How your anxious attachment makes you manipulative

this to me just sounds like a person that words of affirmation is their love language or communication of their needs it doesn't sounds manipulative at all. having a request on how to receive love doesn't make you manipulative.

True that’s why you don’t keep anything from your partner. Tell me how you feel so I can give you the time you need to recuperate. The problem is lot of people expect their partners to be mind readers , that’s it’s own form of toxic expectation .

I get it but where does accountability come in when it’s actual neglect.

its called expectations and verbal communication.

So true. Some people are selfish and self-centered and lack the capacity for empathy towards their partner. Even when their partner is emotionally destitute, they can't hold space for them and be there for their partner because it's not revolved around them.

Ppl will be the actual manipulators,avoid accountability. So is it not selfish to be in a partnership with someone and not communicate where you are mentally so there is understanding? Like is that not selfish to not consider how your actions may be affecting your partner also?

Yes I don’t agree with this one at all

Very true, u have to remind yourself to give your partner the same grace that you give yourself. Anxious people will overthink and that can be an issue, but it’s important then to hold yourself accountable also. There are always two sides. It’s not always the other person’s fault

This makes zero sense to me and I think it’s stupid