Brian Kight
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Executive Coach for elite sports coaches. Community: https://t.co/xOHVPitDmR - Newsletter: https://t.co/b0CvRuj4Pd
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The unspoken reality of leadership I’ve shared for a decade in every staff and locker room I’ve spoken to. No one wants to say because it: • It doesn’t sell books • It’s not “positive” • It’s scares people So instead they repeat old cliches and quotes from the latest best-seller. All fluff disconnected from the reality of leadership on the ground.
Brian Kight517,316 просмотров • 3 лет назад
"You can either produce excellence or you can avoid criticism. But you cannot do both of those. The reason that you don't have certain excellence that you want is because you are afraid of getting criticized. You are afraid of the judgment that comes with it. You are afraid of standing out. You are afraid of being alone. You are afraid of people looking at you. You are worried about what people think of you. There are 2 categories of things in this world: 1) Things that are up to you 2) Things that are not up to you Which category does your reputation sit in? Your reputation is not up to you. I'm the one who associates your reputation with something, not you. You just do things. What's up to you? How you act. Your decisions. Your actions. That is up to you. Your reputation is not up to you. Here's how I know that: You all have a reputation about me and it's not in my control. I get to say and do whatever I say and do up here. I am in control of saying it. I am in control of doing it. The moment words leave my lips, who has control over what is done with those words? You! You are in control of what you think of me. And there's no way everybody in this room is going to think the exact same thing about me. No way. When it comes to exceptional, what we've got to understand is you can spend your whole life trying to avoid criticism and earn reputation, and it still won't be in your control. We can waste a lot of time missing out on excellence we could have been producing if we were just simply LESS trying to engineer what we wanted other people to think about us."
Brian Kight308,812 просмотров • 1 год назад
“It’s not culture’s job to make people feel good. A lot of times the things that feel good don't help us win. A weak culture prioritizes that you’ve got to feel good all the time. It says, ‘If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it.’ It means the culture is unwilling to sit in the discomfort that growth requires. There’s too much culture being taught as all trust falls and hugs. The purpose of culture is to drive the behavior that wins. That’s it. That’s culture’s job. Now, the behavior that wins is what we have to identify. Whatever behaviors we identify to help us work together and win, the question is ‘Does our culture demand that? Does our culture drive that?’”
Brian Kight260,861 просмотров • 2 лет назад
Ask any former college athlete: The experience of being on a team committed to excellence and competing to win teaches lessons that stay with you forever. We forget our W/L record. We NEVER forget our experience. The culture of a team produces WINS and LOSSES but it does more than that. It educates, challenges, develops, tests, and shapes standards of living far beyond the field and long after playing days are over.
Brian Kight232,541 просмотров • 3 лет назад
“It’s ok if you’re just average right now. I just want to know whether you want to become great. Because there are a lot of people who are ok accepting average. They think it’s safer and more comfortable. They think trying to be great comes with a lot of risk. They think it’s too hard and they might get exposed. People think it’s easier to be average than to go try to be great. There’s more friends, more acceptance, more comfort among the average. But I’ll tell you the real truth: Being average is only safe and comfortable for a small window of time. Because at the end of the regular season, when that final whistle blows, and you’re not playing for a championship? How comfortable is that?”
Brian Kight212,737 просмотров • 2 лет назад
99 out of 100 athletes won’t get this. Be the 1 who does.
Brian Kight12,868 просмотров • 1 месяц назад
Quality of results follows quality of behavior. No escaping this truth.
Brian Kight126,603 просмотров • 1 год назад
"E+R=O . . . Event + Response = Outcome. Here's how simple, obvious and intuitive this is. What is the only piece of this equation that any of us have control over? All we control is our response. We are responsible for everything that is in our control. Our attitude. Our mindset. Our decisions. Our opinions. Our perspectives. Our feelings. Our emotions. We are responsible for 100% of it. We are also responsible for how we respond to everything we don't control. We are responsible for everything we do control. But we are also responsible for how we choose to respond to everything we don't control."
Brian Kight171,271 просмотров • 2 лет назад
"Every team wants to win a championship, but not every team wants to do the things required for a championship. And here's the thing: it's easy to be an average team. It doesn't require a lot. It's less adversity to be average in the world. The consequences of being average aren't easy. We end up wearing them. There's strain and struggle that comes with that too. The standard is just lower to be an average team. To be a championship team, to be champion, to be a championship team member here . . . I'm not gonna lie to you . . . I'm going to tell you the truth. It is harder. It is. The question is: Is it worth it? Some people say, "Oh it's not harder work." Yes it is. It's harder work. You can pursue comfort or you can pursue excellence. If we pursue comfort, we gotta give up some excellence. But if we pursue excellence, then we're just going to face more adversity. Everyone who's ever accomplished something excellence has had to overcome it. We are here today for a reason. Two reasons actually. Reason #1 is let's make sure that we identify and realize the opportunities that are in front of us. Reason #2 is let's make sure that we are preparing for the adversity that those opportunities require. And just understand: every single time you lever up your opportunities and you identify, "Oh there's something more I can do, more I can achieve. I can get better. I can earn more. I can do this." It's going to be matched with the adversity that comes with it. I want to make sure we are prepared for both of those, so that we're not chasing big opportunities and then getting mad when things start getting harder along the way. Is that fair? Does that make sense?"
Brian Kight125,728 просмотров • 2 лет назад
“The size of the opportunity that you chase is directly related to the size of adversity that you will experience. If you want to pursue something of significant opportunity, what are you guaranteed to experience? Adversity. You cannot pursue and achieve something of significance going through light adversity. I tell you that because people say they want X, Y & Z, then they encounter the barriers and the adversities to getting X, Y, & Z and they resent the adversity. And they don't understand that what gave them the adversity was the choice to go after that opportunity.”
Brian Kight79,472 просмотров • 1 год назад
Let's be honest . . . do you make it hard or easy for people to tell you the truth?
Brian Kight65,284 просмотров • 1 год назад
Pressure may be an invisible force, but its impact is on display for all to see.
Brian Kight59,639 просмотров • 1 год назад
We totally misunderstand the relationship between success and happiness, and how to achieve each of them: Your internal happiness does not depend on your external success. And your external success is not determined by your internal happiness. External Excellence and Internal Fulfillment are separate paths that only occasionally and temporarily overlap.
Brian Kight55,034 просмотров • 1 год назад
“When we broke down as a football team, more often than not it wasn't because our game plan wasn't good. It wasn't because we didn't have good plays. It wasn't because guys forgot how to play football or coaches forgot how to coach it. It was because we got misaligned and we were not unified as a team. In a word, it was the culture. It was the connection between people that broke down first. When things got hard, everybody pulled apart rather than pulled together.”
Brian Kight58,098 просмотров • 1 год назад
WORK ETHIC vs. WANT ETHIC: "Next time you're watching a game and one player makes a play over another player, listen for the announcer to say, "Oh! He just wanted it more!" Then ask yourself this: Was the level of 'want' really the difference why one player made the play and the other didn't?! Or did one of those players plan better, jump higher, use better technique, see more clearly, and build better skill? Did he want it more in the moment or did he prepare a little better and when that moment arrived he performed a little better? You think that the other player didn't want it? Didn't want to make the play? Was the difference between those two athletes their level of want?! No way. It wasn't want. It was work! Getting in shape requires consistent workouts, not frequent want-outs. You earn in alignment with the quality of your work, not the quality of your want. You can build a life on a work ethic but you can't build anything on a want ethic. Working hard is studying, prepping, reps, reflection, feedback, and responsibility for the results that you produce. It's late nights and early mornings. It's uncommon effort and it's choosing to push harder when you could relax. Wanting hard? Well, that's what everyone else does. Everything is training for something. Do the work.”
Brian Kight47,072 просмотров • 1 год назад
"Discipline is the ability to choose for yourself. But if you are free to choose for yourself, you are also free to experience the consequences of your choices. People love to be free to make their own choices, but when the consequences from their choices come, they want freedom from those consequences. It doesn't work like that. Discipline typically gets associated with punishment, compliance with rules, or obedience to authority. And I don't know about you but I don't wake up in the morning wanting to just be an obedient person to whatever an authority tells me to do. I don't wake up in the morning wanting to be compliant with a set of rules. I wake up and I want to produce things. I wake up and I want to be in control of myself. I want to make choices. I want to make decisions. I don't want to wake up and be a robot that just follows what everybody else says to do. If you're going to make choices, then discipline means you're more intentional about your choices and actions. You have a more clear purpose behind them. You have higher standards. You put in more effort. You're more in control of those choices. And you bring more skill to them. Discipline means to be in control and making the decisions on how all those things are happening for you."
Brian Kight71,434 просмотров • 2 лет назад