Woman says doing all that chivalry is “just the bare minimum,” it doesn’t impress her, and you shouldn’t expect anything in return — even after six or more dates. 🤔

if you’re going on six dates and not even entertaining the thought of a relationship with that person there’s something wrong with you…

Respectful gestures are meaningful, but a relationship becomes unsustainable when effort flows only in one direction. Genuine connection requires reciprocity, not a mindset that diminishes another person’s contributions as ‘bare minimum.’ When expectations aren’t mutual, it’s often a sign to reassess compatibility rather than increase effort.”

If im paying, im bigger than the program

7. “That ‘bare minimum’ talk is hilarious. You want kings while offering peasant energy.”

It sounds like she’s just hard to please no matter what you do it’s not gonna be enough

She’s not wrong but a man is also not wrong for seeing her bare minimums as bare minimums as well. That’s the thing about “standards,” people see theirs as a way to dominate someone more than just a positive way to be treated as a human in general.

She's a 4 making demands.

1. “Chivalry isn’t the bare minimum — respect is. If you think effort shouldn’t be mutual, that says more about you than it does about men.”

just saying

At this point being attractive is a disadvantage when comes to being a woman because they become reliant on their looks. Looking good gets you attention and opens doors to opportunities and this kind of attitude will close those doors just as quick as they opened.

You might as well date a woman then.

This only applies to the men she’s not actually attracted to. All this goes out the window when she’s head over heels for a guy. Fellas… just date women who like you. If this is how she treats you.. she don’t like you fr

3. “If six dates of your time and energy still don’t impress you, that’s cool. It just means the guy needs to stop dating you — not try harder.”

😂 so what the fuck do you women want and need to be happy and let’s debunk this whole “you aren’t bigger than the program” logic WE control who gets married! So in fact we are bigger than your program! The title of wife is the highest honor for a woman

Ya’ll complain when in your opinion a woman is a hoe, no morals, body count too high and no father. Then you double down and complain even more when the father is present, morals are set, sex is taken seriously and not handed out so easily. Brain smaller than the ass of an ant!

It's a father that sets these weird little standards. I'll teach my daughter to be self reliant. I'll teach her by default, that no one owes anything to her. That she should appreciate nice gestures. She won't be a second class citizen. Just waiting for some guy.

i crack badder hoes doing way less

I don’t feel like that’s bare minimum, I feel like when a man does all these things. It says that he was raised right because there are a lot of men who don’t know to do these things without being asked or coerced.

Some declarations arrive so drenched in self-importance that you almost need safety goggles to parse them. To label consistent chivalry as “the bare minimum” while insisting that reciprocity is optional, even after six dates, reveals a worldview where entitlement masquerades as empowerment. It’s the kind of philosophy that turns romance into a one-sided performance: the man is expected to audition endlessly, while she reserves the right to critique the show from a velvet throne she did not build. It’s impressive only in its capacity for asymmetry. Yet, beneath the humor of it all lies a serious cultural fault line: the quiet erosion of mutuality. Relationships are ecosystems, not fiefdoms. When one party reduces kindness to “expected labor” and treats gratitude as a negotiable luxury, resentment germinates like mold in darkness. The comedy is that she calls it standards, but the tragedy is that it sabotages the very connection she claims to seek. At some point, even the most chivalrous gentleman will realize he’s not dating a partner, he’s underwriting a monarchy.

Wow. Good luck with life because...

4. “Chivalry isn’t supposed to impress you. It’s supposed to be exchanged with appreciation. If appreciation is too much to ask, you’re not ready for dating.”

Chivalry is valuable, but when basic courtesy is treated as a one-way expectation rather than a shared effort, it creates an imbalance. Healthy connections grow through mutual respect, not entitlement. If someone consistently dismisses genuine effort, it may signal misaligned values rather than a problem with chivalry itself.

She's the man of her dreams.

2. “Calling effort the ‘bare minimum’ is wild when you’re bringing zero accountability to the table. Relationships aren’t a one-way charity.”

6. “If mutual effort is too high of an expectation, then maybe dating isn’t your lane.”

Not dissing her, but the “bare minimum” is like a loaded phrase lol everyone has different standards, so it really means nothing. Like what do you want then? Do you want to go to Spain on the first date?

Put a man in the same seat that was raised in the same manner so when he asked you what you bring to the table it better not be just some coochie or the bare minimum like you said🤷🏾‍♂️

Why date in 2025? Just rent!!

Cute smile but this bich goin be that single divorced auntie cause she think her daddy and grandad matter to nigga who could have 20 of her😂🤝🏾🤷🏾‍♂️ gg’s idiot

Leave her where she is. This is a lost cause.

Nothing matters if they’re eyeing the one that THEY want. It doesn’t matter what you bring to the table. They have to test those waters and drown a few times before figuring it out. She’s young so she doesn’t know any better yet. A few bad experiences will fix that.

Why are the people always speaking from their vehicles?

That kitty kat should be for sale anyways fr I wish I would waste my time getting to know you as if you bigger than the program tf

Date your granddad Madam annoyance

Some y’all need to go date your fathers. Thinking dudes out here supposed to be your dad n shit