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This reel (which got one million likes!) is the exact kind of messaging that normalises female perpetrated partner violence, and stops men from seeing themselves as legitimate victims of abuse. There’s nothing funny about hitting your partner, of either sex. Grow up.

This reel (which got one million likes!) is the exact kind of messaging that normalises female perpetrated partner violence, and stops men from seeing themselves as legitimate victims of abuse. There’s nothing funny about hitting your partner, of either sex. Grow up.

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“False allegations don’t ruin lives!" I so often read, typically posted next to images of powerful men such as Donald Trump, Andrew Tate, Chris Brown, or Brett Kavanaugh; who yes, it must be said, faced serious and credible allegations, and have still evaded justice. But (like so much emanating from the feminist movement), characterising men as Bugatti driving billionaire playboys, as presidents, rock stars, and supreme court justices, is clearly an intellectually dishonest view. Because, the men whose lives are being destroyed by false allegations, you don’t hear about. The working class fathers who are being accused in family courts; stripped of their children, their dignity, friends, and what little finances they once had, are having their lives ruined. This is where the problem resides. And the incentives are there – Just imagine fighting in court for your children, where making such an allegation demands little substantiation, and means you can have access to financial legal aid... Is it so hard to believe that some people would fabricate such stories, if it means they get to keep the thing that matters most to them in life? These incentives, for many, are impossible to ignore; and if we were honest about it, I'm sure it would cross your mind too, if placed in such a desperate position. I recently had a particularly brave and inspiring mother, tap me on the shoulder after hearing me talk at an event about male suicide, to tell me about her son. He was accused at university, by a vindictive, narcissistic, abusive ex girlfriend; and despite no credible evidence whatsoever, he was taken out of student accommodation, isolated, abandoned by his friends, convicted in the court of public opinion, and shunned by all those around him. Due process was abandoned, and he proclaimed his innocence right up until taking his own life. Was his life not destroyed? What about the lives of those who loved him? His story is one I hear often too. I see false allegations compared to “being struck by lighting”, with some nonsense claim of "0.000001%." Well, if such a claim was true, then why do I seem to get contacted by a man who’s “been struck by lightening” every single week? Also, this woozle statistic of 0.00001% derives from a study from the Crown Prosecution Service, that found only 0.62% of rape cases in the UK ended in a prosecution for a falsely made accusation. But we know that criminal prosecution rates are a dreadful barometer to measure real life instances of sexual violence, and yet the people who rightly expose such statistical sleight of hands for rape, then become the first to play that card of obfuscation for false allegations. It's absurd. The claims around false accusations are, at best, a naive manipulation of the truth, and at worse, intentionally emboldening a problem that hurts men, as well as women who are legitimate victims of sexual violence. Yes. Women lie. So do men. And for as long as certain accusations shall evade the appropriate level of scrutiny, and due process, or be incentivised in family courts with child custody wins, and legal aid – they will always be a reality. These men, never spoken about in the media, are to whom we should turn our attention; not the rich and powerful, but the economically disadvantaged and disenfranchised. Working men and fathers, and young men so hastily judged in the court of public opinion; who are stripped of everything that matters most to them, their lives so unjustly crushed, decimated, and worse. Turn your attention to them, and ignore those who present this phenomena as some kind of "lightning strike event", which it is not, and never has been.

“False allegations don’t ruin lives!" I so often read, typically posted next to images of powerful men such as Donald Trump, Andrew Tate, Chris Brown, or Brett Kavanaugh; who yes, it must be said, faced serious and credible allegations, and have still evaded justice. But (like so much emanating from the feminist movement), characterising men as Bugatti driving billionaire playboys, as presidents, rock stars, and supreme court justices, is clearly an intellectually dishonest view. Because, the men whose lives are being destroyed by false allegations, you don’t hear about. The working class fathers who are being accused in family courts; stripped of their children, their dignity, friends, and what little finances they once had, are having their lives ruined. This is where the problem resides. And the incentives are there – Just imagine fighting in court for your children, where making such an allegation demands little substantiation, and means you can have access to financial legal aid... Is it so hard to believe that some people would fabricate such stories, if it means they get to keep the thing that matters most to them in life? These incentives, for many, are impossible to ignore; and if we were honest about it, I'm sure it would cross your mind too, if placed in such a desperate position. I recently had a particularly brave and inspiring mother, tap me on the shoulder after hearing me talk at an event about male suicide, to tell me about her son. He was accused at university, by a vindictive, narcissistic, abusive ex girlfriend; and despite no credible evidence whatsoever, he was taken out of student accommodation, isolated, abandoned by his friends, convicted in the court of public opinion, and shunned by all those around him. Due process was abandoned, and he proclaimed his innocence right up until taking his own life. Was his life not destroyed? What about the lives of those who loved him? His story is one I hear often too. I see false allegations compared to “being struck by lighting”, with some nonsense claim of "0.000001%." Well, if such a claim was true, then why do I seem to get contacted by a man who’s “been struck by lightening” every single week? Also, this woozle statistic of 0.00001% derives from a study from the Crown Prosecution Service, that found only 0.62% of rape cases in the UK ended in a prosecution for a falsely made accusation. But we know that criminal prosecution rates are a dreadful barometer to measure real life instances of sexual violence, and yet the people who rightly expose such statistical sleight of hands for rape, then become the first to play that card of obfuscation for false allegations. It's absurd. The claims around false accusations are, at best, a naive manipulation of the truth, and at worse, intentionally emboldening a problem that hurts men, as well as women who are legitimate victims of sexual violence. Yes. Women lie. So do men. And for as long as certain accusations shall evade the appropriate level of scrutiny, and due process, or be incentivised in family courts with child custody wins, and legal aid – they will always be a reality. These men, never spoken about in the media, are to whom we should turn our attention; not the rich and powerful, but the economically disadvantaged and disenfranchised. Working men and fathers, and young men so hastily judged in the court of public opinion; who are stripped of everything that matters most to them, their lives so unjustly crushed, decimated, and worse. Turn your attention to them, and ignore those who present this phenomena as some kind of "lightning strike event", which it is not, and never has been.

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Another day of male privilege for some Ukrainian man, dragged from his home, and sent to war.

Another day of male privilege for some Ukrainian man, dragged from his home, and sent to war.

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"Misandry doesn't exist"

"Misandry doesn't exist"

174,012 görüntüleme • 4 ay önce

U.S. women in 2019 were FIVE TIMES more likely than women of 1984 to believe a man finds it "pleasurable" to be raped by a woman. This is what happens when we only tackle half the problem, and judging by this recently announced new policy, we still haven't learnt our lesson.

U.S. women in 2019 were FIVE TIMES more likely than women of 1984 to believe a man finds it "pleasurable" to be raped by a woman. This is what happens when we only tackle half the problem, and judging by this recently announced new policy, we still haven't learnt our lesson.

203,284 görüntüleme • 5 ay önce

"Misandry Doesn't Exist!" New podcast 'Why Men Die By Suicide, Chapter 2', with male suicide researcher Dr Susie Bennett out now:

"Misandry Doesn't Exist!" New podcast 'Why Men Die By Suicide, Chapter 2', with male suicide researcher Dr Susie Bennett out now:

78,526 görüntüleme • 3 ay önce

In 2010 professor Murray Straus, founder of the field family violence research, and the world’s leading expert, presented more than 200 studies, taken over thirty years, that found ‘gender parity’ in victimhood of intimate partner violence. Two years later, in 2012, professor Sarah Desmarais, summarized 249 studies, showing that 21.6% of men, and 28.3% of women reported perpetrating violence in an intimate relationship. Two years after that, 2014, professor Martin Fiebert created a bibliography of 343 studies, that found 'women are as physically aggressive as men (or more)’ in intimate relationships. During this time, the world’s largest database of domestic violence data, the Partner Abuse State of Knowledge (PASK) summarized ONE THOUSAND SEVEN HUNDRED papers, and yup, the same. The PASK, took 117 statistical comparisons across 49 countries, and found that in 63% of comparisons, rates of violence by women toward male partners were higher (or the same) as men’s violence against female partners. Add to that, every single national survey ever done by the CDC (the NISVS) has found equal victimization rates too, and soon you will find yourself at the foot of a giant mountain of data, that nobody gives a fuck about. It’s just kindling. And if you ever present it, you will be serenaded with shrill shrieks and squeals, as the cult of outrage rolls into town. So I’ve given up trying to prove to you that intimate partner violence is not gendered, as if 1,700 papers, and the testimony of world leading experts won’t do it, nothing will. Instead I now ask – why does nobody believe the data? Why are we so scared to admit to something, that in scientific terms, is as obvious and mundane as ‘water is wet’. Why are we so afraid to simply say, that women really can do anything a man can, and yes, that includes intimate partner violence too. What do you think? ~ Straus Fiebert Desmarais

In 2010 professor Murray Straus, founder of the field family violence research, and the world’s leading expert, presented more than 200 studies, taken over thirty years, that found ‘gender parity’ in victimhood of intimate partner violence. Two years later, in 2012, professor Sarah Desmarais, summarized 249 studies, showing that 21.6% of men, and 28.3% of women reported perpetrating violence in an intimate relationship. Two years after that, 2014, professor Martin Fiebert created a bibliography of 343 studies, that found 'women are as physically aggressive as men (or more)’ in intimate relationships. During this time, the world’s largest database of domestic violence data, the Partner Abuse State of Knowledge (PASK) summarized ONE THOUSAND SEVEN HUNDRED papers, and yup, the same. The PASK, took 117 statistical comparisons across 49 countries, and found that in 63% of comparisons, rates of violence by women toward male partners were higher (or the same) as men’s violence against female partners. Add to that, every single national survey ever done by the CDC (the NISVS) has found equal victimization rates too, and soon you will find yourself at the foot of a giant mountain of data, that nobody gives a fuck about. It’s just kindling. And if you ever present it, you will be serenaded with shrill shrieks and squeals, as the cult of outrage rolls into town. So I’ve given up trying to prove to you that intimate partner violence is not gendered, as if 1,700 papers, and the testimony of world leading experts won’t do it, nothing will. Instead I now ask – why does nobody believe the data? Why are we so scared to admit to something, that in scientific terms, is as obvious and mundane as ‘water is wet’. Why are we so afraid to simply say, that women really can do anything a man can, and yes, that includes intimate partner violence too. What do you think? ~ Straus Fiebert Desmarais

87,081 görüntüleme • 4 ay önce

Here's the Education Select Committee during yesterday's ‘Reading for Pleasure’ inquiry. The panel, all white women, were asked by Jess Asato MP about boys, and if they had any advice on how to improve boys' literacy. Five blank faces in response. Their expert answer was no.

Here's the Education Select Committee during yesterday's ‘Reading for Pleasure’ inquiry. The panel, all white women, were asked by Jess Asato MP about boys, and if they had any advice on how to improve boys' literacy. Five blank faces in response. Their expert answer was no.

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This post has nearly 270,000 likes (!) Considering vasectomies are NOT considered 'reversible', this lovely lady is openly advocating for mandatory sterilisation of baby boys en masse. Tired of saying it now, but flip the genders, and ask yourself, how would society react?

This post has nearly 270,000 likes (!) Considering vasectomies are NOT considered 'reversible', this lovely lady is openly advocating for mandatory sterilisation of baby boys en masse. Tired of saying it now, but flip the genders, and ask yourself, how would society react?

67,593 görüntüleme • 4 ay önce

Imagine calling an abuse victim "an even bigger piece of shit than I thought", because he didn't immediately release a video of him being violently abused. @kotakmomen, you are utterly deranged, and detached from reality. This is why male abuse victims don't speak out.

Imagine calling an abuse victim "an even bigger piece of shit than I thought", because he didn't immediately release a video of him being violently abused. @kotakmomen, you are utterly deranged, and detached from reality. This is why male abuse victims don't speak out.

40,295 görüntüleme • 2 ay önce

“It’s not possible, for a grown woman to molest a boy, she can only let him fuck her… he’s going to be fine.” Joe does some subtle back pedalling during this exchange, but his opening premise is fucked. Say this about anyone else, and you’d be dubbed a pedophile apologist.

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“It’s not possible, for a grown woman to molest a boy, she can only let him fuck her… he’s going to be fine.” Joe does some subtle back pedalling during this exchange, but his opening premise is fucked. Say this about anyone else, and you’d be dubbed a pedophile apologist.

79,507 görüntüleme • 9 ay önce

An army of “masculinity experts” are going into our schools, to provide tax-funded, exorbitantly expensive lessons under the promise to exorcise our boys of their toxic masculinity, and/or misogyny. I was a boy once. And I 100% agree, a lot can be done to show our boys how to foster respectful, platonic relationships with girls. Now more than ever, that divide needs to be healed. But those who roll into schools with their “workshops”, often charging thousands of pounds, should be viewed with serious levels of skepticism, for they often leave the job half done. And that is – Nothing is done to teach girls to be similarly respectful of boys, nor to safeguard such boys from the abuses, both physical and sexual, that they so often experience too. Many of these “masculinity experts” with their chronic sense of moral superiority, are the modern day tobacco lobbyists; anti-science-snakeoil-salesmen, who bat away vast amounts of data that reveal them for who they are. Grifters. Grifters with misleading views of adolescent violence; who fill their pockets, and leave behind millions of vulnerable boys without help. Boys who are neglected in service of a dogmatic ideology, which point blank refuses to see them as equally important recipients of care and protection as girls. In my view, there are few people more shameful than those who leave vulnerable men without help, in order to further a political agenda; however, those who do the same to boys, surely are the very worst. So let us be clear – No child, of either sex, should be left without help. And no child is immune to holding harmful views of the other. Teach children respect, love, and self worth. Break the cycle of violence. What do you think? ~ YEF Data, Children, violence and vulnerability 2025 Watch the full discussion with laurahow here

An army of “masculinity experts” are going into our schools, to provide tax-funded, exorbitantly expensive lessons under the promise to exorcise our boys of their toxic masculinity, and/or misogyny. I was a boy once. And I 100% agree, a lot can be done to show our boys how to foster respectful, platonic relationships with girls. Now more than ever, that divide needs to be healed. But those who roll into schools with their “workshops”, often charging thousands of pounds, should be viewed with serious levels of skepticism, for they often leave the job half done. And that is – Nothing is done to teach girls to be similarly respectful of boys, nor to safeguard such boys from the abuses, both physical and sexual, that they so often experience too. Many of these “masculinity experts” with their chronic sense of moral superiority, are the modern day tobacco lobbyists; anti-science-snakeoil-salesmen, who bat away vast amounts of data that reveal them for who they are. Grifters. Grifters with misleading views of adolescent violence; who fill their pockets, and leave behind millions of vulnerable boys without help. Boys who are neglected in service of a dogmatic ideology, which point blank refuses to see them as equally important recipients of care and protection as girls. In my view, there are few people more shameful than those who leave vulnerable men without help, in order to further a political agenda; however, those who do the same to boys, surely are the very worst. So let us be clear – No child, of either sex, should be left without help. And no child is immune to holding harmful views of the other. Teach children respect, love, and self worth. Break the cycle of violence. What do you think? ~ YEF Data, Children, violence and vulnerability 2025 Watch the full discussion with laurahow here

36,609 görüntüleme • 3 ay önce

This is a real, paid media ad currently on Instagram… WhiteBridge AI helps you track down a man’s social media, Spotify playlists, hobbies and even favourite coffee spot ‘without ever speaking to him.’ This should be no less creepy, just because an attractive woman’s doing it.

This is a real, paid media ad currently on Instagram… WhiteBridge AI helps you track down a man’s social media, Spotify playlists, hobbies and even favourite coffee spot ‘without ever speaking to him.’ This should be no less creepy, just because an attractive woman’s doing it.

59,332 görüntüleme • 7 ay önce

People think suicidal men are emotionally stunted, illiterate, or "toxic"... but nothing is further from the truth. 'The wisdom of suicidal men' is an untapped resource, so often ignored and spoken over. Here, male suicide researcher, Dr Susie Bennett, shares such wisdom...

People think suicidal men are emotionally stunted, illiterate, or "toxic"... but nothing is further from the truth. 'The wisdom of suicidal men' is an untapped resource, so often ignored and spoken over. Here, male suicide researcher, Dr Susie Bennett, shares such wisdom...

31,389 görüntüleme • 4 ay önce

In America, there are 100 million men who had their bodily integrity violated, in a non-consenting, medically unnecessary, and excruciatingly painful genital surgery. Yes, I am talking about infant male circumcisions. And now, after hundreds of years of America quietly brushing it under the rug, Jewish-American attorney, and President of Intact Global, Inc., Eric Clopper, has started the process of having it outlawed with an ambitious, and unprecedented multi-state legal challenge that presents circumcision as a violation of human rights, and both the State and Federal constitutions. So let’s hear his story… Full podcast out now Footage by Dudubangbang Travel, Auram Dato-on, and Vasilis Karkalas.

In America, there are 100 million men who had their bodily integrity violated, in a non-consenting, medically unnecessary, and excruciatingly painful genital surgery. Yes, I am talking about infant male circumcisions. And now, after hundreds of years of America quietly brushing it under the rug, Jewish-American attorney, and President of Intact Global, Inc., Eric Clopper, has started the process of having it outlawed with an ambitious, and unprecedented multi-state legal challenge that presents circumcision as a violation of human rights, and both the State and Federal constitutions. So let’s hear his story… Full podcast out now Footage by Dudubangbang Travel, Auram Dato-on, and Vasilis Karkalas.

15,582 görüntüleme • 1 ay önce

Before women won the right to vote, around half of British men also couldn't vote. Incredible how late in life I learnt that.

Before women won the right to vote, around half of British men also couldn't vote. Incredible how late in life I learnt that.

11,207 görüntüleme • 1 ay önce

Feminism: ‘Men need to take responsibility for childcare!’ Also feminism: ‘Here is a made-up thought experiment where I am framing a hypothetical man as a pedophile, for no other reason than his gender, that is deeply stigmatising, and only pushes men away from childcare.’

Feminism: ‘Men need to take responsibility for childcare!’ Also feminism: ‘Here is a made-up thought experiment where I am framing a hypothetical man as a pedophile, for no other reason than his gender, that is deeply stigmatising, and only pushes men away from childcare.’

11,681 görüntüleme • 1 ay önce

This is one of the most moronic things I’ve heard. Ignoring how most child abuse, and infanticide is by women, the dangers of not having men play a role in the socialisation of kids, and the wider impacts of these anti male views, is far larger than your barmy man hating fetish.

This is one of the most moronic things I’ve heard. Ignoring how most child abuse, and infanticide is by women, the dangers of not having men play a role in the socialisation of kids, and the wider impacts of these anti male views, is far larger than your barmy man hating fetish.

18,041 görüntüleme • 3 ay önce

Do you remember when that school in Australia got its boys, who were only 12, to stand up in assembly and ‘apologise’ for the behaviour of men? I thought we’d outgrown this idea of collective punishment, but clearly the same kind of thinking is prevalent in the UK too.

Do you remember when that school in Australia got its boys, who were only 12, to stand up in assembly and ‘apologise’ for the behaviour of men? I thought we’d outgrown this idea of collective punishment, but clearly the same kind of thinking is prevalent in the UK too.

21,833 görüntüleme • 5 ay önce

Professor says women should ‘think like an economist’ and marry other women, because dating men is inefficient. Has someone told her lesbian women divorce at about 2x the rate as hetero women, and 2.5x the rate as gay men? But yes, tell me more about this ‘economic sense’ 🤦‍♂️

Professor says women should ‘think like an economist’ and marry other women, because dating men is inefficient. Has someone told her lesbian women divorce at about 2x the rate as hetero women, and 2.5x the rate as gay men? But yes, tell me more about this ‘economic sense’ 🤦‍♂️

26,619 görüntüleme • 7 ay önce

For so long, violence by women has been seen as a joke. Something to roll your eyes, laugh, and smile at; the butt of a thousand SitComs gags, the target of endless excuses, and outrageous rebukes of ‘its not that bad’, ‘she didn’t mean to’, ‘he deserved it’, etc. So many people think, a man who is being abused by his female partner has to simply endure it, to hide and run away. Some think a man who does so is weak. Others believe a man's physical strength makes him impervious to such acts of violence by a woman, and we needn’t spare a moments thought. Well, it was only a few weeks ago, when I was contacted by the wife of a man who was formerly in the SAS, who in a previous relationship was driven to a suicide attempt due to abuse against him. This is a man trained to kill, and endure, by the most elite special forces on the planet, being driven to a suicide attempt by a woman half his size. Clearly our notion of violent, abusive women is not quite right. So do popular depictions of female violence against men have to change? And how can we ever expect male victims of abuse to seek help, when all they see is this sicking parade of jokes, skits and minimisation, with them as the protagonist? What do you think? Full discussion here:

For so long, violence by women has been seen as a joke. Something to roll your eyes, laugh, and smile at; the butt of a thousand SitComs gags, the target of endless excuses, and outrageous rebukes of ‘its not that bad’, ‘she didn’t mean to’, ‘he deserved it’, etc. So many people think, a man who is being abused by his female partner has to simply endure it, to hide and run away. Some think a man who does so is weak. Others believe a man's physical strength makes him impervious to such acts of violence by a woman, and we needn’t spare a moments thought. Well, it was only a few weeks ago, when I was contacted by the wife of a man who was formerly in the SAS, who in a previous relationship was driven to a suicide attempt due to abuse against him. This is a man trained to kill, and endure, by the most elite special forces on the planet, being driven to a suicide attempt by a woman half his size. Clearly our notion of violent, abusive women is not quite right. So do popular depictions of female violence against men have to change? And how can we ever expect male victims of abuse to seek help, when all they see is this sicking parade of jokes, skits and minimisation, with them as the protagonist? What do you think? Full discussion here:

12,423 görüntüleme • 2 ay önce

Despite fifty years of “gay pride”, and an increasingly protracted, and contentious alphabet soup of ‘LGBT+’; there is one group, in a vast ocean of awareness, that rarely gets discussed. Gay men. The stats are clear – Gay men are, by far, America’s number one victim of sexuality based hate crimes, outnumbering all other victims combined. They face more hate crime, they feel less safe in public, they are less accepted in every country in the world; they were, and still are, uniquely persecuted, throughout history, across the globe, and deep within theological text. And yet, the story of the lowly gay male is one I so rarely see. In fact, from my almighty gay following, I only hear the opposite: that the gay male, has become the “white man” of LGBT. An unwelcome figure, so often cast out and “decentred” in the incessant purity contest, that so-called “progressives” desperately flagellate themselves over. And it’s not right. I’ve seen deeply illuminating conversation at the intersection of being a ‘gay woman’, with so many important points of view, a straight man like me would otherwise have no hope of seeing. And now it’s time to have a specific conversation about “gay men”, to understand their unique experiences – both current day and historic – that are so frequently glossed over. So why do gay men experience homophobia so differently to lesbian women? What do you think? New podcast: Ask us Anything with Lisa Britton in 4K here!

Despite fifty years of “gay pride”, and an increasingly protracted, and contentious alphabet soup of ‘LGBT+’; there is one group, in a vast ocean of awareness, that rarely gets discussed. Gay men. The stats are clear – Gay men are, by far, America’s number one victim of sexuality based hate crimes, outnumbering all other victims combined. They face more hate crime, they feel less safe in public, they are less accepted in every country in the world; they were, and still are, uniquely persecuted, throughout history, across the globe, and deep within theological text. And yet, the story of the lowly gay male is one I so rarely see. In fact, from my almighty gay following, I only hear the opposite: that the gay male, has become the “white man” of LGBT. An unwelcome figure, so often cast out and “decentred” in the incessant purity contest, that so-called “progressives” desperately flagellate themselves over. And it’s not right. I’ve seen deeply illuminating conversation at the intersection of being a ‘gay woman’, with so many important points of view, a straight man like me would otherwise have no hope of seeing. And now it’s time to have a specific conversation about “gay men”, to understand their unique experiences – both current day and historic – that are so frequently glossed over. So why do gay men experience homophobia so differently to lesbian women? What do you think? New podcast: Ask us Anything with Lisa Britton in 4K here!

20,599 görüntüleme • 5 ay önce