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Matt Painter shares the mindset shift that transformed his players and his coaches. And it's simpler than you think. "You're really gonna take off as a player once you start getting over yourself. But you're really gonna take off as a coach when you get over yourself." "That's just... kinda part of where it's really helped me here in the last 8 to 10 years at Purdue. Get over yourself." Ryan Holiday says it best: Ego is the enemy. "Any human being is going to be affected when people say negative things about you when you struggle. You're not human if you disagree with that." But here's the key: "I listen to it, but I don't react to it." There will always be praise and criticism. You can listen, but it doesn't mean you have to react. The doubters will talk and the negativity will find you - but your goal is to focus on what matters. Acknowledge it without letting it control you. (🎥 Ed Molitor)show more

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Mike Vrabel gives a masterclass on mindset, self-talk, and dealing with doubt. "You can't let doubt creep into what you do as a person. I don't care what you do." "You have to be able to talk to yourself and not listen to yourself so much. You have to tell yourself what to believe." Read that again about your self-talk. Talk to yourself - don't just listen to yourself. Your mind will feed you doubt, fear, and negativity. Your job is to challenge it. Tell yourself what's true, not what's easy to believe. "That doesn't say that there aren't tough times that you struggle with failure. You have to be able to recognize it and know that that is a part of all of us." Failure isn't the opposite of success - it's part of the path to it. Successful people don't avoid adversity. They expect it. They know that they must learn from the setbacks and challenges. "If you coach long enough, you're gonna get fired. Just like if you play long enough, you're gonna get cut or you're gonna get traded. That's just how this business is." That's the reality. Not cynicism...clarity. "I've tried to explain it to the players that this is what happens. And I'm grateful for the opportunity to be able to do it with this group of guys." Tough times happen. The choice is to be a tough person that overcomes those tough times. (🎥New England Patriots )

Mike Vrabel gives a masterclass on mindset, self-talk, and dealing with doubt. "You can't let doubt creep into what you do as a person. I don't care what you do." "You have to be able to talk to yourself and not listen to yourself so much. You have to tell yourself what to believe." Read that again about your self-talk. Talk to yourself - don't just listen to yourself. Your mind will feed you doubt, fear, and negativity. Your job is to challenge it. Tell yourself what's true, not what's easy to believe. "That doesn't say that there aren't tough times that you struggle with failure. You have to be able to recognize it and know that that is a part of all of us." Failure isn't the opposite of success - it's part of the path to it. Successful people don't avoid adversity. They expect it. They know that they must learn from the setbacks and challenges. "If you coach long enough, you're gonna get fired. Just like if you play long enough, you're gonna get cut or you're gonna get traded. That's just how this business is." That's the reality. Not cynicism...clarity. "I've tried to explain it to the players that this is what happens. And I'm grateful for the opportunity to be able to do it with this group of guys." Tough times happen. The choice is to be a tough person that overcomes those tough times. (🎥New England Patriots )

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My advice to people: Shut the social media off. Not forever — just give yourself a break. An hour is fine. Two hours, okay. Eight hours is too much and you know it. -Read a book. -Watch a YouTube lecture. -Do something that actually fills you up. And here's the other thing, doubting yourself and feeling pressure is normal. Take a breath. It doesn't mean something is wrong with you. But you have to manifest and get yourself into the right mindset. Read about positive actualization. Think big. Do it consistently and over time things start to shift in ways that surprise you. The first person you have to believe in is yourself and when you start projecting that confidence it becomes habitual. That's when everything changes.

My advice to people: Shut the social media off. Not forever — just give yourself a break. An hour is fine. Two hours, okay. Eight hours is too much and you know it. -Read a book. -Watch a YouTube lecture. -Do something that actually fills you up. And here's the other thing, doubting yourself and feeling pressure is normal. Take a breath. It doesn't mean something is wrong with you. But you have to manifest and get yourself into the right mindset. Read about positive actualization. Think big. Do it consistently and over time things start to shift in ways that surprise you. The first person you have to believe in is yourself and when you start projecting that confidence it becomes habitual. That's when everything changes.

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Bukayo Saka admits he’s been gambling with his fitness throughout last season and will continue to do so: “I think when you have that success and you taste it, you want to do it again. It can go two ways, but when I speak for myself, I'd say it's definitely made me want to do it again and come into this tournament with even more hunger.” Alex Howell: “Your fitness, how has that been? Has that been frustrating for you, maybe people watching, not knowing what you're pushing yourself to do? And have you had to learn more about yourself, how to play, when maybe you're not 100%?” Saka: “Yeah, but I think as players, you know, It's the biggest gamble, especially if you're not feeling your sharpest, you have the choice whether you don't play or you put yourself out there knowing that people are going to judge you the same. “And at the end of the day, people don't really care how you're feeling. They expect you to deliver, they expect you to perform. And yeah, I'm happy to take that gamble and it paid off, I'd say. And I'm going to continue doing that. But like I said, I'm feeling a lot better than I did in March and I'm ready to go.”

Bukayo Saka admits he’s been gambling with his fitness throughout last season and will continue to do so: “I think when you have that success and you taste it, you want to do it again. It can go two ways, but when I speak for myself, I'd say it's definitely made me want to do it again and come into this tournament with even more hunger.” Alex Howell: “Your fitness, how has that been? Has that been frustrating for you, maybe people watching, not knowing what you're pushing yourself to do? And have you had to learn more about yourself, how to play, when maybe you're not 100%?” Saka: “Yeah, but I think as players, you know, It's the biggest gamble, especially if you're not feeling your sharpest, you have the choice whether you don't play or you put yourself out there knowing that people are going to judge you the same. “And at the end of the day, people don't really care how you're feeling. They expect you to deliver, they expect you to perform. And yeah, I'm happy to take that gamble and it paid off, I'd say. And I'm going to continue doing that. But like I said, I'm feeling a lot better than I did in March and I'm ready to go.”

Connor Humm

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Tony Bennett shares a masterclass on humility and why most people get it wrong. "When we talk to our young men about what humility means, it's twofold and sometimes it's not what you think." "Don't think too highly of yourself. If you wanna turn people off, walk around arrogantly thinking you own this place." "But we also talk about the other aspect: don't think too lowly of yourself. That's false humility." Most people only see one side. Real humility is balanced. "Have sober judgment. That's what humility means - to really know who you are as a player, as a team. And know who you're not." It takes self-awareness to know who you are and where you want to go. Then he shared a definition that changes everything: "I heard Timothy Keller give the definition of humility as this: It's not thinking less of yourself - it's thinking of yourself less." That's the difference. Not self-doubt, but selflessness. "We're all so selfish. When your team gets past that, that's when you have success. It's been about the team and less about yourself." "People look at humility as a position of weakness. But I think it is true strength. There's power in true humility." It takes humility to be willing to learn and listen. It takes humility to be willing to admit you don't know yet. It takes humility to be unoffendable and put the team first. (🎥 UVA Basketball)

Tony Bennett shares a masterclass on humility and why most people get it wrong. "When we talk to our young men about what humility means, it's twofold and sometimes it's not what you think." "Don't think too highly of yourself. If you wanna turn people off, walk around arrogantly thinking you own this place." "But we also talk about the other aspect: don't think too lowly of yourself. That's false humility." Most people only see one side. Real humility is balanced. "Have sober judgment. That's what humility means - to really know who you are as a player, as a team. And know who you're not." It takes self-awareness to know who you are and where you want to go. Then he shared a definition that changes everything: "I heard Timothy Keller give the definition of humility as this: It's not thinking less of yourself - it's thinking of yourself less." That's the difference. Not self-doubt, but selflessness. "We're all so selfish. When your team gets past that, that's when you have success. It's been about the team and less about yourself." "People look at humility as a position of weakness. But I think it is true strength. There's power in true humility." It takes humility to be willing to learn and listen. It takes humility to be willing to admit you don't know yet. It takes humility to be unoffendable and put the team first. (🎥 UVA Basketball)

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why Rogan believes wanting the money is the thing that stops you from getting it MrBeast: "I would argue it's not even just for content creation. If you want to be an accountant or really anything, it's just put in a lot of hours, do a lot of iterations, surround yourself with great people, and obsess over it. Stay focused, consume it. And then recognize, you might be like, 'Oh, well, this person did it in 10 months. Why is it taking me so long?' It's average and statistics. Just give yourself enough time frame. I'm not saying you'll make tens of millions of dollars, but if you want to do that thing for a living, if you follow those trades, it's going to happen eventually." Rogan: "Well, you have to be process-oriented, not goal-oriented. The process is getting better at stuff. The goal of being financially secure comes with it eventually. But if you think 'I want X amount of money,' well, that's what you're going to think about. You're not going to think about the actual thing you're making, so it won't be as good, so you'll probably never get there."

why Rogan believes wanting the money is the thing that stops you from getting it MrBeast: "I would argue it's not even just for content creation. If you want to be an accountant or really anything, it's just put in a lot of hours, do a lot of iterations, surround yourself with great people, and obsess over it. Stay focused, consume it. And then recognize, you might be like, 'Oh, well, this person did it in 10 months. Why is it taking me so long?' It's average and statistics. Just give yourself enough time frame. I'm not saying you'll make tens of millions of dollars, but if you want to do that thing for a living, if you follow those trades, it's going to happen eventually." Rogan: "Well, you have to be process-oriented, not goal-oriented. The process is getting better at stuff. The goal of being financially secure comes with it eventually. But if you think 'I want X amount of money,' well, that's what you're going to think about. You're not going to think about the actual thing you're making, so it won't be as good, so you'll probably never get there."

Naruto

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Mikel Arteta’s beautiful praise to his staff and players. “That's when you have a difficult period. I think the best thing that you can do instead of talk a lot is observe. Look around you and see how people react. How they talk, how they look at you, how they judge you, what they do. Do they look at themselves, do they start to criticise other people? “Look around and you're going to learn the environment and the people that you have around you. “I cannot be prouder to work in a club with people that the only thing they could do is ask, what else can I do to help? “When you have people like this, I don't know if it's gonna take another week or two, but something good it will happen at the end because we deserve it.”

Mikel Arteta’s beautiful praise to his staff and players. “That's when you have a difficult period. I think the best thing that you can do instead of talk a lot is observe. Look around you and see how people react. How they talk, how they look at you, how they judge you, what they do. Do they look at themselves, do they start to criticise other people? “Look around and you're going to learn the environment and the people that you have around you. “I cannot be prouder to work in a club with people that the only thing they could do is ask, what else can I do to help? “When you have people like this, I don't know if it's gonna take another week or two, but something good it will happen at the end because we deserve it.”

Connor Humm

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💬 glow up tips spiritually not just physically 🌙 I would say, don't think negative . energy is really real. what you say out loud, what you think to yourself, and what you believe in about yourself is energy that is out in the open, the universe takes that and gives it back to you. so if you're like "oh i'm ugly, i hate myself" you know, you look at yourself and you gonna all like "ah i hate the way i look i hate this i hate that" you're gonna be that you know. so don't be a lil bitch, love yourself even if you don't just fake it. and if could give you any tips i'd say spritual shower, look into that.

💬 glow up tips spiritually not just physically 🌙 I would say, don't think negative . energy is really real. what you say out loud, what you think to yourself, and what you believe in about yourself is energy that is out in the open, the universe takes that and gives it back to you. so if you're like "oh i'm ugly, i hate myself" you know, you look at yourself and you gonna all like "ah i hate the way i look i hate this i hate that" you're gonna be that you know. so don't be a lil bitch, love yourself even if you don't just fake it. and if could give you any tips i'd say spritual shower, look into that.

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“What did you think of Lando being booed at race because people and I've seen it online as well say he doesn't deserve the title because McLaren favored him over his teammate. Do you think that's total nonsense?” Jacques Villeneuve: “That's a little bit ridiculous. When there was some booing in some races, that was embarrassing. You should never boo a driver that's clean, doesn't do anything dirty, on track is respectful, and on top of it is super fast. What's wrong with people? That was embarrassing. And, had it been that Piastri was a second a lap faster than him and somehow Lando was winning because a lot of things were happening, his car breaking down every time, then you could start thinking, okay, that's really not cool. That's not fair. But that wasn't the case. And in the second half, Norris has been faster right at the beginning as well, last year as well. So there's this whole middle of the season where Piastri was driving a lot better than Norris and was getting the points. Norris had an engine blowing up, not Piastri. And so those fans, they don't look at that either. You have to look at the whole picture, at the whole season. And suddenly if your favorite is starting to go backwards, you just got to bite the bullet and accept it. Your favorite is just going backwards. That doesn't mean that the other one is treated better or the other one is undeserving just because the one you're a fan of is not winning right now. That’s really wrong. If you're a fan of the sport, then you have to be a fan of the sport and understand when your driver is maybe not cutting it at this point in time, even though he was before and he will in the future again. It's all a question of timing. But that's the price we have to pay now with social media and how big F1 has become. It's very passionate. The people are passionate and once, you know, fans come from fanatism, you stop thinking, when you get in that mindset and it happens to all of us. You want something so much that you get attached and you cannot - it's hard to start seeing reality. So you will try to mold the reality to your thought process and if your champion is not winning then it cannot be his fault. It has to be something from the outside. It has to be the team destroying his chance or not favoring and so on and so on and so on. But there's nothing concrete behind those comments. It's pure fandom and it'll always be like this. And ultimately it's not a bad thing. You know drivers at that - sportsman at that level have to grow a thick skin. If not, you don't deserve to be there. You just have to have a thick skin because they're all very happy to get the compliments. They love it when it's just positive, but it gets balanced out with negatives and you need to be able to take and accept the negatives as well. It goes both ways. You cannot have the good. You just have to be a thick skin and know that it's part and parcels of what's going on. And in one month, it will be forgotten and maybe everything will change and it be the other driver that suddenly will be criticized and so on. So, it's just that's just the way it is.”

“What did you think of Lando being booed at race because people and I've seen it online as well say he doesn't deserve the title because McLaren favored him over his teammate. Do you think that's total nonsense?” Jacques Villeneuve: “That's a little bit ridiculous. When there was some booing in some races, that was embarrassing. You should never boo a driver that's clean, doesn't do anything dirty, on track is respectful, and on top of it is super fast. What's wrong with people? That was embarrassing. And, had it been that Piastri was a second a lap faster than him and somehow Lando was winning because a lot of things were happening, his car breaking down every time, then you could start thinking, okay, that's really not cool. That's not fair. But that wasn't the case. And in the second half, Norris has been faster right at the beginning as well, last year as well. So there's this whole middle of the season where Piastri was driving a lot better than Norris and was getting the points. Norris had an engine blowing up, not Piastri. And so those fans, they don't look at that either. You have to look at the whole picture, at the whole season. And suddenly if your favorite is starting to go backwards, you just got to bite the bullet and accept it. Your favorite is just going backwards. That doesn't mean that the other one is treated better or the other one is undeserving just because the one you're a fan of is not winning right now. That’s really wrong. If you're a fan of the sport, then you have to be a fan of the sport and understand when your driver is maybe not cutting it at this point in time, even though he was before and he will in the future again. It's all a question of timing. But that's the price we have to pay now with social media and how big F1 has become. It's very passionate. The people are passionate and once, you know, fans come from fanatism, you stop thinking, when you get in that mindset and it happens to all of us. You want something so much that you get attached and you cannot - it's hard to start seeing reality. So you will try to mold the reality to your thought process and if your champion is not winning then it cannot be his fault. It has to be something from the outside. It has to be the team destroying his chance or not favoring and so on and so on and so on. But there's nothing concrete behind those comments. It's pure fandom and it'll always be like this. And ultimately it's not a bad thing. You know drivers at that - sportsman at that level have to grow a thick skin. If not, you don't deserve to be there. You just have to have a thick skin because they're all very happy to get the compliments. They love it when it's just positive, but it gets balanced out with negatives and you need to be able to take and accept the negatives as well. It goes both ways. You cannot have the good. You just have to be a thick skin and know that it's part and parcels of what's going on. And in one month, it will be forgotten and maybe everything will change and it be the other driver that suddenly will be criticized and so on. So, it's just that's just the way it is.”

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29,833 views • 7 months ago

Trump goes on unintelligible rant: “Google, nobody called from Google. One of the things like doing a show like yours, your show, you know, you see it on Fox, but when you really see it is all over the place, they take clips of your show that you're doing right now with me and if I do a good job, they're gonna vote for me, they're gonna vote for me because it's not just on Fox, it's on Fox is a smaller part of it. You're on all over this, those little beautiful cell phones you're on, you're all over the place. You have a product, you have a great product. You have a great brand. So you have to get out, you have to get out, you have to do things like your show and other shows and Google has been very bad. They've been very irresponsible and I have a feeling that Google is gonna be close to shut down”

Headquarters

2,693,790 views • 2 years ago

"That made me super proud man. ... When you want to live that lifestyle, it's only two things that come from it: death or in jail. It's okay to listen to the music and enjoy it, but don't fall so deep into it where you want to idolize it and be that. It's cute when you're 7, but when you get 17, 18, it's going to be a problem." - G HERBO

"That made me super proud man. ... When you want to live that lifestyle, it's only two things that come from it: death or in jail. It's okay to listen to the music and enjoy it, but don't fall so deep into it where you want to idolize it and be that. It's cute when you're 7, but when you get 17, 18, it's going to be a problem." - G HERBO

Club Shay Shay

298,472 views • 10 months ago

Jimmy Fallon says the hardest part of fame is knowing not everyone likes you “Getting rejection. Being told you're not funny. Haters. This was before Twitter and all that stuff, which is a different ball game that I wasn't ready for either” “You think it's just going to be, ‘Oh, this is cool. Everyone will be great.’ But not everyone's rooting for you. Some people want you to fail. People's jobs are to take me down and put bad press out” “That stuff I wasn't prepared for, overcoming that. Hating on you or saying you're not good. You don't think that's going to happen, but it will if you're successful because someone's not going to like you no matter what” “It's the worst. Absolutely the worst. I hate it. I want everyone to like me. I can't stand it. I go, oh my gosh, what can I do to make you like me?” “I think the answer is you can't. You can't make everyone like you. You just have to do what you do, do the best that you can at what you do, and be happy with yourself”

Jimmy Fallon says the hardest part of fame is knowing not everyone likes you “Getting rejection. Being told you're not funny. Haters. This was before Twitter and all that stuff, which is a different ball game that I wasn't ready for either” “You think it's just going to be, ‘Oh, this is cool. Everyone will be great.’ But not everyone's rooting for you. Some people want you to fail. People's jobs are to take me down and put bad press out” “That stuff I wasn't prepared for, overcoming that. Hating on you or saying you're not good. You don't think that's going to happen, but it will if you're successful because someone's not going to like you no matter what” “It's the worst. Absolutely the worst. I hate it. I want everyone to like me. I can't stand it. I go, oh my gosh, what can I do to make you like me?” “I think the answer is you can't. You can't make everyone like you. You just have to do what you do, do the best that you can at what you do, and be happy with yourself”

dank

60,593 views • 1 month ago

Jordan Peterson: "If you're competent and silent you will be ignored." "You might think well people should reward you because you're competent. And yes of course they should. But if you're competent and silent then you're just part of the background that's keeping everything functioning" On why you cannot negotiate from a position of weakness: "If you want to push your career forward you have to push it forward. You have to be competent and you have to be strategic" "To be strategic when you negotiate for a new position or a new salary you have to be able to say if you don't give me what I want then something you don't like will happen to you" "It's not a physical threat. It's that you have an option" "You have your CV in order. You're educated and competent and desirable to people outside of your immediate job. You're willing to instantly put yourself on the job market" "So that when you go talk to the person you're negotiating with you're credible" On the one thing most people completely miss about negotiation: "It's very seldom that you're talking to the person who's at the top of the pecking order. What you need to do is tell them a story that they can tell to their boss to make you not a problem" "A good story is look we really need this person because they're hyper competent and they have a better offer" "If you go in there with no power you're going to lose. Obviously" He concludes with the one thing every competent person needs to hear: "The first thing you need to know if you're going to negotiate is that you have to be able to say no. And what no means is that you're not going to do it"

Jordan Peterson: "If you're competent and silent you will be ignored." "You might think well people should reward you because you're competent. And yes of course they should. But if you're competent and silent then you're just part of the background that's keeping everything functioning" On why you cannot negotiate from a position of weakness: "If you want to push your career forward you have to push it forward. You have to be competent and you have to be strategic" "To be strategic when you negotiate for a new position or a new salary you have to be able to say if you don't give me what I want then something you don't like will happen to you" "It's not a physical threat. It's that you have an option" "You have your CV in order. You're educated and competent and desirable to people outside of your immediate job. You're willing to instantly put yourself on the job market" "So that when you go talk to the person you're negotiating with you're credible" On the one thing most people completely miss about negotiation: "It's very seldom that you're talking to the person who's at the top of the pecking order. What you need to do is tell them a story that they can tell to their boss to make you not a problem" "A good story is look we really need this person because they're hyper competent and they have a better offer" "If you go in there with no power you're going to lose. Obviously" He concludes with the one thing every competent person needs to hear: "The first thing you need to know if you're going to negotiate is that you have to be able to say no. And what no means is that you're not going to do it"

Brad

34,669 views • 8 days ago

I love this answer so much. #beckysangels #BeckyArmstrong Q. How do you handle criticism or negativity? Becky: i think i would say, when it was 17-year-old me honestly i probably break down and wouldn't be able to handle it. But 22-year-old me now is saying that with the kind of position you're in, it's basically impossible to not have any criticism or someone hate. This is reality fact you have to accept but you just gotta accept it and you gotta move forward. I think, the more known you become hate can get harsher, words can get harder it can hurt more but you have to learn how to say, this what I'm gonna focus on this is what I'm not gonna focus on. Honestly, i see hate everyday. But now i just choose ignore it and i hope you guys do as well. It's not good for your mental health, it's not good for anything.

I love this answer so much. #beckysangels #BeckyArmstrong Q. How do you handle criticism or negativity? Becky: i think i would say, when it was 17-year-old me honestly i probably break down and wouldn't be able to handle it. But 22-year-old me now is saying that with the kind of position you're in, it's basically impossible to not have any criticism or someone hate. This is reality fact you have to accept but you just gotta accept it and you gotta move forward. I think, the more known you become hate can get harsher, words can get harder it can hurt more but you have to learn how to say, this what I'm gonna focus on this is what I'm not gonna focus on. Honestly, i see hate everyday. But now i just choose ignore it and i hope you guys do as well. It's not good for your mental health, it's not good for anything.

az | 5.12 #BNewEra

21,056 views • 9 months ago

🚨Governor DeSantis applauds the Florida House for addressing property taxes but says his plan is NOT going to happen in regular session, but he will call a SPECIAL SESSION. “It's going to get done and you guys are going to be able to go to the polls and be able to vote something that's really meaningful. I just think at the end of the day, your home is your castle. You either own it or you don't, right? And if you have to keep paying tax to the government your whole life just to live on your own property, do you really own it then if they can take it back from you if you don't pay?”

🚨Governor DeSantis applauds the Florida House for addressing property taxes but says his plan is NOT going to happen in regular session, but he will call a SPECIAL SESSION. “It's going to get done and you guys are going to be able to go to the polls and be able to vote something that's really meaningful. I just think at the end of the day, your home is your castle. You either own it or you don't, right? And if you have to keep paying tax to the government your whole life just to live on your own property, do you really own it then if they can take it back from you if you don't pay?”

Chris Nelson 🏝️🇺🇸

31,667 views • 5 months ago

LA Rams HC Sean McVay - Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy - "You want to be driven to be great. But I also believe that comparison is the thief of joy. And I think what you always want to measure yourself against is what is the best that you're capable of becoming." - "Best lesson I can communicate to people. Always try to be the best version of yourself. Don't put barriers on what you can accomplish. But allow that to be where your joy comes from. Striving to be the best version of yourself." - "How can you really challenge yourself to elevate situations and people that you're around on a daily basis... And I believe that will lead to a peace, a stillness & fulfillment that is sustainable over time."

LA Rams HC Sean McVay - Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy - "You want to be driven to be great. But I also believe that comparison is the thief of joy. And I think what you always want to measure yourself against is what is the best that you're capable of becoming." - "Best lesson I can communicate to people. Always try to be the best version of yourself. Don't put barriers on what you can accomplish. But allow that to be where your joy comes from. Striving to be the best version of yourself." - "How can you really challenge yourself to elevate situations and people that you're around on a daily basis... And I believe that will lead to a peace, a stillness & fulfillment that is sustainable over time."

James Light

23,068 views • 4 months ago

Jordan Peterson: "If you can't fix your room, you can't fix your life" "Why should you even bother improving yourself? The answer is something like: so you don't suffer anymore stupidly than you have to. And maybe so others don't have to either. It's not some casual self-help doctrine. If you don't organize yourself properly, you'll pay for it. In a big way. And so will the people around you." Peterson continues: "You can say, 'Well, I don't care about that.' But that's actually not true, you do care about it. Because if you're in pain, you will care about it. It's very rare that you can find someone in excruciating pain who would say, 'Well, it would be no better if I was out of this.' Pain brings the idea that it would be better if it didn't exist along with it. It's incontrovertible." On how to start: "Look around for something that bothers you and see if you can fix it. You can do this in a room. Sit in your bedroom and think: 'If I wanted to spend ten minutes making this room better, what would I have to do?' You have to ask yourself that, it's a genuine question. And things will pop out. There's a stack of papers bugging you. Some rubbish behind your computer monitor you haven't attended to for six months. Cables tangled up." He explains why this matters: "If you were coming to see me for psychotherapy, the easiest thing would be to get you to organize your room. You think, is that psychotherapy? It depends on how you conceive the limits of your being. Start where you can start. If something announces itself as in need of repair that you could repair, fix it. Fix a hundred things like that, your life will be a lot different." On fixing what you repeat every day: "People tend to think of their daily routines as trivial. You get up, brush your teeth, have breakfast. Those probably constitute 50% of your life. People think, they're mundane, I don't need to pay attention to them. No, that's exactly wrong. The things you do every day are the most important things you do. Hands down. Just do the arithmetic." On staying within your competence: "Sometimes you don't know how to fix something. Imagine you're walking down the street and there's a guy who's alcoholic and schizophrenic and has been homeless for ten years. That's a problem. It would be good if you could fix it, but you haven't got a clue. You walk around that and go find something you could fix. Just because something announces itself as in need of repair doesn't mean it's you, right then and there, who should repair it. You have to have some humility. You don't walk up to a helicopter that isn't working and just start tinkering away." Peterson shares the key insight: "As soon as you give your mind a genuine aim, it'll reconfigure the world in keeping with that aim. That's actually how you see to begin with. You've all seen the video where you watch basketballs being tossed back and forth, and while you're doing that, a gorilla walks into the middle of the video and you don't see it. If you thought about that experiment for five years, that would be about the right amount of time to spend thinking about it." He explains what it reveals: "What it shows you is that you see what you aim at. If you can get one thing through your head, that would be a good one. You see what you aim at. One inference you might draw from that is: be careful what you aim at. What you aim at determines the way the world manifests itself to you. So if the world is manifesting itself in a very negative way, one thing to ask is: are you aiming at the right thing?"

Jordan Peterson: "If you can't fix your room, you can't fix your life" "Why should you even bother improving yourself? The answer is something like: so you don't suffer anymore stupidly than you have to. And maybe so others don't have to either. It's not some casual self-help doctrine. If you don't organize yourself properly, you'll pay for it. In a big way. And so will the people around you." Peterson continues: "You can say, 'Well, I don't care about that.' But that's actually not true, you do care about it. Because if you're in pain, you will care about it. It's very rare that you can find someone in excruciating pain who would say, 'Well, it would be no better if I was out of this.' Pain brings the idea that it would be better if it didn't exist along with it. It's incontrovertible." On how to start: "Look around for something that bothers you and see if you can fix it. You can do this in a room. Sit in your bedroom and think: 'If I wanted to spend ten minutes making this room better, what would I have to do?' You have to ask yourself that, it's a genuine question. And things will pop out. There's a stack of papers bugging you. Some rubbish behind your computer monitor you haven't attended to for six months. Cables tangled up." He explains why this matters: "If you were coming to see me for psychotherapy, the easiest thing would be to get you to organize your room. You think, is that psychotherapy? It depends on how you conceive the limits of your being. Start where you can start. If something announces itself as in need of repair that you could repair, fix it. Fix a hundred things like that, your life will be a lot different." On fixing what you repeat every day: "People tend to think of their daily routines as trivial. You get up, brush your teeth, have breakfast. Those probably constitute 50% of your life. People think, they're mundane, I don't need to pay attention to them. No, that's exactly wrong. The things you do every day are the most important things you do. Hands down. Just do the arithmetic." On staying within your competence: "Sometimes you don't know how to fix something. Imagine you're walking down the street and there's a guy who's alcoholic and schizophrenic and has been homeless for ten years. That's a problem. It would be good if you could fix it, but you haven't got a clue. You walk around that and go find something you could fix. Just because something announces itself as in need of repair doesn't mean it's you, right then and there, who should repair it. You have to have some humility. You don't walk up to a helicopter that isn't working and just start tinkering away." Peterson shares the key insight: "As soon as you give your mind a genuine aim, it'll reconfigure the world in keeping with that aim. That's actually how you see to begin with. You've all seen the video where you watch basketballs being tossed back and forth, and while you're doing that, a gorilla walks into the middle of the video and you don't see it. If you thought about that experiment for five years, that would be about the right amount of time to spend thinking about it." He explains what it reveals: "What it shows you is that you see what you aim at. If you can get one thing through your head, that would be a good one. You see what you aim at. One inference you might draw from that is: be careful what you aim at. What you aim at determines the way the world manifests itself to you. So if the world is manifesting itself in a very negative way, one thing to ask is: are you aiming at the right thing?"

Jaynit

68,799 views • 3 months ago

🦦 there is something i really wanted to say to onedoor when i went on live. whatever it is you are doing right now, and whatever effort you are putting into it, even if it doesn't show right away and people don't acknowledge it, i really hope you don't let it get to you too much. as long as you know, that's what matters. you know your own worth. and eventually, as all that hard work builds up over time, everyone else will start to notice it too. 🦦 i know this might sound hard to believe, but look at my dancing. my style isn't the type that instantly grabs attention, you know? since i have a smaller frame compared to the other members, i don't naturally pop or stand out right away. but if you keep watching.. somehow, i'm the only one you see. you know what i mean? 🦦 in the end, the day will absolutely come when people recognize your hard work. your dedication will be the only thing that shines through, and all those quiet moments you have built up until now will finally show. 🦦 and if you ever struggle to see your own hard work, I WILL recognize it for you. RIWOO WILL KNOW. 🦦 think about it like this, if no one is coming over to your house and no one is stepping foot inside your room, who do you clean your room for? you do it for yourself, right? because you notice it, and you appreciate it. so, do your work for yourself, and do everything for your own sake!

🦦 there is something i really wanted to say to onedoor when i went on live. whatever it is you are doing right now, and whatever effort you are putting into it, even if it doesn't show right away and people don't acknowledge it, i really hope you don't let it get to you too much. as long as you know, that's what matters. you know your own worth. and eventually, as all that hard work builds up over time, everyone else will start to notice it too. 🦦 i know this might sound hard to believe, but look at my dancing. my style isn't the type that instantly grabs attention, you know? since i have a smaller frame compared to the other members, i don't naturally pop or stand out right away. but if you keep watching.. somehow, i'm the only one you see. you know what i mean? 🦦 in the end, the day will absolutely come when people recognize your hard work. your dedication will be the only thing that shines through, and all those quiet moments you have built up until now will finally show. 🦦 and if you ever struggle to see your own hard work, I WILL recognize it for you. RIWOO WILL KNOW. 🦦 think about it like this, if no one is coming over to your house and no one is stepping foot inside your room, who do you clean your room for? you do it for yourself, right? because you notice it, and you appreciate it. so, do your work for yourself, and do everything for your own sake!

soo

36,404 views • 1 month ago

Stephen A. Smith says he will never be married because he couldn't be faithful and didn't know how to act Host: "If you know so much about marriage then why have you never been married?" Stephen: "Because I didn't know how to act" Host: "is it your fault?" Stephen: "Totally my fault and It's not anybody's fault but mine...I was on the road over 200 days out of the year. I'm not going to be faithful being on the road 200 days out of the year" "This is the part that men don't reveal that much but I will do it is that when you get older you don't need it anymore so you don't chase. That's entirely different from when it's handed to you on a silver platter. It doesn't mean you can't say no. It means it's harder"

Stephen A. Smith says he will never be married because he couldn't be faithful and didn't know how to act Host: "If you know so much about marriage then why have you never been married?" Stephen: "Because I didn't know how to act" Host: "is it your fault?" Stephen: "Totally my fault and It's not anybody's fault but mine...I was on the road over 200 days out of the year. I'm not going to be faithful being on the road 200 days out of the year" "This is the part that men don't reveal that much but I will do it is that when you get older you don't need it anymore so you don't chase. That's entirely different from when it's handed to you on a silver platter. It doesn't mean you can't say no. It means it's harder"

CreativeDude

847,735 views • 24 days ago

Jordan peterson on why it's so hard to sit down and study: 1. You sit down to study. your intent is clear: study. but you know distractions will flood in non-stop, and there's almost nothing you can do but wait them out. 2. it's not random noise. there are little subsystems inside you that want something else. one wants a sandwich. one wants a cigarette. one suddenly needs to clean under the bed. they pop up and fight you for control. 3. they get sneaky too. you'll start thinking "this is a stupid course. why am i even in university. what's the point of life." you can really get going when you're trying to avoid your homework. 4. so ask yourself. you took the course. you told yourself to sit down. why don't you listen? the honest answer is you're a mess. you don't have control over yourself at all. 5. and the less put-together you are, the less you run these systems and the more they run you. it can get badly out of hand. 6. you've felt it elsewhere. attracted to someone you don't even want to be attracted to. texting them late at night when you know you should be asleep. in the grip of something you can't control.

Jordan peterson on why it's so hard to sit down and study: 1. You sit down to study. your intent is clear: study. but you know distractions will flood in non-stop, and there's almost nothing you can do but wait them out. 2. it's not random noise. there are little subsystems inside you that want something else. one wants a sandwich. one wants a cigarette. one suddenly needs to clean under the bed. they pop up and fight you for control. 3. they get sneaky too. you'll start thinking "this is a stupid course. why am i even in university. what's the point of life." you can really get going when you're trying to avoid your homework. 4. so ask yourself. you took the course. you told yourself to sit down. why don't you listen? the honest answer is you're a mess. you don't have control over yourself at all. 5. and the less put-together you are, the less you run these systems and the more they run you. it can get badly out of hand. 6. you've felt it elsewhere. attracted to someone you don't even want to be attracted to. texting them late at night when you know you should be asleep. in the grip of something you can't control.

Naruto

41,858 views • 1 month ago

yunjin talks about how to deal with feeling mentally drained - she genuinely has the healthiest mindset. 🐶 when my mental state crumbles i think i start by moving my body but before that, when you're breaking down it's okay to just let it happen completely i think you need to fully feel it to move on to the next step. if you're struggling but you keep ignoring it and trying to bury it that's not true recovery. so when you break down i think accepting that state comes first. after that, move your body go out for a walk, see the world and once you see the outside world, you realize it might not be the end like you thought because it's never as serious as you think it is and there's always a reason to live on. there's always a reason.

yunjin talks about how to deal with feeling mentally drained - she genuinely has the healthiest mindset. 🐶 when my mental state crumbles i think i start by moving my body but before that, when you're breaking down it's okay to just let it happen completely i think you need to fully feel it to move on to the next step. if you're struggling but you keep ignoring it and trying to bury it that's not true recovery. so when you break down i think accepting that state comes first. after that, move your body go out for a walk, see the world and once you see the outside world, you realize it might not be the end like you thought because it's never as serious as you think it is and there's always a reason to live on. there's always a reason.

nat ☆彡

98,811 views • 6 months ago