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Why is status so important? Why do we care so much about it? It's a little taboo to talk about status directly. If someone says, "I want a promotion because I want higher status," people tend to look at them sideways. It sounds vain or self-serving, as though status... is an unworthy motive. But notice what happens when we use different language. If someone says, "I want a promotion because I want more respect," that sounds perfectly reasonable. Most people would regard it as a legitimate and even admirable goal. Yet respect is, in many ways, just another form of status. Both involve being valued by others and being treated in a certain way. We may avoid the word "status," but much of what we call respect, recognition, prestige, or standing is simply status by another name.show more

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People sometimes ask me, “Rob, do people really care that much about status? Why do you talk about it so often?” Or, “When you bring up luxury beliefs, it sounds like you're picking on elites—but don’t we all care about status?” And it’s true. As I write in the book, and as research shows, most people want to be respected and held in high regard. That’s basic human nature. But there’s a spectrum. Some care more than others. And what’s interesting is that two separate studies found the same thing: the higher someone is in status, the more they care about it. The researchers used objective metrics—income, education, and job prestige, which can be ranked based on corporate hierarchy and other factors. They found that those who scored highest were most likely to agree with statements like: I’d enjoy being in a position of power. I want people to notice me when I enter a room. I like having influence over others. Sure, most people like those things a little. But the people who already have a lot of status tend to care the most about being admired and influential.

People sometimes ask me, “Rob, do people really care that much about status? Why do you talk about it so often?” Or, “When you bring up luxury beliefs, it sounds like you're picking on elites—but don’t we all care about status?” And it’s true. As I write in the book, and as research shows, most people want to be respected and held in high regard. That’s basic human nature. But there’s a spectrum. Some care more than others. And what’s interesting is that two separate studies found the same thing: the higher someone is in status, the more they care about it. The researchers used objective metrics—income, education, and job prestige, which can be ranked based on corporate hierarchy and other factors. They found that those who scored highest were most likely to agree with statements like: I’d enjoy being in a position of power. I want people to notice me when I enter a room. I like having influence over others. Sure, most people like those things a little. But the people who already have a lot of status tend to care the most about being admired and influential.

Rob Henderson

15,178 次观看 • 1 年前

When I speak about luxury beliefs, some people will challenge me about the importance of status. They’ll ask, "Is status really so important? Or, is it true that upper class people care so much about status? Or, come on Rob, don’t we all care about status?" Two different studies have found that that upper class people have the strongest desire for wealth and status. Both of these two studies indicate that relative to lower-class individuals, upper-class individuals have a greater desire for wealth and status. Affluent people crave distinction. The French sociologist Émile Durkheim understood this when he wrote, “The more one has, the more one wants, since satisfactions received only stimulate instead of filling needs.”

When I speak about luxury beliefs, some people will challenge me about the importance of status. They’ll ask, "Is status really so important? Or, is it true that upper class people care so much about status? Or, come on Rob, don’t we all care about status?" Two different studies have found that that upper class people have the strongest desire for wealth and status. Both of these two studies indicate that relative to lower-class individuals, upper-class individuals have a greater desire for wealth and status. Affluent people crave distinction. The French sociologist Émile Durkheim understood this when he wrote, “The more one has, the more one wants, since satisfactions received only stimulate instead of filling needs.”

Rob Henderson

75,157 次观看 • 1 年前

There are two very different ways to acquire social status: Dominance and prestige. Dominance is the older form of status-seeking. You can see it in non-human animals—chimpanzee troops, gorillas, even pecking orders among chickens. You’ll see these animals fighting or posturing to establish who outranks whom, who’s in charge, who’s second in command, that sort of thing. In humans, dominance shows up as intimidation, bullying, violence, reputation destruction, gossip—ways of asserting control or inspiring fear. People acquire dominance through those less savory means. Someone like Joseph Stalin gained status through dominance. Then there’s the other pathway to status, which is prestige. This kind of status comes from doing impressive things—things that make people want to be around you. It’s earned by contributing something valuable to the group or by doing something others find admirable. People confer dominance because of what you can do to them—because you can inflict costs. But they confer prestige because of what you can do for them—because you can teach, help, or inspire them. And if you spend time with a prestigious person, some of that status tends to rub off. That’s why people want selfies with celebrities and post them on social media—it’s a way of absorbing a bit of that prestige. Someone like Stephen Hawking is a good example. He obviously didn’t acquire status through dominance; he earned it through brilliance and achievement.

There are two very different ways to acquire social status: Dominance and prestige. Dominance is the older form of status-seeking. You can see it in non-human animals—chimpanzee troops, gorillas, even pecking orders among chickens. You’ll see these animals fighting or posturing to establish who outranks whom, who’s in charge, who’s second in command, that sort of thing. In humans, dominance shows up as intimidation, bullying, violence, reputation destruction, gossip—ways of asserting control or inspiring fear. People acquire dominance through those less savory means. Someone like Joseph Stalin gained status through dominance. Then there’s the other pathway to status, which is prestige. This kind of status comes from doing impressive things—things that make people want to be around you. It’s earned by contributing something valuable to the group or by doing something others find admirable. People confer dominance because of what you can do to them—because you can inflict costs. But they confer prestige because of what you can do for them—because you can teach, help, or inspire them. And if you spend time with a prestigious person, some of that status tends to rub off. That’s why people want selfies with celebrities and post them on social media—it’s a way of absorbing a bit of that prestige. Someone like Stephen Hawking is a good example. He obviously didn’t acquire status through dominance; he earned it through brilliance and achievement.

Rob Henderson

16,018 次观看 • 10 个月前

Charlie Munger: "Riches, in a modern civilization, are a relative thing. It is status that we want. It isn't that we need more beans [to eat]." "The trouble with reaching for status is that the bottom [99%] is always going to contain exactly 99% of the people — no matter how hard we work or how much we succeed."

Charlie Munger: "Riches, in a modern civilization, are a relative thing. It is status that we want. It isn't that we need more beans [to eat]." "The trouble with reaching for status is that the bottom [99%] is always going to contain exactly 99% of the people — no matter how hard we work or how much we succeed."

Kevin Carpenter

73,960 次观看 • 5 个月前

People care deeply about social status—specifically, the esteem in which they’re held by those whose opinions they value. That’s often the real reason people pursue wealth. It’s not just about having money for its own sake, but about converting it into status. In fact, many people care more about how they’re perceived than about the actual number in their bank account. One study found that sociometric status—being respected and admired by your peers—is a stronger predictor of well-being than socioeconomic status. Put simply, people who are well-liked and valued by their social circle tend to be happier than people who merely earn a high income. People with higher sociometric status—being respected, liked, and influential in their immediate groups—tend to be happier on average than people whose advantage is mainly socioeconomic status (income, education, occupation). In multi-site studies, sociometric status more strongly predicts both life satisfaction and day-to-day positive emotion than does socioeconomic status, even when income and education are controlled.

People care deeply about social status—specifically, the esteem in which they’re held by those whose opinions they value. That’s often the real reason people pursue wealth. It’s not just about having money for its own sake, but about converting it into status. In fact, many people care more about how they’re perceived than about the actual number in their bank account. One study found that sociometric status—being respected and admired by your peers—is a stronger predictor of well-being than socioeconomic status. Put simply, people who are well-liked and valued by their social circle tend to be happier than people who merely earn a high income. People with higher sociometric status—being respected, liked, and influential in their immediate groups—tend to be happier on average than people whose advantage is mainly socioeconomic status (income, education, occupation). In multi-site studies, sociometric status more strongly predicts both life satisfaction and day-to-day positive emotion than does socioeconomic status, even when income and education are controlled.

Rob Henderson

12,663 次观看 • 1 年前

Status is interesting because it lives in the minds of other people. You don’t get to decide how much status you have. You can’t just say, “Hey, everyone, I have high status.” People will say, “Prove it.” And they’re the ones who get to decide. So why do we care about status? There’s a neuroscientist I really like, Michael Gazzaniga, who says that when you get up in the morning, you think about status. You think about where you stand in relation to other people. There’s actually a lot of research in neuroscience on what happens when the mind is at rest—when you’re not focused on a task and your thoughts start to drift. Scientists call this the “default mode network.” It’s a set of brain regions that become active when your mind is wandering. What’s striking is that these regions overlap with the ones involved in thinking about your social world—how you’re seen, how others are seen, where you fit in, how you’re evaluated. So when we have free time, when our minds wander, what do we think about? We think about exactly what Gazzaniga is pointing to. Status isn’t some abstract concern. It’s the background hum of thought, the thing your mind returns to when nothing else is demanding your attention.

Status is interesting because it lives in the minds of other people. You don’t get to decide how much status you have. You can’t just say, “Hey, everyone, I have high status.” People will say, “Prove it.” And they’re the ones who get to decide. So why do we care about status? There’s a neuroscientist I really like, Michael Gazzaniga, who says that when you get up in the morning, you think about status. You think about where you stand in relation to other people. There’s actually a lot of research in neuroscience on what happens when the mind is at rest—when you’re not focused on a task and your thoughts start to drift. Scientists call this the “default mode network.” It’s a set of brain regions that become active when your mind is wandering. What’s striking is that these regions overlap with the ones involved in thinking about your social world—how you’re seen, how others are seen, where you fit in, how you’re evaluated. So when we have free time, when our minds wander, what do we think about? We think about exactly what Gazzaniga is pointing to. Status isn’t some abstract concern. It’s the background hum of thought, the thing your mind returns to when nothing else is demanding your attention.

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26,131 次观看 • 4 个月前

BREAKING 🚨 Independent Voter Dov: “In terms of immigrants… I think a person is a person regardless of what their legal status is, and their legal status can change, and I don’t know and really care what their legal status is... and I’m going to treat them that way.” GOP Voter Dwayne: “There’s a difference between being kind… but they also have to be respectful of our laws… My family has been here since at least the 1700s. There is no one that gave us a free $1,400 debit card. No one gave us a free apartment… We had to work for it.” “If we respect all people, that means the people that come here need to respect our laws.” “How much are we going to put the burden on the taxpayer? The money has to come from somewhere. It’s just common sense.” He is 100% correct!

BREAKING 🚨 Independent Voter Dov: “In terms of immigrants… I think a person is a person regardless of what their legal status is, and their legal status can change, and I don’t know and really care what their legal status is... and I’m going to treat them that way.” GOP Voter Dwayne: “There’s a difference between being kind… but they also have to be respectful of our laws… My family has been here since at least the 1700s. There is no one that gave us a free $1,400 debit card. No one gave us a free apartment… We had to work for it.” “If we respect all people, that means the people that come here need to respect our laws.” “How much are we going to put the burden on the taxpayer? The money has to come from somewhere. It’s just common sense.” He is 100% correct!

Dr Charlie Ward

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Reporter: Some members of the Jewish community, including Democratic Congressman Josh Gottheimer, were alarmed by the language you used at the rally last week, calling AIPAC monsters who move dark money. Mamdani: I want to be very clear. We’re talking about a status quo where children are being killed on a daily basis. More than 1,000 Palestinians have been killed by the Israeli military since the so-called ceasefire. Even an Al Jazeera journalist, Ahmed Wishah, was killed this past Saturday by an Israeli strike. And when I am speaking about AIPAC, I’m speaking about an organization that has been supportive of the status quo, that has fought any attempt to actually deliver safety to people not just in Palestine but, frankly, throughout much of the region. And it is a status quo of immorality. It is one that I will not accept. And when it comes to the way in which they defend the status quo, oftentimes they defend it through direct contributions, as we are seeing right now in New York 13. Oftentimes they also support the status quo through dark money, by funneling money that would have previously come directly from AIPAC through other organizations whose contributors’ identities are only made clear after an election. And I think it is important that when we ask ourselves how such death and destruction is happening overseas, we also name those who allow it to take place.

Reporter: Some members of the Jewish community, including Democratic Congressman Josh Gottheimer, were alarmed by the language you used at the rally last week, calling AIPAC monsters who move dark money. Mamdani: I want to be very clear. We’re talking about a status quo where children are being killed on a daily basis. More than 1,000 Palestinians have been killed by the Israeli military since the so-called ceasefire. Even an Al Jazeera journalist, Ahmed Wishah, was killed this past Saturday by an Israeli strike. And when I am speaking about AIPAC, I’m speaking about an organization that has been supportive of the status quo, that has fought any attempt to actually deliver safety to people not just in Palestine but, frankly, throughout much of the region. And it is a status quo of immorality. It is one that I will not accept. And when it comes to the way in which they defend the status quo, oftentimes they defend it through direct contributions, as we are seeing right now in New York 13. Oftentimes they also support the status quo through dark money, by funneling money that would have previously come directly from AIPAC through other organizations whose contributors’ identities are only made clear after an election. And I think it is important that when we ask ourselves how such death and destruction is happening overseas, we also name those who allow it to take place.

Acyn

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THEY SAY MALEMA SCARES PEOPLE BECAUSE HE CHALLENGES STATUS QUO; MEDIA TWISTS HIS WORDS, PORTRAYING HIM IN A BAD LIGHT; I HAVE A LOT OF RESPECT FOR Julius Sello Malema AND PEOPLE SHOULD LISTEN TO WHAT HE SAYS “Not only is Julius Malema an extremely intelligent human being; he is a brilliant politician. White people fear him for two reasons. First, media portrays Julius in a very specific way. They will take things that he has said out of context, and say look at this crazy person. How dare he… When you actually go listen to what he said, he makes sense. Second reason that white people fear Julius is that he questions the status quo. He is actively fighting to change what is going on in this country, and a lot of white people are very comfortable with what’s going on in this country. They have power, they have privilege, they have everything that they want. I don’t mean individual white people — before you come here and say ‘I don’t have a job’ — if it doesn’t apply to you, just shut up and listen, because when we talk about privilege, particularly white privilege, we talk about a response that people have to you, socially. Before we talk about positions or whatnot, we talk about our response, socially; the assumption that a white person is more educated; the assumption that a white person has more moral values; and acts more ethically. So, yeah, Malema scares people, because he challenges the status quo, and because he’s been portrayed in a very specific light. I have a lot of respect for Julius Malema and I think more people should listen to what he has to say.” **Watch Both**

THEY SAY MALEMA SCARES PEOPLE BECAUSE HE CHALLENGES STATUS QUO; MEDIA TWISTS HIS WORDS, PORTRAYING HIM IN A BAD LIGHT; I HAVE A LOT OF RESPECT FOR Julius Sello Malema AND PEOPLE SHOULD LISTEN TO WHAT HE SAYS “Not only is Julius Malema an extremely intelligent human being; he is a brilliant politician. White people fear him for two reasons. First, media portrays Julius in a very specific way. They will take things that he has said out of context, and say look at this crazy person. How dare he… When you actually go listen to what he said, he makes sense. Second reason that white people fear Julius is that he questions the status quo. He is actively fighting to change what is going on in this country, and a lot of white people are very comfortable with what’s going on in this country. They have power, they have privilege, they have everything that they want. I don’t mean individual white people — before you come here and say ‘I don’t have a job’ — if it doesn’t apply to you, just shut up and listen, because when we talk about privilege, particularly white privilege, we talk about a response that people have to you, socially. Before we talk about positions or whatnot, we talk about our response, socially; the assumption that a white person is more educated; the assumption that a white person has more moral values; and acts more ethically. So, yeah, Malema scares people, because he challenges the status quo, and because he’s been portrayed in a very specific light. I have a lot of respect for Julius Malema and I think more people should listen to what he has to say.” Watch Both

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184,171 次观看 • 2 年前

Daniel Cormier says being around Jon Jones is not as nasty as it used to be 🤝😅 "Being around Jon Jones is different because we had such a bad history, but the reality is I’m done fighting now and that part of it’s gone. So it’s not nearly as nasty, but I think we have done a good job of being professional as much as we can. Obviously, we argue a lot, but that’s just the status of our relationship. But I think that we’ve gotten to a point in our lives where we can be in the same area without trying to fight each other."

Daniel Cormier says being around Jon Jones is not as nasty as it used to be 🤝😅 "Being around Jon Jones is different because we had such a bad history, but the reality is I’m done fighting now and that part of it’s gone. So it’s not nearly as nasty, but I think we have done a good job of being professional as much as we can. Obviously, we argue a lot, but that’s just the status of our relationship. But I think that we’ve gotten to a point in our lives where we can be in the same area without trying to fight each other."

Red Corner MMA

675,797 次观看 • 7 个月前

People say “that’s not fair,” but often what they really mean is “my status feels diminished." People care deeply about fairness, especially when it comes to how material resources are distributed. But often the concern is not really about the resource itself. It is about something underneath it. People say they care about fairness, but what they are really asking is: do you respect me? Do you see me as equal? Are you granting me the status that matches how I see myself? Take a common example. You find out that others at your job, in the same role, are being paid more than you. You are still doing well. You are comfortable. By most objective standards, you are fine. But the moment you learn that your peers earn more, the reaction is immediate: something is wrong. This feels unfair. Now imagine your boss responds, “You’re already making good money. Relax.” That does not calm the situation. It makes it worse. Because the issue was never just the money. It was the signal the difference sends. The gap suggests that you are valued less, that you occupy a lower rung, even if your absolute income is high. The anger that follows is not about deprivation. It is about status. It is the feeling of being diminished, of being treated as less than others who are, in principle, your equals.

People say “that’s not fair,” but often what they really mean is “my status feels diminished." People care deeply about fairness, especially when it comes to how material resources are distributed. But often the concern is not really about the resource itself. It is about something underneath it. People say they care about fairness, but what they are really asking is: do you respect me? Do you see me as equal? Are you granting me the status that matches how I see myself? Take a common example. You find out that others at your job, in the same role, are being paid more than you. You are still doing well. You are comfortable. By most objective standards, you are fine. But the moment you learn that your peers earn more, the reaction is immediate: something is wrong. This feels unfair. Now imagine your boss responds, “You’re already making good money. Relax.” That does not calm the situation. It makes it worse. Because the issue was never just the money. It was the signal the difference sends. The gap suggests that you are valued less, that you occupy a lower rung, even if your absolute income is high. The anger that follows is not about deprivation. It is about status. It is the feeling of being diminished, of being treated as less than others who are, in principle, your equals.

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20,838 次观看 • 4 个月前

JD Vance on Europe: People think that Trump, or that I, or that Rubio, hate Europe or have some problem with Europe. We don’t. We love Europe. Why do we want Europe to control its borders? Because we love European civilization. We want it to preserve itself. Why do we care about economic growth? Because they’re one of our most important allies in the world. We share a common civilizational heritage. Why do we care about NATO? Because we want Europe to be able to defend itself if, God forbid, they were invaded. We love Europe so much, we’re demanding that they do what their own leadership refuses to do, which is look after themselves and be smarter.

JD Vance on Europe: People think that Trump, or that I, or that Rubio, hate Europe or have some problem with Europe. We don’t. We love Europe. Why do we want Europe to control its borders? Because we love European civilization. We want it to preserve itself. Why do we care about economic growth? Because they’re one of our most important allies in the world. We share a common civilizational heritage. Why do we care about NATO? Because we want Europe to be able to defend itself if, God forbid, they were invaded. We love Europe so much, we’re demanding that they do what their own leadership refuses to do, which is look after themselves and be smarter.

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