If you’re not careful, your independence can turn into avoidant behaviour real quick. It’s great to be able to rely on yourself, but also remember that nobody is perfect. Some stuff is worth leaving over. Other stuff isn’t. Learning the difference is 🔑

my homegirls & I have learned some really hard lessons from the hyper-independence we were conditioned with, which seems to be common among 1st gen daughters…yeah it’s a defense mechanism to the fear that others can’t be relied on but we’ve realized it can be so self-sabotaging

I’ve had a few “I’m over this, I don’t need this man, I can do this life thing alone” moments a few times; but being self aware has helped me identify the triggers and deal with them better and communication is one of the best ways to deal with this.

So true! I've had the cause to help someone change mindset & have stability in their relationship. Few things, infact very trivial things triggered some independent ladies to want to throw in the towel in their relationship instead of sitting back, have a second thought & move on

Toni, thank you for talking to me😭😭! I’ll change my ways🥹🤲🏾

I love this. Idk if her take was specifically towards women or not, but easily this could apply to men too. Again...love it.

Too late now.

The accuracy of this tho🥹💯

Love this. I definitely needed to hear this. Thank you ❤️

I’m actually tired of being hyper independent. I want to be in a partnership where I can lean on someone else and let them take charge for a change. But in today’s society, that’s hard to come by 🫠

Thanks Toni 💕