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Zach Lowe: "Eight years ago I wrote a piece about the supermax and how it was forcing teams into very painful decisions with home-grown superstars. And the tentpole for it was Jimmy Butler." "If you draft a player and he becomes a success story to the point Jaylen Brown...

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