Many chronic interrupters aren't being rude—they might be quick thinkers whose minds jump to conclusions, connections, or responses before the speaker finishes. Their internal processing speed outpaces the ~150-200 words per minute of typical conversation.

Yeah, my brain is like that but I work REALLY HARD to not interrupt whoever I’m talking to because… that’s rude.

Agreed

@hubbstercat hate to interrupt this string, but I clicked on the link like you said and I saw nothing about fast brain processing.

@hubbstercat You’re not interrupting at all. Also, I didn’t give a link—or say that. Plus I don’t wear a scarf. If you are interested in his link (video) I can find it for you.

No. While this is likely true for some small subset. Most chronic interrupters are not listening at all, they’re just impatient to say what they already decided they were going to say. Others are narcissists, in love with the sound of their own voice. For those who may genuinely process faster than others, there is a social component call courtesy.

“Listen to understand, not to respond” is one of the best things I’ve leaned to do.

Good tip

I like how they think they are really smart and jump to incorrect conclusions about what I was going to say because they somehow aren't able to shut up and listen for 10 seconds.

Reading the comments, I see that only high IQ people understand what this guy is going for. Yes, there are rude interrupters, but he is not talking about them. The average people go on and on describing the same thing, because they don’t understand the full situation. In my work this is an everyday thing and sometimes I ask people to stop talking, let’s get down to the point.

Yes, the comments are all over the map. I agree that he’s not talking about dismissive or rude people, too.

@KantorKutyus You get that everyone thinks they are simply fast thinking and their interruptions should be tolerated, right? And you also get that it doesn’t matter if they truly are elite, the end result is people will not want to interact with them?

@truthache68 I see you don’t understand the situation. The people will go to the elite even if they interrupt, because they are the ones who can solve complex issues.

I am going to significantly disagree, many times people that interrupt others, believe that they understand what someone saying, but what’s happening often is that the interrupter is not listening. They believe they understand what’s being said and what they have to say is more important. Most times when people interrupt, they are not listening to get a full understanding of what is being said, as they are planning what to say while the person is still speaking. If you were thinking of what to say, then obviously you’re not listening, and you actually don’t know what someone’s point is.

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Nevertheless, “He who answers a matter before he hears it/ It is folly and shame to him.” Proverbs 18:13

Nice

Even if that is all true, they, we, are still being rude. Calm down and listen.

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Sorry, quite reading this after two words as I already knew the rest.

I didn’t even need to read that ^😅

@TheOGMama321 I stopped this video before it was done because I already knew what you were going to say!

Listening is a lost art, people need to be heard, not interrupted. Why do you think social media erupted like it did? Because so many people have so much to say. Be still and listen.

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Proverbs 25:28 ESV: "A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls." The patient listener is both respectful and of superior character.

I clicked "Like" before the video was finished.

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I just don’t keep hanging out with those people. If you can’t live by the “two ears and one mouth” philosophy then I can’t be your friend

@bkeim85 I’ve always liked that saying.

I see a lot of no’s in the chat Let me be a resounding hell yeah!! I got shit to do fam, and my mind is creating more as you speak. You’ve relayed your information but now you feel like you need to add a bunch of filler words because you like the sound of your voice nah. Who’s the rude one??

Nope. You just interrupt with the wrong concept and then the other person has to start over. Do it again and you won’t be talked to.

Or maybe they're just rude, especially when we've asked them so many times to not interrupt.

This is me. When one can predict conclusions before sentences are done means saving wait time by answering before hearing. This can also indicate the presence of a fool though so this rule can’t be applied universally.

That’s true for some. But for most it’s that they’re not listening and want to say what they want to say. The way to tell the difference is if you’ve managed to get out the bare minimum for them to understand what you’re saying before they interrupt. Most fail that test.

I know this to be true, but I have a friend who is very smart but often interrupts me and he has missed where I was going with what I was saying. And I have to say, “no…what I’m getting at is…” There is a type of interrupter who wants to skip ahead and go off on the tangent that they have in mind and you making your point is getting in the way of that.

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Disagree. People who interrupt are constantly trying to trump the point. To sledgehammer their message over the conversation instead of taking everything into consideration. People who listen, pause, and respond are usually the smartest folks in the circle.

What I've learned is that if you let people finish talking a lot of times they already know the answer and don't need your input.

@DadVsTheMan Ye olde sounding board.

Nah most people I know that interrupt *think* they know what you’re trying to say, but more often completely misunderstand what you’re trying to say. They detail the conversation, and aren’t good at advancing their understanding because they think they know already.

Quick thinkers (I'm one) are capable of being respectful to others, you know.

The comments on this post are indicative of a much larger social problem. The lady who mentioned how unaffected and unoffended a group of fast thinkers communicate and move in sync is spot on.

That’s mostly BS. I speak slowly and with consideration. Many times I’m intterupted before I can finish speaking. The interruptor has usually misinterpreted my meaning and was formulating a response without listening to my words. They are rude and narcissistic. Quick thinkers or rude assholes who were raised in a barn?

This is true, because when you're with a group of people who think as fast as you and don't mind being interrupted the conversation is fire. It's vibrant and alive and fun. It's only those who can't keep up who make you feel bad for not wanting to take it in boring turns.

This is nonsense, a conversation is not just about communicating data, it’s about people connecting with another human. it’s a great opportunity to practice self discipline a truly vital skill and admirable one. When people get interrupted they often get agitated and that will effect the willingness to continue engaging which then changes the potential of discourse, and wether ideas are shared and built upon Even if what your saying is accurate, your take away are short sighted

What many are missing here is that listening is not just about communicating a thought and receiving it. Many times the other person just wants to be heard. Or is doing it to bond. Therefore, waiting and giving that respect despite knowing the outcome it’s just part of relationships.

Alan Watts had this great bit on how you don't go the orchestra just for the final crash cymbal at the end of the song, or skip to the end of a movie. Similarly, conversation isn't just about information transfer. You're also there for the other person to feel heard.

From my experience, chronic interrupters rarely understand the context of the conversation and very often have wrong assumptions. Therefore, when they interrupt, they simply lose focus,similar to how people with ADHD can struggle to pay attention during longer conversations. This “they process faster than verbal conversation” excuse is just a lazy justification for people who cannot adapt and overcome this relatively easy-to-fix bad habit. Most people’s brains work much faster than verbal conversation allows, but some have the mental maturity to listen while others do not.

This is why super smart people fall to addiction. They're trying to slow their brain down to lower their bar etc. To understand. Oh never mind young Dave 17 San Diego

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