anything above 80k is a crime, daylight robbery.

@Mlu___N2 No one finishes Lobola. Let them ask R100k, then pay what you have and go fuck your wife in peace.

@Mlu___N2 Men complaining why lobola is so expensive while its men that negotiate with other men on lobola price will never make sense to me.

@Mlu___N2 Even 80k is pushing it, honestly

@Mlu___N2 My dad doesn't charge anything for his daughters. He just tells his son inlaw to pay whatever amount he can afford. He says he doesn't want his daughters to starve in marriage just because the husband is paying loans he took for lobola. I'll use the same method too.

@Mlu___N2 We need to introduce a 3 quote system 😂😂😂 No one has your best interests better than your parents. The mom was supposed to tell the uncles to toe the line.

@Mlu___N2 Anything about R30-50k is unreasonable, because more than often you find the guy found the girl not a virgin anymore and these two still need to go and find their own place, cars and etc. Life is too expensive nowadays and paying hefty amount will always set us back by years!

We have lobola negotiations coming up in December and I literally have anxieties that the elders may mess things up for my lil sister (ingane ka Mamncane). The guy has been super amazing for her and their twins. I really pray for common sense and humanity to reign in those negotiations 🙏🏾🤧

@Mlu___N2 We really need to implement a three-quote system to promote competition among bidders.

@Mlu___N2 negotiations should not be done with people who don't have experience, ie married. also, the negotiations are about the expense of the wedding day, inkomo kaBaba is standard (not to ingane yako malume) ekaMama depending. then you just working out cost of wedding day and imibondo

@Mlu___N2 Some insights on the concept from Prof Joe Diescho

@Mlu___N2 Anything above R10K is ridiculous. A single cow is all that is needed.

@Mlu___N2 My woman said mamzo wants 100k.... told her to tell her parents ba monyale. 1st lobola i paid was R25k why would i pay R100k, hlalani lapho, Northern Cape women lobola is under R10k and they are the most beautiful and humble, nje poverty has ruined their thinking.

@Mlu___N2 100k I bet gal was Xhosa, they like playing around those numbers. That time ikheke liphelile🤣🤣🤣

@Mlu___N2 Sounds like her uncles disrespected her mother & wanted to do their own thing here. That's the chat they need to have. I don't know whether her father is still alive, but he should've been regulating those uncles.

@Mlu___N2 Yoh she is spot on. I remember after my lobola negotiations I had to stroke my husband's dick for quite a while to calm him, coz tell me why my uncles asked for 10 sheep's ect 😭😭😭😭😭😭

@Mlu___N2 The audacity of parents asking for lobola when their daughters are not virgins anymore. How did we corrupt the simplicity of our culture?

@Mlu___N2 My mother returned R10k to the Groom saying “I'm not selling my child” and, that was in 2009🫣. I'm proud of her.

@Mlu___N2 Lol very few men actually have a good Lobola experience these days. Most just end up saying "fine,I'll pay" to avoid the embarrassment💀

@Mlu___N2 My opinion tell your parents how much the guy has nje, I told my mom if they want more mna I’m going to go sign and live my life with my husband coz if they take all his money what are we going to survive on? I mean guy tried bandla

@Mlu___N2 Maybe don’t tell your parents what the guy does until they have paid the lobola, personally i would not pay anything above 100k and if its indeed 100k then wife must be proper.

@Mlu___N2 Y’all pay 80ks etc for single mothers and return soldiers, some man are brave. Lobola should be standardized to only 2.5K and 2 male & female goats Nothing more, Lobola is a ritual not an earning opportunity for lazy uncles and aunts.

@Mlu___N2 This generation is fucked you are paying more for less

@Mlu___N2 I'm lucky to have been in ilobolo negotiations more than three times. Some people are making this a business forgetting that we are building families here, the most important cows there. Eka Mama ElsBaba Eyomqhoyiso if you are still a virgin. The rest will be during wedding.

@Mlu___N2 Let the guy pay what he think you worth then secretly go sign at Home Affairs. That’s all

@Mlu___N2 I've always said, uncles who didn't work for themselves will try capitalize on such processes

@Mlu___N2 Lobola should be regulated by the law on how much the maximum amount should be, lobola is now a money-making scheme

@Mlu___N2 Anything over R30k is War of families. Lobola is not a transaction, it is appreciation and respect to the family. Even R10k will do. Those 2 are still going to build a home and you want them to start from.minis R100k? Tsek!

@Mlu___N2 If she’s no longer a virgin there’s no need for lobola just meet for a braai to introduce families!!

@Mlu___N2 I believe the girl should manage expectations on her family side. They are asking for this cause they know something they shouldn't .

@Mlu___N2 Your mother had no business to give you, and your husband, heads up. It is impudent to come in somebody's homestead with the exact amount as if you're there to buy some object.

@Mlu___N2 Lobola is a beautiful cultural exchange, but the problem is the toxic mentality that has developed around it. Many families have turned it into a BARRIER to marriage rather than a BRIDGE. Very few families have the maturity to use it as a tool to build the new couple. Very few!

@Mlu___N2 I wouldn’t have worked 10x harder.

@Mlu___N2 Men in 2025 : damn lobola is so expensive, they trying to rip me off. Same men in 2050 negotiating his daughter's lobola: I want 100k from that young man's family. STUPID.