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Joel Jamieson did everything right and was still walking around with a 50% blockage in his widowmaker artery. He’s a world-renowned cardiovascular expert who doesn't smoke, doesn't drink, sleeps well, manages stress, trains consistently, and has a VO2 max probably north of 55. He got screened at 40 and... found it. He had zero symptoms the entire time. This is the core problem with cardiovascular disease in well-trained individuals — it doesn't announce itself the way we expect it to. The markers we typically use to flag risk don't apply. No excess body weight, no poor lifestyle habits, no reason to think anything is wrong. What actually predicted Joel's risk was his family history. His mom had a stroke at 60. His dad and uncle died early. His brother had a triple bypass before 50. Every signal was there, just not one he could feel. If that kind of history exists in your family, get screened. The CT angiogram runs around $1,200 out of pocket — not cheap, and hopefully that comes down over time. But if you can justify it, it's worth it.show more

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caleb4 个月前

I would not recommend that. Get a calcium score 1st (~$200) check your Alpha lipoprotein and cardiolipin A&B, look at your family history, and then get a CT angiocardiogram if any of those show risk. The risk of nephrotoxicity due to the contrast is real and the risk of radiation is real especially when young.

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Brandon Ballinger4 个月前

I'd test these before a heart scan. They're cheaper, <$200, and show heart disease earlier: - ApoB (more accurate than cholesterol) - Lp(a) (strongest hereditary risk factor for heart disease) - Inflammation (hs-CRP) - eGFR (kidney health) - A1c (metabolic health) Lots of great options including @EmpiricalHLTH.

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Andy Galpin, PhD4 个月前

In Joel's case, this would have failed him. His full blood panel (including the markers you listed) looked great, and his first cardiologist told him there was no need for additional screening. He got the imaging done anyway, and it probably saved his life.

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Brandon Ballinger4 个月前

In 99%* of cases, a heart attack is proceeded by a risk factor in a blood test. So most people are better served by getting the $200 blood test before they get the $1,000 CCTA. * actual stat from the medical literature, not just a figure of speech

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Howard Luks MD4 个月前

Well... tbh. If you have a significant family history, then that combined with ApoB, Lpa, hsCRP, Trigs, etc., should have led to far more aggressive lipid/lifestyle mgmt without the need for a CTA. If folks are on the fence about starting lipid-lowering meds/lifestyle changes, then perhaps CAC or CTA could help them... but those tests shouldn't be necessary for a cardiologist to initiate aggressive mgmt in his clinical scenario.

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Andy Galpin, PhD4 个月前

Agreed, and I know Joel does as well. In Joel's specific case, he had worked with a cardiologist, who told him not to pursue any additional imaging or make any changes because his lifestyle was good. Had he not sought out a second opinion, things could have turned out very poorly.

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Howard Luks MD4 个月前

Agreed... it's terribly unfortunate that the only variables weighed to determine his risk profile were his lifestyle and physical activity.

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Jesse Morse, M.D.4 个月前

@AJA_Cortes What was his CAC? ApoB? LpA? HDL? HS CRP?

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Dr. Eiman Jahangir4 个月前

The main issue is that a 50% blockage just means he needs aggressive guideline directed management of risk factors- blood pressure, lipids, diet and exercise…his family history , particularly with is brother, should have triggered that…

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Jon Arnold4 个月前

At 54 I had a Ca score check even though my cardiologist said no. I got a devastating score of 927! An angiogram found 100% blockage of my Widowmaker. Endurance exercise saved my life due to extra arterial growth above the blockage. Exercise can protect from horrendous genetics.

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DoctorTro4 个月前

@grok is Andy a doctor and has he ever ordered a CCTA or interpreted a CCTA THANKS IN ADVANCE

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Jonathan Watters4 个月前

My father did not take good care of himself and made it to 87. My maternal gma made it to 96 not taking care of herself. My mom is fit as can be at 85 and does not take of herself. I take exquisite care. HypOtensive my whole life. No smoking. No drinking. I tried to raise my cholesterol because I was worried it was too low. Will I live forever?

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Rakan I. Nazer راكان بن ابراهيم ناظر4 个月前

I wouldn’t recommend CT angiograms for all…this will open a pandora box of endless chaos. All those 40 and above, including very fit individuals, should get annual screening for hypertension, diabetes, and high LDL including a one time LPa measurement. Appropriate medical treatment should be started early and promptly. A healthy lifestyle is great but it wouldn’t make you immune to the no. 1 cause of death worldwide.

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Thor Torrens4 个月前

Did everything right is subjective and your omitting many other factors and variables besides genetics Like certain foods or supplements he took to contribute to his disease

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RWC4 个月前

What about a calcium CT for $100?

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Senior Fitness Athlete4 个月前

This hits home - at 49 I was having issues - just not feeling right, Docs never got it right, eventually 1.5 year later - a cardiologist did the CT, damn the room said - 95%. Doc said I did everything right, was just my DNA. I am now better than 95% of my gen pop peers -vo2max.

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exfatloss🥛4 个月前

Probably ate a lot of seed oils?

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Dan Mehmet4 个月前

Joel Jamieson the MMA conditioning coach?

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Andy Galpin, PhD4 个月前

Yes.

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Dr. Robert Barrett4 个月前

Great post. Reminds me of Jim Fixx, who wrote The Complete Book of Running, and died at 52. Family history.

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Andrew Talbot4 个月前

Would you recommend a CAC test first to determine if atherosclerosis has started? Then, if yes, prioritize this test? Would one give insight into the other, given it's significantly cheaper?

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𝕸y_n🂡me_Is_☡4 个月前

39 just had a heart attack. Fit the bill you described to a tee. Had a 100% clogged artery, surgery and stent. One week ago

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JPowell's Printer4 个月前

"Did everything right" How much sunlight was he getting. How much blue light was he avoiding? I thought so.

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CyberinTexas4 个月前

Is he COVID vaxxed? That seems to make a difference these days. It is an important data point.

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Omar Saleem4 个月前

for south asians who have even higher earlier risk than the general population, early screening is vital. But important to differentiate what is the best route.

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SLT Media4 个月前

Would love to know his take on diet and what he considered “heart healthy”

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AftDel4 个月前

Lpa is the culprit in most, not all, of these genetic family history stories.

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Andy Galpin, PhD4 个月前

Certainly a very important thing to take a look at.

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Tom Bibby4 个月前

💯 agree. Just got a Coronary Computed Tomography Angiography (CCTA) done to be safe. I'm assuming it's the same??

Tony Scott 🧄(🦆🐓🐵🧪🧬🪪)❌=↑🧄🧄🧄🥩🥚🧀↓👽👾🤖 的头像

Tony Scott 🧄(🦆🐓🐵🧪🧬🪪)❌=↑🧄🧄🧄🥩🥚🧀↓👽👾🤖4 个月前

He didn't do it right then.

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Odie D4 个月前

Let me guess. Avoids animal fats/protein, consumes heart healthy seed oils, refined grains, fibre and copious amounts of fruit and veggies.

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Drgabrielpirjol4 个月前

Please tell us his LDL burden for the last 20 years.

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Leonardo Cashinci4 个月前

Is there an instance where this blockage isn’t a big deal? In isolation may not be an issue. What if he was developing his own arterial cross collateralization? Is occlusion with aging more normal than we realize?

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∞4 个月前

@clvyevolved “did everything right”

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Michael Byrne4 个月前

“Half the arterial flow in my body is blocked; the trouble is I don’t know which half.” John Wanamaker (1838-1922)

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Yalla Papi4 个月前

Noticed you didn’t say he eats healthy

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Johanna 🇺🇸🇮🇱☦️4 个月前

@AJA_Cortes Also check Lp(a)

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Andrew Morcheles, CSCS4 个月前

Wild to assume that someone with a high VO2 max would just be healthy.

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Jason Wachob4 个月前

💪🙏

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Brilliant_minds4 个月前

I thought of the huge difference any supplement could make would be life changing. Tomato loads of it! Astronomical levels probably wouldn't work. Thoughtful effects of Lycopeen ?

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Beethoven could not hear the music he wrote. At the age of 28, he realized he was no longer able to listen to a flute being played in the distance, and he spent the rest of his life composing the most enduring music in Western history in almost complete silence... He had been a working musician since childhood. His ears were everything. In 1798, in the middle of a heated argument with a singer, he noticed for the first time that something was wrong. The sound was thinning at the edges. He could hear voices, but high frequencies were beginning to disappear. He told no one for years. By 1802, the truth was no longer deniable. On his doctor's advice he moved to Heiligenstadt, a quiet village outside Vienna, hoping the country air would help. It did not. There, alone and surrounded by farmland, he wrote a letter to his two brothers that he never sent. It was found among his papers after his death. We now call it the Heiligenstadt Testament, and it is one of the most devastating documents ever written by an artist about himself: "You men who think or say that I am malevolent, stubborn or misanthropic, how greatly do you wrong me. You do not know the cause of my seeming so... what a humiliation, when one stood beside me and heard a flute in the distance and I heard nothing, or someone heard the shepherd singing, and again I heard nothing." He wrote, in the same letter, that he had thought of ending his life. And then he wrote the line that explains everything that followed: "Only my art held me back. It seemed impossible to me to leave the world before I had produced everything I felt called upon to produce." He went back to Vienna. He went on composing. Over the next two decades his hearing continued to fade. Friends began writing their words down in small notebooks instead of speaking them aloud, and waiting while he read. Modern scholars call these the conversation books. Around four hundred of them survive. To compose, he developed his own methods. He bit one end of a wooden rod and pressed the other against the soundboard of his piano, letting the vibrations travel through his jaw to his inner ear. He had stumbled, through trial and error, onto the principle that modern science calls bone conduction. The cause of his deafness has never been settled. What we do know is this: he realized he was losing his hearing at twenty-eight, and he could have stopped. He wrote the letter, he held the thought of dying in his hand, and then he put down the pen and went back to work. Most of what he is remembered for was composed after that moment: The Fifth Symphony. The Seventh. The Ninth. The Missa Solemnis. The late quartets. All of it was made by a man who could no longer hear most of what he was writing. There are people who give the world what they receive, and there are people who give the world what they were never able to receive. The most enduring beauty in human history has almost always come from the second kind... -- -- -- If you enjoyed this, I write a weekly newsletter read by over 50,000 people who love rediscovering the beauty of the past. You can join us here: I write about beauty in all its forms. If you'd like to support my work, a paid subscription is what makes it possible.

Beethoven could not hear the music he wrote. At the age of 28, he realized he was no longer able to listen to a flute being played in the distance, and he spent the rest of his life composing the most enduring music in Western history in almost complete silence... He had been a working musician since childhood. His ears were everything. In 1798, in the middle of a heated argument with a singer, he noticed for the first time that something was wrong. The sound was thinning at the edges. He could hear voices, but high frequencies were beginning to disappear. He told no one for years. By 1802, the truth was no longer deniable. On his doctor's advice he moved to Heiligenstadt, a quiet village outside Vienna, hoping the country air would help. It did not. There, alone and surrounded by farmland, he wrote a letter to his two brothers that he never sent. It was found among his papers after his death. We now call it the Heiligenstadt Testament, and it is one of the most devastating documents ever written by an artist about himself: "You men who think or say that I am malevolent, stubborn or misanthropic, how greatly do you wrong me. You do not know the cause of my seeming so... what a humiliation, when one stood beside me and heard a flute in the distance and I heard nothing, or someone heard the shepherd singing, and again I heard nothing." He wrote, in the same letter, that he had thought of ending his life. And then he wrote the line that explains everything that followed: "Only my art held me back. It seemed impossible to me to leave the world before I had produced everything I felt called upon to produce." He went back to Vienna. He went on composing. Over the next two decades his hearing continued to fade. Friends began writing their words down in small notebooks instead of speaking them aloud, and waiting while he read. Modern scholars call these the conversation books. Around four hundred of them survive. To compose, he developed his own methods. He bit one end of a wooden rod and pressed the other against the soundboard of his piano, letting the vibrations travel through his jaw to his inner ear. He had stumbled, through trial and error, onto the principle that modern science calls bone conduction. The cause of his deafness has never been settled. What we do know is this: he realized he was losing his hearing at twenty-eight, and he could have stopped. He wrote the letter, he held the thought of dying in his hand, and then he put down the pen and went back to work. Most of what he is remembered for was composed after that moment: The Fifth Symphony. The Seventh. The Ninth. The Missa Solemnis. The late quartets. All of it was made by a man who could no longer hear most of what he was writing. There are people who give the world what they receive, and there are people who give the world what they were never able to receive. The most enduring beauty in human history has almost always come from the second kind... -- -- -- If you enjoyed this, I write a weekly newsletter read by over 50,000 people who love rediscovering the beauty of the past. You can join us here: I write about beauty in all its forms. If you'd like to support my work, a paid subscription is what makes it possible.

James Lucas

155,191 次观看 • 4 个月前

Stephen A. Smith says his family was poor and had no money because his father gave it all to his other family Stephen :"he cheated on my mother but it wasn't like he was all over the place with it. He had one other family" Host :"When you say he had another family?" Stephen :"He had another family. Another house. Other kids...He was taking care of them while he was not taking care of us" "We were not poor because we didn't have money. We were poor because my father took the money and gave it to somebody else" "I watched my mother for 20 years work 16 hours a day, seven days a week with one week's vacation because she had to keep the lights on and a roof over our head and food on the table because he didn't help her do it"

Stephen A. Smith says his family was poor and had no money because his father gave it all to his other family Stephen :"he cheated on my mother but it wasn't like he was all over the place with it. He had one other family" Host :"When you say he had another family?" Stephen :"He had another family. Another house. Other kids...He was taking care of them while he was not taking care of us" "We were not poor because we didn't have money. We were poor because my father took the money and gave it to somebody else" "I watched my mother for 20 years work 16 hours a day, seven days a week with one week's vacation because she had to keep the lights on and a roof over our head and food on the table because he didn't help her do it"

CreativeDude

4,485,376 次观看 • 2 个月前

“The idea was, when he (Vincent D'Onofrio) decides to reveal himself they did a special version of his makeup that was very stretchable. What he does is he grabs the back of his head and he just starts tugging on it. The idea was he would pull it as far as he could, and then we would take over stretching the image, making it appear to be distorting in a way that it physically couldn’t. Then basically when I shot Vince I just kept urging him to pull harder, and harder, and harder until finally the final take he just pulled it until the makeup just ripped. We said, ‘Okay, we got it.’ That’s what’s in the show because it’s really tugging on his face the maximum it could be done, and then we just extended that. Helped by a little bit of editing we were able to put a ridiculously large CG creature inside of a human sized body, and we’re not seeing it all at one time, you kind of get away with the fact that, well maybe he was in there he was just hunched up.” – Eric Brevig, Men In Black visual effects supervisor.

“The idea was, when he (Vincent D'Onofrio) decides to reveal himself they did a special version of his makeup that was very stretchable. What he does is he grabs the back of his head and he just starts tugging on it. The idea was he would pull it as far as he could, and then we would take over stretching the image, making it appear to be distorting in a way that it physically couldn’t. Then basically when I shot Vince I just kept urging him to pull harder, and harder, and harder until finally the final take he just pulled it until the makeup just ripped. We said, ‘Okay, we got it.’ That’s what’s in the show because it’s really tugging on his face the maximum it could be done, and then we just extended that. Helped by a little bit of editing we were able to put a ridiculously large CG creature inside of a human sized body, and we’re not seeing it all at one time, you kind of get away with the fact that, well maybe he was in there he was just hunched up.” – Eric Brevig, Men In Black visual effects supervisor.

Horror4Kids

266,519 次观看 • 2 年前

I asked Howard Marks about 2008. His fund was had billions, Lehman just declared bankruptcy, and it looked like the world was ending. Invest it or not? His logic: - "If we invest it and the world melts down, it doesn't matter what we did" - "But if I don't invest it and the world doesn't melt down, then we didn't do our job" - So they invested $450m a week for the next 15 weeks in that one fund - Across Oaktree they put in an average of $650m a week for 15 weeks

I asked Howard Marks about 2008. His fund was had billions, Lehman just declared bankruptcy, and it looked like the world was ending. Invest it or not? His logic: - "If we invest it and the world melts down, it doesn't matter what we did" - "But if I don't invest it and the world doesn't melt down, then we didn't do our job" - So they invested $450m a week for the next 15 weeks in that one fund - Across Oaktree they put in an average of $650m a week for 15 weeks

Sam Parr

37,561 次观看 • 3 个月前

A lawyer for the family of Cyrus Carmack-Belton told reporters after a jury acquitted Rick Chow of murder Monday night that the question of why the 14-year-old had a gun "was answered when he was shot dead in the streets 130 yards from a store where he did absolutely nothing wrong." "The question was answered when this jury found him not guilty today. The question was answered because a child, a 14-year-old child, shot dead in Richland County, got no justice. When the family got no justice," said attorney Todd Rutherford, standing beside Cyrus' father, Troy Belton, in a video from WACH-TV news station in Columbia, South Carolina. Rutherford paused as people shouted near him. "The anger is palpable tonight. You can feel it. You can touch it, because people saw a child that looked like their own. That did nothing wrong. A child that all the witnesses described had fear in his eyes when he left the store. And then he started to run as two grown men chased him down over a football field and shot him dead. This should not happen," Rutherford said. "This makes us feel as if our children don't matter, and they do. This makes us feel like Cyrus's life did not matter, and it did," Rutherford said. He urged people not to turn their anger "into anything else but words." "To go online to talk about it, to discuss it, but not to act like what people in their evil minds think that we are. We are certainly better than that. Cyrus was better than that. His family is better than that," Rutherford said. He said they have "no choice" but to accept the verdict, "but we don't agree." "There is no way that a child who did nothing wrong, who was shot in his back, how that jury can justify that verdict. I've been practicing law for almost 30 years. I've never seen anything like this. I don't understand it. I'm at a loss to explain it to his father, Troy, standing beside me. I'm at a loss to explain it to his mother, who couldn't take it and had to leave. I'm at a loss to explain it to his family, because I, too, don't understand it," Rutherford said. Chow’s son, Andy Chow, testified his father shot Cyrus after Cyrus pointed a gun at him. Prosecutors say the boy had a loaded 9 mm gun but never displayed it before he was shot. Andy chased Cyrus after the boy walked out of the store after being falsely accused of shoplifting bottled water, and Rick Chow's lawyer said he ran after his son to see if he was OK.

A lawyer for the family of Cyrus Carmack-Belton told reporters after a jury acquitted Rick Chow of murder Monday night that the question of why the 14-year-old had a gun "was answered when he was shot dead in the streets 130 yards from a store where he did absolutely nothing wrong." "The question was answered when this jury found him not guilty today. The question was answered because a child, a 14-year-old child, shot dead in Richland County, got no justice. When the family got no justice," said attorney Todd Rutherford, standing beside Cyrus' father, Troy Belton, in a video from WACH-TV news station in Columbia, South Carolina. Rutherford paused as people shouted near him. "The anger is palpable tonight. You can feel it. You can touch it, because people saw a child that looked like their own. That did nothing wrong. A child that all the witnesses described had fear in his eyes when he left the store. And then he started to run as two grown men chased him down over a football field and shot him dead. This should not happen," Rutherford said. "This makes us feel as if our children don't matter, and they do. This makes us feel like Cyrus's life did not matter, and it did," Rutherford said. He urged people not to turn their anger "into anything else but words." "To go online to talk about it, to discuss it, but not to act like what people in their evil minds think that we are. We are certainly better than that. Cyrus was better than that. His family is better than that," Rutherford said. He said they have "no choice" but to accept the verdict, "but we don't agree." "There is no way that a child who did nothing wrong, who was shot in his back, how that jury can justify that verdict. I've been practicing law for almost 30 years. I've never seen anything like this. I don't understand it. I'm at a loss to explain it to his father, Troy, standing beside me. I'm at a loss to explain it to his mother, who couldn't take it and had to leave. I'm at a loss to explain it to his family, because I, too, don't understand it," Rutherford said. Chow’s son, Andy Chow, testified his father shot Cyrus after Cyrus pointed a gun at him. Prosecutors say the boy had a loaded 9 mm gun but never displayed it before he was shot. Andy chased Cyrus after the boy walked out of the store after being falsely accused of shoplifting bottled water, and Rick Chow's lawyer said he ran after his son to see if he was OK.

Meghann Cuniff

98,091 次观看 • 4 个月前

Gene Hackman on the moment his father left, and what it gave him as an actor: In an interview reflecting on his early life, Gene Hackman was asked about a theme that runs through the lives of so many artists: the departure of a parent. "Well, my dad left us when I was about 13, I guess." The interviewer asked if it was easy or hard. Hackman's answer was blunt: "No, it was tough." Then came the detail that has stayed with him for a lifetime. His father did not sit him down. There was no farewell speech. Hackman was outside with his friends when it happened. "I was down the street playing with some guys and he drove by and kind of waved and... that was it." A casual wave from a passing car. That was the goodbye. Decades later, the wound had not closed. When asked whether life changed radically after that, Hackman answered with a question of his own: "It's only been 65 years or so, you know. It's not something that goes away easily. Is it ever?" The interviewer suggested the experience probably made him a better actor. Hackman refused to romanticise it. "I don't know. I don't advocate that." But he did acknowledge what pain can offer the artist willing to face it: "You get in touch with your feelings and, you know, that's what we're here for. I think the more that you can draw on that kind of thing and, of course, get something out of it." Source: Global ImageWorks

Gene Hackman on the moment his father left, and what it gave him as an actor: In an interview reflecting on his early life, Gene Hackman was asked about a theme that runs through the lives of so many artists: the departure of a parent. "Well, my dad left us when I was about 13, I guess." The interviewer asked if it was easy or hard. Hackman's answer was blunt: "No, it was tough." Then came the detail that has stayed with him for a lifetime. His father did not sit him down. There was no farewell speech. Hackman was outside with his friends when it happened. "I was down the street playing with some guys and he drove by and kind of waved and... that was it." A casual wave from a passing car. That was the goodbye. Decades later, the wound had not closed. When asked whether life changed radically after that, Hackman answered with a question of his own: "It's only been 65 years or so, you know. It's not something that goes away easily. Is it ever?" The interviewer suggested the experience probably made him a better actor. Hackman refused to romanticise it. "I don't know. I don't advocate that." But he did acknowledge what pain can offer the artist willing to face it: "You get in touch with your feelings and, you know, that's what we're here for. I think the more that you can draw on that kind of thing and, of course, get something out of it." Source: Global ImageWorks

History Nerd

38,196 次观看 • 2 个月前

Claim: Lazar Can't Show Us Why He Attended MIT Because He Doesn't Want to Risk Prison "[Lazar] had said he was at MIT, and that he was at Caltech." ~Dolan (No, Lazar said he had DEGREES from both. Surprised Dolan (Richard Dolan Intelligent Disclosure) downplayed that.) Luigi Venditelli (LV): "As far as things that I can say, [Lazar] shared with me, shared it also with my team, and also shared it with Joe Rogan in the past, in regards to his education...because that's something that I think a lot of people really attack Bob Lazar on, and rightfully so. Because if he doesn't have a paper to bring out, they can attack him. It's an easy, it's a low-hanging fruit attack for somebody who doesn't believe the story. "In regards to the MIT component, the only thing I can say is that there were national security issues there, okay?" (No, what you can say is that Lazar CLAIMED there were national security issues there. Unless you have proof that you're not sharing?) Dolan: "For people who don't know this, we'll just explain: Bob had said he was at MIT, and that he was at Caltech and no one was able to find or get any kind of confirmation that he was at those schools." (Lazar didn't just claim that he was AT those schools. He claimed he had degrees from both. This is from the 1993 Lazar Q&A at Rachel, Nevada near Area 51. Lazar: "As far as electronic technology, my degree there is from Caltech and physics is from MIT. [MIT] was a master's degree.") ~ LV: "Correct. Now, what's also important to note, specifically about MIT, is the one I wanna highlight, is that he said, 'I wasn't alone in this.' So, the government itself - he was at Los Alamos National Labs when this happened - he was sent to MIT." (Again, if LV wants to come across as unbiased and trying to get to the truth, he should be saying, "Lazar CLAIMS he was at Los Alamos and was then sent to MIT.") LV: "Now, the reason why this is important is because, and he also said, 'Not everything the government does or was doing was legal.' Okay? So there were things that were actually not necessarily legal, and they needed some scientists to go and learn certain things at MIT, and that's the reason why he was there. And there were other people there. "He said to me, 'Look, for me to bring this out, I would be revealing things that would, potentially, put other people in a compromising situation.' This had nothing...signed papers, something to do with national security. And he says, 'There's no reason for me to ruin other people's lives just to satisfy a small percentage of people who are constantly bickering about my education.'" (I don't think it's a small percentage. OK, so Bob, supposedly, says/claims he doesn't want to talk about the government allegedly sending him to MIT because he doesn't want to put other people in a compromising situation.) LV: "So, I understand that part. It's frustrating that it cannot be mentioned, but it it's also something that I understood, and it made perfect sense to me." (So Lazar can't mention any of it but LV can?) LV: "Now, I know it's frustrating to all of those who say we should still have something. Well, unfortunately, he's not gonna want to go to jail just to satisfy you." (So first it was: He doesn't want to "bring this out" because it would put people in a compromising situation and now it's: He doesn't want to risk prison. Which is it? How about we get that directly from Lazar instead of second hand?) LV: "And he would not be the only person ever to have been implicated in national security programs that were sending scientists to MIT. So that's a very important thing to also look into for history."

Claim: Lazar Can't Show Us Why He Attended MIT Because He Doesn't Want to Risk Prison "[Lazar] had said he was at MIT, and that he was at Caltech." ~Dolan (No, Lazar said he had DEGREES from both. Surprised Dolan (Richard Dolan Intelligent Disclosure) downplayed that.) Luigi Venditelli (LV): "As far as things that I can say, [Lazar] shared with me, shared it also with my team, and also shared it with Joe Rogan in the past, in regards to his education...because that's something that I think a lot of people really attack Bob Lazar on, and rightfully so. Because if he doesn't have a paper to bring out, they can attack him. It's an easy, it's a low-hanging fruit attack for somebody who doesn't believe the story. "In regards to the MIT component, the only thing I can say is that there were national security issues there, okay?" (No, what you can say is that Lazar CLAIMED there were national security issues there. Unless you have proof that you're not sharing?) Dolan: "For people who don't know this, we'll just explain: Bob had said he was at MIT, and that he was at Caltech and no one was able to find or get any kind of confirmation that he was at those schools." (Lazar didn't just claim that he was AT those schools. He claimed he had degrees from both. This is from the 1993 Lazar Q&A at Rachel, Nevada near Area 51. Lazar: "As far as electronic technology, my degree there is from Caltech and physics is from MIT. [MIT] was a master's degree.") ~ LV: "Correct. Now, what's also important to note, specifically about MIT, is the one I wanna highlight, is that he said, 'I wasn't alone in this.' So, the government itself - he was at Los Alamos National Labs when this happened - he was sent to MIT." (Again, if LV wants to come across as unbiased and trying to get to the truth, he should be saying, "Lazar CLAIMS he was at Los Alamos and was then sent to MIT.") LV: "Now, the reason why this is important is because, and he also said, 'Not everything the government does or was doing was legal.' Okay? So there were things that were actually not necessarily legal, and they needed some scientists to go and learn certain things at MIT, and that's the reason why he was there. And there were other people there. "He said to me, 'Look, for me to bring this out, I would be revealing things that would, potentially, put other people in a compromising situation.' This had nothing...signed papers, something to do with national security. And he says, 'There's no reason for me to ruin other people's lives just to satisfy a small percentage of people who are constantly bickering about my education.'" (I don't think it's a small percentage. OK, so Bob, supposedly, says/claims he doesn't want to talk about the government allegedly sending him to MIT because he doesn't want to put other people in a compromising situation.) LV: "So, I understand that part. It's frustrating that it cannot be mentioned, but it it's also something that I understood, and it made perfect sense to me." (So Lazar can't mention any of it but LV can?) LV: "Now, I know it's frustrating to all of those who say we should still have something. Well, unfortunately, he's not gonna want to go to jail just to satisfy you." (So first it was: He doesn't want to "bring this out" because it would put people in a compromising situation and now it's: He doesn't want to risk prison. Which is it? How about we get that directly from Lazar instead of second hand?) LV: "And he would not be the only person ever to have been implicated in national security programs that were sending scientists to MIT. So that's a very important thing to also look into for history."

Joe Murgia

32,323 次观看 • 5 个月前

Indyref 2014 was rigged, most of it happened in plain sight. Sara Salyers of Salvo.Scot explains how. "In a consultative referendum, an opinion poll, there's no contract, there's no actual requirement, which David Cameron did point out, to abide by the results of that referendum. "So they did not then set it up in the way that a proper constitutional referendum would have been set up according to international standards to begin with. "The people who would be voting in that referendum would be people who had a stake in the future of the nation whose future they were voting on. "We had every boy and his dog able to vote. So people who hadn't been in Scotland for, you know, more than maybe a few months, basically, all these people had a vote on the future of Scotland as an independent nation, which is, if you just think about it, think how absurd that is, people with no stake. "Now, had that been serious, you know, a real referendum, that we were going to be allowed to have a chance of winning, they would have applied international standards, they would have used something like the new Caledonia franchise, which is a really solid. "And it doesn't exclude people who've moved into Scotland. It isn't just ethnic Scots, it's, you know, it's people who have a genuine stake, interest in the future of that nation. That franchise, it shouldn't be a council... local council franchise, it should be one that reflects the stakeholders, who are the real stakeholders, and that's what that needs to be. That it wasn't, should have told us everything. "Then we had the Edinburgh Agreement, and the Edinburgh Agreement said that there was a Purdah period, during which no new policies were to be announced. There was no... you know, all the campaigning would go on and then it stops. You can rehearse the arguments and everything that's been put forward, but nothing new should be introduced. "Well, we got 'The Vow', 'Devo Max', less than two days before the vote. 'If you vote No, you will get this'. Of course, that did not deliver, but it completely breached the Edinburgh Agreement. "Well, what the sad afterwards was, 'Well, there's no evidence that it altered people's minds. Of course it did. Of course it told people, 'Well, if you don't want to go all the way to independence, we could have,' I think Gordon Brown said, 'it would be almost a federal relationship,' you know, blah, blah, blah. "And that that meant people could say, 'Well, if we're afraid of what will happen, afraid of being pulled out of the European Union, we'd like a lot more power, but we were not sure about a total break...'. Well, of course, then they voted No. "Then you also had the media. And in a properly run referendum, according to international rules, you make sure it's 50-50, that people get both sides of the argument, absolutely equally. "There was a full study done, and it took one guy, Glasgow University lecturer in particular, to go through everything and come back and say, 'Look, it was over 70%, 'No' media coverage', and that also breaches international standards. "So we didn't have any possibility of a fair referendum. And that wasn't coincidental. And had there been any kind of vote tampering, say, with the postal vote, because it was only consultative and there was no actual, therefore fraud, it makes it nearly impossible to get a judicial review. "And there is no way, no matter what they have said, no matter what they have told us, 'Get a majority of members elected to Westminster' and that 'You don't need a referendum', or if 'Scotland wants to leave, then it has the right to do so'. No matter what the British State has said, that was never true." Sara Salyers on the @untribalpol @TheScotCongress

Indyref 2014 was rigged, most of it happened in plain sight. Sara Salyers of Salvo.Scot explains how. "In a consultative referendum, an opinion poll, there's no contract, there's no actual requirement, which David Cameron did point out, to abide by the results of that referendum. "So they did not then set it up in the way that a proper constitutional referendum would have been set up according to international standards to begin with. "The people who would be voting in that referendum would be people who had a stake in the future of the nation whose future they were voting on. "We had every boy and his dog able to vote. So people who hadn't been in Scotland for, you know, more than maybe a few months, basically, all these people had a vote on the future of Scotland as an independent nation, which is, if you just think about it, think how absurd that is, people with no stake. "Now, had that been serious, you know, a real referendum, that we were going to be allowed to have a chance of winning, they would have applied international standards, they would have used something like the new Caledonia franchise, which is a really solid. "And it doesn't exclude people who've moved into Scotland. It isn't just ethnic Scots, it's, you know, it's people who have a genuine stake, interest in the future of that nation. That franchise, it shouldn't be a council... local council franchise, it should be one that reflects the stakeholders, who are the real stakeholders, and that's what that needs to be. That it wasn't, should have told us everything. "Then we had the Edinburgh Agreement, and the Edinburgh Agreement said that there was a Purdah period, during which no new policies were to be announced. There was no... you know, all the campaigning would go on and then it stops. You can rehearse the arguments and everything that's been put forward, but nothing new should be introduced. "Well, we got 'The Vow', 'Devo Max', less than two days before the vote. 'If you vote No, you will get this'. Of course, that did not deliver, but it completely breached the Edinburgh Agreement. "Well, what the sad afterwards was, 'Well, there's no evidence that it altered people's minds. Of course it did. Of course it told people, 'Well, if you don't want to go all the way to independence, we could have,' I think Gordon Brown said, 'it would be almost a federal relationship,' you know, blah, blah, blah. "And that that meant people could say, 'Well, if we're afraid of what will happen, afraid of being pulled out of the European Union, we'd like a lot more power, but we were not sure about a total break...'. Well, of course, then they voted No. "Then you also had the media. And in a properly run referendum, according to international rules, you make sure it's 50-50, that people get both sides of the argument, absolutely equally. "There was a full study done, and it took one guy, Glasgow University lecturer in particular, to go through everything and come back and say, 'Look, it was over 70%, 'No' media coverage', and that also breaches international standards. "So we didn't have any possibility of a fair referendum. And that wasn't coincidental. And had there been any kind of vote tampering, say, with the postal vote, because it was only consultative and there was no actual, therefore fraud, it makes it nearly impossible to get a judicial review. "And there is no way, no matter what they have said, no matter what they have told us, 'Get a majority of members elected to Westminster' and that 'You don't need a referendum', or if 'Scotland wants to leave, then it has the right to do so'. No matter what the British State has said, that was never true." Sara Salyers on the @untribalpol @TheScotCongress

ScotNews

21,718 次观看 • 2 年前

.kuz credits his mentor Kobe Bryant with helping him get his start in investing. "Kobe Bryant was a really good mentor for me. He had a fund right before he passed away, and he told me to get into it. I think that was my very first access to the VC and tech space." "We can only play basketball for a certain amount of time, and you got to make it count. But afterwards, you got like 40-50 years to still live. So what else are you going to do? Because that money doesn't last forever."

.kuz credits his mentor Kobe Bryant with helping him get his start in investing. "Kobe Bryant was a really good mentor for me. He had a fund right before he passed away, and he told me to get into it. I think that was my very first access to the VC and tech space." "We can only play basketball for a certain amount of time, and you got to make it count. But afterwards, you got like 40-50 years to still live. So what else are you going to do? Because that money doesn't last forever."

TBPN

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Caller: I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, and we're starting to talk about marriage. He's Australian, and basically we were talking finances and he would want to keep them completely separate. He earns like a little over double what I earn. He just bought his first house as well, and it concerns me. He also mentioned maybe wanting me to sign a prenup. Um, and I I just feel not secure maybe marrying and having kids with somebody who feels finances should be 100% separate. So I was kind of wondering what y'all thoughts were, if you had any advice for me. Rachel: Yeah. Did he give you reasons why he wants to keep it separate? Is it because of the amount he earns? Is it something that happened in his past? His parents? Like, did he give you reasons why? Caller: Yeah, pretty vague. His parents did get divorced, but on fairly good terms. I think the income disparity is a bit of an issue for him, which I understand. But I think mainly he just wants to feel that he's in control of the money that he's earned. We were talking about it last night, actually, and he was saying, "Well, I don't believe that it would be our money, you know, if we were married. What I earn is like my money. George: So it would be his house, his money, and you just get the privilege of living there at a discounted rate? Is that what the future looks like? Caller: Basically. I don't think he sees it that way, but yeah, that's kind of what he's saying. George: It sounds like he wants to be single. Rachel: No, he doesn't want to be single. No, no, George, George George: He wants the benefits of the relationship... Rachel: He loves her. George: ...but he doesn't want the commitment of a relationship.

Caller: I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, and we're starting to talk about marriage. He's Australian, and basically we were talking finances and he would want to keep them completely separate. He earns like a little over double what I earn. He just bought his first house as well, and it concerns me. He also mentioned maybe wanting me to sign a prenup. Um, and I I just feel not secure maybe marrying and having kids with somebody who feels finances should be 100% separate. So I was kind of wondering what y'all thoughts were, if you had any advice for me. Rachel: Yeah. Did he give you reasons why he wants to keep it separate? Is it because of the amount he earns? Is it something that happened in his past? His parents? Like, did he give you reasons why? Caller: Yeah, pretty vague. His parents did get divorced, but on fairly good terms. I think the income disparity is a bit of an issue for him, which I understand. But I think mainly he just wants to feel that he's in control of the money that he's earned. We were talking about it last night, actually, and he was saying, "Well, I don't believe that it would be our money, you know, if we were married. What I earn is like my money. George: So it would be his house, his money, and you just get the privilege of living there at a discounted rate? Is that what the future looks like? Caller: Basically. I don't think he sees it that way, but yeah, that's kind of what he's saying. George: It sounds like he wants to be single. Rachel: No, he doesn't want to be single. No, no, George, George George: He wants the benefits of the relationship... Rachel: He loves her. George: ...but he doesn't want the commitment of a relationship.

Brown Legacy

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