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Why are these horrible date ideas & what mistakes did these guys make? 1๏ธโƒฃ MOVIES: if you want to make a movie date work, your arm needs to be around her the entire time, you need to be whispering into her ear, talking with her, joking with her, and touching her (oh, and it probably shouldnโ€™t be a first dateโ€ฆ unless you guys really hit it off the first time you met before the date). You 100% do not want to do the thing where you go to the movies, ignore her for 2 hours, and stare at a screen. Doesnโ€™t get more awkward than that. 2๏ธโƒฃ TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF THE WHOLE DATE: (the problem wasnโ€™t the Applebees, it was the conversation at the Applebees) you need to get the girl talking about HERSELF, then relate back to what she is saying, on anything you relate with. Leave little interesting baits about stuff about you, and if she is interested, sheโ€™ll ask, and then you can talk about it. If you are not interested in talking about HER and exploring HER, then that is not a date; instead it might be a good idea to start a YouTube channel, film yourself talking about yourself, upload it, and then anyone who wants to watch that can watch it there. But not a date idea. 3๏ธโƒฃ IKEA: or any window shopping date โ€” these can actually be awesome dates IF you are great at conversation and flirtation. If you are ass at that, however, a date like this is just torture, since there is nothing to distract from the ass conversation, and she is going to be saying to herself, โ€œWHY are we just walking around looking at towels and stuff?โ€ IKEA PT. 2: the 15-minute drive back in silenceโ€ฆ ๐Ÿ˜‘ Gotta keep that conversation rolling, my man. Convo during transition points (like the car ride) needs to be light and fluffy. Keep it fun, keep it flirty, donโ€™t go too deep here; just keep her talking. If you want to do the OPPOSITE of all these guys: โœ… Take girls on dates that mind the Five Cs: cheap, convenient, conversation, covert, control. โœ… Get girls talking about THEMSELVES and dig to find stuff you relate to, then relate back on it. โœ… Leave little interesting baits about details about you, and then IF she takes the bait, share more. โœ… Only do window shopping dates if you have the conversation + flirtation skills to back that up. The funโ€™s gotta come from somewhere โ€” if itโ€™s not the date activity itself, then it better be YOU. If YOU are not fun, then at least the date should be (and window shopping, in and of itself, is not โ€œfunโ€ per se. Though a fun dude can make it fun). โœ… During transitions (walks, car rides, etc.), keep the conversation flowing. Light, playful, flirty, Not heavy topics during transitions; just not the right setting for that. P. S. Seeing as there is a large and easily triggered incel community on this site, I only share these tips because I care. If you donโ€™t want to follow them, feel free to continue giving women boring dates then scratching your head when no second date ๐Ÿ˜‰
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Why are these horrible date ideas & what mistakes did these guys make? 1๏ธโƒฃ MOVIES: if you want to make a movie date work, your arm needs to be around her the entire time, you need to be whispering into her ear, talking with her, joking with her, and touching her (oh, and it probably shouldnโ€™t be a first dateโ€ฆ unless you guys really hit it off the first time you met before the date). You 100% do not want to do the thing where you go to the movies, ignore her for 2 hours, and stare at a screen. Doesnโ€™t get more awkward than that. 2๏ธโƒฃ TALKING ABOUT YOURSELF THE WHOLE DATE: (the problem wasnโ€™t the Applebees, it was the conversation at the Applebees) you need to get the girl talking about HERSELF, then relate back to what she is saying, on anything you relate with. Leave little interesting baits about stuff about you, and if she is interested, sheโ€™ll ask, and then you can talk about it. If you are not interested in talking about HER and exploring HER, then that is not a date; instead it might be a good idea to start a YouTube channel, film yourself talking about yourself, upload it, and then anyone who wants to watch that can watch it there. But not a date idea. 3๏ธโƒฃ IKEA: or any window shopping date โ€” these can actually be awesome dates IF you are great at conversation and flirtation. If you are ass at that, however, a date like this is just torture, since there is nothing to distract from the ass conversation, and she is going to be saying to herself, โ€œWHY are we just walking around looking at towels and stuff?โ€ IKEA PT. 2: the 15-minute drive back in silenceโ€ฆ ๐Ÿ˜‘ Gotta keep that conversation rolling, my man. Convo during transition points (like the car ride) needs to be light and fluffy. Keep it fun, keep it flirty, donโ€™t go too deep here; just keep her talking. If you want to do the OPPOSITE of all these guys: โœ… Take girls on dates that mind the Five Cs: cheap, convenient, conversation, covert, control. โœ… Get girls talking about THEMSELVES and dig to find stuff you relate to, then relate back on it. โœ… Leave little interesting baits about details about you, and then IF she takes the bait, share more. โœ… Only do window shopping dates if you have the conversation + flirtation skills to back that up. The funโ€™s gotta come from somewhere โ€” if itโ€™s not the date activity itself, then it better be YOU. If YOU are not fun, then at least the date should be (and window shopping, in and of itself, is not โ€œfunโ€ per se. Though a fun dude can make it fun). โœ… During transitions (walks, car rides, etc.), keep the conversation flowing. Light, playful, flirty, Not heavy topics during transitions; just not the right setting for that. P. S. Seeing as there is a large and easily triggered incel community on this site, I only share these tips because I care. If you donโ€™t want to follow them, feel free to continue giving women boring dates then scratching your head when no second date ๐Ÿ˜‰

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This chick is doing her best to explain an important phenomenon to men. Unfortunately she is using 2020s chick-speak about โ€˜boundariesโ€™ and โ€˜respecting yourselfโ€™ and other such buzzwords, which make the message nigh incomprehensible. So here is how I would put it to you, as a man: โžก๏ธ No girl wants to be with a dude who is going to make pleasing her his life mission. The behavior screams โ€˜simpโ€™ and makes her feel like you are beneath her, which makes her not want you. No chick wants to be with a man who is beneath her. โžก๏ธ No girl wants to be with a dude who will let her run all over him in conversation, talking about things that he doesnโ€™t want to hear about, controlling the flow of the conversation. That screams โ€˜weak dudeโ€™, who is either afraid to take control or does not know how. What should you do instead? โœ… If you are hooking up with a girl and she says, โ€œIโ€™m not looking for a relationship right now,โ€ you say, โ€œAWESOME. ME TOO.โ€ And now all of a sudden she is confused and beguiled because you are not chasing her for the relationship. Why arenโ€™t you chasing her for the relationship? Do you not WANT her? It will drive her crazy, she will start thinking about it over and over again, and she will desperately work to try to get you to want the relationship with her. If you keep just banging her while acting like you donโ€™t care, eventually she will want the relationship with you so bad herself it will drive her crazy. โœ… If you are talking to a girl and she is talking about some other dude she was dating, then unless you are actually curious about that (and if she is a girl you are sleeping with, it is worth getting to know some about her prior relationshipsโ€ฆ you will learn her behavior patterns, why she broke up with exes, plus any obvious red flags that can let you hit the eject button before you get in too deep), all you have to say to get off that topic is, โ€œYeah, thatโ€™s cool and all,โ€ and act really bored and start looking around. (If she canโ€™t take a hint then you just tell her, โ€œDonโ€™t you have a girlfriend or someone you can tell this to?โ€) The basic frame is โ€œIโ€™M JUST HERE TO BANG YOU AND HAVE FUN.โ€ It doesnโ€™t matter if you secretly want marriage with her and 15 babies. You want to let HER chase the relationship and fall into YOUR frame. If she starts going off on conversation you donโ€™t want to hear about, act bored or change the topic. If she starts trying to say she doesnโ€™t want a relationship, get out ahead of that frame and own it yourself (โ€œMe neither, weโ€™re in accordโ€). Women want your attention. Women who are sleeping with you IN PARTICULAR want it. If she feels she is losing your attention, that your interest in or commitment to her is waning, it will cause her to go nuts trying to get it back. And, in so doing, she becomes more invested, and falls in love. The peculiar ways of women!
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This chick is doing her best to explain an important phenomenon to men. Unfortunately she is using 2020s chick-speak about โ€˜boundariesโ€™ and โ€˜respecting yourselfโ€™ and other such buzzwords, which make the message nigh incomprehensible. So here is how I would put it to you, as a man: โžก๏ธ No girl wants to be with a dude who is going to make pleasing her his life mission. The behavior screams โ€˜simpโ€™ and makes her feel like you are beneath her, which makes her not want you. No chick wants to be with a man who is beneath her. โžก๏ธ No girl wants to be with a dude who will let her run all over him in conversation, talking about things that he doesnโ€™t want to hear about, controlling the flow of the conversation. That screams โ€˜weak dudeโ€™, who is either afraid to take control or does not know how. What should you do instead? โœ… If you are hooking up with a girl and she says, โ€œIโ€™m not looking for a relationship right now,โ€ you say, โ€œAWESOME. ME TOO.โ€ And now all of a sudden she is confused and beguiled because you are not chasing her for the relationship. Why arenโ€™t you chasing her for the relationship? Do you not WANT her? It will drive her crazy, she will start thinking about it over and over again, and she will desperately work to try to get you to want the relationship with her. If you keep just banging her while acting like you donโ€™t care, eventually she will want the relationship with you so bad herself it will drive her crazy. โœ… If you are talking to a girl and she is talking about some other dude she was dating, then unless you are actually curious about that (and if she is a girl you are sleeping with, it is worth getting to know some about her prior relationshipsโ€ฆ you will learn her behavior patterns, why she broke up with exes, plus any obvious red flags that can let you hit the eject button before you get in too deep), all you have to say to get off that topic is, โ€œYeah, thatโ€™s cool and all,โ€ and act really bored and start looking around. (If she canโ€™t take a hint then you just tell her, โ€œDonโ€™t you have a girlfriend or someone you can tell this to?โ€) The basic frame is โ€œIโ€™M JUST HERE TO BANG YOU AND HAVE FUN.โ€ It doesnโ€™t matter if you secretly want marriage with her and 15 babies. You want to let HER chase the relationship and fall into YOUR frame. If she starts going off on conversation you donโ€™t want to hear about, act bored or change the topic. If she starts trying to say she doesnโ€™t want a relationship, get out ahead of that frame and own it yourself (โ€œMe neither, weโ€™re in accordโ€). Women want your attention. Women who are sleeping with you IN PARTICULAR want it. If she feels she is losing your attention, that your interest in or commitment to her is waning, it will cause her to go nuts trying to get it back. And, in so doing, she becomes more invested, and falls in love. The peculiar ways of women!

Girls Chase ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ’จ

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Funny how women get so pissed when guys go full agenda mode on a date. She handled it like a cunt with no class after the guyโ€™s blunder but she was also mirroring where the guy was coming from in terms of energy: If the man is going to be as overtly transactional in his delivery he could have gone for an escort and he could have saved himself time and money. But no he did not and he was indecisive. She does not want to make the decision. โ€œAre you going home with me or no?โ€ And if you wanna bring a girl back home: Donโ€™t give her a choice, lead the way. This is an example of how โ€œniceโ€ he was. Key points - Donโ€™t take her out to a place you can barely afford. Paying for the date is the cost of doing business. - Donโ€™t be fake nice just to try to get the coochie, she will smell it - he revealed himself to be as such by his reaction. She wonโ€™t give it up to you because you paid a meal and was nice. - If you invite her for dinner, you are playing on harder mode, because you frame yourself default as the provider, and you will deal with more BS (even non-dinner dates you will deal with more nonsense vs meeting her on a night out or on holidays - her environment will dictate her default rules of engagement). - Donโ€™t respond logically, troll her with what she gives you at this stage when it is completely fucked: instead of โ€œthat is how it is supposed to beโ€ - she does not give a fuck about your rules - reply with โ€œCool, I will message Jessicaโ€ / instead of โ€œI am not going to cry homeโ€ reply to her verbal jabs with โ€œquite the challenge considering your crying for paying the full bill, but thank you that meal was really niceโ€ Relationships are transactional, but it is not because it is that you have to be so overt about, it only creates resentment for both men and women. This is the male example of agenda mode, that women do often trying to hijack dates into interviews, and amusingly enough, it is hilarious to see how pissed off they are about it.
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Funny how women get so pissed when guys go full agenda mode on a date. She handled it like a cunt with no class after the guyโ€™s blunder but she was also mirroring where the guy was coming from in terms of energy: If the man is going to be as overtly transactional in his delivery he could have gone for an escort and he could have saved himself time and money. But no he did not and he was indecisive. She does not want to make the decision. โ€œAre you going home with me or no?โ€ And if you wanna bring a girl back home: Donโ€™t give her a choice, lead the way. This is an example of how โ€œniceโ€ he was. Key points - Donโ€™t take her out to a place you can barely afford. Paying for the date is the cost of doing business. - Donโ€™t be fake nice just to try to get the coochie, she will smell it - he revealed himself to be as such by his reaction. She wonโ€™t give it up to you because you paid a meal and was nice. - If you invite her for dinner, you are playing on harder mode, because you frame yourself default as the provider, and you will deal with more BS (even non-dinner dates you will deal with more nonsense vs meeting her on a night out or on holidays - her environment will dictate her default rules of engagement). - Donโ€™t respond logically, troll her with what she gives you at this stage when it is completely fucked: instead of โ€œthat is how it is supposed to beโ€ - she does not give a fuck about your rules - reply with โ€œCool, I will message Jessicaโ€ / instead of โ€œI am not going to cry homeโ€ reply to her verbal jabs with โ€œquite the challenge considering your crying for paying the full bill, but thank you that meal was really niceโ€ Relationships are transactional, but it is not because it is that you have to be so overt about, it only creates resentment for both men and women. This is the male example of agenda mode, that women do often trying to hijack dates into interviews, and amusingly enough, it is hilarious to see how pissed off they are about it.

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To guys who are struggling to close (i.e., bed) the girls they take on dates, this girl highlights legitimate issues that you will see dudes doing when inexperienced, clueless, or bad date planners: ๐Ÿ†‡ Poor directions to the date location (chick had to walk 5,000 steps to find this guy) ๐Ÿ†‡ Lack of expectation-setting for the date (did not set any expectations for her what theyโ€™d be doing or check to see whether she was okay to walk or had eaten) ๐Ÿ†‡ Failure to take hints from the girl (girl told the guy sheโ€™s not much of a walker but he still persisted with his walking date plan โ€” FYI, walking dates are great but the girlโ€™s got to be cool with walkingโ€ฆ also: you need to text her beforehand โ€œHey, wear shoes you can walk inโ€ so she doesnโ€™t show up in heels) ๐Ÿ†‡ No actual date plan โ€” this dude just walked in a circuit with her, came back to the start point 90 minutes later, then asked her โ€œWhat do YOU want to do?โ€ This is why I tell you to spend 30-60 minutes planning out your date in advance. A good walking date ends at a DESTINATION (such asโ€ฆ your place? If youโ€™re good at turning her on during the date and want to CLOSE that is!). You always need a PLAN โ€” and also a backup plan (for instance, if she shows up to your walking date and mentions she isnโ€™t a walker). Chicks hate being asked what to do, btw. Youโ€™re the man; you must lead! (unless youโ€™re gunning for the friend zone, that is. In that case, sure, let her lead) ๐Ÿ†‡ Took her to the supermarket then let her go off by herself while saying he was gonna do his own shopping. Lel. Is it a date or not? Why not just TAKE HER with you while you pick up your stuff? What this dude SHOULD HAVE done was say โ€œOh wow my bad I assumed you ate โ€” let me make it up to you, Iโ€™m a great cook. Have you ever had pollo piccata? Letโ€™s scoop some ingredients and I will whip you up a restaurant-tier meal; all on me since itโ€™s my fault you didnโ€™t eat.โ€ Thatโ€™s how you make amends + get her back to your place in style. Not whatever this guy did (โ€œletโ€™s just each go buy our groceries separately then meet back upโ€) The whole meta frame here was wack, really: Going on a date is about taking leadership with a woman and bringing her into your world & frame. If you are just meandering around, asking her what to do, ignoring her state, ignoring what she is saying, sending her off to go off on her own so you can meet up with her later, that is not a date. That is two people just sort of hovering around each other with no clear leader. Women go to bed with men who lead them. They friend zone or ignore men who donโ€™t. Plan your dates properly. It takes a little extra time but makes ALLLLLLLL the difference!
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To guys who are struggling to close (i.e., bed) the girls they take on dates, this girl highlights legitimate issues that you will see dudes doing when inexperienced, clueless, or bad date planners: ๐Ÿ†‡ Poor directions to the date location (chick had to walk 5,000 steps to find this guy) ๐Ÿ†‡ Lack of expectation-setting for the date (did not set any expectations for her what theyโ€™d be doing or check to see whether she was okay to walk or had eaten) ๐Ÿ†‡ Failure to take hints from the girl (girl told the guy sheโ€™s not much of a walker but he still persisted with his walking date plan โ€” FYI, walking dates are great but the girlโ€™s got to be cool with walkingโ€ฆ also: you need to text her beforehand โ€œHey, wear shoes you can walk inโ€ so she doesnโ€™t show up in heels) ๐Ÿ†‡ No actual date plan โ€” this dude just walked in a circuit with her, came back to the start point 90 minutes later, then asked her โ€œWhat do YOU want to do?โ€ This is why I tell you to spend 30-60 minutes planning out your date in advance. A good walking date ends at a DESTINATION (such asโ€ฆ your place? If youโ€™re good at turning her on during the date and want to CLOSE that is!). You always need a PLAN โ€” and also a backup plan (for instance, if she shows up to your walking date and mentions she isnโ€™t a walker). Chicks hate being asked what to do, btw. Youโ€™re the man; you must lead! (unless youโ€™re gunning for the friend zone, that is. In that case, sure, let her lead) ๐Ÿ†‡ Took her to the supermarket then let her go off by herself while saying he was gonna do his own shopping. Lel. Is it a date or not? Why not just TAKE HER with you while you pick up your stuff? What this dude SHOULD HAVE done was say โ€œOh wow my bad I assumed you ate โ€” let me make it up to you, Iโ€™m a great cook. Have you ever had pollo piccata? Letโ€™s scoop some ingredients and I will whip you up a restaurant-tier meal; all on me since itโ€™s my fault you didnโ€™t eat.โ€ Thatโ€™s how you make amends + get her back to your place in style. Not whatever this guy did (โ€œletโ€™s just each go buy our groceries separately then meet back upโ€) The whole meta frame here was wack, really: Going on a date is about taking leadership with a woman and bringing her into your world & frame. If you are just meandering around, asking her what to do, ignoring her state, ignoring what she is saying, sending her off to go off on her own so you can meet up with her later, that is not a date. That is two people just sort of hovering around each other with no clear leader. Women go to bed with men who lead them. They friend zone or ignore men who donโ€™t. Plan your dates properly. It takes a little extra time but makes ALLLLLLLL the difference!

Girls Chase ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ’จ

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This girl gets some of her flirting advice right, but some is very OFF BASE. This is why you have to take dating advice for men that comes from women with a giant grain of salt ๐Ÿง‚ Some of womenโ€™s advice may be usefulโ€ฆ but some of it will always be MISLEADING. If you are not already savvy enough to tell the difference, youโ€™ll mix in the bad with the good and not know where youโ€™re tripping up. Break down of what is useful vs. what is MISLEADING: โœ… USEFUL: do not open her with โ€œYouโ€™re really pretty/beautiful, I wanted to meet you.โ€ She doesnโ€™t know what to say to that; she has also heard it before so many times you sound like a broken record. You can say pretty much ANYTHING other than this (e.g.: โ€œHey, howโ€™s it going?โ€ This is 10x better than a generic looks-based compliment). โœ… USEFUL: open her with something relevant to the situation. Situationally relevant openers can work great. For instance: โ€œThink weโ€™ll be in line forever?โ€ if youโ€™re waiting in line, or โ€œThe art here sure is interesting huh,โ€ if thereโ€™s a weird piece of art. ๐Ÿ†‡ MISLEADING: you should not expect a girl to take over on your opener, like this girl did with the โ€œcute/sweetโ€ coffee recommendation opener. Most girls are not outgoing enough that they are going to decide to โ€œhave a chatโ€ with you immediately on the open. You are the man; you need to EXPECT to drive at least the first 2 minutes of conversation YOURSELF! โœ… USEFUL: โ€œkeep the conversation short, sweet, casual, funโ€: all that, yes. The initial conversation needs to be light, playful, and engaging. Tease her within the first 30 seconds (thatโ€™s how she knows itโ€™s a FLIRTATION and not a platonic chat). Make an observation about her or two (keep it positive and light). Tap her on the forearm on a joke or a high point. SMILE! You want your presence to be a warm, welcome, & flirtatious one. ๐Ÿ†‡ MISLEADING: โ€œworst thing you could possibly do is annoy her with your presenceโ€; I mean, YES, BUT you do not need to be thinking about โ€œIโ€™d better not annoy herโ€ when you are talking to girls. If you do, you will play it too safe, act very boring, get into your head, and become uninteresting and un-fun. Instead, just focus on bringing fun and good energy (not โ€˜avoiding annoyanceโ€™). โœ… USEFUL: what she is calling a โ€˜non-invasive call to actionโ€™ (is this chick a marketer? Because this is marketer speak!) we call a โ€˜soft closeโ€™. Yes, soft close her. Easy one-size-fits-all soft close you can use with any girl (say this on a high point): โ€œWe should grab a bite or a drink sometime.โ€ As soon as she says โ€œyesโ€, you have your green light ๐ŸŸข to grab her # ๐Ÿ†‡ MISLEADING: โ€œgive her your numberโ€โ€ฆ this is the WORST piece of advice in the video; even worse than the โ€œdonโ€™t annoy herโ€ bit (which will get you in your head doing things wrong). This girl has a wide face, deep voice, and high confidence, so sheโ€™s probably higher testosterone and extroverted. Girls like this are go-getters who will chase down guys on their own and make things happen sometimes (hence the โ€œdeciding to have a chatโ€ with a guy when she liked his opener). Most women are NOT extroverted high testosterone women who will take charge and make things happen themselves. Most women are PASSIVE. The average girl who is into you will not text you first if you give her your number. She will just look at it, debate whether to text you, think about what she should text, feel self-conscious about it, feel like she shouldnโ€™t be the first one to text, then you will simply never hear from her. You need to get HER number, so YOU can text, not give her YOURS. ๐Ÿ†‡ MISLEADING: โ€œsweet and endearingโ€, sorry to say it and pop anyoneโ€™s bubble, but women do not usually hook up with the โ€œsweet and endearingโ€ guys. They think the stuff these guys do is โ€œcuteโ€, like how little children and pets are โ€œcuteโ€, but they do not find them SEXY. You need to be in the lead, taking CHARGE, leading her through an interaction she enjoys, and setting the pace. Do not be โ€œsweet and endearing.โ€ Anyway, this girl seems really cool and itโ€™s neat that she wants to help guys out. Well-meaning women advising you on dating though are some of the most dangerous because they believe what they are saying and just do not KNOW when the advice theyโ€™re giving is counterproductive for a man to actually use vs. productive! (That said, positive encouragement for men to approach & flirt is ALWAYS good! So hat tip to her!)
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This girl gets some of her flirting advice right, but some is very OFF BASE. This is why you have to take dating advice for men that comes from women with a giant grain of salt ๐Ÿง‚ Some of womenโ€™s advice may be usefulโ€ฆ but some of it will always be MISLEADING. If you are not already savvy enough to tell the difference, youโ€™ll mix in the bad with the good and not know where youโ€™re tripping up. Break down of what is useful vs. what is MISLEADING: โœ… USEFUL: do not open her with โ€œYouโ€™re really pretty/beautiful, I wanted to meet you.โ€ She doesnโ€™t know what to say to that; she has also heard it before so many times you sound like a broken record. You can say pretty much ANYTHING other than this (e.g.: โ€œHey, howโ€™s it going?โ€ This is 10x better than a generic looks-based compliment). โœ… USEFUL: open her with something relevant to the situation. Situationally relevant openers can work great. For instance: โ€œThink weโ€™ll be in line forever?โ€ if youโ€™re waiting in line, or โ€œThe art here sure is interesting huh,โ€ if thereโ€™s a weird piece of art. ๐Ÿ†‡ MISLEADING: you should not expect a girl to take over on your opener, like this girl did with the โ€œcute/sweetโ€ coffee recommendation opener. Most girls are not outgoing enough that they are going to decide to โ€œhave a chatโ€ with you immediately on the open. You are the man; you need to EXPECT to drive at least the first 2 minutes of conversation YOURSELF! โœ… USEFUL: โ€œkeep the conversation short, sweet, casual, funโ€: all that, yes. The initial conversation needs to be light, playful, and engaging. Tease her within the first 30 seconds (thatโ€™s how she knows itโ€™s a FLIRTATION and not a platonic chat). Make an observation about her or two (keep it positive and light). Tap her on the forearm on a joke or a high point. SMILE! You want your presence to be a warm, welcome, & flirtatious one. ๐Ÿ†‡ MISLEADING: โ€œworst thing you could possibly do is annoy her with your presenceโ€; I mean, YES, BUT you do not need to be thinking about โ€œIโ€™d better not annoy herโ€ when you are talking to girls. If you do, you will play it too safe, act very boring, get into your head, and become uninteresting and un-fun. Instead, just focus on bringing fun and good energy (not โ€˜avoiding annoyanceโ€™). โœ… USEFUL: what she is calling a โ€˜non-invasive call to actionโ€™ (is this chick a marketer? Because this is marketer speak!) we call a โ€˜soft closeโ€™. Yes, soft close her. Easy one-size-fits-all soft close you can use with any girl (say this on a high point): โ€œWe should grab a bite or a drink sometime.โ€ As soon as she says โ€œyesโ€, you have your green light ๐ŸŸข to grab her # ๐Ÿ†‡ MISLEADING: โ€œgive her your numberโ€โ€ฆ this is the WORST piece of advice in the video; even worse than the โ€œdonโ€™t annoy herโ€ bit (which will get you in your head doing things wrong). This girl has a wide face, deep voice, and high confidence, so sheโ€™s probably higher testosterone and extroverted. Girls like this are go-getters who will chase down guys on their own and make things happen sometimes (hence the โ€œdeciding to have a chatโ€ with a guy when she liked his opener). Most women are NOT extroverted high testosterone women who will take charge and make things happen themselves. Most women are PASSIVE. The average girl who is into you will not text you first if you give her your number. She will just look at it, debate whether to text you, think about what she should text, feel self-conscious about it, feel like she shouldnโ€™t be the first one to text, then you will simply never hear from her. You need to get HER number, so YOU can text, not give her YOURS. ๐Ÿ†‡ MISLEADING: โ€œsweet and endearingโ€, sorry to say it and pop anyoneโ€™s bubble, but women do not usually hook up with the โ€œsweet and endearingโ€ guys. They think the stuff these guys do is โ€œcuteโ€, like how little children and pets are โ€œcuteโ€, but they do not find them SEXY. You need to be in the lead, taking CHARGE, leading her through an interaction she enjoys, and setting the pace. Do not be โ€œsweet and endearing.โ€ Anyway, this girl seems really cool and itโ€™s neat that she wants to help guys out. Well-meaning women advising you on dating though are some of the most dangerous because they believe what they are saying and just do not KNOW when the advice theyโ€™re giving is counterproductive for a man to actually use vs. productive! (That said, positive encouragement for men to approach & flirt is ALWAYS good! So hat tip to her!)

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Most guys do not realize how dirty, naughty, and sexual women are. The average woman is way dirtier than the average man. I donโ€™t think Iโ€™ve ever met a woman who wasnโ€™t turned on by public sex, for example. Very few men are as into it as women are. As a guy, when youโ€™re about to get it on with a girl in public, sheโ€™s there moaning, telling you to โ€œput it inโ€; meanwhile you are looking around to check if anyone else is nearby while positioning her in this uncomfortable public position in the dirt, in the cold, and telling her โ€œall right, hold on, Iโ€™m working on it, let me just get it up here, give me a second, sheesh!โ€ If you read a womanโ€™s romance novel, there is so much ink spilled on teasing, build up, this sex act, that sex act, the other sex act, that itโ€™s basically unreadable if you are a guy. As a guy, you just wanna get your hot dog in her hot dog bun. But women want to do all KINDS of stuff. Thereโ€™s a million things sexually these girls want to do. So why arenโ€™t girls jumping at the chance to go to bed with every guy they meet? โœ… She needs to TRUST a guy first. Trust that she is safe with him. Trust that he will not judge her. Trust that it wonโ€™t affect her reputation. Many men arenโ€™t good at building trust. Trust is KEY. โœ… She needs some degree of attraction to the guy. Not NEARLY as much as most guys think. She does NOT need to be wild with desire for you to sleep with you. It is even possible to sleep with women who really are not attracted to you at all, but who are just bored (and horny) and you did the moves right. (Or, bonus round, you just offered her an experience she has always fantasized about, so even if you are not her dream guy, she nevertheless says fine, letโ€™s do it.) โœ… She needs to be aroused. You know the whole โ€œwomenโ€™s arousal is like a dimmerโ€ thingโ€ฆ itโ€™s accurate. You need to ramp her arousal up with touch, teasing, flirtation, innuendo, sex talk, etc. โœ… She needs to be ALONE with you. If she trusts you enough, you can get her alone with you. Once sheโ€™s alone with you, if there is trust there, and thereโ€™s arousal, and maybe a bit of attraction, you will get her clothes off. Yesโ€ฆ even if she is a โ€˜goodโ€™ girl. โ€˜Goodโ€™ girls did not manage to pass down their genes by hating sex (they are just a bit more selective about the men they have it with, is all. They need more TRUST!). Also: donโ€™t be UNNERVED by female sexuality. Every girl has a tigress inside her waiting for the right guy to unleash itโ€ฆ a guy who makes her trust him, arouses her, gets her alone with him, and maybe creates some attraction with her. Womenโ€™s romance novels are ALL about this. Womenโ€™s romances in real life are as well. In fact, in real life, women often settle for far less ideal situations: men they donโ€™t completely trust, arenโ€™t that attracted to, are only partway aroused by, who get them alone somewhere. The better a job you can do approaching her sexual โ€œPlatonic idealโ€, the more reliably you can bring out that sexual tigress lurking inside of EVERY woman (even the โ€˜goodโ€™ girls).
1:05

Most guys do not realize how dirty, naughty, and sexual women are. The average woman is way dirtier than the average man. I donโ€™t think Iโ€™ve ever met a woman who wasnโ€™t turned on by public sex, for example. Very few men are as into it as women are. As a guy, when youโ€™re about to get it on with a girl in public, sheโ€™s there moaning, telling you to โ€œput it inโ€; meanwhile you are looking around to check if anyone else is nearby while positioning her in this uncomfortable public position in the dirt, in the cold, and telling her โ€œall right, hold on, Iโ€™m working on it, let me just get it up here, give me a second, sheesh!โ€ If you read a womanโ€™s romance novel, there is so much ink spilled on teasing, build up, this sex act, that sex act, the other sex act, that itโ€™s basically unreadable if you are a guy. As a guy, you just wanna get your hot dog in her hot dog bun. But women want to do all KINDS of stuff. Thereโ€™s a million things sexually these girls want to do. So why arenโ€™t girls jumping at the chance to go to bed with every guy they meet? โœ… She needs to TRUST a guy first. Trust that she is safe with him. Trust that he will not judge her. Trust that it wonโ€™t affect her reputation. Many men arenโ€™t good at building trust. Trust is KEY. โœ… She needs some degree of attraction to the guy. Not NEARLY as much as most guys think. She does NOT need to be wild with desire for you to sleep with you. It is even possible to sleep with women who really are not attracted to you at all, but who are just bored (and horny) and you did the moves right. (Or, bonus round, you just offered her an experience she has always fantasized about, so even if you are not her dream guy, she nevertheless says fine, letโ€™s do it.) โœ… She needs to be aroused. You know the whole โ€œwomenโ€™s arousal is like a dimmerโ€ thingโ€ฆ itโ€™s accurate. You need to ramp her arousal up with touch, teasing, flirtation, innuendo, sex talk, etc. โœ… She needs to be ALONE with you. If she trusts you enough, you can get her alone with you. Once sheโ€™s alone with you, if there is trust there, and thereโ€™s arousal, and maybe a bit of attraction, you will get her clothes off. Yesโ€ฆ even if she is a โ€˜goodโ€™ girl. โ€˜Goodโ€™ girls did not manage to pass down their genes by hating sex (they are just a bit more selective about the men they have it with, is all. They need more TRUST!). Also: donโ€™t be UNNERVED by female sexuality. Every girl has a tigress inside her waiting for the right guy to unleash itโ€ฆ a guy who makes her trust him, arouses her, gets her alone with him, and maybe creates some attraction with her. Womenโ€™s romance novels are ALL about this. Womenโ€™s romances in real life are as well. In fact, in real life, women often settle for far less ideal situations: men they donโ€™t completely trust, arenโ€™t that attracted to, are only partway aroused by, who get them alone somewhere. The better a job you can do approaching her sexual โ€œPlatonic idealโ€, the more reliably you can bring out that sexual tigress lurking inside of EVERY woman (even the โ€˜goodโ€™ girls).

Girls Chase ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ’จ

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Every working parentโ€™s nightmare: getting laid off while out on leave. Now imagine this happens to you, only youโ€™re out on leave with your second set of twins. Thatโ€™s exactly what happened to Aaron Francis and he joined me on Startup Dad to talk about it. Heโ€™s the co-founder of Try Hard Studios and makes incredible, developer-education videos. Mind-blowingly incredible. Heโ€™s also been an analyst, a developer and started his career as a Big 4 Accountant. Not exactly a traditional path to making videos for developers. โ€œAt the time my wife and I had two 2-year olds and we had just had a second set of twins. We had four kids under the age of three. I was set to go back to work on Friday and I got the call on a Wednesday. It was one of those moments where professionally it was the best time to go out on my own, but personally it was absolutely the worst time. Hear our entire conversation about: ๐Ÿ”น Navigating a loss of one of their triplets during the first pregnancy ๐Ÿ”น Life with two sets of twins ๐Ÿ”น How he and his wife managed after he was laid off on paternity leave ๐Ÿ”น The challenges of starting a business with newborns ๐Ÿ”น How to stay present with all the pings from an extremely online life ๐Ÿ”น Parenting each of his four kids differently ๐Ÿ”น Finding ways to focus on only what matters at this stage of life ๐Ÿ”น Hilarious and fascinating stories: falling asleep in a chair at the gym, building a non-traditional office space, and celebrating a birthday with a solo-staycation. If youโ€™ve ever gone to the gym to take a nap (or wanted to) or celebrated a birthday with a solo, stay-cation at a local hotel... youโ€™ll love this conversation. One of my favorite takeaways: I see two opposing sides online often, which is like becoming a parent is wonderful and therefore it's easy and everyone should do it. And then the other side is, becoming a parent is very hard, and you should only do it if you're a thousand percent sure... the reality is, there are days, there are minutes in a day, where you will go from, this is a wonderful, amazing, and this is incredibly hard, and I don't want to do it. And I think you just need to be prepared to experience all of that in a day. Watch our conversation on Youtube or listen in your favorite podcast player.
1:09

Every working parentโ€™s nightmare: getting laid off while out on leave. Now imagine this happens to you, only youโ€™re out on leave with your second set of twins. Thatโ€™s exactly what happened to Aaron Francis and he joined me on Startup Dad to talk about it. Heโ€™s the co-founder of Try Hard Studios and makes incredible, developer-education videos. Mind-blowingly incredible. Heโ€™s also been an analyst, a developer and started his career as a Big 4 Accountant. Not exactly a traditional path to making videos for developers. โ€œAt the time my wife and I had two 2-year olds and we had just had a second set of twins. We had four kids under the age of three. I was set to go back to work on Friday and I got the call on a Wednesday. It was one of those moments where professionally it was the best time to go out on my own, but personally it was absolutely the worst time. Hear our entire conversation about: ๐Ÿ”น Navigating a loss of one of their triplets during the first pregnancy ๐Ÿ”น Life with two sets of twins ๐Ÿ”น How he and his wife managed after he was laid off on paternity leave ๐Ÿ”น The challenges of starting a business with newborns ๐Ÿ”น How to stay present with all the pings from an extremely online life ๐Ÿ”น Parenting each of his four kids differently ๐Ÿ”น Finding ways to focus on only what matters at this stage of life ๐Ÿ”น Hilarious and fascinating stories: falling asleep in a chair at the gym, building a non-traditional office space, and celebrating a birthday with a solo-staycation. If youโ€™ve ever gone to the gym to take a nap (or wanted to) or celebrated a birthday with a solo, stay-cation at a local hotel... youโ€™ll love this conversation. One of my favorite takeaways: I see two opposing sides online often, which is like becoming a parent is wonderful and therefore it's easy and everyone should do it. And then the other side is, becoming a parent is very hard, and you should only do it if you're a thousand percent sure... the reality is, there are days, there are minutes in a day, where you will go from, this is a wonderful, amazing, and this is incredibly hard, and I don't want to do it. And I think you just need to be prepared to experience all of that in a day. Watch our conversation on Youtube or listen in your favorite podcast player.

Adam Fishman

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Now, let me take a moment to express how much I love, respect, and admire Becky. She is an extraordinary person, not only immensely talented but also incredibly kind, hardworking, and genuine. Watching her grow and succeed has been truly inspiring. From her acting to her confidence, her determination to her grace, she continues to amaze me with every project she takes on. I am so proud of all that she has accomplished and the light she brings to the world. Her ability to face challenges with strength while staying true to herself is something I deeply admire. Becky, you are an incredible role model and a beautiful soul, and I will always be here to cheer you on. ๐Ÿ’– Moving on! ๐Ÿ˜ Letโ€™s take a moment to appreciate that #FreenBecky, honestly, are a flawless duo. If you disagree, well, I hate to break it to you, but thatโ€™s just delusion speaking. Facts are facts, whether you like it or not! ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ Take a moment to consider that Beckyโ€™s name is part of FreenBECKY. They are recognized because of that, went global because of that, and, as a result, have been able to take on many more solo projects while also gaining even more recognition both individually and as a CP. How can you claim to care about Becky while constantly tearing her down? If you truly support her, it means embracing all aspects of her life, who she is, who she chooses to be with, and the people she collaborates with or considers her friends. Itโ€™s disheartening to see these so-called 'fans' trying to control her life. They undermine her, disrespect her, and throw insults with no regard for her feelings or well-being. Such people donโ€™t deserve to be called fans. And letโ€™s be honest, itโ€™s not just one group at fault. While BTSS often take the blame, FTSS isnโ€™t innocent either. Both groups contribute to the toxicity, and itโ€™s truly disgusting to witness. Becky and Freen deserve nothing but peace, love, and joy in their lives. ๐Ÿค If you don't love the other, at least show them the RESPECT they deserve... nobody told you to like them but at least show them the respect they deserve. ๐Ÿซต If you genuinely care about your favorite, show it by respecting and appreciating the person who brings light into her life, even if that person isnโ€™t your favorite. You donโ€™t have to like or love them, but at the very least, stop the childish behavior and let them live in peace. Grow up, touch some grass, and leave them alone. True fans prioritize the happiness and well-being of the person they admire. This means accepting relationships or collaborations that may not align with your personal preferences. Targeting someone with insults, whether itโ€™s her co-workers or friends, isnโ€™t just disrespectful; itโ€™s harmful and likely takes a toll on both Becky and Freen. As fans, our role is simple: uplift and support. Becky and Freen have openly shared how much joy and calm they bring to each otherโ€™s lives, and if you genuinely support them, that happiness should matter to you too. Speaking to BTSS: If youโ€™re not here for Beckyโ€™s happiness or to support her unconditionally, whether it's solo or CP work, then why are you still here? Save us all the trouble and leave, preferably while letting the door hit you on the way out. ๐Ÿ˜’ At the end of the day, all I want is for Becky to be happy. Seeing her smile genuinely, with that sparkle in her eyes that lights up everything around her, thatโ€™s all I need. And itโ€™s clear that being with Freen brings her that joy. :๐Ÿค) Whatever their relationship may be, I sincerely hope they remain by each otherโ€™s sides for years to come. Beckyโ€™s happiness is what matters most, and knowing she has someone like Freen, along with her family, who brings that out in her, fills my heart with nothing but love. :) ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿคโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿผ P.S: videos used are not mine.. I'm not an expert at video editing, but I just wanted to compile a few moments to show their memories and happiness together. Try not to smile while watching the video btw ๐Ÿ˜ and the ending ๐Ÿ’…๐Ÿ˜Œ #beckysangels #srchafreen #เธŸเธฃเธตเธ™เน€เธšเธ„
23:29

Now, let me take a moment to express how much I love, respect, and admire Becky. She is an extraordinary person, not only immensely talented but also incredibly kind, hardworking, and genuine. Watching her grow and succeed has been truly inspiring. From her acting to her confidence, her determination to her grace, she continues to amaze me with every project she takes on. I am so proud of all that she has accomplished and the light she brings to the world. Her ability to face challenges with strength while staying true to herself is something I deeply admire. Becky, you are an incredible role model and a beautiful soul, and I will always be here to cheer you on. ๐Ÿ’– Moving on! ๐Ÿ˜ Letโ€™s take a moment to appreciate that #FreenBecky, honestly, are a flawless duo. If you disagree, well, I hate to break it to you, but thatโ€™s just delusion speaking. Facts are facts, whether you like it or not! ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ Take a moment to consider that Beckyโ€™s name is part of FreenBECKY. They are recognized because of that, went global because of that, and, as a result, have been able to take on many more solo projects while also gaining even more recognition both individually and as a CP. How can you claim to care about Becky while constantly tearing her down? If you truly support her, it means embracing all aspects of her life, who she is, who she chooses to be with, and the people she collaborates with or considers her friends. Itโ€™s disheartening to see these so-called 'fans' trying to control her life. They undermine her, disrespect her, and throw insults with no regard for her feelings or well-being. Such people donโ€™t deserve to be called fans. And letโ€™s be honest, itโ€™s not just one group at fault. While BTSS often take the blame, FTSS isnโ€™t innocent either. Both groups contribute to the toxicity, and itโ€™s truly disgusting to witness. Becky and Freen deserve nothing but peace, love, and joy in their lives. ๐Ÿค If you don't love the other, at least show them the RESPECT they deserve... nobody told you to like them but at least show them the respect they deserve. ๐Ÿซต If you genuinely care about your favorite, show it by respecting and appreciating the person who brings light into her life, even if that person isnโ€™t your favorite. You donโ€™t have to like or love them, but at the very least, stop the childish behavior and let them live in peace. Grow up, touch some grass, and leave them alone. True fans prioritize the happiness and well-being of the person they admire. This means accepting relationships or collaborations that may not align with your personal preferences. Targeting someone with insults, whether itโ€™s her co-workers or friends, isnโ€™t just disrespectful; itโ€™s harmful and likely takes a toll on both Becky and Freen. As fans, our role is simple: uplift and support. Becky and Freen have openly shared how much joy and calm they bring to each otherโ€™s lives, and if you genuinely support them, that happiness should matter to you too. Speaking to BTSS: If youโ€™re not here for Beckyโ€™s happiness or to support her unconditionally, whether it's solo or CP work, then why are you still here? Save us all the trouble and leave, preferably while letting the door hit you on the way out. ๐Ÿ˜’ At the end of the day, all I want is for Becky to be happy. Seeing her smile genuinely, with that sparkle in her eyes that lights up everything around her, thatโ€™s all I need. And itโ€™s clear that being with Freen brings her that joy. :๐Ÿค) Whatever their relationship may be, I sincerely hope they remain by each otherโ€™s sides for years to come. Beckyโ€™s happiness is what matters most, and knowing she has someone like Freen, along with her family, who brings that out in her, fills my heart with nothing but love. :) ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿปโ€๐Ÿคโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿผ P.S: videos used are not mine.. I'm not an expert at video editing, but I just wanted to compile a few moments to show their memories and happiness together. Try not to smile while watching the video btw ๐Ÿ˜ and the ending ๐Ÿ’…๐Ÿ˜Œ #beckysangels #srchafreen #เธŸเธฃเธตเธ™เน€เธšเธ„

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There is no hope for a lot of Gen Z guys. If a girl rejecting you with something like โ€œArenโ€™t you too old?โ€ is now โ€˜shamingโ€™, Gen Z is COOKED โ™จ๏ธ Let me tell you something: women have been telling guys they are โ€œtoo oldโ€, โ€œtoo shortโ€, โ€œtoo poorโ€, etc., since TIME IMMEMORIAL. The reason women give you for rejecting you has nothing to do with the actual reason theyโ€™re rejecting you. It is also not solely or principally due to โ€œnot finding you physically attractiveโ€, like this guy seems to think. Here is a brief list of reasons women may give you for rejecting you: โ€ข Youโ€™re too young โ€ข Youโ€™re too old โ€ข Youโ€™re too short โ€ข Youโ€™re too tall โ€ข They donโ€™t know you โ€ข They donโ€™t date your race guys โ€ข They prefer to date guys from their country โ€ข Theyโ€™re not looking to date right now โ€ข They donโ€™t feel like youโ€™re their type These reasons are completely irrelevant and women constantly violate their own rules. She rejects you for being too short, then you catch her hooking up with a guy shorter than you. She rejects you for being too young, then you see her playing cougar to a guy 3 years younger than you. She rejects you for being too old, then you find out sheโ€™s dating a dude 8 years older than you. You can either take this stuff to heart and let it BREAK you, and go cry on the Internet about โ€œbeing shamedโ€, and get into a circle-jerk with a bunch of other dudes in the Internet safe space who jerk you off and talk about how โ€œitโ€™s so hard out here with these girls, all shaming youโ€, or you can suck it up, get a little testosterone flowing through your nads, and do better. Let me tell you something else: All those โ€˜rejectionโ€™ reasons are actually TESTS. If you handle them appropriately, you can still get the girl. When a girl says, โ€œArenโ€™t you too old?โ€ and you say, โ€œNo, Iโ€™m exactly the right age. How old are YOU?โ€ you take control of the frame. If you CONTINUE to keep control of the frame, she becomes attracted. Thatโ€™s how attraction works: It is not due to some facile calculation in her brain of โ€œhe is insufficiently looksmaxxed therefore RULED OUT!โ€ Instead, the calculation in her brain is saying, โ€œHmm, he doesnโ€™t look like the kinds of guys Iโ€™m accustomed to. Letโ€™s see what heโ€™s got!โ€ So, she tests you. You either own the test and get the girl, or you fold up, talk about being โ€œshamedโ€, and go cry on the Internet. So here is some advice: 1๏ธโƒฃ Stop being a pussy who talks about โ€˜being shamedโ€™ (i.e., estrogenmaxxing) 2๏ธโƒฃ Learn a little FRAME CONTROL and learn how to LEAD (i.e., testosteronemaxxing) 3๏ธโƒฃ Start getting those girls who push back on you rather than slinking off in utter defeat The first time you take some girl trying to test you and turn her into date or lay, you will have unlocked a whole new world for yourselfโ€ฆ one in which, rather than crumple anytime anyone gives you any resistance, you learn how to take what you want from life. Godspeed!
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There is no hope for a lot of Gen Z guys. If a girl rejecting you with something like โ€œArenโ€™t you too old?โ€ is now โ€˜shamingโ€™, Gen Z is COOKED โ™จ๏ธ Let me tell you something: women have been telling guys they are โ€œtoo oldโ€, โ€œtoo shortโ€, โ€œtoo poorโ€, etc., since TIME IMMEMORIAL. The reason women give you for rejecting you has nothing to do with the actual reason theyโ€™re rejecting you. It is also not solely or principally due to โ€œnot finding you physically attractiveโ€, like this guy seems to think. Here is a brief list of reasons women may give you for rejecting you: โ€ข Youโ€™re too young โ€ข Youโ€™re too old โ€ข Youโ€™re too short โ€ข Youโ€™re too tall โ€ข They donโ€™t know you โ€ข They donโ€™t date your race guys โ€ข They prefer to date guys from their country โ€ข Theyโ€™re not looking to date right now โ€ข They donโ€™t feel like youโ€™re their type These reasons are completely irrelevant and women constantly violate their own rules. She rejects you for being too short, then you catch her hooking up with a guy shorter than you. She rejects you for being too young, then you see her playing cougar to a guy 3 years younger than you. She rejects you for being too old, then you find out sheโ€™s dating a dude 8 years older than you. You can either take this stuff to heart and let it BREAK you, and go cry on the Internet about โ€œbeing shamedโ€, and get into a circle-jerk with a bunch of other dudes in the Internet safe space who jerk you off and talk about how โ€œitโ€™s so hard out here with these girls, all shaming youโ€, or you can suck it up, get a little testosterone flowing through your nads, and do better. Let me tell you something else: All those โ€˜rejectionโ€™ reasons are actually TESTS. If you handle them appropriately, you can still get the girl. When a girl says, โ€œArenโ€™t you too old?โ€ and you say, โ€œNo, Iโ€™m exactly the right age. How old are YOU?โ€ you take control of the frame. If you CONTINUE to keep control of the frame, she becomes attracted. Thatโ€™s how attraction works: It is not due to some facile calculation in her brain of โ€œhe is insufficiently looksmaxxed therefore RULED OUT!โ€ Instead, the calculation in her brain is saying, โ€œHmm, he doesnโ€™t look like the kinds of guys Iโ€™m accustomed to. Letโ€™s see what heโ€™s got!โ€ So, she tests you. You either own the test and get the girl, or you fold up, talk about being โ€œshamedโ€, and go cry on the Internet. So here is some advice: 1๏ธโƒฃ Stop being a pussy who talks about โ€˜being shamedโ€™ (i.e., estrogenmaxxing) 2๏ธโƒฃ Learn a little FRAME CONTROL and learn how to LEAD (i.e., testosteronemaxxing) 3๏ธโƒฃ Start getting those girls who push back on you rather than slinking off in utter defeat The first time you take some girl trying to test you and turn her into date or lay, you will have unlocked a whole new world for yourselfโ€ฆ one in which, rather than crumple anytime anyone gives you any resistance, you learn how to take what you want from life. Godspeed!

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She is correct that the man who can coolly, casually walk away from a girl if she rejects him often receives a major attraction boost in that girlโ€™s eyes. Though interestingly her attempt to explain WHY women get that attraction boost is way off! Anyway, the basics are: โžก๏ธ When you approach, she does not know who you are and how youโ€™ll react to being rejected โžก๏ธ Her ASSUMPTION is that you are probably an โ€˜average guyโ€™, like most guys, and will be a bit offended, a bit let down, or perhaps even not take โ€œnoโ€ for an answer and hang around a bit trying to get her to change her mind โžก๏ธ If instead you bow out in a graceful way and leave completely unflustered, she goes, โ€œOh. Wait. Maybe he is NOT some average guy. Is he actually a COOL guy?โ€ The girl in the video tries to explain this attraction boost by saying the woman thinks, โ€œMaybe he was actually interested in me?โ€ But that is not what is going on. Both the guy who refuses to take โ€œnoโ€ for an answer and the guy who coolly walks off might have been โ€œactually interestedโ€ in her (or not, or whatever being โ€œactually interestedโ€ even is supposed to mean). Instead, what is really happening is she is observing that the man is: โ€ข Not needy โ€ข Not butt-hurt โ€ข Socially savvy โ€ข In a word, COOL โ„๏ธ โ€ฆ and immediately her brain starts going, โ€œOh wait; is he NOT average? He didnโ€™t react like how an average guy does. Average guys get mad, or sad, or pushy. He was totally unaffected and cool and just left. Wait, why did I not affect him? Does he not think Iโ€™m pretty enough? But I affect other guys! Why is HE not affected?โ€ At that point, her certainty is shattered, she is thrown into confusion, and sheโ€™s become very curious about this man. Not that thatโ€™s especially helpful if youโ€™re cold approaching during the daytimeโ€ฆ youโ€™ll probably never see her again. But if you just approached a girl you see regularly, Or you approached a girl in a social venue, party, or event youโ€™ll be circulating around in for a bit, Or any other context where you are likely to encounter the same girl MORE than once, Then this โ€˜walk away effectโ€™ can absolutely work to your advantage. You will even notice that when you again bump into girls you coolly walked away from early on, they are often a lot WARMER and MORE ENTHUSIASTICโ€ฆ a big part of why was simply just how you handled the rejection. Womenโ€™s attraction is fluid. It is behavior-based. A guy being unaffected by a woman rejecting him is a MAJOR flex. Most guys canโ€™t do it. If you can, it immediately bolsters your attractiveness in womenโ€™s eyes.
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She is correct that the man who can coolly, casually walk away from a girl if she rejects him often receives a major attraction boost in that girlโ€™s eyes. Though interestingly her attempt to explain WHY women get that attraction boost is way off! Anyway, the basics are: โžก๏ธ When you approach, she does not know who you are and how youโ€™ll react to being rejected โžก๏ธ Her ASSUMPTION is that you are probably an โ€˜average guyโ€™, like most guys, and will be a bit offended, a bit let down, or perhaps even not take โ€œnoโ€ for an answer and hang around a bit trying to get her to change her mind โžก๏ธ If instead you bow out in a graceful way and leave completely unflustered, she goes, โ€œOh. Wait. Maybe he is NOT some average guy. Is he actually a COOL guy?โ€ The girl in the video tries to explain this attraction boost by saying the woman thinks, โ€œMaybe he was actually interested in me?โ€ But that is not what is going on. Both the guy who refuses to take โ€œnoโ€ for an answer and the guy who coolly walks off might have been โ€œactually interestedโ€ in her (or not, or whatever being โ€œactually interestedโ€ even is supposed to mean). Instead, what is really happening is she is observing that the man is: โ€ข Not needy โ€ข Not butt-hurt โ€ข Socially savvy โ€ข In a word, COOL โ„๏ธ โ€ฆ and immediately her brain starts going, โ€œOh wait; is he NOT average? He didnโ€™t react like how an average guy does. Average guys get mad, or sad, or pushy. He was totally unaffected and cool and just left. Wait, why did I not affect him? Does he not think Iโ€™m pretty enough? But I affect other guys! Why is HE not affected?โ€ At that point, her certainty is shattered, she is thrown into confusion, and sheโ€™s become very curious about this man. Not that thatโ€™s especially helpful if youโ€™re cold approaching during the daytimeโ€ฆ youโ€™ll probably never see her again. But if you just approached a girl you see regularly, Or you approached a girl in a social venue, party, or event youโ€™ll be circulating around in for a bit, Or any other context where you are likely to encounter the same girl MORE than once, Then this โ€˜walk away effectโ€™ can absolutely work to your advantage. You will even notice that when you again bump into girls you coolly walked away from early on, they are often a lot WARMER and MORE ENTHUSIASTICโ€ฆ a big part of why was simply just how you handled the rejection. Womenโ€™s attraction is fluid. It is behavior-based. A guy being unaffected by a woman rejecting him is a MAJOR flex. Most guys canโ€™t do it. If you can, it immediately bolsters your attractiveness in womenโ€™s eyes.

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Vayne takes you on a hunt. you don't know why. she doesn't take anyone. she says stay behind me. don't speak unless i speak first. don't make a sound when we move. you say yes. she looks at you for a second longer than usual. "if i tell you to run, you run. you don't look back for me. are we clear" you say yes. she doesn't answer. she just turns and walks out the door. you follow her through the city streets. she moves different when she's working. shoulders lower. steps shorter. her head doesn't turn but her eyes do. you can feel her cataloguing everything. the man smoking outside the tavern. the cat under the cart. the second floor window with the curtain half drawn. she leads you through an alley you didn't know existed. stops at a brick wall. then she climbs. there are handholds carved into the mortar that you wouldn't have noticed if she hadn't used them first. she's halfway up before she realizes you're still at the bottom. she looks down at you. "up" you climb. your hands are shaking by the time you reach the top. the roof is flat. old clay tiles along the edges. a low wall you can crouch behind. the city stretches out below you in every direction. a thousand windows glowing gold in the dusk. she's already at the far side. crouched. crossbow unslung. watching a building across the square. she doesn't look at you when you come up beside her. "stay low" you crouch. "that building. third floor. second window from the left" you look. "i see it" he'll come to that window sometime tonight. i've watched him do it for three nights. i want to know who he meets you ask who he is. her jaw tightens. "a demon pretending to be a man" you don't ask what that means. you settle in beside her. the wind is up here. it pulls at her hair and she doesn't bother fixing it. the sun is going down behind her. her profile in the gold light looks like something carved. her hands on the crossbow are steady. completely still. you've never seen anyone be this still. an hour passes. she doesn't move. you try not to move. your leg falls asleep. you shift an inch. she looks at you. you go completely still again. she looks back at the window. another hour. the sun is gone. the city is blue and black. lamps are lighting up one by one. the air is getting cold. you're shivering before you realize you're shivering. she notices. she doesn't say anything. then she takes off her cloak. doesn't look at you. holds it out to the side. "take it" you say "you'll be cold" "i don't get cold. take it" you take it. it's warm from her. it smells like leather and steel and something underneath. pine. smoke. something you can't name. you put it around your shoulders. the hem pools on the tile. it's huge on you. it's not huge on her. you hadn't realized how tall she is until you were wearing her cloak. she doesn't look at you for the next ten minutes. the stars come out. she shifts closer to you. just a little. so her shoulder is almost touching yours. you don't say anything about it. she doesn't either. you can feel the heat coming off her even through the cloak. another hour. still nothing at the window. she says "tell me something" you blink. "what" "anything. i need to stay sharp. talking keeps me sharp. not about the target. something else" you didn't expect that. you tell her about a book you've been reading. she listens. actually listens. her eyes never leave the window but you can tell she's hearing every word. she asks one question. you answer. she goes quiet again. you keep talking. quieter now. she interrupts you. "shh" she's not looking at the window anymore. she's looking at the roof two buildings over. you don't see anything. you don't see anything for a long time. then you do. a shadow that moves the wrong way. her hand finds yours. she doesn't look at you when she does it. her eyes don't leave the shadow. her fingers lace through yours and LOCK. tight. too tight. knuckles going white around your hand. "don't move" she breathes. you don't move. you can feel every ounce of her focus through her grip. it's not a lover's hold. it's a predator's. every muscle in her hand coiled. ready to drop yours the instant she needs the crossbow. she's not holding you for you. she's holding you to keep track of where you are without having to look. it should scare you. it doesn't. there is something about being held that tight by someone that dangerous that makes the rest of the world go quiet. your heartbeat slows. your breathing slows. the cold stops mattering. you are not the one hunting but you are with the one who is. and nothing is going to get through her to reach you. the shadow crosses the roof and disappears into a stairwell. she watches the spot it left for another full minute. her hand is still locked around yours. she doesn't loosen it. you don't want her to. finally she lets out a breath you didn't know she was holding. "not him. but someone who works for him" her grip eases. slowly. finger by finger. like she's having to consciously tell each one to let go. the last one is her thumb. it stays against your palm for half a second longer than the rest. then she takes her hand back. the cold rushes in where she was. she glances at you. just for a second. then she looks back at the window. the rest of the night she's quieter than before. the target never shows. when the sky starts turning grey she stands up. stretches. rolls her shoulders. looks out over the city one last time. "we're done" you stand too. your legs don't work right. she catches your elbow without looking. "careful" she keeps her hand there until you're steady. then she takes it away. you start to hand her cloak back. she says "keep it for the climb down" she goes first. you follow. the handholds are easier going down once you know where they are. when you're both on the ground she turns to take the cloak. you hand it to her. her fingers brush yours. she doesn't pull back as fast as she usually does. she puts the cloak back on. it's warm now. from you. she has to notice. she doesn't say anything about it. she walks you home. at your door she stops. "don't tell anyone what you saw tonight" you say "i didn't see much" she looks at you. her eyes in the lamplight. the edge of her mouth. almost softer than it should be. "you saw enough" then she turns and walks back into the dark. you close the door. your hand still feels cold where hers was. you can still smell pine on your shirt. you don't sleep. Study the Saskio way
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Vayne takes you on a hunt. you don't know why. she doesn't take anyone. she says stay behind me. don't speak unless i speak first. don't make a sound when we move. you say yes. she looks at you for a second longer than usual. "if i tell you to run, you run. you don't look back for me. are we clear" you say yes. she doesn't answer. she just turns and walks out the door. you follow her through the city streets. she moves different when she's working. shoulders lower. steps shorter. her head doesn't turn but her eyes do. you can feel her cataloguing everything. the man smoking outside the tavern. the cat under the cart. the second floor window with the curtain half drawn. she leads you through an alley you didn't know existed. stops at a brick wall. then she climbs. there are handholds carved into the mortar that you wouldn't have noticed if she hadn't used them first. she's halfway up before she realizes you're still at the bottom. she looks down at you. "up" you climb. your hands are shaking by the time you reach the top. the roof is flat. old clay tiles along the edges. a low wall you can crouch behind. the city stretches out below you in every direction. a thousand windows glowing gold in the dusk. she's already at the far side. crouched. crossbow unslung. watching a building across the square. she doesn't look at you when you come up beside her. "stay low" you crouch. "that building. third floor. second window from the left" you look. "i see it" he'll come to that window sometime tonight. i've watched him do it for three nights. i want to know who he meets you ask who he is. her jaw tightens. "a demon pretending to be a man" you don't ask what that means. you settle in beside her. the wind is up here. it pulls at her hair and she doesn't bother fixing it. the sun is going down behind her. her profile in the gold light looks like something carved. her hands on the crossbow are steady. completely still. you've never seen anyone be this still. an hour passes. she doesn't move. you try not to move. your leg falls asleep. you shift an inch. she looks at you. you go completely still again. she looks back at the window. another hour. the sun is gone. the city is blue and black. lamps are lighting up one by one. the air is getting cold. you're shivering before you realize you're shivering. she notices. she doesn't say anything. then she takes off her cloak. doesn't look at you. holds it out to the side. "take it" you say "you'll be cold" "i don't get cold. take it" you take it. it's warm from her. it smells like leather and steel and something underneath. pine. smoke. something you can't name. you put it around your shoulders. the hem pools on the tile. it's huge on you. it's not huge on her. you hadn't realized how tall she is until you were wearing her cloak. she doesn't look at you for the next ten minutes. the stars come out. she shifts closer to you. just a little. so her shoulder is almost touching yours. you don't say anything about it. she doesn't either. you can feel the heat coming off her even through the cloak. another hour. still nothing at the window. she says "tell me something" you blink. "what" "anything. i need to stay sharp. talking keeps me sharp. not about the target. something else" you didn't expect that. you tell her about a book you've been reading. she listens. actually listens. her eyes never leave the window but you can tell she's hearing every word. she asks one question. you answer. she goes quiet again. you keep talking. quieter now. she interrupts you. "shh" she's not looking at the window anymore. she's looking at the roof two buildings over. you don't see anything. you don't see anything for a long time. then you do. a shadow that moves the wrong way. her hand finds yours. she doesn't look at you when she does it. her eyes don't leave the shadow. her fingers lace through yours and LOCK. tight. too tight. knuckles going white around your hand. "don't move" she breathes. you don't move. you can feel every ounce of her focus through her grip. it's not a lover's hold. it's a predator's. every muscle in her hand coiled. ready to drop yours the instant she needs the crossbow. she's not holding you for you. she's holding you to keep track of where you are without having to look. it should scare you. it doesn't. there is something about being held that tight by someone that dangerous that makes the rest of the world go quiet. your heartbeat slows. your breathing slows. the cold stops mattering. you are not the one hunting but you are with the one who is. and nothing is going to get through her to reach you. the shadow crosses the roof and disappears into a stairwell. she watches the spot it left for another full minute. her hand is still locked around yours. she doesn't loosen it. you don't want her to. finally she lets out a breath you didn't know she was holding. "not him. but someone who works for him" her grip eases. slowly. finger by finger. like she's having to consciously tell each one to let go. the last one is her thumb. it stays against your palm for half a second longer than the rest. then she takes her hand back. the cold rushes in where she was. she glances at you. just for a second. then she looks back at the window. the rest of the night she's quieter than before. the target never shows. when the sky starts turning grey she stands up. stretches. rolls her shoulders. looks out over the city one last time. "we're done" you stand too. your legs don't work right. she catches your elbow without looking. "careful" she keeps her hand there until you're steady. then she takes it away. you start to hand her cloak back. she says "keep it for the climb down" she goes first. you follow. the handholds are easier going down once you know where they are. when you're both on the ground she turns to take the cloak. you hand it to her. her fingers brush yours. she doesn't pull back as fast as she usually does. she puts the cloak back on. it's warm now. from you. she has to notice. she doesn't say anything about it. she walks you home. at your door she stops. "don't tell anyone what you saw tonight" you say "i didn't see much" she looks at you. her eyes in the lamplight. the edge of her mouth. almost softer than it should be. "you saw enough" then she turns and walks back into the dark. you close the door. your hand still feels cold where hers was. you can still smell pine on your shirt. you don't sleep. Study the Saskio way

Tony Chau

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THIS IS SO PURE AND SWEET~~ lom got herself such a fairytale type of love ๐Ÿซ ๐Ÿซณ๐Ÿป๐Ÿซณ๐Ÿป #เน€เธชเธ™เนˆเธซเธฒเธงเธฒเน‚เธข *SPOILERS* :) . . . "lom?" the beautiful woman called out the name of the person she shared the house with. however, since she had woken up a little later than usual this morning and wayo hadn't come to wake her, when she got up, she found the house empty. after celebrating with wine last night, she was feeling a bit hungover, but not as much as the sickness caused by the local liquor that had made her feel ill before. "where could she have gone? she didn't leave a note" it had become an unspoken rule between them ever since they had to face the rebels that they always inform each other before going anywhere, so they would always know the other was safe. but today, catherine didn't understand why wayo had broken that rule. if she didn't hear from her, she would have to go look around the house or ask the villagers. "blew" "what are the kids doing here?" "come on, let's go" catherine looked at shasha, who eagerly grabbed her hand, pulling her to walk along. the other children surrounded her, leaving no chance to ask where they were going. having been there for a week, catherine had become close with the children, just as she had with wayo. the kids often invited her and wayo to play or to teach them activities during their free time. "where are we going, shasha?" "it's a secret" the little girl giggled and led her to a resting area on a hill. then she instructed her to stop and wait there, telling her to close her eyes and count in her mind. catherine agreed to follow the instructions, but as she was counting, she heard the sound of children running down the hill. perhaps it was a prank. or maybe just their idea of fun. "you can open your eyes now" "lom! what's going on? don't tell me you planned this with the kids" "yes, i asked the kids to help bring you here" wayo smiled as she appeared to reveal the surprise that had been planned. she had come up with this idea the night before and successfully prepared it with the help of the children early that morning. "don't do thatโ€”i woke up, and you were gone. i was worried" "sorry, but i've been with you the whole time. i didn't know when to prepare the surprise. i woke up early today to get ready" in truth, she had spent the whole night planning it, as she had felt a deep desire in their relationship that had been there long before anything had become clear between them. but as they spent every day together, their love grew stronger, making it harder to pull away. wayo wanted to make everything clear, to show catherine that she was committed to their love more than anything. "surprise?" "a flower crown. it might be a little crooked and not as pretty as rose's, but i made it for you" "it's beautiful.." "it's not as beautiful as youโ€”but let me put it on you" catherine nodded and let wayo carefully place the flower crown on her head. she loved the surprise so much that she wanted to take a picture and keep it as a memory. she would treasure the effort of the one she loved, who loved her in return. "but that's not all" "there's more of a surprise?" "do you know, in my eyes, you're always a princess, and you'll always be my princess" "a matching ring?" wayo opened her hand to reveal a simple silver ring, two matching bands that she had found from the local area. they weren't royal diamonds, but every bit of their simplicity held pure love. "even though we've only known each other for a short time, we've been through dangerous situations and life-or-death moments together. we've built so many memories, proving the love we have for each other. i don't know if time matters in love. but i've never once doubted loving youโ€”not even for a moment. i've always been confident in the love i have for you, and from this moment on, i always will be. and if you feel the same, there's one thing i want to ask you right now" "..." "blew, will you marry me?"
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THIS IS SO PURE AND SWEET~~ lom got herself such a fairytale type of love ๐Ÿซ ๐Ÿซณ๐Ÿป๐Ÿซณ๐Ÿป #เน€เธชเธ™เนˆเธซเธฒเธงเธฒเน‚เธข *SPOILERS* :) . . . "lom?" the beautiful woman called out the name of the person she shared the house with. however, since she had woken up a little later than usual this morning and wayo hadn't come to wake her, when she got up, she found the house empty. after celebrating with wine last night, she was feeling a bit hungover, but not as much as the sickness caused by the local liquor that had made her feel ill before. "where could she have gone? she didn't leave a note" it had become an unspoken rule between them ever since they had to face the rebels that they always inform each other before going anywhere, so they would always know the other was safe. but today, catherine didn't understand why wayo had broken that rule. if she didn't hear from her, she would have to go look around the house or ask the villagers. "blew" "what are the kids doing here?" "come on, let's go" catherine looked at shasha, who eagerly grabbed her hand, pulling her to walk along. the other children surrounded her, leaving no chance to ask where they were going. having been there for a week, catherine had become close with the children, just as she had with wayo. the kids often invited her and wayo to play or to teach them activities during their free time. "where are we going, shasha?" "it's a secret" the little girl giggled and led her to a resting area on a hill. then she instructed her to stop and wait there, telling her to close her eyes and count in her mind. catherine agreed to follow the instructions, but as she was counting, she heard the sound of children running down the hill. perhaps it was a prank. or maybe just their idea of fun. "you can open your eyes now" "lom! what's going on? don't tell me you planned this with the kids" "yes, i asked the kids to help bring you here" wayo smiled as she appeared to reveal the surprise that had been planned. she had come up with this idea the night before and successfully prepared it with the help of the children early that morning. "don't do thatโ€”i woke up, and you were gone. i was worried" "sorry, but i've been with you the whole time. i didn't know when to prepare the surprise. i woke up early today to get ready" in truth, she had spent the whole night planning it, as she had felt a deep desire in their relationship that had been there long before anything had become clear between them. but as they spent every day together, their love grew stronger, making it harder to pull away. wayo wanted to make everything clear, to show catherine that she was committed to their love more than anything. "surprise?" "a flower crown. it might be a little crooked and not as pretty as rose's, but i made it for you" "it's beautiful.." "it's not as beautiful as youโ€”but let me put it on you" catherine nodded and let wayo carefully place the flower crown on her head. she loved the surprise so much that she wanted to take a picture and keep it as a memory. she would treasure the effort of the one she loved, who loved her in return. "but that's not all" "there's more of a surprise?" "do you know, in my eyes, you're always a princess, and you'll always be my princess" "a matching ring?" wayo opened her hand to reveal a simple silver ring, two matching bands that she had found from the local area. they weren't royal diamonds, but every bit of their simplicity held pure love. "even though we've only known each other for a short time, we've been through dangerous situations and life-or-death moments together. we've built so many memories, proving the love we have for each other. i don't know if time matters in love. but i've never once doubted loving youโ€”not even for a moment. i've always been confident in the love i have for you, and from this moment on, i always will be. and if you feel the same, there's one thing i want to ask you right now" "..." "blew, will you marry me?"

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HOW TO LOOK COOL & GET THE GIRL WHEN YOU APPROACH โŒ Home in on the girl you like and ignore her friend whoโ€™s also staring at you โœ… Open both girls at once, talk to both, win them both over โŒ Describe yourself as chasing after her (โ€œcourage to come up to youโ€) โœ… Use a chill opener instead (e.g., โ€œLooks like youโ€™re putting a lot of thought into that decisionโ€) โŒ Ask her name unprompted (โ€œWhatโ€™s your name?โ€; you are seeking information from her) โœ… Offer your name first (โ€œIโ€™m Danielโ€; you are offering value to her) โŒ Shake her hand like itโ€™s a new business partnership โœ… Hold her hand a moment and give it a squeeze without shaking it โŒ Use her foreignness to compliment her looks in another language (โ€œMuy bonita graciasโ€) โœ… Use her foreignness to ask what sheโ€™s doing here (creates an open loop) โŒ Compliment her looks a 3rd time while explaining yourself (โ€œcame up because youโ€™re gorgeousโ€) โœ… Have her comply with you instead (โ€œI love that bracelet. Let me have a look?โ€ [beckon her]) โŒ Get her to show you the lingerie she bought then completely change the topic โœ… Get her to show you the lingerie she bought then flirt over it (โ€œOhโ€ฆ lingerieโ€ฆ what is THAT for??โ€) โŒ Ask her out 40 seconds in after on a non-high point not building any real attraction or connection โœ… Talk to her for at least 2 minutes, build attraction + connection, THEN ask her out on a HIGH point (i.e., she is really engaged, laughing hard, showing a lot of curiosity about you, etc.) Notes from the video: โ€ข During the initial moment, she smile genuinely and eyes him up and down (see her head to toe glance) while quickly finishing what she is doing. She shows initial openness to him. HOWEVERโ€ฆ โ€ข She gives the โ€œOh, goshโ€ eye shut and grimacing nod in response to his โ€œchasing after youโ€ opener. She acknowledges itโ€™s โ€˜funnyโ€™ but still cringe. โ€ข She follows this by PICKING UP HER CUP (which she does not need to do) and holding it in front of herself defensively, creating a barrier between her and him. (If she was into the approach, sheโ€™d leave the cup there and face him without a barrier.) โ€ข After he blasts her with the fourth compliment, she backs away from him while laughing awkwardly and eye codes her friend (whom this guyโ€™s still ignoring) in disbelief. โ€ข When he asks her out on โ€œlike a food dateโ€, she takes two seconds to break eye contact to the side, still with her forced smile, briefly shakes her head โ€œnoโ€, then nods politely and says it โ€œsounds goodโ€ and gives her number (while eye coding her friend again) just to get rid of him. โ€ข After he gets the number, he tells her โ€œNext Friday?โ€ and she doesnโ€™t even need to think about what she has going on or check her schedule because she has no intention of actually meeting this guy, so she just says โ€œNext Friday, perfectโ€ to get this over with. Approach better & avoid these mistakes!
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HOW TO LOOK COOL & GET THE GIRL WHEN YOU APPROACH โŒ Home in on the girl you like and ignore her friend whoโ€™s also staring at you โœ… Open both girls at once, talk to both, win them both over โŒ Describe yourself as chasing after her (โ€œcourage to come up to youโ€) โœ… Use a chill opener instead (e.g., โ€œLooks like youโ€™re putting a lot of thought into that decisionโ€) โŒ Ask her name unprompted (โ€œWhatโ€™s your name?โ€; you are seeking information from her) โœ… Offer your name first (โ€œIโ€™m Danielโ€; you are offering value to her) โŒ Shake her hand like itโ€™s a new business partnership โœ… Hold her hand a moment and give it a squeeze without shaking it โŒ Use her foreignness to compliment her looks in another language (โ€œMuy bonita graciasโ€) โœ… Use her foreignness to ask what sheโ€™s doing here (creates an open loop) โŒ Compliment her looks a 3rd time while explaining yourself (โ€œcame up because youโ€™re gorgeousโ€) โœ… Have her comply with you instead (โ€œI love that bracelet. Let me have a look?โ€ [beckon her]) โŒ Get her to show you the lingerie she bought then completely change the topic โœ… Get her to show you the lingerie she bought then flirt over it (โ€œOhโ€ฆ lingerieโ€ฆ what is THAT for??โ€) โŒ Ask her out 40 seconds in after on a non-high point not building any real attraction or connection โœ… Talk to her for at least 2 minutes, build attraction + connection, THEN ask her out on a HIGH point (i.e., she is really engaged, laughing hard, showing a lot of curiosity about you, etc.) Notes from the video: โ€ข During the initial moment, she smile genuinely and eyes him up and down (see her head to toe glance) while quickly finishing what she is doing. She shows initial openness to him. HOWEVERโ€ฆ โ€ข She gives the โ€œOh, goshโ€ eye shut and grimacing nod in response to his โ€œchasing after youโ€ opener. She acknowledges itโ€™s โ€˜funnyโ€™ but still cringe. โ€ข She follows this by PICKING UP HER CUP (which she does not need to do) and holding it in front of herself defensively, creating a barrier between her and him. (If she was into the approach, sheโ€™d leave the cup there and face him without a barrier.) โ€ข After he blasts her with the fourth compliment, she backs away from him while laughing awkwardly and eye codes her friend (whom this guyโ€™s still ignoring) in disbelief. โ€ข When he asks her out on โ€œlike a food dateโ€, she takes two seconds to break eye contact to the side, still with her forced smile, briefly shakes her head โ€œnoโ€, then nods politely and says it โ€œsounds goodโ€ and gives her number (while eye coding her friend again) just to get rid of him. โ€ข After he gets the number, he tells her โ€œNext Friday?โ€ and she doesnโ€™t even need to think about what she has going on or check her schedule because she has no intention of actually meeting this guy, so she just says โ€œNext Friday, perfectโ€ to get this over with. Approach better & avoid these mistakes!

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This is actually a pretty good description of (some) things that will get girls chasing you. (While you generally donโ€™t want to listen to female dating advice for men, a woman simply DESCRIBING what men have done with her that worked can be very informative.) In this case, the guy was using: โœ… Confident, self-possessed body language. She doesnโ€™t say it, but I guarantee you he had great posture, moved slowly and deliberately but smoothly, and took up space. Doubtless had excellent eye contact. โœ… At some point (ONCE he had her INVESTED enough) he asked her if she thought he was โ€˜hotโ€™. This was deep in the second date, probably after some good bonding or connection so she doesnโ€™t want to burst the bubble by saying something other than โ€˜yesโ€™. What this did was trigger a psychological concept called COMMITMENT-CONSISTENCY where, once someone has verbally agreed to something, that person then feels compelled to act in-line with it, and even reorients his or her views to match what was said. (You can read about this in Robert Cialdiniโ€™s book โ€œInfluence: The Psychology of Persuasionโ€, where he has a ton more studies + examples.) โœ… Once he had her out the third time, he could tell she wasnโ€™t into him enough yet, but was invested enough to have come out multiple times, so he just hung back and gave her space to chase. What happens when she chases? Well, that is simple enough: she starts to like you more (then more!). (Also, you might think his dogged follow up of her was โ€˜chasingโ€™, especially if you are the type who only texts a girl once or twice then quits if she isnโ€™t all about itโ€ฆ however: there is a right way and a wrong way to follow up doggedly. The fact that this guy got another date and she started chasing him tells you he did it the right way. The right way is โ€˜persistenceโ€™, rather than โ€˜pursuitโ€™.) A lot of guys now donโ€™t use (or know) game at allโ€ฆ theyโ€™re just totally winging it on โ€œdoes she instantly feel me or not?โ€ You may not believe it until you try it for yourself, but yeah, there is a reason men have been doing this stuff with women since Ovidโ€™s time and beforeโ€ฆ probably since long before recorded history. If you want her to CHASE, you need to get her invested enough to be willing to โ€” then, after that, you must create the SPACE for her to chase you in!
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This is actually a pretty good description of (some) things that will get girls chasing you. (While you generally donโ€™t want to listen to female dating advice for men, a woman simply DESCRIBING what men have done with her that worked can be very informative.) In this case, the guy was using: โœ… Confident, self-possessed body language. She doesnโ€™t say it, but I guarantee you he had great posture, moved slowly and deliberately but smoothly, and took up space. Doubtless had excellent eye contact. โœ… At some point (ONCE he had her INVESTED enough) he asked her if she thought he was โ€˜hotโ€™. This was deep in the second date, probably after some good bonding or connection so she doesnโ€™t want to burst the bubble by saying something other than โ€˜yesโ€™. What this did was trigger a psychological concept called COMMITMENT-CONSISTENCY where, once someone has verbally agreed to something, that person then feels compelled to act in-line with it, and even reorients his or her views to match what was said. (You can read about this in Robert Cialdiniโ€™s book โ€œInfluence: The Psychology of Persuasionโ€, where he has a ton more studies + examples.) โœ… Once he had her out the third time, he could tell she wasnโ€™t into him enough yet, but was invested enough to have come out multiple times, so he just hung back and gave her space to chase. What happens when she chases? Well, that is simple enough: she starts to like you more (then more!). (Also, you might think his dogged follow up of her was โ€˜chasingโ€™, especially if you are the type who only texts a girl once or twice then quits if she isnโ€™t all about itโ€ฆ however: there is a right way and a wrong way to follow up doggedly. The fact that this guy got another date and she started chasing him tells you he did it the right way. The right way is โ€˜persistenceโ€™, rather than โ€˜pursuitโ€™.) A lot of guys now donโ€™t use (or know) game at allโ€ฆ theyโ€™re just totally winging it on โ€œdoes she instantly feel me or not?โ€ You may not believe it until you try it for yourself, but yeah, there is a reason men have been doing this stuff with women since Ovidโ€™s time and beforeโ€ฆ probably since long before recorded history. If you want her to CHASE, you need to get her invested enough to be willing to โ€” then, after that, you must create the SPACE for her to chase you in!

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Weโ€™re in a weird place now where random girls have better insight into male psychology than most โ€˜pro-maleโ€™ accounts. Usually you do not want to take advice from women, but look what these chicks say: โœ… Guys donโ€™t approach because theyโ€™re unconfident (TRUE; many men are terrified to an almost hysterical degree of women right now) โœ… Guys donโ€™t approach because theyโ€™re lazy (TRUE; โ€œwhy take the risk of approaching a girl when I can just open up an app?โ€ โ†’ something far too many guys think now) โœ… If you get shot down, whatever; just go to the next girl (TRUE; she is not some magical special girl whose rejection has crippled you forever. Go approach another girl, and another after that! Meeting women is a NUMBERS GAME!) โœ… Be kind, donโ€™t be weird (TRUE; there is a difference between being a โ€˜nice guyโ€™ vs. just being a cool, warm-hearted, sociable dude. You do not have to be some cartoonish โ€˜alpha maleโ€™ and in fact that does not work. The โ€˜bad boysโ€™ women are attracted to are generally actually kinder people than the average โ€˜nice guyโ€™ is โ€” they communicate what they really want, do not behave like they feel entitled to something from her, do not place her on a pedestal she can never hope to live up to, and donโ€™t get weird or resentful or depressed when she flirts with or tests them) โœ… Approach with friendship as the basis (TRUE; so long as you do not MISINTERPRET this and think you need to be a neutered, asexual โ€˜friendโ€™ instead. You need to be her SEXY friend, who is playful and flirtatious and a bit naughty, not the nice guy friend who acts like he has no balls and just wants to be her shoulder to cry on) As a matter of fact, I would actually say womenโ€™s advice to men has SOMEHOW STRANGELY IMPROVED over the last 15 years, while most menโ€™s advice to other men has EGREGIOUSLY WORSENED. Men are online telling each other stuff like โ€œyou donโ€™t need women; focus on the money and the women will comeโ€ (this will get you women who are after โ€œa nice lifestyleโ€, i.e., gold diggers) and โ€œnever tolerate a woman who doesnโ€™t put you firstโ€ (newsflash: until you are regularly banging her out, she is NEVER going to put you first!). Honestly, most advice I see men giving other men online nowadays is putting the cart before the horse type advice. Yes, you need moneyโ€ฆ but you should focus on that AFTER you get her. You are supposed to enjoy women young, then pick a woman and focus on building a life. A lot of dudes have it ass-backwards now. Yes, you need a woman who will put you firstโ€ฆ but that comes AFTER you are banging her out. If you want her to do that before you shag her silly, you will be looking for a LONG time, my friend, as well as dating DOWN in a BIG way. Actually I was pretty surprised to hear these girls talk about โ€œif you get rejected, go to the next one.โ€ Back in the day a lot of girls seemed to always treat dating advice like โ€œwhatever girl you approach, treat her like your future wife!โ€ Seems like there is a lot more consciousness among women at this point that dating is a numbers game and as a guy youโ€™ve got to put in the reps. Strangely, men seem to have forgotten thisโ€ฆ and approaching has become life and deathโ€ฆ with dating apps the new โ€˜safe spaceโ€™. Strange times we are in!
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Weโ€™re in a weird place now where random girls have better insight into male psychology than most โ€˜pro-maleโ€™ accounts. Usually you do not want to take advice from women, but look what these chicks say: โœ… Guys donโ€™t approach because theyโ€™re unconfident (TRUE; many men are terrified to an almost hysterical degree of women right now) โœ… Guys donโ€™t approach because theyโ€™re lazy (TRUE; โ€œwhy take the risk of approaching a girl when I can just open up an app?โ€ โ†’ something far too many guys think now) โœ… If you get shot down, whatever; just go to the next girl (TRUE; she is not some magical special girl whose rejection has crippled you forever. Go approach another girl, and another after that! Meeting women is a NUMBERS GAME!) โœ… Be kind, donโ€™t be weird (TRUE; there is a difference between being a โ€˜nice guyโ€™ vs. just being a cool, warm-hearted, sociable dude. You do not have to be some cartoonish โ€˜alpha maleโ€™ and in fact that does not work. The โ€˜bad boysโ€™ women are attracted to are generally actually kinder people than the average โ€˜nice guyโ€™ is โ€” they communicate what they really want, do not behave like they feel entitled to something from her, do not place her on a pedestal she can never hope to live up to, and donโ€™t get weird or resentful or depressed when she flirts with or tests them) โœ… Approach with friendship as the basis (TRUE; so long as you do not MISINTERPRET this and think you need to be a neutered, asexual โ€˜friendโ€™ instead. You need to be her SEXY friend, who is playful and flirtatious and a bit naughty, not the nice guy friend who acts like he has no balls and just wants to be her shoulder to cry on) As a matter of fact, I would actually say womenโ€™s advice to men has SOMEHOW STRANGELY IMPROVED over the last 15 years, while most menโ€™s advice to other men has EGREGIOUSLY WORSENED. Men are online telling each other stuff like โ€œyou donโ€™t need women; focus on the money and the women will comeโ€ (this will get you women who are after โ€œa nice lifestyleโ€, i.e., gold diggers) and โ€œnever tolerate a woman who doesnโ€™t put you firstโ€ (newsflash: until you are regularly banging her out, she is NEVER going to put you first!). Honestly, most advice I see men giving other men online nowadays is putting the cart before the horse type advice. Yes, you need moneyโ€ฆ but you should focus on that AFTER you get her. You are supposed to enjoy women young, then pick a woman and focus on building a life. A lot of dudes have it ass-backwards now. Yes, you need a woman who will put you firstโ€ฆ but that comes AFTER you are banging her out. If you want her to do that before you shag her silly, you will be looking for a LONG time, my friend, as well as dating DOWN in a BIG way. Actually I was pretty surprised to hear these girls talk about โ€œif you get rejected, go to the next one.โ€ Back in the day a lot of girls seemed to always treat dating advice like โ€œwhatever girl you approach, treat her like your future wife!โ€ Seems like there is a lot more consciousness among women at this point that dating is a numbers game and as a guy youโ€™ve got to put in the reps. Strangely, men seem to have forgotten thisโ€ฆ and approaching has become life and deathโ€ฆ with dating apps the new โ€˜safe spaceโ€™. Strange times we are in!

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โ€œI canโ€™t speak on whether he was close to convertingโ€ฆI do think from what Iโ€™ve been told that he was planning on signing up and starting that process [of becoming Catholic]. But I did not personally have that conversation with himโ€ฆโ€ A few things: Candace says she canโ€™t speak on whether Charlie was close to converting to Catholicismโ€”and then immediately goes on to speak about how she thinks he was close to converting. ๐Ÿ™„ Additionally, the first time she ever spoke about this (September 15th, see the 2nd clip below) she suggested he was close to converting. Because itโ€™s Candace, she didnโ€™t come right out and say, but she said he โ€œwas on the verge of changing some of his beliefsโ€ and then went on to speak about how he was praying the rosary and attending mass. She also referenced him โ€œtaking that last step.โ€ All of those things paired together imply (again without outright saying) he was close to converting. She also said in the same episode he was โ€œtoo smart to be Protestant.โ€ Mind you, this was FIVE DAYS after Charlie had been murdered. Charlieโ€™s parents are Protestant. His wife was raised Catholic but is now Protestant. And whether you think he was close to converting or not, Charlie died Protestant. Her saying that FIVE DAYS after his murder was callous and tone deaf. This is how Candace makes things always and all about herself. This was in fact the first thing that clued me in that something was seriously wrong, after previously being her fan. Today, she doubled down on her implications that Charlie was close to converting (even though again sheโ€™d just said she couldnโ€™t speak on that). She said she and Charlie were having conversations about it, but the only evidence sheโ€™s ever presented is a single vague text allegedly from him and dated February 2024. The problem is that Charlie went on to reiterate he was evangelical and all of his issues with the Catholic faith this year, in the months leading up to his death. Indeed, one of the final things he said on this earth the day he died was that he was evangelical. So even if he sent that text to Candace in February of 2024, itโ€™s clear he wasnโ€™t that convicted and that she read more into it than was actually meant. Because again, this year, in 2025, he was reaffirming his evangelical faith. Lastly, Candace admitted today that she heard from someone else that Charlie was becoming Catholic (likely Bishop Joseph Brennan). But if she and Charlie were already having conversations about the possibility of him converting (as she claims they were), why wouldnโ€™t he tell Candace directly? Especially when again they allegedly were already having conversations about it? Please listen to what this woman actually says from one month, one week, one day to the next. And parse it out. Hear what sheโ€™s saying and also what sheโ€™s not saying. Determine what sheโ€™s implying. Compare herself to herself. And see if she makes sense to you, if she provides clarity to you, if she provides evidence. Not just on the subject of Charlie converting but on all subjects pertaining to this โ€œinvestigation.โ€ Finally, this has NOTHING to do with who murdered Charlie and why. Iโ€™m tired of talking about it, but she keeps being dishonest about what she actually said, again a mere five days after his murder.
1:26

โ€œI canโ€™t speak on whether he was close to convertingโ€ฆI do think from what Iโ€™ve been told that he was planning on signing up and starting that process [of becoming Catholic]. But I did not personally have that conversation with himโ€ฆโ€ A few things: Candace says she canโ€™t speak on whether Charlie was close to converting to Catholicismโ€”and then immediately goes on to speak about how she thinks he was close to converting. ๐Ÿ™„ Additionally, the first time she ever spoke about this (September 15th, see the 2nd clip below) she suggested he was close to converting. Because itโ€™s Candace, she didnโ€™t come right out and say, but she said he โ€œwas on the verge of changing some of his beliefsโ€ and then went on to speak about how he was praying the rosary and attending mass. She also referenced him โ€œtaking that last step.โ€ All of those things paired together imply (again without outright saying) he was close to converting. She also said in the same episode he was โ€œtoo smart to be Protestant.โ€ Mind you, this was FIVE DAYS after Charlie had been murdered. Charlieโ€™s parents are Protestant. His wife was raised Catholic but is now Protestant. And whether you think he was close to converting or not, Charlie died Protestant. Her saying that FIVE DAYS after his murder was callous and tone deaf. This is how Candace makes things always and all about herself. This was in fact the first thing that clued me in that something was seriously wrong, after previously being her fan. Today, she doubled down on her implications that Charlie was close to converting (even though again sheโ€™d just said she couldnโ€™t speak on that). She said she and Charlie were having conversations about it, but the only evidence sheโ€™s ever presented is a single vague text allegedly from him and dated February 2024. The problem is that Charlie went on to reiterate he was evangelical and all of his issues with the Catholic faith this year, in the months leading up to his death. Indeed, one of the final things he said on this earth the day he died was that he was evangelical. So even if he sent that text to Candace in February of 2024, itโ€™s clear he wasnโ€™t that convicted and that she read more into it than was actually meant. Because again, this year, in 2025, he was reaffirming his evangelical faith. Lastly, Candace admitted today that she heard from someone else that Charlie was becoming Catholic (likely Bishop Joseph Brennan). But if she and Charlie were already having conversations about the possibility of him converting (as she claims they were), why wouldnโ€™t he tell Candace directly? Especially when again they allegedly were already having conversations about it? Please listen to what this woman actually says from one month, one week, one day to the next. And parse it out. Hear what sheโ€™s saying and also what sheโ€™s not saying. Determine what sheโ€™s implying. Compare herself to herself. And see if she makes sense to you, if she provides clarity to you, if she provides evidence. Not just on the subject of Charlie converting but on all subjects pertaining to this โ€œinvestigation.โ€ Finally, this has NOTHING to do with who murdered Charlie and why. Iโ€™m tired of talking about it, but she keeps being dishonest about what she actually said, again a mere five days after his murder.

Natalie Jean Beisner

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This is the wrap up to my social experiment going undercover on a dating website as a man trying to get a good woman. (I meander more than a little, but hopefully you find some nuggets in here helpful.) These are the conclusions I've come to about why men are struggling so badly on these dating websites. Men face many battles women do not. 40% of female profiles are gold diggers, hookers or bots. Men greatly outnumber women, and they get discouraged quickly. Reasons men fail on dating websites: 1. Refusing to develop your communication skills. My generation has a phrase, "Don't hate the player, hate the game." Be funny, charming and fun, or don't cry when she picks someone else who is. 2. Half-assing your dating profile. Mating rituals exist in all walks of the animal kingdom, so if you refuse to show her why she should pick you then don't expect to be picked. We all sell ourselves to the opposite gender in some way. It's just a fact of human life, and whining about it won't serve you well, change that fact, or get the girl. 3. A cringeworthy user name. Sure, your frat buddies will find, "EatYouAllNight69" hilarious, but it's not going to get you anyone worth a damn. Trust me, high value women hate that. 4. You don't want a pen pal, so go in with the idea that your goal is to get her number and get her off that site as soon as possible, or someone else will. Women are desperate for a strong, masculine man she can trust to lead and protect her from the dragons at the gate. A nice guy is too weak and desperate to do it, and a jerk is just mean and abusive. Again, mating rituals exist in every walk of the animal kingdom and humans are no different. You will only get out of this life and a potential mate the effort you are willing to put in, and that includes developing your mind and body to be the best version of yourself. Not just for her, but for you too. A needy guy with low self-esteem is never going to get the girl. Good boundaries and a healthy self image equals success, so get back into the gym and start eating clean. The better you look the better you'll feel. The better you feel the more success in life you'll have. A 300lb girl with 5 kids with different fathers is never going to get a good man. Control your reproduction and stop being a wh*re. Despite what feminists tell you, girls, your body count does matter to him. Keep it low and maintain your dignity. Research has shown time and again that women are instinctively drawn to certain traits like bravery, intelligence, and a willingness to take risks. Basically, if it would keep you from getting voted off the island on Survivor, sheโ€™s going to think itโ€™s hot. Make sure your profile highlights these kind of personality traits in an attractive way. Stop whining about height! We DGAF about how tall you are just so long as it's taller than us. Your insecurities will make you desperate, needy and totally hamstring your chances. Bottom line: Without effort don't expect success. In anything, really. You'll always find an excuse to stay exactly where you are and you'll only change your stars when the place your living becomes more painful/difficult then than they journey you need to take for a better life.
14:55

This is the wrap up to my social experiment going undercover on a dating website as a man trying to get a good woman. (I meander more than a little, but hopefully you find some nuggets in here helpful.) These are the conclusions I've come to about why men are struggling so badly on these dating websites. Men face many battles women do not. 40% of female profiles are gold diggers, hookers or bots. Men greatly outnumber women, and they get discouraged quickly. Reasons men fail on dating websites: 1. Refusing to develop your communication skills. My generation has a phrase, "Don't hate the player, hate the game." Be funny, charming and fun, or don't cry when she picks someone else who is. 2. Half-assing your dating profile. Mating rituals exist in all walks of the animal kingdom, so if you refuse to show her why she should pick you then don't expect to be picked. We all sell ourselves to the opposite gender in some way. It's just a fact of human life, and whining about it won't serve you well, change that fact, or get the girl. 3. A cringeworthy user name. Sure, your frat buddies will find, "EatYouAllNight69" hilarious, but it's not going to get you anyone worth a damn. Trust me, high value women hate that. 4. You don't want a pen pal, so go in with the idea that your goal is to get her number and get her off that site as soon as possible, or someone else will. Women are desperate for a strong, masculine man she can trust to lead and protect her from the dragons at the gate. A nice guy is too weak and desperate to do it, and a jerk is just mean and abusive. Again, mating rituals exist in every walk of the animal kingdom and humans are no different. You will only get out of this life and a potential mate the effort you are willing to put in, and that includes developing your mind and body to be the best version of yourself. Not just for her, but for you too. A needy guy with low self-esteem is never going to get the girl. Good boundaries and a healthy self image equals success, so get back into the gym and start eating clean. The better you look the better you'll feel. The better you feel the more success in life you'll have. A 300lb girl with 5 kids with different fathers is never going to get a good man. Control your reproduction and stop being a wh*re. Despite what feminists tell you, girls, your body count does matter to him. Keep it low and maintain your dignity. Research has shown time and again that women are instinctively drawn to certain traits like bravery, intelligence, and a willingness to take risks. Basically, if it would keep you from getting voted off the island on Survivor, sheโ€™s going to think itโ€™s hot. Make sure your profile highlights these kind of personality traits in an attractive way. Stop whining about height! We DGAF about how tall you are just so long as it's taller than us. Your insecurities will make you desperate, needy and totally hamstring your chances. Bottom line: Without effort don't expect success. In anything, really. You'll always find an excuse to stay exactly where you are and you'll only change your stars when the place your living becomes more painful/difficult then than they journey you need to take for a better life.

TraderJill (Leigh)

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Girls do not want to have to text you for 2 weeks before going out with you. You do not have to โ€œwin her overโ€ or โ€œwarm her upโ€ over text before getting the meet, either. I am seeing more and more guys do this (especially Gen Z guys). I have a 28-year-old client who met a very cute girl who liked him a lot at a bar. They had an amazing conversation that went for an hour. Talked about all kinds of things! This girl really dug him. They traded numbers, he sent an icebreaker text, she responded enthusiastically, and thenโ€ฆ He didnโ€™t message her for two weeks. I asked him why and his response was that heโ€™d been busy and he wasnโ€™t in her area (heโ€™s in the suburbs and met her when he drove into the city). It wasnโ€™t that he didnโ€™t like this girl. He REALLY liked her! He justโ€ฆ never followed upโ€ฆ I see this kind of thing often. Guy meets a few girls, gets their numbers, likes them, doesnโ€™t follow up. Or he follows up once or twice, the girl responds fine each time, then he just lets it drop off. Look: you do not need to send her 20 text messages to get a date with her. With most girls, if they are into you, you can send them 2 or 3 texts then arrange the meet. You do not need to make this complicated. When you get their number, you send an icebreaker: โ€œGreat to make a new friend! โ€” [YOUR NAME]โ€ or โ€œHey [HER NAME], itโ€™s [YOUR NAME]! Save my number!โ€ You put YOUR NAME in that icebreaker text in case she forgot it (people are bad with names and itโ€™s too awkward for most girls to be like โ€œHey, sorryโ€ฆ what was your name again?โ€ Just write it in your text and she doesnโ€™t have to do that). Then, THE NEXT DAY or at most 2 days later, you send your ask-out text. Have the four parts in there: 1๏ธโƒฃ Greeting with her name 2๏ธโƒฃ Consideration for her 3๏ธโƒฃ Information about you 4๏ธโƒฃ Check her schedule e.g. โ€œHey Isabelle! [1๏ธโƒฃ] Hope the dental appointment went well and you still have all your teeth. [2๏ธโƒฃ] I actually spent all day at the beach on Sunday and turned a bright shade of red (whoops). [3๏ธโƒฃ] Anyway, let me know your schedule this week for that bite or drink. [4๏ธโƒฃ]โ€ You have enough in that text that she has stuff to chew on, and you are often going to get a reply that tells you when she is free to meet. After that, you just pick a time, tell her the place, and now you can see her again, IN-PERSON. No need for two weeks of texting. No need for NOT texting her at all and just letting it ghost. There is no need to overcomplicate things, and you also do not want to PROCRASTINATE. Just fire off the right texts for her, set up the date, and now you can spend time with her again in-person instead of letting that connection die on the vine.
1:04

Girls do not want to have to text you for 2 weeks before going out with you. You do not have to โ€œwin her overโ€ or โ€œwarm her upโ€ over text before getting the meet, either. I am seeing more and more guys do this (especially Gen Z guys). I have a 28-year-old client who met a very cute girl who liked him a lot at a bar. They had an amazing conversation that went for an hour. Talked about all kinds of things! This girl really dug him. They traded numbers, he sent an icebreaker text, she responded enthusiastically, and thenโ€ฆ He didnโ€™t message her for two weeks. I asked him why and his response was that heโ€™d been busy and he wasnโ€™t in her area (heโ€™s in the suburbs and met her when he drove into the city). It wasnโ€™t that he didnโ€™t like this girl. He REALLY liked her! He justโ€ฆ never followed upโ€ฆ I see this kind of thing often. Guy meets a few girls, gets their numbers, likes them, doesnโ€™t follow up. Or he follows up once or twice, the girl responds fine each time, then he just lets it drop off. Look: you do not need to send her 20 text messages to get a date with her. With most girls, if they are into you, you can send them 2 or 3 texts then arrange the meet. You do not need to make this complicated. When you get their number, you send an icebreaker: โ€œGreat to make a new friend! โ€” [YOUR NAME]โ€ or โ€œHey [HER NAME], itโ€™s [YOUR NAME]! Save my number!โ€ You put YOUR NAME in that icebreaker text in case she forgot it (people are bad with names and itโ€™s too awkward for most girls to be like โ€œHey, sorryโ€ฆ what was your name again?โ€ Just write it in your text and she doesnโ€™t have to do that). Then, THE NEXT DAY or at most 2 days later, you send your ask-out text. Have the four parts in there: 1๏ธโƒฃ Greeting with her name 2๏ธโƒฃ Consideration for her 3๏ธโƒฃ Information about you 4๏ธโƒฃ Check her schedule e.g. โ€œHey Isabelle! [1๏ธโƒฃ] Hope the dental appointment went well and you still have all your teeth. [2๏ธโƒฃ] I actually spent all day at the beach on Sunday and turned a bright shade of red (whoops). [3๏ธโƒฃ] Anyway, let me know your schedule this week for that bite or drink. [4๏ธโƒฃ]โ€ You have enough in that text that she has stuff to chew on, and you are often going to get a reply that tells you when she is free to meet. After that, you just pick a time, tell her the place, and now you can see her again, IN-PERSON. No need for two weeks of texting. No need for NOT texting her at all and just letting it ghost. There is no need to overcomplicate things, and you also do not want to PROCRASTINATE. Just fire off the right texts for her, set up the date, and now you can spend time with her again in-person instead of letting that connection die on the vine.

Girls Chase ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ’จ

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What they donโ€™t tell you when you get older is that you become more selfish, self-centred and less likely to match with someone. So people double down on the self. The Wall is mostly psychological. People focus on the biological aspect with women, but the independence mindset first (โ€œfocus on my careerโ€, โ€œI deserveโ€) is as much if not more a source of infertility than eggs count. If you want to find someone who you are going to build a life with, it is better to do it in your 20s than in your 30s because there is more emotional wiggle room to make space for a person. This goes for both men and women. The way men get it wrong, build yourself and women will come to find you. And you end up with mid 30s looking for clean-up man applicants. You are not as attractive as in your mid to late 20s. And you donโ€™t have that much of a clue of about women, because you focused mainly on your business. So you make a perfect target, for yourself to have an identity collapse from the moment you discover that what you worked hard for all these years was to be a utility only covering for a wife whose only reason she is with you was because you were everything she would not have gone for in her prime. Wasted years, with high exit costs. The way women get it wrong is focus on your career to realise later on they are not gonna be CEOs, but most likely end up at some middle management position making above average income which they start getting tired of it, but in the process built standards and experience portfolio which will make what they would normally qualify for below to what they would feel satisfied with - that they end up resenting the person they are settling for if they find one- even though he would be in her lane. Not mentioning, she carries the baggages of aggregated dating failures during her fun time which is going to hinder her future relationship. And she has to go through dating guys who mostly want her for fucking only, when she does not confuse it with a guy who wonโ€™t deal with her rules (product of her being previously used) because he does not want to be seen as provider only. To make it worse, in ever more challenging economic conditions, being with someone to cover the costs of life makes more sense on a society level. However, everyone is becoming more economically fragile. Not only the revenue per head decreased from the doubling of the labour supply, but now it actually creates a double whammy effect, as this creates more distance between the genders stuck in an attrition war that they end up even more emotionally atomised and financially precarious overall. Yet everyone feels the best way to survive is making it on their own. When the people who hold the most power influence and money did it mostly through networks and support systems. It is normie self-sabotage on a massive scale sponsored by normies through social media, so it is even more persuasive. Why need propaganda machines when you can condition the lowest common denominator of people and do the advertisement for you reaching through simpleton messaging. For a pendulum swing to happen few โ€œwe thought we knew better but actually did notโ€ generations need to be wasted into irrelevance from adopting these now mainstream narratives (โ€œ40 is the new 20โ€, โ€œwhy the rush?โ€) for other generations to change the trend. This is not to say that there are some people who are happy the way things are, but generally speaking, the feeling of belonging happens when you share your life with someone else. And one upping through โ€œI donโ€™t need man/womanโ€ on the public sphere is cutting your nose to spite your face, as a pyrrhic victory to hide the private failure being felt behind closed doors.
1:02

What they donโ€™t tell you when you get older is that you become more selfish, self-centred and less likely to match with someone. So people double down on the self. The Wall is mostly psychological. People focus on the biological aspect with women, but the independence mindset first (โ€œfocus on my careerโ€, โ€œI deserveโ€) is as much if not more a source of infertility than eggs count. If you want to find someone who you are going to build a life with, it is better to do it in your 20s than in your 30s because there is more emotional wiggle room to make space for a person. This goes for both men and women. The way men get it wrong, build yourself and women will come to find you. And you end up with mid 30s looking for clean-up man applicants. You are not as attractive as in your mid to late 20s. And you donโ€™t have that much of a clue of about women, because you focused mainly on your business. So you make a perfect target, for yourself to have an identity collapse from the moment you discover that what you worked hard for all these years was to be a utility only covering for a wife whose only reason she is with you was because you were everything she would not have gone for in her prime. Wasted years, with high exit costs. The way women get it wrong is focus on your career to realise later on they are not gonna be CEOs, but most likely end up at some middle management position making above average income which they start getting tired of it, but in the process built standards and experience portfolio which will make what they would normally qualify for below to what they would feel satisfied with - that they end up resenting the person they are settling for if they find one- even though he would be in her lane. Not mentioning, she carries the baggages of aggregated dating failures during her fun time which is going to hinder her future relationship. And she has to go through dating guys who mostly want her for fucking only, when she does not confuse it with a guy who wonโ€™t deal with her rules (product of her being previously used) because he does not want to be seen as provider only. To make it worse, in ever more challenging economic conditions, being with someone to cover the costs of life makes more sense on a society level. However, everyone is becoming more economically fragile. Not only the revenue per head decreased from the doubling of the labour supply, but now it actually creates a double whammy effect, as this creates more distance between the genders stuck in an attrition war that they end up even more emotionally atomised and financially precarious overall. Yet everyone feels the best way to survive is making it on their own. When the people who hold the most power influence and money did it mostly through networks and support systems. It is normie self-sabotage on a massive scale sponsored by normies through social media, so it is even more persuasive. Why need propaganda machines when you can condition the lowest common denominator of people and do the advertisement for you reaching through simpleton messaging. For a pendulum swing to happen few โ€œwe thought we knew better but actually did notโ€ generations need to be wasted into irrelevance from adopting these now mainstream narratives (โ€œ40 is the new 20โ€, โ€œwhy the rush?โ€) for other generations to change the trend. This is not to say that there are some people who are happy the way things are, but generally speaking, the feeling of belonging happens when you share your life with someone else. And one upping through โ€œI donโ€™t need man/womanโ€ on the public sphere is cutting your nose to spite your face, as a pyrrhic victory to hide the private failure being felt behind closed doors.

French OG

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