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Relationships fail because people don't realize they've been lied to. Mainstream media tells you it's all about "better communication"... But actually "communication is only 1 out of 3 pieces of sexual satisfaction. And it's the least important. Because you can't communicate biology to change, biology is fixed. You can't...

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