When men share how they feel

This is 💯percent true. They say they want you to share emotions but not really. My spouse gauges her level of concern from my reaction. If I show anxiety, hers doubles—and now I have two problems to solve. Leadership at home often means taking the hit so others don’t have to.

Even in her non-verbal facial reaction you can see he hits the nail on its head..

That's why you trust in Christ. Proverbs 3:5-6 NASB1995 [5] Trust in the Lord with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. [6] In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.

This is correct. I can’t lean on my wife for things that trouble me, not really. I have to be the strong one.

It may be fine in the moment, but the most loving, God-fearing woman will weaponize this down the road when the situation presents itself. I have a laundry list of items I wish I never shared with my wife. To this day, I don't tell her certain things. I will even preface statements I make to her about my feelings with this sentiment. I have told her to her face that I don't want to explain exactly how I feel or what I'm struggling with because she has weaponized it and made it personal in the past. That is something she gets to sit with. I don't apologize for it. I don't soften the blow. I also don't say it vindictively. I'mm forthright in my position and pray that the Lord will forgive me for it. My wife has earned back much of my trust after some major emotional betrayals, but she'll never have all it ever again.

I had a boss once years ago that went through financial Hell with his company. It was a crazy time but he never told his wife any of it. Nothing. I couldn't believe it. I didn't understand it until just now. Huh.

Even with a camera in her face.. She's effected by his words and feels less secure about him. She didn't want the truth and its obvious here in this video. He's lost respect as we watched. women instantly & immediately remove love & respect for tiny human truths You just seen it

This is very insightful.

He's got an important point. There's a balance to be had.

She didn’t even want to hear this.

In Eden, they were naked and unashamed. As a man, in Christ, I can and do share 100% of what I am feeling, thinking with my wife. We are one. This post is crap and not biblical. Men if you can’t share everything, you are not leading. If you don’t share everything, then you have not discipled your wife and brought her to a place of maturity. If you can not share everything, you are operating in twoness and not oneness. Which means this is not a biblical marriage.

nailed it

He translated that as well as I have ever heard. Sometimes, it’s more work to express yourself than not to

Or heaven forbid man shows the real side of his biological psyche. That true deep down animalistic hunter/warrior that was bred into us for hundreds of thousands of years, and only bred out of us in the last 100 years. This side we suppress to act and pretend to be civilized. The side that in an instant can come out. This is what many if not all men hide from you. We try our best to control it. And it works. But every man has moments often hidden away from the world where we just snap for a few minutes. You cannot handle this.

He didn’t mention that the vast majority of the time, women will throw it back in a man’s face and never let a man forget it. That’s also a very big cost for a man sharing vulnerability with his wife (or girlfriend). I’m a woman. I know that women do that crap all the time. But, it doesn’t take but one time for a man to realize that his inner emotions are best kept to himself if that happens. Never again does he share. The marriage foundation of trust is broken.

When did men become such emotional roller coasters for the love of God you keep seeing all these things about these dudes crying about their feelings shut the fuck up you cry baby go to work take care of your family the rest will work itself out

So true.. women don’t think before responding. If you cause them to feel insecure or afraid, even by proxy, they resent you for it. There’s no rationality to it.

the woman i’m with now is the first woman i’ve ever felt like i can be a human being around without punishment. never letting her go.

Men’s wives and daughters would rather have them fall off there white horses than see them fail.

Having your emotions used against you by someone you love, specifically a significant other, causes so much damage.

It is really hard for women, even based ones, to be mindful of this constantly but that's why I love having a good husband :)

Update: She contacted a divorce lawyer right after this filming.

Based af

Mostly they cannot help and usually make things worse because they think one needs a hug or consolation and what we need is an action to do to make things right.

Correct.

Her immediate response makes his point as well as he does.

The fact, that bro just sat there and told his wife that he straight up lies to her because he doesn’t want to upset her or lose her confidence in him 👉🏽is the problem! Men lie too much about little shit and makes a woman lose trust. Honesty and transparency are the best traits.

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Facts💯

100%.

Maybe he doesn’t have a safe partner to confine in…but his approach is wrong! men who stuff their true feelings and emotions deep down so that they don’t disappoint their partner end up blowing up for seemingly no reason and missing out on the true connection & partnership!

Women nowadays will see it as weakness and exploit it. Emasculating him, trying to use her assertiveness or feminist logic and all around treating him like less of a man while developing a nasty vibe if her own. Basically overreacting to everything instead of trusting him.

So is the solution to help women mature so that they can remain understanding and resilient when their man has doubts, or should women simply learn to accept that there are some things we don't share because we don't want to deal with the emotional backlash? 🤔

I disagree. I have had men bear their souls to me and it didn’t change how I saw them one bit.