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This reel (which got one million likes!) is the exact kind of messaging that normalises female perpetrated partner violence, and stops men from seeing themselves as legitimate victims of abuse. There’s nothing funny about hitting your partner, of either sex. Grow up.

This reel (which got one million likes!) is the exact kind of messaging that normalises female perpetrated partner violence, and stops men from seeing themselves as legitimate victims of abuse. There’s nothing funny about hitting your partner, of either sex. Grow up.

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I am tired of the endless cultural hysteria around ‘the manosphere’. The tiresome cacophony of outrage and anger. The sharpened phalanx of wagging fingers, the blugeon of lectures, the barrage of sensational headlines; with boys endlessly bombarded, bored and betrayed, at its centre. 90 years ago it was the moral panic of “reefer madness”, after that the world clutched its pearls over “the satanic panic”, in the 90s it was the “superpredator”, then came the terrifying “millennium bug”, and now, the no-less spookily named “manosphere” has arrived. And so celebrities sell their books. Researchers are awarded more funding. Masculinity experts tour the world, going to conference, to conference, to conference. Netflix sells out another show, legions of feminist campaigners wring their hands, and Louis Theroux lands another commission. Everyone wins, but boys. Everyone has their say, every screenwriter, documentarian, ivory tower professor, and self proclaimed ‘masculinity expert'... everyone. Everyone, except boys, that is. But if you listen to boys, and hear what they have to say, the reality of who they are is wildly different to the sensationalist racket that rings through our ears, and has done for years now. Yes. If you listen to boys, one thing will become abundantly clear. Boys are not rapists in waiting, about to be inducted into the manosphere by some angry gym bro, so they can oppress women. Boys are good. And so, if I could change one thing, it would be to stop talking about boys, and start talking to them. So let’s do that now, and hear what they’ve got to say… ~ Here’s me talking on the main stage at Brain Bar last week in Budapest. Full interview YouGov Poll survey

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"Misandry doesn't exist"

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In 2010 professor Murray Straus, founder of the field family violence research, and the world’s leading expert, presented more than 200 studies, taken over thirty years, that found ‘gender parity’ in victimhood of intimate partner violence. Two years later, in 2012, professor Sarah Desmarais, summarized 249 studies, showing that 21.6% of men, and 28.3% of women reported perpetrating violence in an intimate relationship. Two years after that, 2014, professor Martin Fiebert created a bibliography of 343 studies, that found 'women are as physically aggressive as men (or more)’ in intimate relationships. During this time, the world’s largest database of domestic violence data, the Partner Abuse State of Knowledge (PASK) summarized ONE THOUSAND SEVEN HUNDRED papers, and yup, the same. The PASK, took 117 statistical comparisons across 49 countries, and found that in 63% of comparisons, rates of violence by women toward male partners were higher (or the same) as men’s violence against female partners. Add to that, every single national survey ever done by the CDC (the NISVS) has found equal victimization rates too, and soon you will find yourself at the foot of a giant mountain of data, that nobody gives a fuck about. It’s just kindling. And if you ever present it, you will be serenaded with shrill shrieks and squeals, as the cult of outrage rolls into town. So I’ve given up trying to prove to you that intimate partner violence is not gendered, as if 1,700 papers, and the testimony of world leading experts won’t do it, nothing will. Instead I now ask – why does nobody believe the data? Why are we so scared to admit to something, that in scientific terms, is as obvious and mundane as ‘water is wet’. Why are we so afraid to simply say, that women really can do anything a man can, and yes, that includes intimate partner violence too. What do you think? ~ Straus Fiebert Desmarais

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