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Some folks on here appear to take it for granted that most men, ideally, would like to marry a virgin. However, the extant data suggest that both men and women prefer someone with a modest—but *not* chaste—past. Virginity *reduces* attractiveness, somewhat.

Some folks on here appear to take it for granted that most men, ideally, would like to marry a virgin. However, the extant data suggest that both men and women prefer someone with a modest—but not chaste—past. Virginity reduces attractiveness, somewhat.

572,104 次观看 • 5 个月前

How does exclusive homosexuality persist, despite evolution? An evolutionary biology professor of mine during undergrad suggested that a hint might be found in the cultural trope of the "rich gay uncle." It's true that gay men tend to have somewhat more financial success than straight men, and it's also true that gay men tend to have more brothers (i.e., gay men are actually more likely to become rich uncles). Further, since the 1970s, evolutionary biologists have hypothesized that maybe homosexuality could persist via kin selection: instead of investing in a child with 50% of your genes, you invest more in your siblings' children, who have 25% of your genes. So, perhaps, in some cases, men might benefit from forgoing their own reproduction and obtaining resources to maximize investment in nieces and nephews. An unusual strategy sure, but, in principle, feasible...

How does exclusive homosexuality persist, despite evolution? An evolutionary biology professor of mine during undergrad suggested that a hint might be found in the cultural trope of the "rich gay uncle." It's true that gay men tend to have somewhat more financial success than straight men, and it's also true that gay men tend to have more brothers (i.e., gay men are actually more likely to become rich uncles). Further, since the 1970s, evolutionary biologists have hypothesized that maybe homosexuality could persist via kin selection: instead of investing in a child with 50% of your genes, you invest more in your siblings' children, who have 25% of your genes. So, perhaps, in some cases, men might benefit from forgoing their own reproduction and obtaining resources to maximize investment in nieces and nephews. An unusual strategy sure, but, in principle, feasible...

343,604 次观看 • 3 个月前

I suspect a lot of modern mating anxiety is downstream of this fact: generally, men lower their standards for casual mating, but women do not. This leads to men worrying about their partner’s past hookups (“was he hotter?”) and women wondering why men have “commitment issues.”

I suspect a lot of modern mating anxiety is downstream of this fact: generally, men lower their standards for casual mating, but women do not. This leads to men worrying about their partner’s past hookups (“was he hotter?”) and women wondering why men have “commitment issues.”

235,716 次观看 • 6 个月前

Why Women Love Tall Men - How much does height matter? (0:00 and 2:52) - Why, exactly, do women love tall men? (0:10) - Are there cultures where women don't care about height? Why don't they? (1:27) - Are any men "too tall" for women? What's ideal? (1:52)

Why Women Love Tall Men - How much does height matter? (0:00 and 2:52) - Why, exactly, do women love tall men? (0:10) - Are there cultures where women don't care about height? Why don't they? (1:27) - Are any men "too tall" for women? What's ideal? (1:52)

197,664 次观看 • 9 个月前

On TikTok you see a lot of women talking about how they want to date "medium ugly" or "ugly-hot" guys; basically, guys who look good, but not *too* good. Initially, I thought this was sour grapes. But maybe it's strategic; really hot guys come with real costs. Thoughts?

On TikTok you see a lot of women talking about how they want to date "medium ugly" or "ugly-hot" guys; basically, guys who look good, but not too good. Initially, I thought this was sour grapes. But maybe it's strategic; really hot guys come with real costs. Thoughts?

93,858 次观看 • 6 个月前

Some men on here warn attractive women that they shouldn't sleep around because "no guy will marry them" afterwards. Now, I think "don't sleep around" is good advice, but this is likely an empty threat. Attractive women are inundated with suitors regardless of such factors.

Some men on here warn attractive women that they shouldn't sleep around because "no guy will marry them" afterwards. Now, I think "don't sleep around" is good advice, but this is likely an empty threat. Attractive women are inundated with suitors regardless of such factors.

66,663 次观看 • 4 个月前

A lot of women ask me some variant of: "Why do so many men have commitment issues?" When you understand evolutionary psychology, though, these "commitment issues" begin to look more like a strategy.

A lot of women ask me some variant of: "Why do so many men have commitment issues?" When you understand evolutionary psychology, though, these "commitment issues" begin to look more like a strategy.

130,781 次观看 • 1 年前

Never Get Cheated On --- 0:00 Introduction 0:20 Part I: Mate Selection 10:14 Part II: Mate Retention 14:36 Part III: Infidelity Detection 16:59 Conclusion

Never Get Cheated On --- 0:00 Introduction 0:20 Part I: Mate Selection 10:14 Part II: Mate Retention 14:36 Part III: Infidelity Detection 16:59 Conclusion

72,994 次观看 • 7 个月前

There's widespread concern that gender equality will leave successful women struggling to find partners. It makes sense: Women mostly want to "mate up" financially, and as women get richer, there are fewer men who are "up." But our experiment suggests we may not need to worry.

There's widespread concern that gender equality will leave successful women struggling to find partners. It makes sense: Women mostly want to "mate up" financially, and as women get richer, there are fewer men who are "up." But our experiment suggests we may not need to worry.

32,014 次观看 • 2 个月前

Big myth on here that men of all ages want to date women in their 20s. Sure, from a physical attractiveness perspective, men find women in their 20s most attractive. But overall, most men aren't so shallow as to care only about physical traits. They want compatibility, too.

Big myth on here that men of all ages want to date women in their 20s. Sure, from a physical attractiveness perspective, men find women in their 20s most attractive. But overall, most men aren't so shallow as to care only about physical traits. They want compatibility, too.

57,215 次观看 • 7 个月前

Ambivalent, curvilinear sexism.

Ambivalent, curvilinear sexism.

144,313 次观看 • 2 年前

Study of 93,158 people from 93 countries finds right-wing people spend more time on their looks than left-wing people. Unsurprising to find this about right-wing women (i.e., conforming to gender norms). But it's fascinating that right-wing men spend more time in the mirror.

Study of 93,158 people from 93 countries finds right-wing people spend more time on their looks than left-wing people. Unsurprising to find this about right-wing women (i.e., conforming to gender norms). But it's fascinating that right-wing men spend more time in the mirror.

44,629 次观看 • 6 个月前

If "successful men would date an Applebee's waitress" is true, how come the extant data on successful men show they almost never do that? 🤔

If "successful men would date an Applebee's waitress" is true, how come the extant data on successful men show they almost never do that? 🤔

34,827 次观看 • 5 个月前

While men’s attractiveness does decline less early—and less precipitously—than women’s, it does not increase with age. “Men age like wine” is mostly a self-soothing sentiment for men who struggled with women in their youth.

While men’s attractiveness does decline less early—and less precipitously—than women’s, it does not increase with age. “Men age like wine” is mostly a self-soothing sentiment for men who struggled with women in their youth.

73,783 次观看 • 1 年前

Widely-known fact: Men typically exhibit a mate preference for sexual modesty. (This finding from evolutionary psychology is well-disseminated, at this point.) Lesser-known fact: Women exhibit a similar preference! And it makes sense... More past partners = more risks.

Widely-known fact: Men typically exhibit a mate preference for sexual modesty. (This finding from evolutionary psychology is well-disseminated, at this point.) Lesser-known fact: Women exhibit a similar preference! And it makes sense... More past partners = more risks.

27,972 次观看 • 5 个月前

Most "male vs female gaze" disputes on here (where men and women disagree about whether a guy is attractive) are solveable by remembering that men tend to overestimate how much women like masculinity.

Most "male vs female gaze" disputes on here (where men and women disagree about whether a guy is attractive) are solveable by remembering that men tend to overestimate how much women like masculinity.

35,898 次观看 • 7 个月前

Bald men are perceived as more dominant, more masculine, more competent, more intimidating, they’re even perceived as taller (!?) and yet… Women find them *less* attractive. Any theoretical explanations?? Help me think.

Bald men are perceived as more dominant, more masculine, more competent, more intimidating, they’re even perceived as taller (!?) and yet… Women find them less attractive. Any theoretical explanations?? Help me think.

59,257 次观看 • 1 年前

People who are more oriented towards casual relationships have a harder time with committed relationships. More divorce, more infidelity, less satisfaction, etc. The only surprising part of this suite of findings, for me, is how much pushback they get.

People who are more oriented towards casual relationships have a harder time with committed relationships. More divorce, more infidelity, less satisfaction, etc. The only surprising part of this suite of findings, for me, is how much pushback they get.

30,450 次观看 • 6 个月前

Your odds of divorce in a first marriage decline the older you marry until about 30, but then they start to increase again as you enter your late 30s. Any ideas why?

Your odds of divorce in a first marriage decline the older you marry until about 30, but then they start to increase again as you enter your late 30s. Any ideas why?

64,346 次观看 • 1 年前

Prause et al. (2015) found that on average, women prefer penises about 6.3 inches long. Sounds like a preference for "average," but people overestimate penis size by ~1 inch. 6.3 is about 95th percentile for men and larger than most women in this sample had seen in the wild.

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Prause et al. (2015) found that on average, women prefer penises about 6.3 inches long. Sounds like a preference for "average," but people overestimate penis size by ~1 inch. 6.3 is about 95th percentile for men and larger than most women in this sample had seen in the wild.

51,808 次观看 • 1 年前