Why many African marriages collapse in the western world. End.

There is nothing to explain here, you are right, as a man if you cannot provide fully and you Wife compromise for your sake, you too have to compromise for her as well and when she sees you are helping, there will likely be peace in your Home

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How Atiku Abubakar, a Muslim, using a Christian young lady almost to death, used her family, her cousins, used their bodies, blood and her babies, and he will not give the girl one kobo, will not claim the girl, will not marry her because she is Christian

That's true! The main reason this becomes an issue is when unkind people marry each other. There’s no way a kind man would need a reminder to help with household chores, especially when he knows how hectic things are at work for his wife. Similarly, a kind woman wouldn’t need a formal request to support her husband with the bills. This isn’t complicated. It’s just that people with complicated or difficult characters mess up their marriages and then try to blame the location. The location only reveals who you truly are; it doesn’t make you what you are.

She’s got a point. If you tailor your life accordingly, they can live on his income.

Nature has a way of stratifying roles to maintain order, even in the west. Nature teaches that a man, out of love for his wife, by reason, and for the peace of the home, should assist his wife in home duties when need be - not a 50-50 share of duties. This is same as providing.

Truth be told, there's an iota of truth in her assertion.

I did not say that she is lying.

Men who won’t drop their ego at the point of “compromise” during hardship, will likely ruin their relationship. A valid point, but at the same time, it depends on how the woman starts to feel entitled that “that”, is now part of his responsibilities to assist in the house.

According to Dr. Myles Munroe, husband and wife should be self sufficient enough to help each other from their overflow. If she would compromise her roles to add to a different role, the man should be able to do same. At least temporarily until he's able to handle everything.

In cases like this, the man should be fully and readily available for compromise. If not, the marriage won't be the same. Her concerns are valid.