we remember Reyhaneh Jabbari, a 26-year-old Iranian woman EXECUTED for defending herself against RAPE. Imagine facing death simply for saying "No"! Western women, stand with us in amplifying Reyhaneh’s voice and all women in Iran who risk everything for their dignity and rights. #ReyhanehJabbari #WomanLifeFreedom

@Louise_m_perry I have a wonderful marriage. This conversation is a sad commentary for my children’s prospects to have the same wonderful marriage.

@Louise_m_perry "Men's" favor? More like in favor of the Andrew Huberman's of the world.

@Louise_m_perry Thank you SO much for this. Casual sex can really destroy a woman's sense of self.

@Louise_m_perry Thank you Bari Weiss. Great piece.

@Louise_m_perry Honest question: is this a bio female or a stealth male disguised as a woman aided by camera filters? Truth matters. Sex matters. If you platform sec mimics like Wu, anyone you platform is sus.

@Louise_m_perry Enjoyed the podcast!