Dating 101!!! Sit back, read, think and adapt!!! Before You Commit, Take Time to Know the Person!!! Again, if you are a perceptive person, you will realize that no human being can pretend forever. People can pretend for a while, they can hide their weaknesses, control their reactions, say... the right things and show you only the parts of themselves they want you to see. But with enough time, life will eventually reveal them, pressure will reveal them, your disappointing them will reveal them, money will reveal them, success will reveal them, failing will reveal them. And sometimes, simply being around them for long enough will reveal who they truly are. This is why you should never be in a hurry to commit your heart, your future or your life to someone you barely know. Think about anything you truly understand. Whether it is a profession, skill, subject or even a hobby, deep knowledge usually comes from spending a great deal of time with it. You observe it, study it, ask questions, make mistakes, look deeper…. People are not different… You cannot truly know a person simply because you have been talking to them for six months or because you are deeply attracted to them. You know someone by paying attention to them over time, you listen to what they say, but you also watch what they do. You observe how they treat people (immediately family members) who cannot benefit them, you watch how they behave when they are angry, disappointed, broke, successful, sick, stressed or ignored. In love, you must do more than admire someone. You must study a person’s character and who they truly want to be. Ask questions & difficult conversations about money, family, children, faith, responsibilities, friendships, boundaries, sex, ambition, failure, and expectations. Do not be afraid to confront uncomfortable subjects. Someone who looks perfect when everything is going well may look very different when life becomes difficult. . . . Familiarity does not only breed contempt. Many times, familiarity gives you a deeper appreciation of a good person. The more reasonable you are as a human being, the more you understand that nobody is perfect. When you spend enough time with a good person, you begin to see their weaknesses alongside their strengths and you can decide whether those weaknesses are things you can genuinely live with. So please, take your time before you commit to someone. See them in different seasons of life… See them when they have nothing… See them when they have plenty… See how they behave when they are in control and when they are not… See how they treat people who cannot help them... See how they respond when they are told “no”… See how they view money… See how they handle disappointment… See how they speak about their former partners… See how they treat their parents, siblings, friends, children, workers and strangers… And just as importantly, allow them to see you finish too. Do not pretend to be someone you are not just because you want someone to love you. Let them see you when you are struggling, when you are uncertain, when you are successful, when you are tired and when you are not at your best. Some people are obsessed with control, some are selfish, some are driven more by money than love, some settle for you because of age, pressure, comfort, or financial security, some have mot healed from previous relationships, some carry trauma you can not deal with, some lack common. That is why time, observation, honest conversations and self-awareness matter so much in love. Take your time to know people!!!!show more

Women always show who they are from day 1 You just ignored the signs and you’ll pay for seeing the wonders 🤣🤣🤣

Totally agree. It's really interesting how in this day and age many people think you should trust them automatically just because you are dating them. That is serious manipulation. Dating is the time you watch that person, take note of their values, watch their impulses, you vet

“Take your time to know people” 💯‼️ This is why I always maintain that love at first sight is a myth and does not exist, because it is impossible to love someone you don’t know. You can only be attracted to someone at first sight at best; love comes after you know them. If loving someone at first sight were true, everybody who likes each other at first sight would not have broken up. In fact, most first relationships would lead to marriage. You cannot love who you don’t know.

You can’t fully know a person. It’s either you don’t get married, or you choose what you can tolerate, or get married when you really want to irrespective of the consequences. The concept of marriage doesn’t even make sense to me, but it’s a practice that our parents left us

If time reach, just carry anybody wey you see for road, give am belle. 🙏

Na my wife of 7 years wey I wan divorce this next month naim this man Dey talk about so. Exactly

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Ask questions & difficult conversations about money, family, children, faith, responsibilities, friendships, boundaries, sex, ambition, failure, and expectations. Do not be afraid to confront uncomfortable subjects. Someone who looks perfect when everything is going well may look very different when life becomes difficult.

His name is reverend Craig omarithiwen

"Again, if you are a perceptive person, you will realize that no human being can pretend forever."

And just as importantly, allow them to see you finish too. Do not pretend to be someone you are not just because you want someone to love you. Let them see you when you are struggling, when you are uncertain, when you are successful, when you are tired and when you are not at your best.

@neo_officialll I took my time to read this twice and all I can say is that may God bless you abundantly

An important tip if you realize early enough something you wouldn’t put up with leave.

The self centeredness go dey show with style before marriage sef. Spot on, man of God.

Omo, just yesterday, I had a conversation with my girlfriend about how I perceived her as a little bit self-centered. Since we had that conversation, she hasn't responded to my texts and calls. Now I'm seeing this post today. It is well sha...

Thank and you and God bless you for the write up

That’s how the dating scene is nowadays

@CodenameDemola It’s known concept in study of Narcissism Death by a thousand cuts.

My own na say I go divorce!! Na Una Dey look am like say na death sentence

From experience, most Naija women are self-centered. They will appreciate more those that bought them petrol rather than the guy who bought her the car.

Na this una story still dey make many persons never marry at age 45. Did our parents and grandparents do all these? God said ' for this reason will a man leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and they two shall become one FLESH ' Overwise una.

Hmmm 🤔 Lord I'm grateful!🙏🏾🙌🏾 Help me to continue hearing from you when you Speak on issues like this. The warning came, yet i was desperate, but at last your ways and purpose for me came to the open. I'm eternally grateful,🙏🏾🙌🏾

Great tips cheif 🫡

Na this thing de fear me pass.

@grok, original video please

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Thanks. This is so amazing

You didn’t lie at all bro !!

Ayyy sirr!!!

Wonderfully written! 🔥

What category of persons is the speaker talking of These videos, these video It has to start from where it mks sense

This part is of great value. Men who want to hit and run will never know.

Life is hard

Beware the Jezebel spirit.

These are the sets of cunts that go around under the guise of preaching the word killing the hearts of women towards their men. I will never rate any African who’s a man of God till I sense Christ him. The only two I rate so far Pastor Olubi Johnson & Pastor Ranti Oyedele.