Listen up ladies

Why are we constantly teaching women how to act differently instead of forcing men to stop being predators?

a reminder from Ms Atwood:”Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them” mental gymnastics to appease a man’s ego is a skill women learn very young.

...yeah...mouth off to an unstable male..sounds good in practice.... I'm thinking will someone help me? Will I be smurdered bc of a guy...?

This is bullshit. Do men STILL not know why women behave this way?

Because some men react violently when rejected. You never know which response you'll receive. It's extremely dangerous. We do it as self preservation. We should not have to, but we do. Until men regulate men, we are in danger.

… when we avoid conflict, it’s our fault. When we’re confrontational, it’s our fault. Jesus

Well, that's just lovely but I'd like to ensure I survive the encounter, thanks all the same. Would these guys mouth off at a 10ft gorilla that was bothering them?

I do, understand the men in this video are trying to helpful & supportive! That said, girls & women have been getting more loud & rude & more & more girls & women are being physically attacked & targeted for SA, to teach them a lesson, for rejecting them or being rude! Violence!

You are right to a point. Absolutely. I have been saying for decades women need to be more clear regarding boundaries and stick to them. But also keep in mind that there is risk of harm if being "Rude" Be firm and Assertive, not rude. Men have assaulted women for rude rejections as well.

In principle, I agree. However, for decades, I’ve witnessed and personally experienced men becoming violent in reaction to women who tell men off.

So, will that help women when a huge man jumps on top of them, rips their clothes off, and forcibly rapes them? I’m so tired of men telling us how to behave to stay out trouble. Fix the men who would do this to women! Until then, I choose the bear!

Yep

Okay can I just say that every time I try to stand up for myself in these situations, nobody backs me up and suddenly I’m this "nasty woman". Instead of teaching women to stand up for themselves maybe we should teach men to read the room?

He describes a situation with a predator. Then says women need to be the ones to draw the line, risking retaliation and harm from said predator. Instead of men telling women what “we” should “do”, why aren’t you listening to us tell you why we feel unsafe doing this?

Because women and girls expressing their boundaries has always worked out so well for them 😑

Except, we also stay polite because we don’t want to make men angry because they can kill us, rape us or asssilt us, it isn’t just being polite, It’s self preservation. Shame & humiliation can result in some men tipping over into aggressive

Mansplain more , dude. Women smile and nod because we're trying not to get killed

im gonna do whatever to not get killed or assaulted, but thanks

It’s not always that simple but he’s got a point

He didn't make the point he thinks he did. All animals, including humans, adapt to their physical environments if they don't want to die. The behavior he's talking about results from women adapting to their physical environment in order to stay alive.

Older Gen X wmn can be guilty of this. I know I have, more times than I’d like to admit. Putting others, whether it’s a complete stranger or a close family member: Prioritizing their concerns over my own. For younger wmn👉Don’t do this!! Put yourself FIRST bc nobody else will

I watched a video of a girl saying she was drugged and chased by a man that wanted to hug her "skin to skin" and she was frustrated with herself for giggling and trying to politely say "No, no, nooo, I don't want to" She should not be frustrated with herself. It's her instincts.

Women aren't "polite" because we don't want to make things awkward; we're practicing self-preservation. Men murder women every day for having boundaries. Women don't need to be rude; MEN NEED TO FUCK OFF.

Mostly it’s not because we are polite, it’s because we don’t want to light the fuse.

It's not just worrying about making others uncomfortable. It's about ESCALATION. Woman have historically been de-escalators & when you're around a man that's "encroaching" on boundaries, you instantly know he has a fragile ego & if you offend him, it is going to escalate rapidly.

The thing is of you are rude sometimes they try to kill you so the trick is sometimes actually just to act crazy. But not crazy in a manic pixie dream girl fun way.

Way to blame the victims

i had this today at hotel i walked into a room they gave keys to walked out back to front desk said the room u gave is not ready yet he said come with me i have key opener to this other 1 i knew id need keys later plus i signed papers for that room i said ill meet u at desk

Thats what my rapist did to me. Its like being in a cult. You don't out right attack someone like that. They groom them into saying and doing things you dont want. And next thing you know he basically made you do a sexual act that you didn't want by making it your idea first

Damn he knows so much i never even thought about. DID YOU EVER STOP TO THINK HES THE PREDATOR. No huh? because he goes with your narrative

Know what's interesting? I was thinking this was a message to protect men. But because I have personally witnessed men who are like this, it's clear to me that this predatory behavior is not gender specific.

they were very polite and earlier kept asking if I travel for work to which i looked away and asked do you have the keys ? he tried again asking same wuestion i said im sorry im hard of hearing did you say you have the keys? thanks so much