Ms. Malissia
@Ms_Malissia • 29,469 subscribers
Mentor of Feminine Power, writer and Founder of the Mistress Mindset Brand & The Dominatrix Academy https://t.co/TzMu8nmHhT
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![FemDom dates were one of the session types I loved the most! Sometimes it was with regulars and sometimes with someone I met for the first time. What I personally enjoyed that made it super exciting to me was the secretive part. The idea of being amongst regular people who have no idea what we are up to. They may find strange that he walks behind me, doesn't interact with the waiter, or that I take the credit card from his wallet to pay. They may find suspicious that he is walking with his legs tight, and his head low and that the color of his wine is a little brighter than mine. Or that I wear a key around my neck. But at the same time, nothing disturbs their peace or experience. There are not forced to partake in something they did not consent to. They are not pulled out of their moment to join ours. Yes, these outdoor chivalrous dates were my favorite ways to show how real this type of dynamic is to me. If you want to learn more, I now have decided to offer access to the whole DOMME SPACE Library (with 100 Masterclasses and trainings) at a fraction of the cost for Domınatrix Academy. And best part is, you can reinvest the total amount towards the Academy when you are ready for the official Program! Message me [SECRET] for instant access or to inquire about the details.](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2047388252546724021/ext_tw_video_thumb/2047388159386804224/pu/img/4QnxUMDmYnwMrL6C.jpg)
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FemDom dates were one of the session types I loved the most! Sometimes it was with regulars and sometimes with someone I met for the first time. What I personally enjoyed that made it super exciting to me was the secretive part. The idea of being amongst regular people who have no idea what we are up to. They may find strange that he walks behind me, doesn't interact with the waiter, or that I take the credit card from his wallet to pay. They may find suspicious that he is walking with his legs tight, and his head low and that the color of his wine is a little brighter than mine. Or that I wear a key around my neck. But at the same time, nothing disturbs their peace or experience. There are not forced to partake in something they did not consent to. They are not pulled out of their moment to join ours. Yes, these outdoor chivalrous dates were my favorite ways to show how real this type of dynamic is to me. If you want to learn more, I now have decided to offer access to the whole DOMME SPACE Library (with 100 Masterclasses and trainings) at a fraction of the cost for Domınatrix Academy. And best part is, you can reinvest the total amount towards the Academy when you are ready for the official Program! Message me [SECRET] for instant access or to inquire about the details.
Ms. Malissia84,680 görüntüleme • 1 ay önce
![Obedience is a sacred pledge. An offering of self. Not an abandoning of self. Nor a selfish act. A submissive who obeys without discernment is not powerful. They are pliable. A submissive who obeys with reverence, discernment and clarity iis conscious of the value he brings and chooses who to offer this value to. And you make that choice, because you trust in the leadership and influence and benevolence of the person you choose to obey. The more obedient and devoted a submissive is, the more they allow their Mistress to fully embody her Dominance, the more they amplify her Divine Feminine Power. Because by obeying her, you showcase that her words and commands matter, that you trust them. Which in turn makes her feel safe and encouraged to assert herself and command with confidence. But there is a difference between seeking to find a Mıstress from a place of need and desperation.. And from a desire. Which is rooted in the energy of giving, not taking. Here are two questions to ask yourself as a sub, seeking this type of dynamic: Are your fantasies more about what she can do TO you (for you) or about what you can do for her? Are you fantasizing about being used, or about being of use? Real obedience is an act of devotional selflessness. It is obsequious. Performative obedience is where you become a slv to your own desires... a sycophant who selects someone to play out what you want, for your own personal benefit alone. [Exerpt from Sacred submission]](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2023795428265767033/ext_tw_video_thumb/2023795316055552010/pu/img/QJG6jTl6o4hkjmSA.jpg)
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Obedience is a sacred pledge. An offering of self. Not an abandoning of self. Nor a selfish act. A submissive who obeys without discernment is not powerful. They are pliable. A submissive who obeys with reverence, discernment and clarity iis conscious of the value he brings and chooses who to offer this value to. And you make that choice, because you trust in the leadership and influence and benevolence of the person you choose to obey. The more obedient and devoted a submissive is, the more they allow their Mistress to fully embody her Dominance, the more they amplify her Divine Feminine Power. Because by obeying her, you showcase that her words and commands matter, that you trust them. Which in turn makes her feel safe and encouraged to assert herself and command with confidence. But there is a difference between seeking to find a Mıstress from a place of need and desperation.. And from a desire. Which is rooted in the energy of giving, not taking. Here are two questions to ask yourself as a sub, seeking this type of dynamic: Are your fantasies more about what she can do TO you (for you) or about what you can do for her? Are you fantasizing about being used, or about being of use? Real obedience is an act of devotional selflessness. It is obsequious. Performative obedience is where you become a slv to your own desires... a sycophant who selects someone to play out what you want, for your own personal benefit alone. [Exerpt from Sacred submission]
Ms. Malissia38,064 görüntüleme • 3 ay önce
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BDSM can be a sacred energy exchange. The submissive relinquishes his power to his Mistress so she can liberate him from the pressure of his ego, allowing him to surrender and just BE. Retweet if you want to destigmatize kink and desire to see more Female lead dynamics!
Ms. Malissia238,990 görüntüleme • 2 yıl önce
I never really quite understood why some women would want to be surrounded by 'losers' that are powerless and worthless. It's one thing to play out a scene where these feelings are explored, it's another to seek these kinds of men to reign over. I am very selective with the energy I let into my field. Someone who doesn't bring any value is a huge liability. Value is not just money. Money is actually the simple baseline that gives the opportunity to request access. But no amount of money is worth being surrounded by someone who drains you energetically, doesn't respect your boundaries, makes you doubt your authority, tries to 'get' something from you by thinking they can just pay their way outside of your established perimeter of play. That ends up costing you more than you would make from such an exchange. Or someone who feels worthless and wants to pay you to validate that on the daily. Then these words become part of you daily speech. Or someone who thinks of themselves as trash... while asking you if you'd own them. Being the one standing tall on top of trash has no appeal to me. But dominating men with power, who know their value, well... that requires to recognize that in them in the first place. Which is where power exchange becomes really potent. Because we start from equal power, but different expressions of it. And we explore receiving, holding and keeping it, and on the other side relinquishing, surrendering, entrusting another with it. You can't relinquish something you don't have. Yet I believe we all have power. So recognizing this in the first place is where it all begins.
Ms. Malissia18,284 görüntüleme • 1 ay önce
![I hear so often from the Dommes I work with that they struggle with people online fetichizing them and simply seeing them for how sexy and beautiful they are. They project their fantasies and their desires onto you. That stops immediately once you move the attention from you to them. From 'look at me' to 'I see you'. What does that look like? When you create content, think of them and what this scene or that narrative is evoking. What will they learn from you? What they want is not to passively watch how sexy you are, but for you to train them, to give them instructions, to teach them, to guide them, to be in charge, to command them. This is not being an object but the main subject. The Authority figure. How is your content already doing that. The sexy photos can still be there, they are important to already capture des attention. But what you do with that attention once you have it, is where the power dynamic is established. Positioning yourself as more than a stunning Goddess, but actually a woman who has a voice, opinions, perspective, a philosophy, a way to doing things, teaching them what you like, how you like it, why you like it, already makes them want to be that for you. You hold the attention, you hold the power, so you direct it. And for that, you want them to know you get them and you know what lives within them... that creates the desire for you to be the one exposing it. You instantly build trust. Not because you demanded it, but because you earned it: you showed them you know what you are doing. You have experience, you understand them. They are not told to come see you, they are seduced into it. They desire it. And they will work for it. This will attract better clients (real subs) and instead of you trying to get their attention, they will work to earn yours. If you want to learn more about power dynamics, building a brand as a Pro or the psychology behind BDSM, you can now access all my trainings and classes in one place for a fraction of the cost of The Dominatrix Academy. And you can reinvest the total amount towards the Program. Message me [SECRET] for the details. This offer is not available on my website.](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2049167429041824109/ext_tw_video_thumb/2049167371538251780/pu/img/25DXjHkj6hG_xBzD.jpg)
I hear so often from the Dommes I work with that they struggle with people online fetichizing them and simply seeing them for how sexy and beautiful they are. They project their fantasies and their desires onto you. That stops immediately once you move the attention from you to them. From 'look at me' to 'I see you'. What does that look like? When you create content, think of them and what this scene or that narrative is evoking. What will they learn from you? What they want is not to passively watch how sexy you are, but for you to train them, to give them instructions, to teach them, to guide them, to be in charge, to command them. This is not being an object but the main subject. The Authority figure. How is your content already doing that. The sexy photos can still be there, they are important to already capture des attention. But what you do with that attention once you have it, is where the power dynamic is established. Positioning yourself as more than a stunning Goddess, but actually a woman who has a voice, opinions, perspective, a philosophy, a way to doing things, teaching them what you like, how you like it, why you like it, already makes them want to be that for you. You hold the attention, you hold the power, so you direct it. And for that, you want them to know you get them and you know what lives within them... that creates the desire for you to be the one exposing it. You instantly build trust. Not because you demanded it, but because you earned it: you showed them you know what you are doing. You have experience, you understand them. They are not told to come see you, they are seduced into it. They desire it. And they will work for it. This will attract better clients (real subs) and instead of you trying to get their attention, they will work to earn yours. If you want to learn more about power dynamics, building a brand as a Pro or the psychology behind BDSM, you can now access all my trainings and classes in one place for a fraction of the cost of The Dominatrix Academy. And you can reinvest the total amount towards the Program. Message me [SECRET] for the details. This offer is not available on my website.
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![The subject of 'owning a slave' is dense. It is something we hear a lot when we are in the FemDom Realm. Is it just fantasy? Can it actually be a lifestyle? How do we navigate this type of dynamic? How do we even get to that level of D/s? In this short clip [Exerpt from SLAVE TRAINING Part 2] I want to already bring to your attention one thing that will define if your desire for a slave (or desire as a slave) is touching more on a fantasy or... how can you actually navigate this in a realistic way. No one person 'can do it all' or should be expected to. If you want your slave to be 'the best' , assign them a specific role in which they can excel... and then build upon that. Once they 'master' your housekeeping (which takes quite a bit of real training), they can move to other levels. And an important note I want to leave here... make them EARN access to certain things in your life that sometimes you just want to delegate because you don't want to manage or don't know how to manage. Entrusting them with serious tasks that can affect your life, your business, your reputation, are on top of the ladder. Are they even qualified for the thing you want them to take off your shoulders? Start small and allow them to grow in their submission, to develop their skills and to learn how to best satisfy you without setting them up for failure by expecting too much, too quick. In the end, if you want this to truly work, you have to approach it from a place that transcends the roles. As this is consensual power exchange. And you both want to be fulfilled in that relationship.](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2024607322354434443/ext_tw_video_thumb/2024607017210441729/pu/img/Gb0sS-jDF3Qob_x9.jpg)
The subject of 'owning a slave' is dense. It is something we hear a lot when we are in the FemDom Realm. Is it just fantasy? Can it actually be a lifestyle? How do we navigate this type of dynamic? How do we even get to that level of D/s? In this short clip [Exerpt from SLAVE TRAINING Part 2] I want to already bring to your attention one thing that will define if your desire for a slave (or desire as a slave) is touching more on a fantasy or... how can you actually navigate this in a realistic way. No one person 'can do it all' or should be expected to. If you want your slave to be 'the best' , assign them a specific role in which they can excel... and then build upon that. Once they 'master' your housekeeping (which takes quite a bit of real training), they can move to other levels. And an important note I want to leave here... make them EARN access to certain things in your life that sometimes you just want to delegate because you don't want to manage or don't know how to manage. Entrusting them with serious tasks that can affect your life, your business, your reputation, are on top of the ladder. Are they even qualified for the thing you want them to take off your shoulders? Start small and allow them to grow in their submission, to develop their skills and to learn how to best satisfy you without setting them up for failure by expecting too much, too quick. In the end, if you want this to truly work, you have to approach it from a place that transcends the roles. As this is consensual power exchange. And you both want to be fulfilled in that relationship.
Ms. Malissia11,711 görüntüleme • 3 ay önce
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Start setting up your subs (or anyone for that matter) for success! Of course, if you want to create a kinky play scene around punishment, now you know how to do it easily... let them guess what you want! Trust me, if you don't know, they certainly won't. But seriously, how can we command others, lead others, ask others to fulfill tasks if we have no clue about what we want. And the #1 reason for disappointment is because of lack of clarity regarding what we ask for. This also leads people into making assumptions (double disappointment!) It is OUR RESPONSIBILITY to be specific (so to figure that out). That is something that will radically change your ability to reach pleasure in your intimacy, in your Business, with your sub, or husband and overall with yourself! Because when you are clear and specific about what you desire... is how you can most easily manifest it into reality! So it starts with us. Stop waiting for others to figure it out, because even then, what's best for them ain't best for us. And that will always make you feel like you don't know yourself and need others to access the things you want (no agency = no personal power). Once you know what you want, speak up, own it, stand by it. Retweet if you find this valuable! 🥰
Ms. Malissia44,994 görüntüleme • 1 yıl önce
Being boldly outspoken online holds risks. Exposure holds risks. This is why so many fear taking up space or using their voices on the internet. People will pick your words apart, project their own beliefs, fears, insecurities and perceptions on you, make assumptions and even get off on the drama. I have been exposed in the online space since 2018. And through the years, I have been more and more outspoken about my philosophy around FemDom and BDSM, unapologetically. My practice as a Mistress was always sacred to me. And as a Mentor, I hold myself on the same standard and understand the responsibility I hold to lead women on their Mistress Journey, I do not take this lightly. It is also sacred to me. I first entered the SW industry in 2011 from a very disempowered place and experienced heavy trauma. I barely got out of what I got myself into (if you know my story you know). And when I reentered the industry in 2017, I knew my boundaries, that I would work for myself, and that becoming a Professional Dominatrix was a calling. In 5 years, I built something extraordinary. I made a shit ton of money, yes, but I also had real, genuine and long lasting D/s relationships, with subs I respected and who respected me. Not just who admired me, but actually cared about me, as I cared about them. I had my own Dungeon, that was one of the best in Montreal, and I had an online practice that I developed during COVID that helped my business explode. When I got pregnant and decided to leave the industry as a ProDomme, I dedicated my heart and soul to build the most powerful courses for Dommes. It started with The Dominatrix Academy, and then building a Membership and Sisterhood for Dommes to connect from all over the world. I show up there every single day and create classes and programs based on what they are moving through and need to improve their practice, make more money and from a way that feels aligned with them, not at the expense of their integrity, and to build something that can sustain them in the long haul. Up to this day I get messages from my clients/subs from many years ago. Thanking me for our time together. And now I consistently receive gratitude messages and even gifts from the women who work with me. I am very proud of what I built and most importantly, how I built it. It holds my heart beat. Yes, there will always be people who don't resonate, or who don't like me or what I teach or how I do things. But we are all adults, and we should therefore address concerns like adults. In a mature, ethical, loving way. Not with hate threads. I am extremely disheartened that the controversy I am facing is coming from peers and women I respected. Not from some online troll or someone outside the industry judging SWers. That I was prepared to debate with, to defend my community. Yet, the women who are questioning me publicly and writing about me as if they know what they are talking about, have never met me, spoken to me, been in any of my containers. It's just based on assumptions, wrong interpretation of my words, triggers and prejudice. It is because of women like this that there is such a sister wound in this industry. And one of the most beautiful feedbacks I get from the women in my world, is how healing it is to be in a genuine sisterhood, with no cattiness. I stand by what I said and how I meant it. And if it did not land for you, that's okay, it was just not meant for you. Enough time and energy has been leaked on this. I am just going to share a video of the Graduation of The Dominatrix Academy. THIS is what I do. And this is not just words... you get to actually watch what I create with the women who work with me. Thank you for reading.
Ms. Malissia19,392 görüntüleme • 7 ay önce
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The misconceptions around BD|SM are generally coming from ignorance. When we think of how many times people engage in "vanilla" s3xual activities without having any communication, trust or safety established before, we can imagine the damage that causes... But nobody talks about that, as from the outside, it seems all so "normal". What I find normal is for human beings to have a desire to explore themselves, physically, psychologically, emotionally and therefore s3xually. And BD|SM offers a safe and consensual environment, where through a power dynamic we can embody different sides of ourselves and explore our limits. So many of us have limits that have been put upon us, from fears inherited and passed on. In this realm we get to push our own unique limits and to define what they are, to us. It wouldn't be "normal" for every single person to have the exact same limits, levels of tolerance, in pleasure and in pain. And pain allows us to discover the liminal space between our inner and outter world, which is defined by personal limits and boundaries... which are only determined once reached. This conscious self-exploration is rooted in rules and rituals, which can lead to overcoming of fears, as it requires courage to move through them, and leads to confidence in this outside world -once the scene is over. It can be a healing, transformative and even spiritual experience to dive into this type of practice with mindfulness and a true desire to connect to our innermost desires, outside of the fears and the shame that gatekeeps them.
Ms. Malissia40,921 görüntüleme • 2 yıl önce
![As a Domme, the first thing you want to dominate is TIME. Your scenes are on your own time when you own time. And the magic happens when you slow down. Not when you rush through a checklist to fit in everything. We don't want fast food, We want Michelin Star meals. [Exert from my NEXT LEVEL SCENE Masterclass] Do you agree? Share in the comments!⬇️](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2000694974849990914/ext_tw_video_thumb/2000694927970164742/pu/img/XXPs4bwD1Pf5X7tB.jpg)
As a Domme, the first thing you want to dominate is TIME. Your scenes are on your own time when you own time. And the magic happens when you slow down. Not when you rush through a checklist to fit in everything. We don't want fast food, We want Michelin Star meals. [Exert from my NEXT LEVEL SCENE Masterclass] Do you agree? Share in the comments!⬇️
Ms. Malissia14,131 görüntüleme • 5 ay önce
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The more you gift to her, the more you expand her capacity to receive. This is something I speak about a lot. Because in the F3mD0m world, receiving gifts and tributes is "standard" but few understand the deeper role and influence this has on Women. The sub has as much influence in the way he will make his Mistress feel as She will. Both play a crucial role in each other's GROWTH. If we think beyond sessions and play, women in society are conditioned to play small, not take too much space and overall to not need much. This impacts our nervous system in a way that we can't hold as much as men (especially wealth). So everytime you gift your Mistress something (money, gifts, or any offering) you are showing her not only that she deserves to receive but also how much she can receive. This sets a new standard. It expands our treshold. And that can lead to our capacity to receive more in all areas of our life.
Ms. Malissia36,759 görüntüleme • 2 yıl önce
![Behind closed doors is where the unseen is revealed Where we expose the desires that live dormant Where we want to be seen, truly. As D*mmes, we can 'perform' what is 'expected' Or we can show up with our own authenticity, Allowing what seeks to come to the surface To emerge. To allow someone to feel safe being vulnerable, As leader of the experience, We have to lead from that same place. What I have found to be true, Is that beyond all the 'requests' I received for specific kınks or scenes or use of tools, Was the desire for the person in front of me, To actually feel real intimacy. And nothing is more intimate, Than allowing someone to see within us, While offering them the same opportunity. What a luxury to find someone to share this kind of experience with. Do you agree? Or do you believe that clients are only looking to j*rk off? Tell me in the comments, I am curious. To me, this is what most are looking for, without being conscious of it. [Exerpt from LUXE DOMME]](https://image.24vids.com/tw-2016553282915783040/ext_tw_video_thumb/2016553183514972171/pu/img/MuKO_BX2JbtFe-6h.jpg)
Behind closed doors is where the unseen is revealed Where we expose the desires that live dormant Where we want to be seen, truly. As D*mmes, we can 'perform' what is 'expected' Or we can show up with our own authenticity, Allowing what seeks to come to the surface To emerge. To allow someone to feel safe being vulnerable, As leader of the experience, We have to lead from that same place. What I have found to be true, Is that beyond all the 'requests' I received for specific kınks or scenes or use of tools, Was the desire for the person in front of me, To actually feel real intimacy. And nothing is more intimate, Than allowing someone to see within us, While offering them the same opportunity. What a luxury to find someone to share this kind of experience with. Do you agree? Or do you believe that clients are only looking to j*rk off? Tell me in the comments, I am curious. To me, this is what most are looking for, without being conscious of it. [Exerpt from LUXE DOMME]
Ms. Malissia10,469 görüntüleme • 4 ay önce
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The Mistress Experience is welcoming another HeadMistress who will be by my side GoddessSultanaAisha 👑 We are looking for service-oriented submissives to join this immersive FemDom event, which will take place from July 3-7 in the South of Spain. It is the last time I host this Graduation celebration, as this is the last LIVE round of the Dominatrix Academy. Apply here for this opportunity of a lifetime: 2 month online training prior to the event (SUBSPACE) is included.
Ms. Malissia21,371 görüntüleme • 1 yıl önce
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Why would anyone want to be owned by someone else? Like & Retweet if you agree!
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THE MISTRESS EXPERIENCE is a 5 day immersive FemDom event to celebrate the Graduates of The Dominatrix Academy. We are hosting it in one of the most famous villas in Spain from July 3-7. We are looking for 10 submissives who are service-oriented to join us and experience 24/7 servitude. To join? You have to go through the online submissive training SUBSPACE. Apply here:
Ms. Malissia15,769 görüntüleme • 1 yıl önce
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You don't want to NEED subs! A conversation inspired by a 1:1 session I had with a Domme.
Ms. Malissia19,360 görüntüleme • 1 yıl önce
The CUNTENT CREATION CHALLENGE started today! DOMME SPACE is your #1 online community for Mıstresses, where we have a private yet global Network of hundreds of Alpha Women, both Lifestyle, Pros, beginners and highly experienced. Every month we have Live events - classes, trainings, Guest speakers, and Mastermind Calls - available to all our Pro Members, and a Mistress Happy Hour for all our Members to connect and Network. And August is all about building online momentum on your social platforms! Visibility and presence are key components to be found and to build trust with your fans, which is how you get to connect with them and have them book you for sessions, join your fansites, send you tributes and gifts, etc. Boosting your online presence = boosting your income. Some do SFS, we are running this challenge to learn how to create sexy and SFW content, while all supporting each other grow in the FəmDom space. I am co-hosting this challenge with my Domme Sister, the one and only GoddessSultanaAisha who is a Mıstress who has Mastered dominating in the online space (and beyond). You will have direct access to both of us through Telegram, where we will be reviewing the content, giving feedback, offering guidance and tips ! By joining you also get access to all the VIP features. Comment or DM me 'DOMME SPACE' for the link! And if you are joining the new round of The Domınatrıx Academy starting on the 8/8, well.. you automatically get access to the Membership for 6 months! Let's make 2025 the year you took the space that belongs to you 😈 online and beyond.
Ms. Malissia10,750 görüntüleme • 10 ay önce