Coach AJ 🎯 Mental Fitness
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Mike Brown shares a simple but powerful definition of winning in life. "Even if you don't have the quote unquote ultimate success that you think you deserve - if you get knocked down in life and you're able to get back up and keep fighting - that's a fricking win." "Most of our guys have probably had to go through that. But I think most people in the world have to go through it." Success isn't always the result - sometimes it's just refusing to stay down. It's choosing to endure, get back up, and keep fighting. Successful people are relentless. (🎥SNY )
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Rick Pitino shares how a Wall Street legend changed the way he recruits. When Pitino asked Mario Gabelli where he found his best talent...University of Chicago? Harvard? Wharton? - Gabelli's answer surprised him: "No. I look for PhDs - Poor, Hungry, and Driven people." Pitino adapted it for his players: Passionate. Hungry. Driven. 1. Passionate - They love the work, not just the results. You can't teach passion - it's either there or it isn't. 2. Hungry - They show up and do the work consistently - they're never satisfied. They outwork, outprepare, and outlast. 3. Driven - They have direction. They don't wait to be pushed - they take ownership of themselves, their actions, and their attitude. Three three traits that compound over time. (🎥 ISSA/INTERCLEAN Conference 2014)
Coach AJ 🎯 Mental Fitness204,643 görüntüleme • 18 gün önce
Nick Saban explains why you're not entitled to anything in life. "You get up every day, you're entitled to: Nothing." "Nothing is acceptable, but your best." You get what you earn in life. That's it. No one owes you success, opportunity or playing time. Those are things you earn. Show up, do the work, and earn it every day - not because you're told to, but because that's the standard you hold yourself to. Your thoughts drive what you want - your actions drive what you get. The gap between the two? That's where most people fail. (🎥CTSN)
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Tom Brady shares what he tells every college athlete he meets and it's not what they expect. "I hope this experience is hard for you. I hope it's not easy." "I hope today in this game you're losing in the 4th quarter and you look at each other in the eye and try to figure out solutions to how you're gonna win the game." "That's how you're gonna find out what you're made of." You find out who you are when you are challenged. Expect adversity. Expect tough moments. "Life is hard. The challenges of life are hard." "This program is hard. It's built on toughness. It's built on resilience. And that's what I wanna see from this team." You can't wish for easy or hope for easy. Adversity is a gift if you let it be. (🎥 Fox)
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Tom Brady shares the advice that changed his career and his mindset. He was at Michigan - he was only getting 2 practice reps while the starter got 20. He was complaining to sports psychologist Greg Harden: "How can I ever get better? All these guys get all the reps and I only get 2." Greg's response changed everything: "Just go in there and focus with the 2 that you got and make them as perfect as you possibly can." Focus on what you can control. So that's what he did. "They'd put me in for those 2. Man, I'd sprint in there like it was Super Bowl 49. 'Let's go boys! Here we go! What play we got?'" "I did really well with those 2 'cause I brought enthusiasm, I brought some energy, and I had a little more confidence in myself." You don't get what you want in life - you get what you earn. It starts with showing up and earning it every single day. "It went from 2 reps to getting 4 reps because those 2 were pretty good. Then I had 4 good reps. Then I got 10 good reps." You can always try to lead the team in effort, attitude, and perspective because it takes no talent. Then he shared the mindset shift: "Focus on what you can control. Focus on what you're getting, not what anyone else is getting. Whenever you get an opportunity, you take advantage of it. You treat it like it's the Super Bowl." Stop complaining about what you don't have. Dominate what you do. Opportunity doesn't care about fairness - it rewards how ready you are. (🎥PBD Podcast )
Coach AJ 🎯 Mental Fitness758,092 görüntüleme • 3 ay önce
Billy Donovan shares a lesson that changed how his players thought about winning. At Florida, he had a manager track how long the ball was in each player's hands during a game. He asked one of his starters: "How many minutes do you think you had the ball in your hands for the game?" The player said 15 minutes when he had played 30. The real numbers? "A backcourt player, for the most part, is probably 92% of the game gonna be played without the ball in their hands. A frontcourt player - 95% of their minutes is gonna be played without the ball in their hands." Think about that. You're playing without the ball almost the entire game. "It's amazing to me how many players focus on points, points, points. That's what goes on ESPN. That's what gets the highlights." "But if you're gonna strictly talk about winning and you're really driven and motivated by winning and competing and being a good teammate, you have to look at the fact is -- what am I doing with my 92, 93, 94, 95%?" "Am I screening? Am I running the floor? Am I on the floor for loose basketballs? Am I rebounding? Am I taking a charge?" "There's so many ways to impact the game with the amount of time you're on the floor when the ball's not in your hands." This is what separates good players from winning players. You control how you show up. You control your attitude. You control your effort. Great teammates master what they do when no one's watching - and when the ball isn't in their hands. Winning isn't about the glamour. It's about the 95%. (🎥Coaching U ) (🎥Brendan Suhr)
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Kurt Warner shares the lesson that changed his entire career and it applies to everything. He sat on the bench for 4 years in college. When a friend asked the coaches why he wasn't playing, the answer wasn't what he expected: "The reason I wasn't playing was because I was not very good in practice." His first reaction? Allen Iverson mode. "Practice? What're you talking about, practice?" But then he did the math. "In college we play 12 games in 365 days. In the NFL we play 16 games in 365 days." That's less than 5% of your year. "95% of our lives are lived in practice. And the biggest impression we make on people, the way people can understand and really realize who we are, is what we do every day in practice." This is the 95% Rule. And it applies to everything - sports, business, relationships, life. 1: Show Up With Your Best Effort - Compete and give your best every single day. People can't question how you show up - your effort, attitude, and actions. Consistency removes doubt. 2: Trust Is Built In Practice, Not Games - Trust is earned in the thousands of moments before it's given. Before you can be trusted, people want to know you're dependable. Every day. Not just when it matters. 3: Master Daily Consistency - Success isn't about intensity - it's about consistency. Your habits compound. What you do daily defines who you become. 4: Big Moments Are Earned In Small Moments - The little details make the biggest difference. Greatness starts with preparation - it's earned in the boredom of doing the work when no one's watching. Excellence isn't an event - It's a habit. Practice is where trust is built. How you show up daily is who you really are. (🎥 Passing the Torch Podcast) (🎥 Kurt Warner)
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Bill Cowher shares the 3 things he told his 3 daughters - and his 53 players. "Number one - choices and consequences." "You can control your choice. But once you make a choice, it controls you...Just understand - with every decision you make, there's a consequence that goes with that." Your choices and actions matter. "Number two - it's about the people you surround yourself with." "Are they people that are purpose-driven? Or are they people that are just trying to feed off of who you are?" "I want people around me that are purpose-driven. People focused on doing something impactful and meaningful." "And the third thing - nothing good happens after midnight. Nothing." Three rules. A lifetime of wisdom. Your choices control you. Your circle defines you. Your habits protect you. (🎥Ray Lewis Show: Ray Lewis)
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Ben McCollum shares what it feels like to be around first-place people and a first-place culture. "I went to Northwest Missouri State, and my first practice with Steve Tapmeyer - best coach I've ever been around - I sat there and I'm like, 'This is what first place feels like. This is what a first-place culture feels like. This is what first-place people feel like.'" That was the wake-up call. He realized what first-place people have: "They've got an extreme work ethic. They've got an edge to 'em that other people don't - a competitive spirit." Then he quoted John Thompson: "You can tame a fool a lot quicker than you can resurrect a corpse...We want guys with a little edge to 'em." You can coach skills, but you can't coach competitive spirit. You don't want to consistently coach their effort and attitude. The last thing they look for: Energy givers. "Over the years, we found that guys that are moody don't make it in our program." "If you're moody, if you have low energy, if you suck the life out of the building - you don't make it." Talent isn't enough. Your energy matters. Your attitude matters. Successful people have a competitive edge, they bring energy, and they look to consistently get better. They raise the standard through what they do. (🎥 Watts Happening Podcast)
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George Kittle shares a great listen on the attitude and mindset that drives him. "In every opportunity, in every circumstance, you have a choice..." "Am I going to back down or am I going to do something about it?" Toughness is a decision. Attitude is a choice. You can always choose how you respond and how you show up.
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Darren Sproles shares the moment they laughed at him and how he answered with a successful 14-year NFL career. He was an All-American at Kansas State. Their all-time leading rusher. Then came the NFL Combine. "They called his name and he stood up there. They said, '5'6".' Step on the scale. 170. They laughed at me." "They told me if I was 5'8" or 5'9", I would have been a top five pick...The hardest part was seeing running backs go that you knew you were better than." They laughed. But he got drafted in the 4th round and went to work. "Got to start from the bottom again. And he carved out a niche in the NFL." "Whenever someone tells me that I can't do something, I'm gonna work extremely hard to prove to you that I can." He showed up every day doing the work and choosing to earn it. "I want to be remembered as declaring that I gave everything." Here's the thing about doubt: it only has power if you give it power. They can measure your height, weight, and 40 time, but they can't measure your heart, belief or commitment. Your belief in yourself has to be stronger than their doubt in you. (🎥Philadelphia Eagles | Darren Sproles)
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Bill Belichick shares the 3 things he saw in Tom Brady that made him great. "His talent was okay. But he was very smart, he loved football, and he worked extremely hard." "Day after day after day after day, he just kept improving." Brady came in as the 4th string quarterback - but talent wasn't what separated him. It was love for the game. Intelligence. And relentless work ethic. Talent gets you noticed. But these three things make you great: 1. Love what you do - Make it more than a job. Make it your calling. 2. Be a student of your craft - The smartest players see what others miss. 3. Outwork everyone - Day after day after day. No shortcuts. No days off. "That's where he was, but he became great." (🎥 The Deal Podcast with Alex Rodriguez)
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Gregg Popovich shares his final message and it has nothing to do with wins and losses. "The wins and losses are all crap. The highs and lows are all crap. It's illusory. It doesn't really exist." "What exists is seeing these guys and their kids. Those relationships with your assistant coaches - everybody else you're with - your colleagues, your friends." "'Cause that's what you take with you as you move along." The best leaders and coaches invest in people. "All those wins or losses - they fade away. They fade away." "But those relationships stick with you forever. And that's where the self-esteem and the self-satisfaction comes." A must-listen message for all coaches, players, parents, and teach out there. Great leadership isn't one style. It's knowing your people well enough to give them what they need. Invest in the relationships. Care about people, hold them to their potential, and lead in your style. (🎥NBA )
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Dawn Staley shares the question every recruit should ask and almost none of them do. "Everybody's good on the good days. It is who you can trust, who you can talk to and communicate with on your worst day." Then she explained what she tells every recruit: "We're gonna make you feel good during the recruiting process. You're gonna come here, we're gonna roll out the red carpet, we're gonna give you our best. Everybody's gonna do that." Every program shows you their best - that's the easy part. But it comes down to trust. "I want you to think about if it's 2 or 3 years down the line, when you in a slump, or when you lost a parent, or you broke up with a boyfriend, or whatever - Who's gonna get you back on course to be your talented self?" That's the real question. Not who recruits you the hardest, but who do you trust? And who do you believe will commit to you and your future? Everyone looks good when things are easy. The real test is who shows up when things get hard. (🎥TheOldManAndTheThree )
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Rick Pitino was asked what stops people from being great. His answer was one word. "Ego stops greatness. I call it edging greatness out." "In a spiritual sense, ego is edging God out. But ego is edging greatness out." And he made a key distinction: "I'm not talking about confidence. You have to be a confident person." "But ego really gets you to where you think you've arrived. You think you know it all. You stop learning. You stop listening." That's the trap. Confidence keeps you hungry. Ego convinces you that you've already made it. You lose your hunger and humility. "Learning and listening are important for great leaders. Great leaders have to listen and they have to continue to learn and surround themselves with people that are better than them." EGO = Edging Greatness Out The moment you think you've arrived is the moment you stop growing. Stay confident. Stay humble. Never stop learning. (🎥Lewis Howes )
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Kobe Bryant explains why self-negotiation is the enemy of greatness. "You just got to say: I'm not negotiating with myself. The deal was already made." "The deal was made when I set out at the beginning of the summer and said this is the training plan I'm doing. I signed that contract with myself. I'm doing it." Commitment is a choice. And the voice in your head will always try to give you an out. You have to be greater than your self-talk and your excuses. "Throughout that process you'll start talking to yourself like: man, I think I need to maybe... Nope. No. It's non-negotiable." Make the commitment. Honor the commitment. No exceptions. (🎥Jay Shetty Podcast)
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Steve Nash explains what it really means to have a process over outcome mindset. Everyone wants to win. That's not the problem. The problem is that most people think about winning at exactly the wrong moment. "Is winning easy? No. Don't get fooled. Winning is not easy. Expect the unexpected. Expect something you don't expect right around the corner." 📌Nash isn't talking about talent. He's talking about attention. Because the moment you start thinking about the scoreboard - you stop doing the things that put you on it. "Process over outcome. Do not worry about the outcome. The outcome is winning. Do not worry about winning. Winning takes care of itself." Read that again slowly. Winning takes care of itself. The best performers in the world have figured out that outcomes are lagging indicators. They show up after the work - not during it. "The process is what wins. The process is what wins." He said it twice on purpose. "You're feeling a little bit of pressure - how do we stay winning? Throw all that away. What do I have to do right now, today? How am I gonna give it the best day I can give it?" 📌The outcome is a destination. The process is the vehicle. Most teams lose focus chasing what they want. The great ones stay locked in on what they can control - the next rep, the next possession, the next decision. (🎥 Sun Devil Football)
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Brad Stevens shares his non-negotiables for life. "I wanna enjoy who I'm working with. I wanna enjoy where I'm working. I wanna have a goal, but I also wanna enjoy the journey of getting to that goal." "For me, it starts with being a great teammate. That is something I look for in people. Those relationships are probably the most important thing." It starts with the people and the character of those people. Then he explained what it means to show up every day: "You put your signature on your work every day. You give it everything you have." "You do it for the good of the whole. You do it to get better at your own job. You do it to improve the whole and see where the chips may fall." It means giving your best effort and bringing a mindset of excellence to yourself and your team. "I've been lucky enough to be on really good teams. Teams that have had chances to play for things that are really, really special." Then he shared what stays with you: "Very rarely when you look back on those teams - whether at Butler or here - do you think about the individual games or even the moments of the games." "You think about the people and the individual times with the people." "That's the special part about being a part of a sports team. That's why you walk through the building every day." The relationships always stay. Stevens' wisdom is simple: it comes down to character. • Be a great teammate. • Strive for excellence. • Enjoy the people and the process. Character isn't what you say - it's what you do consistently. (🎥 Way of Champions)
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JJ Redick shares the words from Coach K that changed the trajectory of his career. After a Final Four run, Coach K sat him down and told him the truth nobody else would: "We didn't win a national championship because you weren't worthy of being a champion." "That's one of the worst things and best things that's ever been said to me. I mean that cut me deep." Most players would've made excuses or ignored the feedback. But he took ownership and made it his mantra. "For the rest of my career, that was sort of my goal. I can't let a coach ever tell me that I'm not worthy to win. That I'm not worthy of being a champion." He brought a mindset of excellence to everything he did. "I didn't win a national championship. I didn't win an NBA championship. But I know what I put into it. I was worthy. It just didn't happen for me." The outcome didn't happen, but the worthiness did. You can't control results. You can only control whether you earn the right to expect them. Be worthy - every single day. (🎥 Knuckleheads Podcast)
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