Brian Kight
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Executive Coach for elite sports coaches. Community: https://t.co/xOHVPitDmR - Newsletter: https://t.co/b0CvRuj4Pd
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The unspoken reality of leadership I’ve shared for a decade in every staff and locker room I’ve spoken to. No one wants to say because it: • It doesn’t sell books • It’s not “positive” • It’s scares people So instead they repeat old cliches and quotes from the latest best-seller. All fluff disconnected from the reality of leadership on the ground.
Brian Kight517,312 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren
"You can either produce excellence or you can avoid criticism. But you cannot do both of those. The reason that you don't have certain excellence that you want is because you are afraid of getting criticized. You are afraid of the judgment that comes with it. You are afraid of standing out. You are afraid of being alone. You are afraid of people looking at you. You are worried about what people think of you. There are 2 categories of things in this world: 1) Things that are up to you 2) Things that are not up to you Which category does your reputation sit in? Your reputation is not up to you. I'm the one who associates your reputation with something, not you. You just do things. What's up to you? How you act. Your decisions. Your actions. That is up to you. Your reputation is not up to you. Here's how I know that: You all have a reputation about me and it's not in my control. I get to say and do whatever I say and do up here. I am in control of saying it. I am in control of doing it. The moment words leave my lips, who has control over what is done with those words? You! You are in control of what you think of me. And there's no way everybody in this room is going to think the exact same thing about me. No way. When it comes to exceptional, what we've got to understand is you can spend your whole life trying to avoid criticism and earn reputation, and it still won't be in your control. We can waste a lot of time missing out on excellence we could have been producing if we were just simply LESS trying to engineer what we wanted other people to think about us."
Brian Kight308,745 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr
“It’s not culture’s job to make people feel good. A lot of times the things that feel good don't help us win. A weak culture prioritizes that you’ve got to feel good all the time. It says, ‘If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it.’ It means the culture is unwilling to sit in the discomfort that growth requires. There’s too much culture being taught as all trust falls and hugs. The purpose of culture is to drive the behavior that wins. That’s it. That’s culture’s job. Now, the behavior that wins is what we have to identify. Whatever behaviors we identify to help us work together and win, the question is ‘Does our culture demand that? Does our culture drive that?’”
Brian Kight260,843 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren
Ask any former college athlete: The experience of being on a team committed to excellence and competing to win teaches lessons that stay with you forever. We forget our W/L record. We NEVER forget our experience. The culture of a team produces WINS and LOSSES but it does more than that. It educates, challenges, develops, tests, and shapes standards of living far beyond the field and long after playing days are over.
Brian Kight232,521 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren
“It’s ok if you’re just average right now. I just want to know whether you want to become great. Because there are a lot of people who are ok accepting average. They think it’s safer and more comfortable. They think trying to be great comes with a lot of risk. They think it’s too hard and they might get exposed. People think it’s easier to be average than to go try to be great. There’s more friends, more acceptance, more comfort among the average. But I’ll tell you the real truth: Being average is only safe and comfortable for a small window of time. Because at the end of the regular season, when that final whistle blows, and you’re not playing for a championship? How comfortable is that?”
Brian Kight212,699 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren
Quality of results follows quality of behavior. No escaping this truth.
Brian Kight126,531 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr
"E+R=O . . . Event + Response = Outcome. Here's how simple, obvious and intuitive this is. What is the only piece of this equation that any of us have control over? All we control is our response. We are responsible for everything that is in our control. Our attitude. Our mindset. Our decisions. Our opinions. Our perspectives. Our feelings. Our emotions. We are responsible for 100% of it. We are also responsible for how we respond to everything we don't control. We are responsible for everything we do control. But we are also responsible for how we choose to respond to everything we don't control."
Brian Kight171,257 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren
"Every team wants to win a championship, but not every team wants to do the things required for a championship. And here's the thing: it's easy to be an average team. It doesn't require a lot. It's less adversity to be average in the world. The consequences of being average aren't easy. We end up wearing them. There's strain and struggle that comes with that too. The standard is just lower to be an average team. To be a championship team, to be champion, to be a championship team member here . . . I'm not gonna lie to you . . . I'm going to tell you the truth. It is harder. It is. The question is: Is it worth it? Some people say, "Oh it's not harder work." Yes it is. It's harder work. You can pursue comfort or you can pursue excellence. If we pursue comfort, we gotta give up some excellence. But if we pursue excellence, then we're just going to face more adversity. Everyone who's ever accomplished something excellence has had to overcome it. We are here today for a reason. Two reasons actually. Reason #1 is let's make sure that we identify and realize the opportunities that are in front of us. Reason #2 is let's make sure that we are preparing for the adversity that those opportunities require. And just understand: every single time you lever up your opportunities and you identify, "Oh there's something more I can do, more I can achieve. I can get better. I can earn more. I can do this." It's going to be matched with the adversity that comes with it. I want to make sure we are prepared for both of those, so that we're not chasing big opportunities and then getting mad when things start getting harder along the way. Is that fair? Does that make sense?"
Brian Kight125,702 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren
“The size of the opportunity that you chase is directly related to the size of adversity that you will experience. If you want to pursue something of significant opportunity, what are you guaranteed to experience? Adversity. You cannot pursue and achieve something of significance going through light adversity. I tell you that because people say they want X, Y & Z, then they encounter the barriers and the adversities to getting X, Y, & Z and they resent the adversity. And they don't understand that what gave them the adversity was the choice to go after that opportunity.”
Brian Kight78,977 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr
Pressure may be an invisible force, but its impact is on display for all to see.
Brian Kight59,615 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr
Let's be honest . . . do you make it hard or easy for people to tell you the truth?
Brian Kight65,284 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr
We totally misunderstand the relationship between success and happiness, and how to achieve each of them: Your internal happiness does not depend on your external success. And your external success is not determined by your internal happiness. External Excellence and Internal Fulfillment are separate paths that only occasionally and temporarily overlap.
Brian Kight55,030 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr
WORK ETHIC vs. WANT ETHIC: "Next time you're watching a game and one player makes a play over another player, listen for the announcer to say, "Oh! He just wanted it more!" Then ask yourself this: Was the level of 'want' really the difference why one player made the play and the other didn't?! Or did one of those players plan better, jump higher, use better technique, see more clearly, and build better skill? Did he want it more in the moment or did he prepare a little better and when that moment arrived he performed a little better? You think that the other player didn't want it? Didn't want to make the play? Was the difference between those two athletes their level of want?! No way. It wasn't want. It was work! Getting in shape requires consistent workouts, not frequent want-outs. You earn in alignment with the quality of your work, not the quality of your want. You can build a life on a work ethic but you can't build anything on a want ethic. Working hard is studying, prepping, reps, reflection, feedback, and responsibility for the results that you produce. It's late nights and early mornings. It's uncommon effort and it's choosing to push harder when you could relax. Wanting hard? Well, that's what everyone else does. Everything is training for something. Do the work.”
Brian Kight47,006 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr
Even people who know and love E+R=O don’t always use it correctly: “The first thing to evaluate is not the event you have, but the outcome you want. Do not be defined by your circumstances. Be defined by your pursuit. Second, after you’ve identified the outcome you want, is then to ask, ‘Ok, what circumstances do I have?’ Because you need to work from where you are and see it with clear eyes. Clarifying the event you’re dealing with is ‘realism’. Clarifying the outcome you want is ‘optimism’. And finally, given the outcome you want and the event you have, what response do you need in order to create that outcome given the circumstances that you’re in? It’s the nature of life.”
Brian Kight68,525 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren
“People who only love to win are losers. To be a winner, you have to love to compete, love everything about competition. Love the uncertainty. Love the potential for loss. Love being on the edge. Love that space between winning and losing where you’re not sure what’s going to happen next. Because that’s where competition lives and where winning and losing are decided. Losers focus on winning. Winners focus on competing.”
Brian Kight65,184 Aufrufe • vor 2 Jahren
My dad wanted people to hear this message. But what he really wanted was for people to live it: 1. E+R=O applies to the biggest challenges in life just as it does to the smallest. 2. You can change outcomes even when you can't change the circumstances. 3. Even in the worst circumstances, there are good outcomes worth creating. 4. Just because one outcome is fixed doesn't mean all outcomes are fixed. 5. If you have the ability to create better outcomes, you have a responsibility to do it. 6. E+R=O is your greatest gift. Do what you can with what you have while you're here.
Brian Kight46,170 Aufrufe • vor 1 Jahr
