WHEWWWW A WORDDD

HE TORE. But my unpopular opinion…no matter how eloquently the dating issue is explained, it’s not going to improve. Most people don’t change behaviors bc they KNOW better—they change when they have NO OTHER OPTION. And right now, there are still too many perceived options.

That last part!

Spoke all facts. Real lovers are in the trenches right now. As soon as you start being intentional mfs start pulling away and slowing down..

Usually how it goes

He ate this so bad, cause wdym I know what I want and that “scares” you 😭🙂‍↕️

It does! Lol

This is why research is important. While we see and experience this anecdotally, he actually has the research to back it up.

What he’s talking about is cool, but really all I’m thinking about is helping him fog them glasses up… Judge me, I don’t care cause he’s foiiine!

This is SO incredibly thoughtfully highlighted and explained. Incredible. I wish I could find him on here & give him his flowers. Dealing with people who have almost laughable boldness in one moment without knowing someone’s values/intentions from a hole in the wall, but can’t respond to clearly communicated boundaries & expectations—he nailed it—avoidant attachers will almost invariably breath a sigh of relief & just move on the the next person who will just submissively let them pounce, but also be inconsistent & avoid accountability. This was incredible.

THIS!!! The way I have NO desire to participate in the modern dating pool - folks think I'm weird but I'm protecting my peace! These days the only relationship I'm interested in is one with Jesus - He has never failed me yet! 💯

This kinda matches up with my take that all the secure people found each other relatively fast on apps in each age bracket or quickly left when they saw how difficult to maintain a connection is on them.

He’s on point. I also believe in energy and rebaselining our experiences. When we completely stop accepting those inconsistent, non intentional behaviors, we attract and accept more aligned behaviors.

This is insanely accurate. This is something I started to learn when I hit my mid 20s. It's exhausting.

exactly this. you want to make plans and have realistic expectations all of a sudden you applying “too much pressure”. its a sick world i hate it here

I wouldn’t fw any kinda dating app, but this whole thing is 📍

@ppppp1245688 Is me, I am chalant 😭😭

I needed this

🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿🫶🏿

It’s just a sea of broken people. But if you’re a hard social media user, AND you’re using dating apps, then I’m afraid you’re broken too. Opt out. Or stay in. Your choice.

Just realized I've never heard the word "chalant" actually used.

A fucking word 🎯

i love a nerd lol

I can’t imagine dating in these times. He’s absolutely right. The only way to navigate it is to understand / study human behavior. Social media, especially, has people emotionally fractured, self-unaware, and mistaking dysfunction, especially in themselves, for normal.

That was ridiculously spot on, even if a bit less friendly to all, terms wise

THE. TRENCHES.

100% agree. Everyone literally just needs to heal and work on their attachment style

Post like this going viral creates the perfect opportunity to connect and mingle with like minded people.

I hate the way his mouth works, like why is his top lip like that❓

Man I'm tired.. I gave up on the apps and just thriving in my goals

Important conversation! And I fear it’s only gonna get worse as more & more people become more nonchalant. The people suffering in the trenches are the anxious attachment style. The avoidants hop on & off just playing with our emotions… the secure ain’t even in the game!

I don’t know how to be casual while prioritizing intimate connection.

oh we are definitely IN THE TRENCHES

🙂 thanks for accurately voicing my opinions

so fuckin grateful that the chalant kind of love found me in time for 2026, i was so ready to get out the trenches lol

I need to talk to this man I can be his guinea pig as I go through my dating adventures

So real. I truly do think making what you’re looking for known super early and being quick to cut those who are on some “vibing” shit makes things so much easier and saves on heartbreak. I hate seeing a real lover compromise on their wants for an unserious person 💔

I can’t take it anymore. I’m out here fighting for my life😭

We are COOKED I TELL YA ..COOKED!!! 😭😭😭

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