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Why Breakups are Hard Breaking up isn’t hard because the relationship is bad — it’s hard because endings cost familiarity, identity, and certainty. In this video, I talk about why we stay longer than we mean to, how fear can masquerade as loyalty, and how clarity often shows up... show more

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