Woman explains why many aren’t getting married nowadays

I don’t think she’s wrong. What is wrong is pretending the issue is simple. People marry late or don’t for reasons that vary widely and are often far more complex than indecision. Some choose to wait deliberately; others are boxed in by economic realities that make “readiness” feel permanently out of reach. And I think beyond having the bare minimum to start a marriage, there is always an unavoidable step of faith. No amount of planning, income, or timing ever guarantees success. Waiting until everything is perfectly aligned is often just a slower way of avoiding the same risk. Marriage has never been about total certainty; it has always been about informed commitment in the face of uncertainty. To deny that is to misunderstand both marriage and the human condition.

She said "Ladies not married at 35, When are you going to have chidlren and take care of them"" To put it into perspective: if you get married at 35 and have your first child shortly after, that child may enter university when you’re around 51. If you have more children, you could still be paying school fees well into your 60s. This is why many people believe there’s value in marrying earlier, so you can grow together, raise children while you have more energy, and plan finances more sustainably over time.”

Those girls don’t want to hear this

Nigerian Gen Z girls left this group chat

When society has made it that as a man you must be living in a duplex and driving a Lexus and throw a big wedding party before you are considered a successful man what do you expect from the young hustlers

"You grow & you contribute together, that's how you make marriage work." This is the most important part in her message. Now let face reality, how do you grow & contribute together in a generation where most girls can't even settle for a struggling man?

Times are different now, the essence of marriage have not changed but priority evolved. Career. Wellbeing. Fulfillment. Financial stability. All these presently are priorities before marriage. It's no longer "marry first God will provide. A paragidim shit is on.

Things are different now, things are very costly, difficult and hardship is on a high level like mad.before you could be stable in your 20s & marry easily as a young man,but now it's a different ball game.People are pushing 40s without growth,no job,no career. Those days are gone

At this point, don't know who to blame. If it's the ladies mount pressure of we guys coz certain of use aren't up to "their standards" or we certain guys that enabled these girls lifestyle thinking that's how it should be. It's so disgusting but again, it's just my opinion

Nobody should push you to get married, let's it be your personal decision not people telling you to just jump on a speeding train, peace is a personal decision, if you allow people to decide for you, you will always blame them for every of your failures.

She’s right men want to get married but this ladies aren’t trustworthy them go let you cry if you ever build with them I’m not generalizing sha 🥷

lol una still Dey talk about getting married….I’ve passed that stage, I Dey reason if nah to born one pikin or just leave my life alone like that Dey go

The question now is, how many partners are willing to build together with you, to go through difficult situations and endure all those hard times before you guys actually make it together. This generation we dont have such patience

Wahala thou she's making a point there

This was what our parents did back then She’s right

Our parents ‘grew together’ cos rent was ₦200 & garri was cheap. Now? 5M weddings + 33% youth unemployment. That’s not lack of faith, that’s refusing to be broke together in 2026. Stay single & sane

Even if you don't want to get married try born early he get why

Times have really changed, priorities too

Mummy pressure dey every were as a man society don see you as failure if you no dey try for your self, the girls come follow dey cause all this things they want already made husband

See that lady shouting preach,she definitely one of those that says I can't date a guy that's not well establish. The pressure the Nigerian women are putting on young guys is incredible and so there are scared.

Na Old days pattern be that

Don’t listen to the old woman . As a man you have an enough time to do whatever you want , the people who are putting pressure on you just want the benefit for woman alone.

Honestly, this conversation needs more honesty than outrage. A lot of people aren’t avoiding marriage because they “hate commitment,” it’s because the cost, pressure, and expectations around marriage have gone crazy. Between financial stress, trust issues from past relationships, social media comparing everyone’s lives, and people finally realizing they don’t have to rush into something just to meet a timeline, it’s not that shocking

The one saying preach is she married

Facts

It easier during their time A room self contain is now 1M

Which lady is willing to contribute to a relationship today?

Gen Z doings 😅

We grow together

This shows a partial disconnection from reality. How would you marry when you are struggling to feed your lonely self? To get job after graduating serving you are already 24 and every merely okey job needs you to have at least 3 years working experience. Nigeria is killing a lot

This is serious

Na trap…Me I must get watin I dey fine before I marry o

Mummy is not like that o I won guide small fess But anyhow sha😂